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[-PXG-]

Thanks Pickles and PXG for the advice, I'll be making the proper purchases here pretty shortly so when we try again it'll go more favorably. I think she'll appreciate that, and probably be surprised that I care enough about how she feels too.

On that, she's got a little baggage which is probably interfering with the sexytime as well. The 2 guys she's slept with weren't even in a relationship with her, it was more like a failed friends-with-benefits situation (the first after a breakup, the second after the first one didn't go anywhere). She's told me that in her prior relationships she never really felt like the other person was interested in her beyond her body, so my consistent displays of "hey I actually think you're a wonderful person and I want you to know that I give a shit about you" have taken her a bit by surprise. We spent a few hours in my bed pretty much naked last night just talking, nothing else, and it was incredibly comfortable. She even noted how she didn't really think she could do something like that after only a month, but it felt completely right.

So there's some work ahead of me, but we've hit it off like crazy in virtually every other aspect, I just need to work on getting her to be more comfortable with herself and the idea of being more sexual with me in general. She's nearly there.

It just sucks that she left for California this morning and won't be back till the first week of January. I am not a happy camper :lol

Yes, she will appreciate it. As you said, she will notice that you're making an effort in trying to make her feel comfortable, and it will in fact, over time, will. Don't rush things though. Do things that are at a pace that she can handle. Don't do more than what she can tolerate at that time.

That too. Besides her being tight, and you being a well endowed, having bad sexual experiences in the past can make current and future matters difficult. Just continue to take things slow and earn her trust. If she isn't completely broken, she will let her guard down and open up to you eventually. Before you know it, you'll be balls deep inside her, pounding her cervix (be careful though, cause that shit is SENSITIVE) and her screaming and moaning at the top of her lungs.

Spoiler

Yes, it's fucking awesome

Man...that's story of my fucking life :lol. Like I said in my long post, girls always tell me how great I am, yet I'm can't make it over that last hurdle. I can't get that last yard to score a touch down. Just a little more, and it could have been a home run. You get the point...Anyway, I clearly don't lack confidence. I know how to take initiative and lead in the situation. I know how to make a girl laugh, smile and enjoy herself. They say I'm handsome, charming and have a really seductive voice. I don't think it's anything special, but nearly every single girl I've talked to absolutely loves how I speak. Hmmm...

I don't mean to brag, but I think there is an element that I'm "too good to be true" or something like that. Perhaps I freak girls out or it's off putting even, that I'm so nice and such a complete package. Maybe they think I'm just putting on an act and have some sort of hidden, sordid motives (which I don't). They're not used to having a guy be so nice, kind, intelligent, interesting, good looking and overall, such a pleasure to be around with. And yet, I get the same old "I don't feel a connection" or "let's just be friends" bullshit.

However, as disappointing as it is, I've noticed that with every time such a thing happens, it bothers me less. As fantastic as my date was yesterday, I'm not too upset about what she said afterwards. But still, I wish girls would realize what they have in front of them and give me a chance. I'll keep on trying though. That's all I really can do, besides give up, which is totally out of the question.

 

[WyndhamPrice]

Yes, she will appreciate it. As you said, she will notice that you're making an effort in trying to make her feel comfortable, and it will in fact, over time, will. Don't rush things though. Do things that are at a pace that she can handle. Don't do more than what she can tolerate at that time.

That too. Besides her being tight, and you being a well endowed, having bad sexual experiences in the past can make current and future matters difficult. Just continue to take things slow and earn her trust. If she isn't completely broken, she will let her guard down and open up to you eventually. Before you know it, you'll be balls deep inside her, pounding her cervix (be careful though, cause that shit is SENSITIVE) and her screaming and moaning at the top of her lungs.

Spoiler

Yes, it's fucking awesome

Man...that's story of my fucking life :lol. Like I said in my long post, girls always tell me how great I am, yet I'm can't make it over that last hurdle. I can't get that last yard to score a touch down. Just a little more, and it could have been a home run. You get the point...Anyway, I clearly don't lack confidence. I know how to take initiative and lead in the situation. I know how to make a girl laugh, smile and enjoy herself. They say I'm handsome, charming and have a really seductive voice. I don't think it's anything special, but nearly every single girl I've talked to absolutely loves how I speak. Hmmm...

I don't mean to brag, but I think there is an element that I'm "too good to be true" or something like that. Perhaps I freak girls out or it's off putting even, that I'm so nice and such a complete package. Maybe they think I'm just putting on an act and have some sort of hidden, sordid motives (which I don't). They're not used to having a guy be so nice, kind, intelligent, interesting, good looking and overall, such a pleasure to be around with. And yet, I get the same old "I don't feel a connection" or "let's just be friends" bullshit.

However, as disappointing as it is, I've noticed that with every time such a thing happens, it bothers me less. As fantastic as my date was yesterday, I'm not too upset about what she said afterwards. But still, I wish girls would realize what they have in front of them and give me a chance. I'll keep on trying though. That's all I really can do, besides give up, which is totally out of the question.

