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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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TurboLibre
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Aesius said:
Story of my life. It feels like I'm playing musical chairs and I'm the odd one out.
Went out tonight and had an amazing time. At the end of the night I wasn't feeling like a full on kiss was a good move at this point so I kissed her really uh....firm(?) on the cheek trying to show it was more than a friendly peck on the cheek. She had a pretty big smile on her face when I did it. I figure I played it cool, like I got my point across and if she's interested she'll have to show some kind of sign. Kinda feeling like I fucked up but not at the same time. What the fuck.
hydragonwarrior
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Acid08 said:
Eh, my salsa was about the same - tonight me and a friend managed to dance with a few cuties on the floor. Got to grind with two of them several times and I did walk one group home but I feel I should have just gone my separate way since despite some heavy grinding with that girl, I think I overtalked as we were walking home (I have a huge fear of silence - like if i don't say anything, I'm not interesting, so any pauses I start talking again).
But the night in retrospect was great - a few good dances got me less and less fearful and more "ask her for a dance right away, without even thinking about being self conscious or fearing anything." My dancing got sloppy as the night went on tho since the last time I ate was about 8 hours ago :lol
Aesius said:
I reside in Jersey, which is the most densely populated state in the nation. Plus, I live an hour away from NYC and about 40 minutes from Philly. That means I have plenty of options and lovely ladies at my disposal. Tons of options. Feels good mang.
I'd kill myself if I lived in East Bumblefuck USA.
Mr.Squirrel
Tom
This chick I met invited me over to her crib to drink. Bitch was beautiful cant front but she was on some bullshit. I get there and shorty got mad people over. I'm thinking WTF is this bullshit? I went thinking I was gonna get some ass and ended up leaving with my dick dry.
I shoulda known better, never go to a broads crib unless you know it's gonna be just the 2 of you. There was way too many dudes there this bitch was hugging up on and shit. Chicks usually do that when they're attention whoring, but she might just have been having party, who knows. I'm gonna give her a call prolly Saturday and see if she down to fuck. If not, shorty can kick rocks. I got other bitches on deck I'm trying to penetrate.
I shoulda known better, never go to a broads crib unless you know it's gonna be just the 2 of you. There was way too many dudes there this bitch was hugging up on and shit. Chicks usually do that when they're attention whoring, but she might just have been having party, who knows. I'm gonna give her a call prolly Saturday and see if she down to fuck. If not, shorty can kick rocks. I got other bitches on deck I'm trying to penetrate.
Mr.Squirrel
Tom
Don't wait for your friends to hook you up. Go out and meet women on your own. You'll die a virgin waiting for someone to hand deliver you some pussy.Aesius said:
jon bones said:
update - the best rejection ever
Headed to the bar to meet up with Tiny Asian Girl. No traffic + TAG texts me she's 15 minutes late = I got 30 minutes to kill. No problem, there's a birthday party going on at the bar so I start talking to a nearby dude who is clearly with the crowd. With him, it's easy to approach the group and chat it up with all the women they came with. I chat up this cute little british Indian chick (BIC) for a while and then TAG comes in - obviously sees me chatting up these girls - so I say goodbye to BIC and sit down with TAG.
We talk for a while and eventually I go in for the kiss and I get a, "i take things real slow" (possibly true for asian women? this is my first experience with them) but she wanted to get another drink. She heads to the bathroom, I walk up to BIC and get her number, sit back down, check my phone and Phillip Rivers scored like a billion points against me in FF. Ok, you win some you lose some. TAC says, "let's get a drink elsewhere!" I politely decline and cab it back home.
At home my ex hits me up and says her boyfriend is out of town and she wants me to come over. So I walk ten blocks and bang it out with a fresh new prospect's number in my pocket.
Moral of the story? When god closes a door, he opens a dress.
Rocket Scientist
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You slick motherfucker.jon bones said:
What is so hard with taking off a girl's bra? Look:
- Wedge your thumb and index finger over the strap/ piece of fabric securing the hook
- Apply pressure to the hook and gently pull towards the loop
- Give your thumb and index finger a slight twist and pull the hook out, towards yourself, from the loop
- Repeat these steps for every hook
TADA!
Free at last, free at last. Thank God Almighty. Tits are free at last.
