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[NinajHeartless]

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Not that bad mang :/

 

[Mike Works]

Not that bad mang :/

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[Rocket Scientist]

Mike you seem bored :lol What's the lady up to? Seems you need to have some quality time together.

 

[hellclerk]

Wish me luck guys. She hasn't responded to any texts I sent her today, so I'm getting flashbacks to old attempts at dating and getting straight up stood up. Going anyway, since a show is a show, but if I do end up stood up, I'll end up in a sour mood.

Here's to my luck with women turning around. :/

 

[Acid08]

Wish me luck guys. She hasn't responded to any texts I sent her today, so I'm getting flashbacks to old attempts at dating and getting straight up stood up. Going anyway, since a show is a show, but if I do end up stood up, I'll end up in a sour mood.

Here's to my luck with women turning around. :/

I know the feeling dude. Texting too much is a mistake though, you should just not talk to her for a bit maybe. I know it sucks, you probably REALLY want to talk to her but you gotta suppress it. Smoke some weed or something.

 

[Miguel]

GAF has surprised me. This thread is not at all what I'd have expected 2-3 years ago. It actually seems useful to those who have posted stuff (I've only skimmed the first 4-5 pages and the latest 2-3).

Maybe now that things are seemingly going my way a bit, I'll post some stuff and let you all try to sort out what the fuck I did right for once. :lol

 

[Mr.City]

My fucking phone, facebook and OKC profile is blowing up with messages. The less attentive I am, the more messages I get.

 

[Aesius]

My fucking phone, facebook and OKC profile is blowing up with messages. The less attentive I am, the more messages I get.

So what's your secret? Really, really ridiculously good looking?

 

[hellclerk]

I know the feeling dude. Texting too much is a mistake though, you should just not talk to her for a bit maybe. I know it sucks, you probably REALLY want to talk to her but you gotta suppress it. Smoke some weed or something.

I sent her two texts today over the course of 3 hours. I'll send her one more when I get there, maybe a call. I don't do weed, but if I do end up stood up, I probably won't be entirely sober by the end of the night. >__>

Anyway, that's it for me... Hi-ho silver, Away!

 

[Miguel]

So what's your secret? Really, really ridiculously good looking?

Zoolander?

 

[Miguel]

I sent her two texts today over the course of 3 hours. I'll send her one more when I get there, maybe a call. I don't do weed, but if I do end up stood up, I probably won't be entirely sober by the end of the night. >__>

Anyway, that's it for me... Hi-ho silver, Away!

Just caught up on your last few posts. Good luck.

 

[Miguel]

:lol @ Mike_Works...

 

[-PXG-]

Spoiler

Don't worry I am mad stealth. The only OT she went into was something about drawing cats in MS Paint with her eyes closed Also thanks

Alright. Just looking out for you.

Spoiler

Seriously, we need to chill sometime over break and whoop my ass in Super and TvC.

 

[Mike Works]

Mike you seem bored :lol What's the lady up to? Seems you need to have some quality time together.

Haha, I was bored. I'm just on my way to her place now- it's her birthday. We're hosting a dinner, then taking a limo downtown to a club. She just spent the day at a spa and bought a new dress today. We're heading back to my place after the club tonight. Life's good, man.

 

[woodchuck]

well i already talked to her for about 15 minutes before TAG showed up - that was crucial because i only had about a minute to get her number while TAG was in the bathroom later that night.

during that 15 minutes we talked about what we do - she's in finance, i say i'm a struggling astronaut. she says she's scared of space - i say, "everyone always says how they need to get out of the city on the weekends cause it's so claustrophobic - space is the best!"

she said - "so if a nasa van pulled up and asked you, you'd go to space right now?"

i said - "are you kidding me? i'd close out my tab, get your phone number and hop in that van right now"

then we talked for another minute or two and TAG walked in. had i had a better sense of time, i would have asked for the number right there. but i didn't so i had to make a move later in the night when the opportunity presented itself.

when i did, i just said, "hey let me get your number and give you a call sometime" and that was it

god damn you are one smooth motherfucker

 

[hellclerk]

Welp, my brilliant luck with women continues got stood up, just like I thought. Typing off of my phone from Crash Mansion in manhattan. Hopefully I can do SOMTHING to salvage the evening...