That's kinda what I'm going through too. I told her when we started dating that I'm pretty selective about who I invest in and I take my relationships very seriously. It's been surprising for her but completely welcome. I feel like for her I've become a source of stability in her life which has been dominated by her insane family life (which I won't even go into but it's sprawling and I still can't wrap my head around everything even after knowing her as a friend for a year). For me she's a complete gear shift from my previous relationship and it's awesome.

I know some of this sounds a little much for only a month-old relationship but we were already close in terms with what we've shared before we started dating. I want this to last for a while, and I feel like it will.

 

[-PXG-]

That's kinda what I'm going through too. I told her when we started dating that I'm pretty selective about who I invest in and I take my relationships very seriously. It's been surprising for her but completely welcome. I feel like for her I've become a source of stability in her life which has been dominated by her insane family life (which I won't even go into but it's sprawling and I still can't wrap my head around everything even after knowing her as a friend for a year). For me she's a complete gear shift from my previous relationship and it's awesome.

I know some of this sounds a little much for only a month-old relationship but we were already close in terms with what we've shared before we started dating. I want this to last for a while, and I feel like it will.

I'm the same way. Damn. Separated at birth perhaps?

I'm going to some kind of bar/ artist hang out place with that "wife material" girl tomorrow (the one I spent all night talking to a couple of weeks ago) with a couple of her friends. We may also hang out, alone, on Saturday too. Last night, she told me she has a friend, who she's convinced I will like more, for some reason. She wouldn't explain why. I asked if she told her friend anything about me. She said, "somethings...vaguely", but didn't go into any detail. Girls and their fucking mind games, gotta love 'em :lol I get a kick out of figuring them out. I joked about having a threesome. She thought it was funny. Anyway, I really don't know how tomorrow is gonna pan out. Again, I'm just looking forward to going out and having a good time. No pressure and no expectations.

Oh, and when it comes to fucking your girl, once she's comfortable, for added pleasure (assuming you're doing it on a bed), remove all blankets and pillows. Why? Well when she starts moaning, yelling and writhing about, she won't have anything substantial to grab onto. It will tease and torture the hell out of her and drive her insane...in a good way of course. Because she can't compose herself by grabbing onto something, she will have no choice but to exert her sense of pleasure and excitement vocally. This should turn you on and make do even more crazy shit to her. Continue this process until she climaxes. After she does, ease up, switch positions (if necessary) and gradually work up to another climax.

Do it right and she will be in the palm of your hand. Trust me, if you fuck her well enough, she will pretty much do anything you want her to do. She may be a sweet, gentle dignified young woman. But in the bedroom, she will be your personal slut. Plus, don't forget to tease her and practice good foreplay. Those will make good sex even better.

 

[Miguel]

I have the feeling I may end up posting something here in the next few weeks... There's always a first for everything :lol

 

[-PXG-]

More sex tips:

Remember to alternate your pace and motions. Keep her guessing. Keep her on her toes. Don't allow her predict your next move or expect what is to come next. Being able to switch shit up like that on her will add to her pleasure.

While your dick is doing work, caress and touch her body. Glide your fingers across her back, shoulders, neck, thighs, sides, breasts and stomach. What areas you make contact with all depends on how you two are positioned, of course. Rub and knead her skin with your thumbs, finger tips and ball of your fingers. Lick and kiss her wherever she receptive to contact. Gently scratch and bite her. Don't leave marks or draw blood, unless she's into that sort of thing.

If you're doing it doggy style, lean over, and kiss or lick her earlobe and/ or neck. Whisper dirty things in her ear. Push her head down and pull her hair. Vigorously grab her arm or hold her hand. Force her body down, but without crushing her. Show her that you're dominant, in charge and in control. Dig your fingers into her butt cheeks and thighs. Give her a couple of smacks to encourage her to step it up. You can also wrap your arm around her chest and squeeze her neck. Choke her a bit, but not too much where it freaks her out. You don't want to her to stop breathing :lol You could put your arm around her waist and lift her up. She will naturally hold on to you to give herself leverage. While she's she's suspended, rub her breasts. If she can turn her neck far enough, kiss her on the cheek or lips. Try to time your kisses when she is trying to breathe or moan. Again, that's telling her that you're in control and you decide when she can rest and how she generally goes about herself. You're the man, so you have command over what happens. You set the pace. However, no means no. If she's in pain or she's uncomfortable with what you're doing, stop or slow down. Be in control, be in charge, treat her like a whore in bed, but still have some semblance of respect for her.

I mean, there is A LOT you can do. Experiment, explore and try new things. See what works and what doesn't. If she likes it, gradually make it more intense. Sure, sex might not be everything, but it certainly doesn't hurt to be good in bed. It's good way to assert yourself and display confidence and a sense of knowing what you're doing. Being good at fucking tells the girl you're with, that you're comfortable with her, find her attractive and knowledgeable about her body. It also shows that you love and care about her too. It's a wonderful experience and even better when you do it with someone you have some sort of emotional bond with.

Spoiler

I miss it

 

[Klyka]

That's uh...that's quite the post there, man.

 

[-PXG-]

That's uh...that's quite the post there, man.

Well, it is advice that pertains to the opposite sex. So why not?

Also...Bayobutt :lol

 

[Xun]

How irritating.

