Etrian Oddity
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This is what I'm wondering. Am I just odd in that I don't make an effort to hit on every female I find attractive? I don't know what I'm doing wrong.Calion82v said:
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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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luckyboyceo
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Jamesfrom818 said:
How fat are we talking here?
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
the fat girl blowjob thing sounds like a way to get her "in" to having you like her. that's just my take on it, though.
but for curiosity's sake, is she coming by everyday to give you like 3 blowies or is it like a one day thing
i finally signed up on some internet dating site but i havent really been getting any responses from anyone i message. im guessing thats some sort of regularity on those sites, but it seems ineffective when i've messaged like 30 people and havent really gotten much interaction.
but for curiosity's sake, is she coming by everyday to give you like 3 blowies or is it like a one day thing
i finally signed up on some internet dating site but i havent really been getting any responses from anyone i message. im guessing thats some sort of regularity on those sites, but it seems ineffective when i've messaged like 30 people and havent really gotten much interaction.
Jamesfrom818
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I am not proud of myself. I fucked the fat girl. How do I tell her its not a good idea for us to see each other anymore?
EDIT #1: Fuck. I have to change the sheets.
EDIT #2: Fuck. I need a shower.
EDIT #3: I am really not proud of myself.
EDIT #1: Fuck. I have to change the sheets.
EDIT #2: Fuck. I need a shower.
EDIT #3: I am really not proud of myself.
Second date went well, picked her up at 21.00 and was back at her house at 3.30. We just went to a bar and talked a lot again, about more personal things this time than last time.
Too bad I couldn't sit next to her and be more physical or whatever because it was a table for two and it was the only free table. So that's going to be for next time I guess.
Too bad I couldn't sit next to her and be more physical or whatever because it was a table for two and it was the only free table. So that's going to be for next time I guess.
SpartanForce
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oh, it is true. but you see, I live in the worst city in brasil to get women. Its a city where most people are cold and materialism is the bible. Girls here are really evil, can't find another word. If you don't have a car or have the body of a dude from Gears of War, you are fucked. It is so true that there is a study here with a tax of 40-60% of soft depression on the population of the city. And the worst is that most are fucking ugly lolAtramental said:
But you see, this is only to this city, Brasília.
Rio de Janeiro, Fortaleza, Belo Horizonte, etc, have gorgeous women and really nice and easy girls. And the citys are really awesome too.
But to change city because of the lack of chicks, that is a bit fuck up... I think... or maybe not.
That escalated quickly.Jamesfrom818 said:
Meanwhile back at Miguel's place...
So I post in here very sporadically asking for advice or general thoughts on a situation. Always entertaining to read the stories, good or bad, if only to see if anything is learned or gained from a setback.
So my birthday came and went last week, 27 now, and my choice of women seems to be stuck in the same loop.
1. Chick I slept with years ago who still keeps in touch, despite having a new bf, and is on and off "I want to fuck you". Not touching that while she's attached. Although getting drunk and flirting with girl in front of bf who wasn't paying attention wasn't my smartest move.
2. Friend who I don't think is really attracted to me, I'm attracted enough in her that I would to after her if she showed an ounce of interest. Meanwhile, we'll go on non-date dates, if neither of us has anything going on. This one hardly should even be listed here.
3. Girl I met on OKC, went on a date with, continued talking for weeks, could never schedule 2nd date, got frustrated with her and went 2 months without talking, talked again for a few weeks (my guess is looking for a rebound), then went another 8 months before contacting me again, this time has a bf, but has repeatedly messaged me after midnight 3-4 times now. Bailout.
4. Girl reluctant to date "guy from Internet" despite having actually known her in real life for 3 years. We ended up dating for 3 months, despite her reluctance to call it dating, which I left alone. She took offense when I invited girl 2 to the movies once she refuses to answer me asking her if she wanted to go 3 times. Spoke as if nothing was wrong for 4 days then abruptly disappeared, deleted g+ and fb accounts,abandoned twitter, only to start new "fake nose/mustache" account following the same celebs, local news and appearing in my suggested follows a week after creating new account. Funny stuff, all to avoid just saying something, like she was jealous despite nothing ever going on between me and girl 2, and the fact that girl 4 absolutely refused to consider us an item despite 3+ months of going out. Said we weren't together.
This was essentially my 2011 up until the past few days... not much to report yet, but looking promising, ill post that once I get to my pc.
Part 2:
So, like I said, my birthday comes and goes, and I decide it's time to wipe the slate clean, eliminate those 4 girls from my life as far as having any interest in, and in the case of others, just cutting ties completely.