 

[-PXG-]

Welp, my brilliant luck with women continues got stood up, just like I thought. Typing off of my phone from Crash Mansion in manhattan. Hopefully I can do SOMTHING to salvage the evening...

Sorry to hear that man. Keep your head up.

Call some buddies, get drunk and play some games. That will cheer you up. Find some kind of vice to get over your shitty night :lol

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

Me and my friends are going to a lounge and I invited the 3 chicks I met this week to the same event. I'm hoping they all show up, I'm trying have a orgy 3 way bdizzle orgy jump off this weekend.

Yeah, up until recently this is the way I'd been thinking as well. Unfortunately life is not like The 40-Year-Old Virgin, even if you have cool friends they will most likely not be able or willing to hook you up with someone. Since I've never done the whole going out and meeting women thing, I'm seeing a therapist in order to try to learn how to do that. But before that, it took a long time for me to realise that nobody was going to help me, nobody was going to magically hook me up with a girlfriend, so I had to do something about it myself.

I went through the same process. I used to sit back and think "why can't girls come up to me?!?!?!?" Then I'd try to rationalize in my head that said girl was ugly, a lesbian, probably a bitch, gold digger, or any other dumb ass excuse I could muster up to make myself feel better.

You going down the right path man. Once you realize that the only person that can help you is you, you're 99% on your way to fixing your issues.

You could always rape chicks.

 

[Kccitystar]

After a 2 year relationship, this girl breaks up with me.

How did I know this? Well, I log into Facebook. That's how.

No call, no explanation, nothing.

She couldn't even gather up the respect to tell me this face to face, because supposedly it's Finals week so she's busy studying and working on take home tests. For starters, if you know the material already and you were already doing A+ work, you don't need to cram or go out of your way to focus on finals as much as someone who has been struggling with their studies and doing C+ level work.

Something as huge as this should be made time for to talk about, but I guess relationships are so far down the totem pole compared to other trivial things she can make time for. Fuck that noise. I'm convinced that she's just throwing that excuse given how education's this super huge god-tier priority to her, just so she wouldn't talk to me today, let alone this weekend.

Her response to all of this? "We'll talk MONDAY."
How about, we never speak ever again, how about that?

At this point, I don't even give a fuck about closure or a happy ending. I refuse to even accept her as my friend down the line in life. For stooping as low as to declare that we are over after two years in this relationship OVER THE INTERNET, is a fucking scumbag thing to do. I at least deserve a face to face discussion about something like this. Shit like breaking up over the phone or over the internet should be reserved for relationships that just began like 2 months in or something, where there aren't any emotions invested, you know. It sucks. People like her deserve to be spit on for that kind of audacity.

 

[-PXG-]

After a 2 year relationship, this girl breaks up with me.

How did I know this? Well, I log into Facebook. That's how.

No call, no explanation, nothing.

She couldn't even gather up the respect to tell me this face to face, because supposedly it's Finals week so she's busy studying and working on take home tests. For starters, if you know the material already and you were already doing A+ work, you don't need to cram or go out of your way to focus on finals as much as someone who has been struggling with their studies and doing C+ level work.

Something as huge as this should be made time for to talk about, but I guess relationships are so far down the totem pole compared to other trivial things she can make time for. Fuck that noise. I'm convinced that she's just throwing that excuse given how education's this super huge god-tier priority to her, just so she wouldn't talk to me today, let alone this weekend.

Her response to all of this? "We'll talk MONDAY."
How about, we never speak ever again, how about that?