I had a few smiles/looks from girls today, and a cutie sat next to me on the train home. Despite this I still can't open my mouth and say "hey"...

Meh. :/

I really do feel hopeless.

 

[Klyka]

Well, it is advice to the opposite sex. So why not?

Also...Bayobutt :lol

Well, it was just a bit out of left field. "Oh, let's check the dating-age thread dum di dum" "PULL HER HAIR FUCK HER HARD UNF UNF UNF" "Ehm...ok....!?"

And Bayobutt has been my avatar ever since the Bayonetta thread. I just can't bring myself to change it.

 

[WyndhamPrice]

Well, it was just a bit out of left field. "Oh, let's check the dating-age thread dum di dum" "PULL HER HAIR FUCK HER HARD UNF UNF UNF" "Ehm...ok....!?"

And Bayobutt has been my avatar ever since the Bayonetta thread. I just can't bring myself to change it.

It was more of a tangent off of my inquiry from a page or two back. Still good advice anyway.

 

[ThLunarian]

More sex tips:

Remember to alternate your pace and motions. Keep her guessing. Keep her on her toes. Don't allow her predict your next move or expect what is to come next. Being able to switch shit up like that on her will add to her pleasure.

While your dick is doing work, caress and touch her body. Glide your fingers across her back, shoulders, neck, thighs, sides, breasts and stomach. What areas you make contact with all depends on how you two are positioned, of course. Rub and knead her skin with your thumbs, finger tips and ball of your fingers. Lick and kiss her wherever she receptive to contact. Gently scratch and bite her. Don't leave marks or draw blood, unless he's into that sort of thing.

If you're doing it doggy style, lean over, and kiss or lick her earlobe and/ or neck. Whisper dirty things in her ear. Push her head down and pull her hair. Vigorously grab her arm or hold her hand. Force her body down, but without crushing her. Show her that you're dominant, in charge and in control. Dig your fingers into her butt cheeks and thighs. Give her a couple of smacks to encourage her to step it up. You can also wrap your arm around her chest and squeeze her neck. Choke her a bit, but not too much where it freaks her out. You don't want to her to stop breathing :lol You could put your arm around her waist and lift her up. She will naturally hold on to you to give herself leverage. While she's she's suspended, rub her breasts. If she can turn her neck far enough, kiss her on the cheek or lips. Try to time your kisses when she is trying to breathe or moan. Again, that's telling her that you're in control and you decide when she can rest and how she generally goes about herself. You're the man, so you have command over what happens. You set the pace. However, no means no. If she's in pain or she's uncomfortable with what you're doing, stop or slow down. Be in control, be in charge, treat her like a whore in bed, but still have some semblance of respect for her.

I mean, there is A LOT you can do. Experiment, explore and try new things. See what works and what doesn't. If she likes it, gradually make it more intense. Sure, sex might not be everything, but it certainly doesn't hurt to be good in bed. It's good way to assert yourself and display confidence and a sense of knowing what you're doing. Being good at fucking tells the girl you're with, that you're comfortable with her, find her attractive and knowledgeable about her body. It also shows that you love and care about her too. It's a wonderful experience and even better when you do it with someone you have some sort of emotional bond with.

Spoiler

I miss it

Great advice, but I want to point out that when the woman is close to climaxing, don't alter your pace again unless for some reason you don't want her to climax, because if you do then you might need to start all over again.

 

[Klyka]

I'm actually having a hard time pinpointing when I had sex for the last time.
If I am not completely off, it must have been in 2007.

I wonder if I'd even still have all the stuff like kissing and fucking down or if it'd be totally awkward while I re-learn it all. If someone asked me "How do you kiss?" right now, I'd have no proper way of explaining :lol

 

[jon bones]

that is some cold streak

 

[ScOULaris]

Well, it was just a bit out of left field. "Oh, let's check the dating-age thread dum di dum" "PULL HER HAIR FUCK HER HARD UNF UNF UNF" "Ehm...ok....!?"

I spit out my water after reading this line. UNF UNF UNF! haha

 

[Aesius]

Don't do what my friend did last night at the bar: Semi-attractive girl walks by us to go the bathroom, he turns to me and says he's going to chat her up when she walks back by. I gave him a thumbs up, and walked over to the pool tables to see if any were open. I was gone for about 30 seconds, and when I walked back, he was gone.

I caught up with him outside the bar to find out what happened. Apparently, this was his pickup line: "I'm really drunk and you're really cute....you should give me your number so I can get to know you when I'm sober."

I could have smacked him. Obviously, she declined. The sad thing is, I was there with 3 friends. She was there with 3 friends. After his "encounter", they all got up and abruptly left.

He was drunk, and thought he was being bold and confident, but unless you're extremely good looking, you're not going to pull off a line like that. And typically, when you're drunk enough to think a line like that is a good idea, you shouldn't be trying to hit on girls anyway.

 

[Klyka]

Ha, your friend sounds like a funny guy though. I don't think it was all that terrible.

 

[Barrage]

Real talk time.

So this is not a virgin-age post. I've been with a...fair group of women. My issue is something that I never even thought of until a few nights ago.