I hit up POF like crazy... ok not really, maybe messaged 10 girls, and got a response. Except the response (well, initial message) was not from one of the girls I messaged, which was odd, because it came about 5 minutes after I finished the hour long session of reading profile/writing response to the 10 I had selected to do so with.
New Girl 1 seemed cute enough (I know, angles, I'm fully expecting to be disappointed, but the girl is actually pretty fun to talk with, have hit it off well, the past few days, and are set to go to dinner/movie/maybe drinks/other afterwards.
New Girl 2 was one of the 10 I originally messaged. She seems a bit cuter than the first girl, but New Girl 1 showed a definite interest from the getgo, so well, I'm focusing a little more on 1 for now. NG2 have had 2 conversations so far, and things are developing a bit slower than NG1, but I brought up the idea of heading out to a bar since her favorite team won't be on TV (Not the Cowboys, so I guess I can tolerate it), and she seemed warm to the idea, and said we'd talk about it tomorrow (well, later today now), and left it open for now.
Considering the entire time I've been on these sites, I rarely ever decide to message anyone, and when I do, I do it in spurts, and usually there's not really any hits. I've actually ever only gotten 1 date (Girl 3) off of any of the dating sites in the past, mostly because I don't bother trying to cast a net and hope I catch something by sheer volume alone.
In any case, NG1 is pretty into me, at least the non IRL me, until we meet later tonight. NG2 isn't as into me, but she's pretty enthusiastic in conversation, so I think it may still materialize into at least a date.
tl;dr = Mig turns 27, changes mentality a bit, snags 1.25 dates in 2 days.
So, like I said, my birthday comes and goes, and I decide it's time to wipe the slate clean, eliminate those 4 girls from my life as far as having any interest in, and in the case of others, just cutting ties completely.
I hit up POF like crazy... ok not really, maybe messaged 10 girls, and got a response. Except the response (well, initial message) was not from one of the girls I messaged, which was odd, because it came about 5 minutes after I finished the hour long session of reading profile/writing response to the 10 I had selected to do so with.
New Girl 1 seemed cute enough (I know, angles, I'm fully expecting to be disappointed, but the girl is actually pretty fun to talk with, have hit it off well, the past few days, and are set to go to dinner/movie/maybe drinks/other afterwards.
New Girl 2 was one of the 10 I originally messaged. She seems a bit cuter than the first girl, but New Girl 1 showed a definite interest from the getgo, so well, I'm focusing a little more on 1 for now. NG2 have had 2 conversations so far, and things are developing a bit slower than NG1, but I brought up the idea of heading out to a bar since her favorite team won't be on TV (Not the Cowboys, so I guess I can tolerate it), and she seemed warm to the idea, and said we'd talk about it tomorrow (well, later today now), and left it open for now.
Considering the entire time I've been on these sites, I rarely ever decide to message anyone, and when I do, I do it in spurts, and usually there's not really any hits. I've actually ever only gotten 1 date (Girl 3) off of any of the dating sites in the past, mostly because I don't bother trying to cast a net and hope I catch something by sheer volume alone.
In any case, NG1 is pretty into me, at least the non IRL me, until we meet later tonight. NG2 isn't as into me, but she's pretty enthusiastic in conversation, so I think it may still materialize into at least a date.
tl;dr = Mig turns 27, changes mentality a bit, snags 1.25 dates in 2 days.
Future PhaZe
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Jamesfrom818 said:
hope you wore a hat
Etrian Oddity said:
Can't vouch for him but it's all in the effort from my experience.
Getting into an interesting convo with a stranger is not as hard as you think. You're not doing anything wrong, it's just that we've (assuming you live in NA) been conditioned to be overly polite, mind our own business and not bother people from a very young age. In reality, I have trouble recalling a situation where a random person (especially a girl) talking to me didn't brighten up my day, unless I was really sick or in a very bad mood.
Boozeroony
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Had a first date yesterday with a girl I met on a Dutch online dating site. I was kinda obvious that we would end up in bed from the start. She is a heavy smoker though. Anyone else has experience with girls who smoke (a lot), while you don't?
Boozeroony
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Snakeyes said:
I went down on her. Was pretty ok. Nothing gross or something.
Boozeroony
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Snakeyes said:
I was pleasantly surprised. She smokes about 20 cigs a day, so one would expect vaginal repercussions. None were encountered. But still...
Future PhaZe
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Boozeroony said:
Went down on a chick you just met off the internet.
lolz
Youll probably be fine but damn bruh...be careful with that...