- Wedge your thumb and index finger over the strap/ piece of fabric securing the hook
- Apply pressure to the hook and gently pull towards the loop
- Give your thumb and index finger a slight twist and pull the hook out, towards yourself, from the loop
- Repeat these steps for every hook
TADA!
Free at last, free at last. Thank God Almighty. Tits are free at last.
twilitesparklemotion
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.SmokeMaxX said:
jon bones said:
Nykad said:
Been trying to figure this out for months. Some girls don't want to be bothered during a workout, but obviously others appreciate attention no matter when they get it.
One problem I have is the fact that if you don't hit it off, you basically setup a situation where you see each other a lot after that, and it's awkward silence or a simple "hi" that gets really repetitive.
There's one that I've noticed at my gym, but I haven't had one of those days yet where I wake up with the balls to just go over and introduce myself. That's really the only thing you can do.
Things are really looking good between me and the girl with whom I went on a date last Wednesday/Thursday. Kinda sucks that we both have a busy schedule this weekend so we can't hook up, but I'm going to her place on Monday. She really wants to see me again and that feeling is mutual.
Uhhhh if it's a backclasp thingy, just use your thumb and forefinger and squeeze the two ends together. You'll feel the clasps/hooks/whatever start to collapse against each other. Here I guess you use your thumb to force one end down and forward and the other up and towards you. Boom! Bra undone.
If it's a front plastic snap hook thingy, you can use a similar method, but it's a little harder IMO.
EDIT: And if I get a tag for that... :lol
Let's just say that's not the tag I've been looking for.
If it's a front plastic snap hook thingy, you can use a similar method, but it's a little harder IMO.
EDIT: And if I get a tag for that... :lol
Let's just say that's not the tag I've been looking for.
Kccitystar
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I just want to vent, and I remember bringing this up earlier in the week before it got overshadowed by Crush's dilemma:
*sigh*
Fuck breaks.
Breaks are bullshit.
Theyre generally a cowardly way to say Ive already decided Im done with you, but Im planning out how to dump you without the emotional guilt that comes with it, but this is better than just walking away from what we have, I swear to god.... Its pathetic.
While its healthy to have time to yourself, when you are in a relationship with someone for a long period of time, you dont need a break for them to understand that you need some time for self-improvement. It seriously doesnt make any fucking sense to take time APART to fix something TOGETHER. Logically thats just dumb, yet, some people, honest to god, believe this shit, but Im not a fan of anecdotes. If a partner took a break from their relationship to spend time apart, its not a safe bet to say oh, theyll be back together again just because Joe Plumber got back with his girlfriend or Mary Longsocks got back with her man afterward.
My relationship has gone to shit, and I want to fix things and get things back on track, and I know that spending time alone does not help that cause whatsoever. Its like your significant other deciding that watching TV is going to help fix a flat tire on the car the two of you drive to go places. Relationship-wise, it benefits no-one. If the goal is to get back together with somebody, spending time alone doesnt help you get there, since by definition, you are spending time ALONE. Relationships are a two way street. If you want to work things out with your partner, meet them half-way. Youre not going out with yourself. If that was the case, this break would lead you to have a healthy relationship for life with yourself, since you spend a lot of time alone.
My interpretation of a break is simple. Its not about spending time with yourself and working on yourself. You can always do that even without taking a break. Its not spending time alone and allowing the other person to miss you. That never happens. Usually what DOES happen is that they flood that space you occupied in their life with friends and other things to get their mind off of YOU. Now that you are out of the picture indefinitely or however long this break will be, if you keep spending time alone, your partner is going to turn into somebody you barely recognize. Its all in the process of learning to be single again since you are no longer a part of their life anymore.
People take breaks and think that yeah, well be right back to how we were, as if you take time apart and the further you are, it will snap you back together again. Thats called rubberbanding. That bullshit never really happens. As quoted from a post, "When someone wants to take a break, theyve already made up her mind and wants out. Theres nothing you can do at this point. Its their way of letting you down easy and feeling less guilty about leaving you. Its all about them and making themselves feel better about the situation." Thats exactly what a break is to me. Its not about taking time apart to be together again. In a perfect world, that's the most likely scenario, but keeping things realistic, its all about mentally preparing yourself to become single, to get into that mindset of a single person, so that when you are comfortable enough in that frame of mind, it becomes ridiculously easy to drop your relationship like a bad habit since your emotions are no longer invested into that person, and since you wanted to spend time apart, the goal was never to work on trying to get back together in the first place.