I do not know how to undo a bra.

I'm serious when I say that it just honestly never came up. The girl always undid it herself, or i'd playfully tell her to take it off, and she's happily do it.

But last night I matched wits with this girl who just tested the shit out of me at all times, and it came up.

{If you're asking why I put up with a million different tests, it's because this girl is the queen of fellatio. She can do with a dick and her mouth what MacGuyver does with a lighter, pencil, and rubber band.

And she knows it! After, while I was still trembling, I shakenly told her she was the best at giving Head I had ever met.

Her response? " I know."

SHE FUCKING HAN SOLO'ED ME!}

Anyway, We were getting ready for Round 2 (she had dressed again in between), and after relieving me of my clothes, she tells me to take her bra off (which, BTW, was awesomely Christmas-styled. But I digress.)

I tried, GAF. I really did. But that shit was like something out of SAW. I was convinced at any point Jigsaw was going to pop out of the cleavage and say "time's up."

We already had sex at that point, so it wasn't a dealbreaker. But it's not a problem I want to occur again.

So what do I do, GAF? I'm too damn old to be doing dry runs on pillows or any of that shit. I've got a girl coming over tonight, and I want zero fumbling.

 

[Alucrid]

Real talk time.

So this is not a virgin-age post. I've been with a...fair group of women. My issue is something that I never even thought of until a few nights ago.

I do not know how to undo a bra.

I'm serious when I say that it just honestly never came up. The girl always undid it herself, or i'd playfully tell her to take it off, and she's happily do it.

But last night I matched wits with this girl who just tested the shit out of me at all times, and it came up.

{If you're asking why I put up with a million different tests, it's because this girl is the queen of fellatio. She can do with a dick and her mouth what MacGuyver does with a lighter, pencil, and rubber band.

And she knows it! After, while I was still trembling, I shakenly told her she was the best at giving Head I had ever met.

Her response? " I know."

SHE FUCKING HAN SOLO'ED ME!}

Anyway, We were getting ready for Round 2 (she had dressed again in between), and after relieving me of my clothes, she tells me to take her bra off (which, BTW, was awesomely Christmas-styled. But I digress.)

I tried, GAF. I really did. But that shit was like something out of SAW. I was convinced at any point Jigsaw was going to pop out of the cleavage and say "time's up."

We already had sex at that point, so it wasn't a dealbreaker. But it's not a problem I want to occur again.

So what do I do, GAF? I'm too damn old to be doing dry runs on pillows or any of that shit. I've got a girl coming over tonight, and I want zero fumbling.

buy bra
practice on self
ta da

 

[WyndhamPrice]

If it's a normal one with the clasp in the back it's pretty easy to just find the outer edges of the clasp and squeeze them together until you feel them unhook with your thumb and index finger. I've done that so quickly at times the girl barely realizes it happened till it's off.

 

[-PXG-]

Great advice, but I want to point out that when the woman is close to climaxing, don't alter your pace again unless for some reason you don't want her to climax, because if you do then you might need to start all over again.

Yes, this is true. I meant alternate your methods as you're trying to get her to climax. Once she's almost at the point, maintain whatever pace you're at, until the big moment

 

[Danielsan]

Real talk time.

So this is not a virgin-age post. I've been with a...fair group of women. My issue is something that I never even thought of until a few nights ago.

I do not know how to undo a bra.

I'm serious when I say that it just honestly never came up. The girl always undid it herself, or i'd playfully tell her to take it off, and she's happily do it.

But last night I matched wits with this girl who just tested the shit out of me at all times, and it came up.

{If you're asking why I put up with a million different tests, it's because this girl is the queen of fellatio. She can do with a dick and her mouth what MacGuyver does with a lighter, pencil, and rubber band.

And she knows it! After, while I was still trembling, I shakenly told her she was the best at giving Head I had ever met.

Her response? " I know."

SHE FUCKING HAN SOLO'ED ME!}

Anyway, We were getting ready for Round 2 (she had dressed again in between), and after relieving me of my clothes, she tells me to take her bra off (which, BTW, was awesomely Christmas-styled. But I digress.)

I tried, GAF. I really did. But that shit was like something out of SAW. I was convinced at any point Jigsaw was going to pop out of the cleavage and say "time's up."

We already had sex at that point, so it wasn't a dealbreaker. But it's not a problem I want to occur again.

So what do I do, GAF? I'm too damn old to be doing dry runs on pillows or any of that shit. I've got a girl coming over tonight, and I want zero fumbling.

Left hand. Search for clasp. Thumb over index and middle finger. Squeeze together and presto, release.

 

[dgenx]

so this is my case, there is this girl I kinda like , we have the best msn chats, she isn't too attractive and she is kinda unstable , today at work she was with her friends and I don't dot why I just don't wanted to talk to her, look like she noticed and cancelled today's lunch, Now she is with her friends having lunch and Now I miss her.

Am I an asshole?

 

[Mecha_Infantry]

I got this msg off a cutie i winked at, but fuck. i was ill and never replied to her for a few days, when i tried to her account was deleted. She was really cool and we were talking a lot on there, but blam, she was gone after a little while. Bummer

I guess I got more work to go :|

 

[Klyka]

If a woman ever told me that she thinks I was like that I would just laugh and never ever want to get involved with her.