Boozeroony
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Dark FaZe said:
Funny part is the following: We were laying in bed and chatting about random things. Then she suddenly tells me she had chlamydia infection in the past due to unsafe sex with her former bf. This happened more than a year ago. but still, I was like... shiiiiiiiit. Stupid me. This girl is not gf material, that is for sure. Just for a decent fuck every now and then.
What is the consensus on hooking up with friends?
I went to a friends party a few weeks back and we made out on the dance floor, nothing major.
She's hosting another party tonight. I'm gonna go for the kill, and I'm pretty sure neither of us are interested in a relationship with eachother.
I went to a friends party a few weeks back and we made out on the dance floor, nothing major.
She's hosting another party tonight. I'm gonna go for the kill, and I'm pretty sure neither of us are interested in a relationship with eachother.
TheSchwab_7
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Well it hasn't even been two weeks since my ex girlfriend broke up with me, and she's already got a new boyfriend. Ugh. The same guy who she told me was just a "friend". Feel totally betrayed since we were best friends too. Trying to hang in there but every day is like a roller coaster. Tonight I'm hanging out with buddies, and possibly this girl I know. She's not a rebound though, there's no way I'm ready for a relationship yet.
Jamesfrom818
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low-G said:
I don't mind thickness either but she was thicker than I'd pursue.
lawlohwhat
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TheSchwab_7 said:
This is a lot more common than you'd think. Double points if she told you he's gay. Some people have a very hard time letting others down with straight talk.
The good news is that you get to be yourself for a while, and it only gets better from here on out.
How long before setting up a second date? Went out for the first time last night and it went well. I texted her this morning because she mentioned she had an interview today so I wished her good luck but haven't tried talking to her anymore today. I think I'm just gonna give it a few days before I say anything.
So I'm going to share the story of my last two weeks with you guys. Not really looking for advice, because I don't think there's really anything I can do here (though if there is anything to advise me on here, feel free). Just gonna talk.
So I run track for my school. There were two girls who joined the team this year, both seniors like me, both attractive (one is really cute, the other is fuckin smoking; she's literally a model). Obviously I took an interest in both. I found out the cute one, let's call her Girl A, has a boyfriend back home. So I never approached her, though we were still friendly. The model, Girl B, was single. So I start talking to her a little bit, a while later she invites me to a party, where I figure I can chat her up some more and gauge her interest in me. Went to the party, and at first she seemed interested in seeing me, but then spent basically the whole night grinding on her on-again, off-again boyfriend. When I tried approaching her, she COMPLETELY blew me off. Holy shit, I've never been blown off so badly in my life; just started talking, she went "yeah, whatever," then did an about face and walked away.
So at this point I'm nowhere with either A or B. Fast forward to the end of October, I'm hosting the end-of-the-season party. B doesn't show up, but A does. At one point during the night, a mutual friend of ours tells me that A likes me. I respond, "well I like her too, but she has a boyfriend." The friend tells me that A wants out of that relationship; he treats her like shit, is very controlling of what she can/can't do, and she's basically unhappy. I ask the friend, "aren't you sure this isn't just a drunk thing?" And the friend says no, I'm just her type, and that A once had a dream of me and her making out. Hello! I immediately thank my friend and move in.
I spend the rest of the night hanging out with A, talking or her lying into me. At one point she says she's hungry, so I abandon my own party for an hour (TERRIBLE mistake) to take her out for some midnight drunk pizza, where we talk some more and just generally spend time together. She ends up spending the night with me -- nothing happens, we're both fully clothed, it's just a night of spooning and me being really uncomfortable because my left arm is crushed the whole time.
The next morning I take her back home. The next night, she sends me an email saying she's sorry she told our friend about her feelings for me, that she doesn't regret spending time with me or having those feelings, but that she has a boyfriend of 2 years and can't do anything with me like that. I'm a bit taken back since this is the complete opposite of what just happened, but ok, I deal. I see her again a few days later and we're still pretty friendly, so nbd. That weekend Girl A goes back home (to see her boyfriend, most likely) and I end up going to a party with Girl B, the model. We are both TRASHED, completely fucked up, I'm drunker than I've ever been in my life, going on a 12 hour bender that night. And we fuckin hook up at the party. Hottest girl I've ever been with, same girl who blew me off a month ago, totally surreal. But I figured it was just a one-time thing (which was reinforced when I found out days later I was not the first guy she hooked up with that night...gross).