Again, fuck breaks.
*sigh*
Fuck breaks.
Breaks are bullshit.
Theyre generally a cowardly way to say Ive already decided Im done with you, but Im planning out how to dump you without the emotional guilt that comes with it, but this is better than just walking away from what we have, I swear to god.... Its pathetic.
While its healthy to have time to yourself, when you are in a relationship with someone for a long period of time, you dont need a break for them to understand that you need some time for self-improvement. It seriously doesnt make any fucking sense to take time APART to fix something TOGETHER. Logically thats just dumb, yet, some people, honest to god, believe this shit, but Im not a fan of anecdotes. If a partner took a break from their relationship to spend time apart, its not a safe bet to say oh, theyll be back together again just because Joe Plumber got back with his girlfriend or Mary Longsocks got back with her man afterward.
My relationship has gone to shit, and I want to fix things and get things back on track, and I know that spending time alone does not help that cause whatsoever. Its like your significant other deciding that watching TV is going to help fix a flat tire on the car the two of you drive to go places. Relationship-wise, it benefits no-one. If the goal is to get back together with somebody, spending time alone doesnt help you get there, since by definition, you are spending time ALONE. Relationships are a two way street. If you want to work things out with your partner, meet them half-way. Youre not going out with yourself. If that was the case, this break would lead you to have a healthy relationship for life with yourself, since you spend a lot of time alone.
My interpretation of a break is simple. Its not about spending time with yourself and working on yourself. You can always do that even without taking a break. Its not spending time alone and allowing the other person to miss you. That never happens. Usually what DOES happen is that they flood that space you occupied in their life with friends and other things to get their mind off of YOU. Now that you are out of the picture indefinitely or however long this break will be, if you keep spending time alone, your partner is going to turn into somebody you barely recognize. Its all in the process of learning to be single again since you are no longer a part of their life anymore.
People take breaks and think that yeah, well be right back to how we were, as if you take time apart and the further you are, it will snap you back together again. Thats called rubberbanding. That bullshit never really happens. As quoted from a post, "When someone wants to take a break, theyve already made up her mind and wants out. Theres nothing you can do at this point. Its their way of letting you down easy and feeling less guilty about leaving you. Its all about them and making themselves feel better about the situation." Thats exactly what a break is to me. Its not about taking time apart to be together again. In a perfect world, that's the most likely scenario, but keeping things realistic, its all about mentally preparing yourself to become single, to get into that mindset of a single person, so that when you are comfortable enough in that frame of mind, it becomes ridiculously easy to drop your relationship like a bad habit since your emotions are no longer invested into that person, and since you wanted to spend time apart, the goal was never to work on trying to get back together in the first place.
Again, fuck breaks.
Mr.Squirrel
Tom
Nykad said:
I did it this Wednesday, it works so go for it. You see a girl you like, make small talk, build some sort of connection, then exchange numbers.
When you overthink shit, you miss a lot of opportunities
@Kccitystar: Ditto. Fuck breaks. Anyone who can't see the logical fallacy of them isn't trying hard enough. If your relationship is at the point where one person doesn't even want to be around the other, it's over. I don't know how to make it any simpler or clearer than that.
Aesius
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Danielsan said:Things are really looking good between me and the girl with whom I went on a date last Wednesday/Thursday. Kinda sucks that we both have a busy schedule this weekend so we can't hook up, but I'm going to her place on Monday. She really wants to see me again and that feeling is mutual.
Where did you meet her? Dating website?
captmcblack
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jon bones said:
I can't do that shit at all, but I can remove any bra in one motion. My SF game is weak, but my titty game is on point. :lol
JimiNutz
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Kccitystar said:
Agree 100%
I do believe that some people genuinely believe that taking a break can be a good thing for a relationship, but these people are either stupid or misguided (I used to be one of these people :lol ).
Some space is definitely required in a healthy relationship, but a little bit of space is not the same as 'taking a break', which is basically a cowards way of beginning the separation process.
bdizzle said:
Yeah, up until recently this is the way I'd been thinking as well. Unfortunately life is not like The 40-Year-Old Virgin, even if you have cool friends they will most likely not be able or willing to hook you up with someone. Since I've never done the whole going out and meeting women thing, I'm seeing a therapist in order to try to learn how to do that. But before that, it took a long time for me to realise that nobody was going to help me, nobody was going to magically hook me up with a girlfriend, so I had to do something about it myself.