 

[Mr.City]

Shit, I got too many women texting/calling me. And there I thought I was going to take a break from women to enjoy the holidays.

PXG's post gave me a boner. Good work, lad.

 

[djtiesto]

Some pieces were great, while others were shit. I love looking at the pretentious schmucks who over analyze the painfully simplistic stuff or things that look like ANYONE could do. That's pretty much the case, no matter what museum or gallery you go to honestly. I personally, love the architectural/ interior/ industrial design stuff. I dabble in those a bit myself, but I'd never do any of those as a vocation. Maybe ID, but that's just me though.

But yeah, if you're both artists, both love art, or just need something interesting to do, definitely go. It's $20 per person and I think $12 if you're a student. We got in for free Oh, plus there are a lot of good places go for a bite nearby. And, providing the weather doesn't suck, you can take a walk through the park.

EDIT

I noticed, it's funny reading my posts when I have Anton Chigurh in my avatar. Kind of creepy. I've caught myself reading posts out loud in his voice :lol

I've been on a few dates to the MoMA and I agree... it's a great place to go (especially if she is interested in art), and the industrial design and architectural stuff is amazing! Last time I went though, the industrial design section was under renovation But between the conceptual/futurist architecture and the Impressionist section on the top floor I was flipping out there!

Sooo... what is everyone in the thread (single, taken, etc) doing for New Years? I'm looking at finding a nice bed-n-breakfast on the Island and spending the night with my girl. Last year we went to see Desyn Masiello (a house DJ) spin in NYC, but that's not really her scene (unfortunately ) so we're gonna keep it closer to home and more reserved this year.

 

[Klyka]

I work on New Year, so I'll go out with some friends till like 1 or 2 am and then go to sleep.

 

[WyndhamPrice]

I guess I'll ask one last question in regards to dealing with this girl in the bedroom:

She's one of those types that says when she's not in the mood, she is really not in the mood. Like she can magically switch off all her erogenous zones (I can always tell because she'll feel like she's being tickled instead of bristling like when she's turned on). She'll still be down to cuddle or kiss or whatever but it's pretty difficult to get her beyond that at times. Should I just accept that that's the way she is or is it more to do with her aforementioned hesitation and her general dearth of positive, fulfilling sexual experience? Obviously I don't want to pressure her too much. Perhaps as we get into it more she'll be more likely to just get into it more spontaneously?

 

[-PXG-]

Shit, I got too many women texting/calling me. And there I thought I was going to take a break from women to enjoy the holidays.

PXG's post gave me a boner. Good work, lad.

Just don't mix up their names. The worst thing you could do is call a girl by the wrong name. I almost did that the other day. Close fucking call. :lol

Oh, and you're very welcome. I'm flattered

I've been on a few dates to the MoMA and I agree... it's a great place to go (especially if she is interested in art), and the industrial design and architectural stuff is amazing! Last time I went though, the industrial design section was under renovation But between the conceptual/futurist architecture and the Impressionist section on the top floor I was flipping out there!

Sooo... what is everyone in the thread (single, taken, etc) doing for New Years? I'm looking at finding a nice bed-n-breakfast on the Island and spending the night with my girl. Last year we went to see Desyn Masiello (a house DJ) spin in NYC, but that's not really her scene (unfortunately ) so we're gonna keep it closer to home and more reserved this year.

Me and the "wife material" girl might go to Times Square together. She's even thinking about getting a hotel room, so we can get drunk and get fucked up all night. I don't know, we have to iron out the details. I really don't want to be alone this New Years. Past two I spent it with my (now ex) girlfriend. I don't really remember, but I think we had sex while the ball dropped last year :lol I really want to spend it with a lovely lady this year. Don't want my combo to be broken, you know.

I guess I'll ask one last question in regards to dealing with this girl in the bedroom:

She's one of those types that says when she's not in the mood, she is really not in the mood. Like she can magically switch off all her erogenous zones (I can always tell because she'll feel like she's being tickled instead of bristling like when she's turned on). She'll still be down to cuddle or kiss or whatever but it's pretty difficult to get her beyond that at times. Should I just accept that that's the way she is or is it more to do with her aforementioned hesitation and her general dearth of positive, fulfilling sexual experience? Obviously I don't want to pressure her too much. Perhaps as we get into it more she'll be more likely to just get into it more spontaneously?

That really depends on how resistant she is. My ex was like that, but most of the time, with enough teasing and coaxing, I got her in mood, dripping wet and hungry for cock. Prudes and girls with low sex drives are annoying, but what are you going to do? Rape is certainly out of the question, unless you're just dying to go to jail Unless she outright says "NO! STOP!" gradually tease her and feel her up. Do it slow enough so that the lines between each "phase" (if you will) are blurred and obscured. If you do it just right, she won't know what's going on and before she's knows it, you'll be fingering her and she'll be slobbering on your dick. Elevated excitement and the desire for greater pleasure will have gotten the best of her. At that point, it shouldn't be too hard to get her to have sex with you.