TWO nights after that, Girl B says she and A wants to go out and get a drink with me and a friend of mine. At this point, I think I'm fucked. A and B are friends, they must have totally talked about me spending different weekends with the both of them, and I think I'm walking into a fuckin buzzsaw by going out with them. But I do. And it was just friendly, no ambush. The four of us got bombed, ended up back at Girl B's house. My friend passes out cold on the floor. I fall into B's bed with BOTH girls. And then A and I start making out... I'm hooking up with Girl A (the one with the bf) in B's bed, right next to B, not more than 48 hours after I hooked up with B. At the time, it was pretty awesome. But the next morning, after getting over the initial sweetness of waking up with both girls, I immediately knew I'd fucked up somehow.
Couple days later, Girl A asks me if I did hook up with B the previous weekend, I admit yes because I figure she must already know. A says she doesn't know, but had guessed it because B already told her she'd hooked up with someone the previous weekend but wouldn't tell her who -- and assumed that I must be the guy, because I'm the only guy she'd care about hooking up with B. And she's pissed, not that B and I hooked up, but that neither of us ever told A about it. So this begins a long conversation where I'm trying to explain how/why such a thing would EVER come up in conversation, and why she's even mad when she was the one who rebuffed me because she has a boyfriend. A goes on to tell me that her boyfriend "essentially broke up" with her the weekend that B and I hooked up; I ask her what that means, she says she doesn't know.
Couple nights later, we have another long conversation, where I basically lay our cards on the table quite ballsy: I tell her I like her, that I know she likes me, but that I have no idea where she stands with her boyfriend and where to go from here. She starts laying a bunch of excuses on me (that I don't know her well enough to like her, that I should just go after B, that I must only be into hook-ups, etc.). I tell her that if she's just not into me, then to just say that, instead of pinning a bunch of untrue bullshit on me; but I can't get her to say that. And she says she loves her boyfriend and is still working on that relationship, even though this guy apparently treats her poorly, "essentially broke up" with her (still don't know what that exactly means but she implied that it has something to do with him not seeing her as "the one"), and, tbh, can't feel TOO devoted to him given the couple nights we spent together. So I tell her ok, I'll back off yet again, and that I don't want to get in between her and her boyfriend if that's who she really wants to focus on.
tl;dr - Expressed interest in two girls, one has a boyfriend and the other blew me off. Later hooked up with both of them, first at separate events, then together on the same night. One girl was basically just looking for ass, the other was having conflicting feelings for me and her apparently not-so-great bf, who she has decided to stick with.
Needless to say, it has been one hell of a couple weeks.
So I run track for my school. There were two girls who joined the team this year, both seniors like me, both attractive (one is really cute, the other is fuckin smoking; she's literally a model). Obviously I took an interest in both. I found out the cute one, let's call her Girl A, has a boyfriend back home. So I never approached her, though we were still friendly. The model, Girl B, was single. So I start talking to her a little bit, a while later she invites me to a party, where I figure I can chat her up some more and gauge her interest in me. Went to the party, and at first she seemed interested in seeing me, but then spent basically the whole night grinding on her on-again, off-again boyfriend. When I tried approaching her, she COMPLETELY blew me off. Holy shit, I've never been blown off so badly in my life; just started talking, she went "yeah, whatever," then did an about face and walked away.
So at this point I'm nowhere with either A or B. Fast forward to the end of October, I'm hosting the end-of-the-season party. B doesn't show up, but A does. At one point during the night, a mutual friend of ours tells me that A likes me. I respond, "well I like her too, but she has a boyfriend." The friend tells me that A wants out of that relationship; he treats her like shit, is very controlling of what she can/can't do, and she's basically unhappy. I ask the friend, "aren't you sure this isn't just a drunk thing?" And the friend says no, I'm just her type, and that A once had a dream of me and her making out. Hello! I immediately thank my friend and move in.
I spend the rest of the night hanging out with A, talking or her lying into me. At one point she says she's hungry, so I abandon my own party for an hour (TERRIBLE mistake) to take her out for some midnight drunk pizza, where we talk some more and just generally spend time together. She ends up spending the night with me -- nothing happens, we're both fully clothed, it's just a night of spooning and me being really uncomfortable because my left arm is crushed the whole time.
The next morning I take her back home. The next night, she sends me an email saying she's sorry she told our friend about her feelings for me, that she doesn't regret spending time with me or having those feelings, but that she has a boyfriend of 2 years and can't do anything with me like that. I'm a bit taken back since this is the complete opposite of what just happened, but ok, I deal. I see her again a few days later and we're still pretty friendly, so nbd. That weekend Girl A goes back home (to see her boyfriend, most likely) and I end up going to a party with Girl B, the model. We are both TRASHED, completely fucked up, I'm drunker than I've ever been in my life, going on a 12 hour bender that night. And we fuckin hook up at the party. Hottest girl I've ever been with, same girl who blew me off a month ago, totally surreal. But I figured it was just a one-time thing (which was reinforced when I found out days later I was not the first guy she hooked up with that night...gross).