Yes. The last woman I added to my msn list before deciding to quit the whole online dating business. Actually scheduled a date with her a couple of weeks ago, but I blew her off because I met someone in my daily life. Told her what happened and that I didn't want to string her along on the side. Anywho, we all know how that went. So I casually contacted her a week after I got shot down by that girl. We started chatting again, a bit at first and eventually a whole lot. Scheduled a date with her last Wednesday and it hardly could have gone better.Aesius said:
NinajHeartless
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Dumb question:
This thread is for:
a) advice on getting a girl
b) advice about being in a relationship
or
c) All of the above
Thanks!
This thread is for:
a) advice on getting a girl
b) advice about being in a relationship
or
c) All of the above
Thanks!
SuperAndroid17
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Kccitystar said:
awesome post
Something I recently went through... it really sucks . Wont let it happen again , next time I will just drop the girl instead of " hoping " things get better.
The number one advice i can give to those that are lonely.. find a group of friends to go out with, go to the mall, go bowling, do shit. The girls will magically appear, at least that's how it went for me when i was having trouble when i was ~18. Don't go looking for them, just get a life with your friends.
Aesius
Member
Danielsan said:
That's awesome man. What dating website do you use?
Also, apparently I am really horrible at picking up on flirting. There's this really cute 18 year old at work (probably a bit too young for me), and she kept intentionally calling me by the wrong name yesterday, and she'd go completely out of her way to find me to ask questions.
I didn't really think much of it until one of my co-workers asked if we'd boned yet, because "she's flirting with you hardcore, man."
Problem is, she's got a boyfriend, and she's 18 (I just turned 24). That's almost creepy status.
Aesius said:
I don't think that encroaches into "creeper" territory, but it really depends on her level of maturity. Odds are, though, that the age difference would be an issue if you two ever ended up dating. I've seen it happen countless times. There is a significant intelligence and maturity gap between an 18- and 24-year-old, in most cases.
But I'm 24, and I would totally bone an 18-year-old as long as she was hot and of sound mind.
NinajHeartless
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Ok GAF
Here is my problem.
(BLOB OF TEXT)
I have been dating this girl for a little over a year and a half. I love (almost) everything about her. We are so similar in manners of speech, senses of humor, it is all good (mostly). However, recently I have been fearing something about our relationship. After looking through the OP I saw that there are some red flags I should have spotted initially and it worries me to the bone that I am in for a sad life.
She's very good to me but almost everything about her is stressful (her parents divorced, her father was abusive, her mother is a lazy "artist" who lives off the alimony and spends it all on herself, she is allergic to too many things to list here, she is a borderline hemophiliac, she's been sick for the past 4 months...). I have been having trouble doing
anything else because I feel the need to take care of her.
Also this girl...is the first person I have ever had sex with and living in a society where men are expected to "fuck mad bitches" it makes me feel...I suppose...inadequate that she is my only...and she intends on it staying that way. She's also incredibly jealous, I can't have a single female friend without getting somewhat dirty looks from her about it.
Oh and one last thing, I have been having trouble finding her attractive lately. We still have sex but I fear it is mostly because she is the only woman to ever give me a chance and I feel that she is good enough.
But then again, I adore her personality and it pains me to think of losing her but I am so confused.
I just don't know what to do. Is the situation I am in normal? I am in horrible danger?
Ouendaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan!!! (GAF Help!)
Here is my problem.
(BLOB OF TEXT)
I have been dating this girl for a little over a year and a half. I love (almost) everything about her. We are so similar in manners of speech, senses of humor, it is all good (mostly). However, recently I have been fearing something about our relationship. After looking through the OP I saw that there are some red flags I should have spotted initially and it worries me to the bone that I am in for a sad life.
She's very good to me but almost everything about her is stressful (her parents divorced, her father was abusive, her mother is a lazy "artist" who lives off the alimony and spends it all on herself, she is allergic to too many things to list here, she is a borderline hemophiliac, she's been sick for the past 4 months...). I have been having trouble doing
anything else because I feel the need to take care of her.
Also this girl...is the first person I have ever had sex with and living in a society where men are expected to "fuck mad bitches" it makes me feel...I suppose...inadequate that she is my only...and she intends on it staying that way. She's also incredibly jealous, I can't have a single female friend without getting somewhat dirty looks from her about it.