However, don't do it too slow where she figures out what you're trying to do or ends up losing what little interest she had. Of course, you don't want to go too fast, because it will make it too obvious as to what you want. Plus, she won't be ready. You need to have her on the same page as you, unless it won't work. Figuratively speaking, you must hold her hand and gently guide her through it. Don't expect her to jump head first into the deep end from the offset. Dip her toes in the shallow end first and gradually lead her into deeper waters. I hope that makes sense.

 

[Xun]

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[Hydranockz]

More sex tips:
Keep her on her toes.

Keep her on her back toes.

It all makes sense now.

 

[hydragonwarrior]

buy bra
practice on self
ta da

:lol I got lucky with the girl I was with. She wanted it off too and I think I had to try a total of 4 times (it was also dark so I couldn't see shit) before I could take it off. She was also the patient type which helped lol

And if I remember it correctly, it's a really simple sliding mechanism that once you get it you're like "Wow that is really really simple!"

 

[SuperAndroid17]

Ok guys I need some help

My sister's best friend little sister is pretty cute. I was thinking of messaging her through Facebook and telling her Hi. I asked my sister to ask her older sister if it was Ok to do that , she said it was fine and to just add her.

Wouldnt that be kinda creepy?

My sister is best friends with her
My brother is good friends with her middle sister
Shes the youngest one.

How do I go through with this? what do I say without looking stupid? I've never met her.

 

[Alucrid]

Ok guys I need some help

My sister's best friend little sister is pretty cute. I was thinking of messaging her through Facebook and telling her Hi. I asked my sister to ask her older sister if it was Ok to do that , she said it was fine and to just add her.

Wouldnt that be kinda creepy?

My sister is best friends with her
My brother is good friends with her middle sister
Shes the youngest one.

How do I go through with this? what do I say without looking stupid? I've never met her.

...are you older or younger than your sister? Personally I wouldn't message or friend anyone on facebook I haven't met in real life.

 

[jon bones]

I've never met her.

this whole post sounded kinda creepy until i got to this when it got officially creepy

i wouldn't facebook someone i never met

also, what's the age differential here?

 

[Entropia]

Ok guys I need some help

My sister's best friend little sister is pretty cute. I was thinking of messaging her through Facebook and telling her Hi. I asked my sister to ask her older sister if it was Ok to do that , she said it was fine and to just add her.

Wouldnt that be kinda creepy?

My sister is best friends with her
My brother is good friends with her middle sister
Shes the youngest one.

How do I go through with this? what do I say without looking stupid? I've never met her.

Why not ask to be introduced to the sister??

 

[Count Dookkake]

Real talk time.

So this is not a virgin-age post. I've been with a...fair group of women. My issue is something that I never even thought of until a few nights ago.

I do not know how to undo a bra.

I'm serious when I say that it just honestly never came up. The girl always undid it herself, or i'd playfully tell her to take it off, and she's happily do it.

But last night I matched wits with this girl who just tested the shit out of me at all times, and it came up.

{If you're asking why I put up with a million different tests, it's because this girl is the queen of fellatio. She can do with a dick and her mouth what MacGuyver does with a lighter, pencil, and rubber band.

And she knows it! After, while I was still trembling, I shakenly told her she was the best at giving Head I had ever met.

Her response? " I know."

SHE FUCKING HAN SOLO'ED ME!}

Anyway, We were getting ready for Round 2 (she had dressed again in between), and after relieving me of my clothes, she tells me to take her bra off (which, BTW, was awesomely Christmas-styled. But I digress.)

I tried, GAF. I really did. But that shit was like something out of SAW. I was convinced at any point Jigsaw was going to pop out of the cleavage and say "time's up."

We already had sex at that point, so it wasn't a dealbreaker. But it's not a problem I want to occur again.

So what do I do, GAF? I'm too damn old to be doing dry runs on pillows or any of that shit. I've got a girl coming over tonight, and I want zero fumbling.

Han Swallow

 

[demon]

this whole post sounded kinda creepy until i got to this when it got officially creepy

i wouldn't facebook someone i never met

also, what's the age differential here?

yes and no. Friends of my sisters whom I've never met have facebooked me. Then again they're the type of people who facebook literally everyone within five degrees of separation from them.

 

[SuperAndroid17]

...are you older or younger than your sister? Personally I wouldn't message or friend anyone on facebook I haven't met in real life.

im younger

im 22 and shes 19 ( the girl ) about to turn 20 in jan.


yeah fuck it , im just gonna wait till I meet her.

 

[TheVampire]

It's been aranged, I've now got a date with this girl on Tuesday!

*squeels*

 

[Nykad]

Asking girls out at the gym, yay or nay?

I'm having a hard time meeting women and i frequent the gym and see cuties every once and a while. What say you gaf?