TWO nights after that, Girl B says she and A wants to go out and get a drink with me and a friend of mine. At this point, I think I'm fucked. A and B are friends, they must have totally talked about me spending different weekends with the both of them, and I think I'm walking into a fuckin buzzsaw by going out with them. But I do. And it was just friendly, no ambush. The four of us got bombed, ended up back at Girl B's house. My friend passes out cold on the floor. I fall into B's bed with BOTH girls. And then A and I start making out... I'm hooking up with Girl A (the one with the bf) in B's bed, right next to B, not more than 48 hours after I hooked up with B. At the time, it was pretty awesome. But the next morning, after getting over the initial sweetness of waking up with both girls, I immediately knew I'd fucked up somehow.
Couple days later, Girl A asks me if I did hook up with B the previous weekend, I admit yes because I figure she must already know. A says she doesn't know, but had guessed it because B already told her she'd hooked up with someone the previous weekend but wouldn't tell her who -- and assumed that I must be the guy, because I'm the only guy she'd care about hooking up with B. And she's pissed, not that B and I hooked up, but that neither of us ever told A about it. So this begins a long conversation where I'm trying to explain how/why such a thing would EVER come up in conversation, and why she's even mad when she was the one who rebuffed me because she has a boyfriend. A goes on to tell me that her boyfriend "essentially broke up" with her the weekend that B and I hooked up; I ask her what that means, she says she doesn't know.
Couple nights later, we have another long conversation, where I basically lay our cards on the table quite ballsy: I tell her I like her, that I know she likes me, but that I have no idea where she stands with her boyfriend and where to go from here. She starts laying a bunch of excuses on me (that I don't know her well enough to like her, that I should just go after B, that I must only be into hook-ups, etc.). I tell her that if she's just not into me, then to just say that, instead of pinning a bunch of untrue bullshit on me; but I can't get her to say that. And she says she loves her boyfriend and is still working on that relationship, even though this guy apparently treats her poorly, "essentially broke up" with her (still don't know what that exactly means but she implied that it has something to do with him not seeing her as "the one"), and, tbh, can't feel TOO devoted to him given the couple nights we spent together. So I tell her ok, I'll back off yet again, and that I don't want to get in between her and her boyfriend if that's who she really wants to focus on.
tl;dr - Expressed interest in two girls, one has a boyfriend and the other blew me off. Later hooked up with both of them, first at separate events, then together on the same night. One girl was basically just looking for ass, the other was having conflicting feelings for me and her apparently not-so-great bf, who she has decided to stick with.
Needless to say, it has been one hell of a couple weeks.
luckyboyceo
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TheSchwab_7 said:
Ouch man, that's rough. Sorry to hear that. Best thing to do is do what you're doing tonight, hang out with the guys and keep your mind off things. Kick back, have a few beers and just chill. I know it's easier said than done, but you're not going to make yourself any better by stressing over it. It'll get easier eventually, just hang in there.
mj1108 said:
Yes, this needs to be determined. Pics would be preferred, of course.
TheSchwab_7
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lol. actually she told me that he was an idiot when they hungout, and when she dumped me she said she wanted to be single. o rly?lawlohwhat said:
Etrian Oddity
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TheSchwab_7 said:
Snakeyes said:The only solution in this case is this:
Just replace ceremony with drama.
Seriously, she was in a threesome (if I understood correctly) with you and B and is now backpedaling and blaming you? Don't waste your time, on to the next one.
Oh, I'm not pursuing her. I definitely still like her, but she's sticking with her boyfriend for now (which, honestly unfortunately for her, is going to end badly) and we're pretty chill with each other now.
I have a girl coming over tonight and then another date on Monday, so "onto the next one" is already underway. :lol
Subtervotion
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Blader, it sounds like you've got everything on lockdown. Keep rolling with the punches, man.
On a different note, how many messages should be sent on okcupid before exchanging contact info? What about meeting for the first time?
I know all situations are different. But I'm just wondering what the general consensus is.
On a different note, how many messages should be sent on okcupid before exchanging contact info? What about meeting for the first time?
I know all situations are different. But I'm just wondering what the general consensus is.
Etrian Oddity
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LOL, that was great, BUT the girl was obviously already into him before he started spitting on her. This dude delivering "I'm gonna get her number at the end of this interview" would not have been met with such enthusiasm by her, lol!Minamu said:
Dabookerman
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It still perplexes me that girls (or guys..) feel the need to specify what colour the skin of someone they want should be... Does it really matter?
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