Oh and one last thing, I have been having trouble finding her attractive lately. We still have sex but I fear it is mostly because she is the only woman to ever give me a chance and I feel that she is good enough.
But then again, I adore her personality and it pains me to think of losing her but I am so confused.
I just don't know what to do. Is the situation I am in normal? I am in horrible danger?
Ouendaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan!!! (GAF Help!)
WyndhamPrice
Member
NinajHeartless said:
Especially since it's your first relationship I'm getting a bail-out vibe from this. She sounds borderline codependent, and that's not healthy at all.
How old are you? You sound like you're maybe 17 or 18 (just from the fact that this is your only relationship at a year and a half in), it might be time to detach yourself especially if you'll be going away to college and stuff.
I'm speaking a bit from experience here, I wound up dating the same girl for 5 years through high school and the beginning of college and she exhibited a lot of similar traits to the one above, but not as extreme with the jealousy and things. It went on longer than it probably should've.
You should never feel like you need to take care of her. That's not your job. It sounds selfish, but at a younger age it's not fair to you, and not to her since she'll just expect you to do everything. You should do it because you want to, but I can't see that at this point in time, especially if you're experiencing doubts.
NinajHeartless
Member
WyndhamPrice said:
I am 20, we started when we were 18 and she has followed me to college (girl's a genius, got a great scholarship, no one was willing to pay for her schooling).
She is totally dependent on me, she has said as much and has expressed interest in marriage. The thing is, I don't think any of that would be that bad, but I keep thinking of other women and other possibilities. We get a single life right? I can't deny that I think I would have regrets if I stuck with her.
But I fear for her and myself. I don't know if I could ever find someone so in tune with my thinking as she is and I fear what she would do to herself
Thanks for the response though, I am still terrified and confused.
Edit: The thing is I do...enjoy taking care of her; at least I did initially. But at the same time I get feelings of being held back... why can't life be simple dammit!
Maybe I just can't tell the difference between needing and wanting...sigh
WyndhamPrice
Member
NinajHeartless said:I am 20, we started when we were 18 and she has followed me to college (girl's a genius, got a great scholarship, no one was willing to pay for her schooling).
She is totally dependent on me, she has said as much and has expressed interest in marriage. The thing is, I don't think any of that would be that bad, but I keep thinking of other women and other possibilities. We get a single life right? I can't deny that I think I would have regrets if I stuck with her.
But I fear for her and myself. I don't know if I could ever find someone so in tune with my thinking as she is and I fear what she would do to herself
Thanks for the response though, I am still terrified and confused.
Edit: The thing is I do...enjoy taking care of her; at least I did initially. But at the same time I get feelings of being held back... why can't life be simple dammit!
Maybe I just can't tell the difference between needing and wanting...sigh
I went through the same thing as you, except we went to different colleges. She eventually was all about staying together forever and marriage and stuff and I was always resistant to that idea being so young.
Ironically, the breakup came from her meeting some new people and getting some perspective, I don't feel like you'll be so lucky. You are being held back, and as much as you think you like being with her and catering to her admittedly kind of sucky problems, it's not fair to you. Your lack of experience with other people and relationships means you probably don't actually know what you want, since you don't know anything else. After a while this will just turn into unneeded obligation and then frustration and anger.
Am I telling you to break up with her? Yeah, but that's up to you. You are young (and I am not really much older than you are). It will suck at first, especially if you feel like you may see her afterwards, but you may come to realize it was one of the most freeing decisions of your life so far.
NinajHeartless
Member
WyndhamPrice said:
Thanks for the advice
Another fear I have is that she is about the only friend I have. I have extreme social anxiety problems ...oh and I am a non-partying college student. I fear that without her I am a pariah, I'll have no one to go to at all. I was alone for so long...oh and one detail I guess I left out...she kinda was with me as I watched my mother die over the course of one weekend from cancer. And this was about a month after we started dating.... She's helped me through a bunch and I just don't know how to let go.
I really appreciate the advice though!
I just don't know if I am masculine enough to actually go through with a break up (though the fears of what happen to me if I don't haunt me as well).I am thinking that maybe I am just being lustful and maybe this is just a self control issue. I mean, she isn't the best looking thing in the world and being around all the sporty girls at college is fucking with my head. I've been trying to get her to work out (we both need something, I need muscles/weight she needs to lose some weight) but she has been delaying it...though it is mainly because of her illness...