 

[Ether_Snake]

God damn I saw one of the girls today that just carves herself into the marble block that is my mind. I went to buy some burgers and this new cashier was there. Beautiful tall straight-haired brunette with her cut straight in the front, smooth white skin, greyish-blue eyes, nice nose, and really cheerful. What makes all the difference to me is when a girl is cheerful with me even though we don't know each other. A lot of cashiers are relatively straight-faced or give cashier-politeness smiles, but this girl was genuinely smiling while looking straight into me eyes when talking to me. She must have been easily 28 or 30 but she had that really young and cheerful attitude to herself, even though she was on her first or second day there and screwed up an order for the previous client and the boss was telling her to pay attention. She gave me the fries from the guy she screwed the order from, but the way she was talking to me, literally with her elbows on the counter and leaning forward with that big smile and wide open eyes looking in mine and joking about how I'm getting free fries. Told her it's like the second time in two weeks I get free fries and she laughed, said I was lucky, etc., and I went on my way. Gotta say I was pretty much taken off guard by how talkative and cheerful she was , but at least I managed to keep the conversation going as far as I think it could go considering it's a fast-paced joint at rush hour.

The reason I mentioned the above because that is the kind of girl I fucking love, and they're a rare find. She doesn't take things too seriously, she's fucking pretty, and she doesn't hold back: she looks at me in the eyes and smile while talking to me even if she doesn't know me. A pretty smile and nice eyes looking into mine is my kryptonite.

If I had met the same girl in another context I'm not sure where it could have gone. I can be funny and open but more easily if I know the person. I'm not an in-your-face kind of guy like one I know who will joke non-stop. I couldn't give her as much energy as she gives, I'm more laid-back.

What do you guys suggest when dealing with this kind of girl? Forgetting about the height difference which I really don't care about in such a case, what do you do with a girl who is cheerful and full of energy if you're not the same?

edit: BTW I'm feeling so much better these days. Acne is gone (sometimes get one pimple but nothing most people don't get) and it didn't leave any ice-pick scars. I gained weight, I was at 125 just over a year ago and I'm close to 140 now. I dress better. I'm in better shape. If I hit the gym, watch out ladies!

 

[jon bones]

im younger

im 22 and shes 19 ( the girl ) about to turn 20 in jan.


yeah fuck it , im just gonna wait till I meet her.

Don't sweat it - you're bound to run into at some point. Maybe scheme a little over winter break and make it happen. Then just turn on the charm and play the cool older dude card and you're good to go.

I don't usually talk about my adventures but I figure I might as well - I'm in a cab headed downtown to meet up w/ this tiny asian broad I've been bumping into at parties and stuff. Let's see where tonight takes us.

 

[MikeOfTheLivingDead]

More sex tips:

Remember to alternate your pace and motions. Keep her guessing. Keep her on her toes. Don't allow her predict your next move or expect what is to come next. Being able to switch shit up like that on her will add to her pleasure. *snip*

Ahhh I don't know if I agree with all the advice here. Every woman is different. Some women simply won't allow themselves to have an orgasm from penetration. Some women don't want you switching things up and having them do gymnastics in bed. Some women don't want to be dominated or choked even a little bit. Some women don't want dirty talk, or sweet talk or any talk at all. Some women don't want a guy who'll pull a bunch of tricks out his pants. The worst thing you can do in bed is put on a show, I think. If she gets the idea that you are running through a mental checklist or thinking too hard about what your next move is, she'll go cold. Guys can pretty much work it out a shoot a wad no matter what is going on.

The only thing I find that is pretty much universal even for dominant women is that they like to feel like they are with a guy who is strong (not necessarily dominant). If you can pick them up, do it. If you can't, find a girl who weighs less or hit the gym Put your weight on them. Open your hand wide and put it on their breast plate or across their shoulder blades and apply a little pressure. They all love it when you grab them by the hips or waist and pull and grind their pelvis into yours; all women do. Doesn't matter who's on top or if you're behind or whatever. Get your hands on their hips, waist or a hand in the small of their back and press them into you slow and strong until you hit their cervix. Beyond that you just pay attention to her reactions and figure out what works for her. Don't hop into bed with a play book, that's amateur hour. Be present and in the moment.

 

[SuperAndroid17]

Don't sweat it - you're bound to run into at some point. Maybe scheme a little over winter break and make it happen. Then just turn on the charm and play the cool older dude card and you're good to go.

I don't usually talk about my adventures but I figure I might as well - I'm in a cab headed downtown to meet up w/ this tiny asian broad I've been bumping into at parties and stuff. Let's see where tonight takes us.

thanks , I figured as much . I knew it'd be a little awkward. First meeting then facebook , thats how usually things go nowadays.

 

[Max@GC]

More sex tips:

Remember to alternate your pace and motions. Keep her guessing. Keep her on her toes. Don't allow her predict your next move or expect what is to come next. Being able to switch shit up like that on her will add to her pleasure.

While your dick is doing work, caress and touch her body. Glide your fingers across her back, shoulders, neck, thighs, sides, breasts and stomach. What areas you make contact with all depends on how you two are positioned, of course. Rub and knead her skin with your thumbs, finger tips and ball of your fingers. Lick and kiss her wherever she receptive to contact. Gently scratch and bite her. Don't leave marks or draw blood, unless she's into that sort of thing.