Oh and for one last time thanks for the advice!
This is gonna be a tough decision to make...Solideliquid
Member
jon bones said:
I think we need more good examples of how to do this. Most of us have no problem chatting up a girl (using the environment, recent/current events, etc) but how do you get to the point or how do you know it's safe to ask for the number.
Is this acceptable, for example "Let's get together sometime, I can give you a call and we can figure out a date." I think it shouldn't be a question.
The Lamonster
Member
Just link her to this thread...
Solideliquid said:
well i already talked to her for about 15 minutes before TAG showed up - that was crucial because i only had about a minute to get her number while TAG was in the bathroom later that night.
during that 15 minutes we talked about what we do - she's in finance, i say i'm a struggling astronaut. she says she's scared of space - i say, "everyone always says how they need to get out of the city on the weekends cause it's so claustrophobic - space is the best!"
she said - "so if a nasa van pulled up and asked you, you'd go to space right now?"
i said - "are you kidding me? i'd close out my tab, get your phone number and hop in that van right now"
then we talked for another minute or two and TAG walked in. had i had a better sense of time, i would have asked for the number right there. but i didn't so i had to make a move later in the night when the opportunity presented itself.
when i did, i just said, "hey let me get your number and give you a call sometime" and that was it
Aesius
Member
NinajHeartless said:Thanks for the advice
Another fear I have is that she is about the only friend I have. I have extreme social anxiety problems ...oh and I am a non-partying college student. I fear that without her I am a pariah, I'll have no one to go to at all. I was alone for so long...oh and one detail I guess I left out...she kinda was with me as I watched my mother die over the course of one weekend from cancer. And this was about a month after we started dating.... She's helped me through a bunch and I just don't know how to let go.
I really appreciate the advice though!
I am thinking that maybe I am just being lustful and maybe this is just a self control issue. I mean, she isn't the best looking thing in the world (overweight, flat chested, hairy) and being around all the sporty girls at college is fucking with my head. I've been trying to get her to work out (we both need something, I need muscles/weight she needs to lose some weight) but she has been delaying it...though it is mainly because of her illness...
Oh and for one last time thanks for the advice!
Breaking up with this girl will be one of the best things you'll ever do. Jesus man - she's already that unattractive and she's only 20?!?
Dump her. Sort your life out. Do whatever it takes - therapy, gym, whatever. This girl will drag you down if you stay with her.
NinajHeartless said:Thanks for the advice
Another fear I have is that she is about the only friend I have. I have extreme social anxiety problems ...oh and I am a non-partying college student. I fear that without her I am a pariah, I'll have no one to go to at all. I was alone for so long...oh and one detail I guess I left out...she kinda was with me as I watched my mother die over the course of one weekend from cancer. And this was about a month after we started dating.... She's helped me through a bunch and I just don't know how to let go.
I really appreciate the advice though!
I am thinking that maybe I am just being lustful and maybe this is just a self control issue. I mean, she isn't the best looking thing in the world (overweight, flat chested, hairy) and being around all the sporty girls at college is fucking with my head. I've been trying to get her to work out (we both need something, I need muscles/weight she needs to lose some weight) but she has been delaying it...though it is mainly because of her illness...
Oh and for one last time thanks for the advice!
I really hope she doesn't read GAF son. You two are always together. Watch out :lol
I got your back man, I'll help you out.
NinajHeartless
Member
-PXG- said:
Don't worry I am mad stealth. The only OT she went into was something about drawing cats in MS Paint with her eyes closed Also thanks
Also thanks Mike Works
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NinajHeartless said:Thanks for the advice
Another fear I have is that she is about the only friend I have. I have extreme social anxiety problems ...oh and I am a non-partying college student. I fear that without her I am a pariah, I'll have no one to go to at all. I was alone for so long...oh and one detail I guess I left out...she kinda was with me as I watched my mother die over the course of one weekend from cancer. And this was about a month after we started dating.... She's helped me through a bunch and I just don't know how to let go.
I really appreciate the advice though!
I am thinking that maybe I am just being lustful and maybe this is just a self control issue. I mean, she isn't the best looking thing in the world (overweight, flat chested, hairy) and being around all the sporty girls at college is fucking with my head. I've been trying to get her to work out (we both need something, I need muscles/weight she needs to lose some weight) but she has been delaying it...though it is mainly because of her illness...
Oh and for one last time thanks for the advice!
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