If you're doing it doggy style, lean over, and kiss or lick her earlobe and/ or neck. Whisper dirty things in her ear. Push her head down and pull her hair. Vigorously grab her arm or hold her hand. Force her body down, but without crushing her. Show her that you're dominant, in charge and in control. Dig your fingers into her butt cheeks and thighs. Give her a couple of smacks to encourage her to step it up. You can also wrap your arm around her chest and squeeze her neck. Choke her a bit, but not too much where it freaks her out. You don't want to her to stop breathing :lol You could put your arm around her waist and lift her up. She will naturally hold on to you to give herself leverage. While she's she's suspended, rub her breasts. If she can turn her neck far enough, kiss her on the cheek or lips. Try to time your kisses when she is trying to breathe or moan. Again, that's telling her that you're in control and you decide when she can rest and how she generally goes about herself. You're the man, so you have command over what happens. You set the pace. However, no means no. If she's in pain or she's uncomfortable with what you're doing, stop or slow down. Be in control, be in charge, treat her like a whore in bed, but still have some semblance of respect for her.

I mean, there is A LOT you can do. Experiment, explore and try new things. See what works and what doesn't. If she likes it, gradually make it more intense. Sure, sex might not be everything, but it certainly doesn't hurt to be good in bed. It's good way to assert yourself and display confidence and a sense of knowing what you're doing. Being good at fucking tells the girl you're with, that you're comfortable with her, find her attractive and knowledgeable about her body. It also shows that you love and care about her too. It's a wonderful experience and even better when you do it with someone you have some sort of emotional bond with.

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I miss it

That´s a lot of cool advice...but...I´m still pretty inexperienced regarding sex hence I get discouraged pretty quickly if a girl says something like "wtf are you doing there"...the last time it killed my boner almost instantly...and yeah that was pretty embarrassing. So how do you deal with discouragement? More experience?

 

[whitehawk]

That´s a lot of cool advice...but...I´m still pretty inexperienced regarding sex hence I get discouraged pretty quickly if a girl says something like "wtf are you doing there"...the last time it killed my boner almost instantly...and yeah that was pretty embarrassing. So how do you deal with discouragement? More experience?

Oh god, I don't blame you for losing your boner :lol

 

[-PXG-]

Ahhh I don't know if I agree with all the advice here. Every woman is different. Some women simply won't allow themselves to have an orgasm from penetration. Some women don't want you switching things up and having them do gymnastics in bed. Some women don't want to be dominated or choked even a little bit. Some women don't want dirty talk, or sweet talk or any talk at all. Some women don't want a guy who'll pull a bunch of tricks out his pants. The worst thing you can do in bed is put on a show, I think. If she gets the idea that you are running through a mental checklist or thinking too hard about what your next move is, she'll go cold. Guys can pretty much work it out a shoot a wad no matter what is going on.

The only thing I find that is pretty much universal even for dominant women is that they like to feel like they are with a guy who is strong (not necessarily dominant). If you can pick them up, do it. If you can't, find a girl who weighs less or hit the gym Put your weight on them. Open your hand wide and put it on their breast plate or across their shoulder blades and apply a little pressure. They all love it when you grab them by the hips or waist and pull and grind their pelvis into yours; all women do. Doesn't matter who's on top or if you're behind or whatever. Get your hands on their hips, waist or a hand in the small of their back and press them into you slow and strong until you hit their cervix. Beyond that you just pay attention to her reactions and figure out what works for her. Don't hop into bed with a play book, that's amateur hour. Be present and in the moment.

Well it is anecdotal. I merely suggestions of things to try. Nothing I said is written in stone or the de facto methods of performing sex.

I mean, there is A LOT you can do. Experiment, explore and try new things. See what works and what doesn't

Every woman is different and what they like and dislike varies. Like I said, do whatever works for you and your lady. I'm just laying out what has yeilded positive results in my experience.

 

[hellclerk]

I've been on a few dates to the MoMA and I agree... it's a great place to go (especially if she is interested in art), and the industrial design and architectural stuff is amazing! Last time I went though, the industrial design section was under renovation But between the conceptual/futurist architecture and the Impressionist section on the top floor I was flipping out there!

Sooo... what is everyone in the thread (single, taken, etc) doing for New Years? I'm looking at finding a nice bed-n-breakfast on the Island and spending the night with my girl. Last year we went to see Desyn Masiello (a house DJ) spin in NYC, but that's not really her scene (unfortunately ) so we're gonna keep it closer to home and more reserved this year.

If everything goes well tomorrow (it's still on ), I think I might try and see what this girl I'm going out with is doing on New Year's, go to a party or a show with some indie bands maybe. If things don't work out, I guess I'll decide not to go home early so I can do stuff for New Years and just see what I can do in West Harford. >__>

 

[ShogunX]

That´s a lot of cool advice...but...I´m still pretty inexperienced regarding sex hence I get discouraged pretty quickly if a girl says something like "wtf are you doing there"...the last time it killed my boner almost instantly...and yeah that was pretty embarrassing. So how do you deal with discouragement? More experience?

So what exactly were you doing there? :lol

Probably not the soundest advice but any time a girl has attempted to discourage me I normally go for the ''Time to work'' approach. Her calfs go on my shoulders and she gets left looking like a canoe. Pretty much dont get discouraged after an all out session like that.