At this point, I don't even give a fuck about closure or a happy ending. I refuse to even accept her as my friend down the line in life. For stooping as low as to declare that we are over after two years in this relationship OVER THE INTERNET, is a fucking scumbag thing to do. I at least deserve a face to face discussion about something like this. Shit like breaking up over the phone or over the internet should be reserved for relationships that just began like 2 months in or something, where there aren't any emotions invested, you know. It sucks. People like her deserve to be spit on for that kind of audacity.

MAN.....

I went through something similar almost two months ago. Yeah, it fucking sucks. Just move on and never look back. Hang out with your boys and start talking to new girls tomorrow. Before you know it, you'll feel like a fucking champ and find a new girl who will respect you and (hopefully) not pull this kind of bullshit.

 

[Kccitystar]

MAN.....

I went through something similar almost two months ago. Yeah, it fucking sucks. Just move on and never look back. Hang out with your boys and start talking to new girls tomorrow. Before you know it, you'll feel like a fucking champ and find a new girl who will respect you and (hopefully) not pull this kind of bullshit.

Dude, I'm going through the same exact motions right now. Gonna hang out with the fellas, and tomorrow will be a new day. I mean, I’m just tired of giving it my 100% for someone else to only give in their 100% when it’s convenient for them to do so. Relationships don’t work on the concept of, “oh, I’ll just be a girlfriend when I want to, or on a specific set of days”.

I get that some girls just want to entertain the concept of having a boyfriend, and its insulting when they want to just avoid the work that comes along with maintaining the relationship that forms with it.

When you feel like you are giving way more than you are taking, that’s a problem.
When you treat your relationship like it’s a hobby, like it’s something you do in your spare time, something that you can fill out on a resume (“In my spare time, I like to relationship”), it’s a problem.
When you make time for your own interests and outright refuse to make time to spend with your partner, that’s a problem.

No one has ever said not to spend time for yourself, you can do that, but you should at least make time for your relationship, since that is an additional component to your life now.

I feel like relationships are a big investment, well at least to me. It’s a big financial, emotional and time investment to me. The reason why I feel the way I feel is because I invested a lot into all 3, and there have been no results, and I’ve felt like I've been toyed with. Honestly, if you don't value any time spent with someone you claim you love, or don't want to deal with a relationship anymore, just end it and stop stringing someone who has heavily invested their time into this into believing that there is a possibility that “we can get back together” or some shit when there clearly isn’t. That's why I'm taking things so personal.

I need a beer or some alcohol so I can share stories. Tonight is special.

 

[hellclerk]

Sorry to hear that man. Keep your head up.

Call some buddies, get drunk and play some games. That will cheer you up. Find some kind of vice to get over your shitty night :lol

Yeah, that's not happening. Least not on this short notice. Wouldn't be able to get people out here in manhattan. It's more band here than fans though. Not sure if there are any prospects. Got tonight is some suck. At least Jason Yudoff comes on next.

 

[Mr.City]

So what's your secret? Really, really ridiculously good looking?

Welp, I do work out, but I got body issues (loose skin from losing weight). I work full-time as a cashier, so I interact with people a lot, which really sharpens my social abilities. I have a decent wit and am pretty silly. I also approach and message plenty of women. It's really a numbers thing after a while.

 

[JB1981]

Don't know if anyone remembers my girl-age bullshit man but fuck, I feel like I need a fucking do-over. New job. New friends. New places to go out. New fucking everything. I work with my ex, she works from home but she came in this week for a holiday party and it was hard as hell. I got totally caught up in all the bullshit again and now I'm sitting here on a Friday night tired as hell from work all week and typing up my sob story on GAF. I wonder how I became such a fucking pussy and lost so much self esteem. I know the self loathing gets old but that is what this thread is all about, man!!

Lonely Friday nights suck fucking balls.

 

[-PXG-]

Welp, I do work out, but I got body issues (loose skin from losing weight). I work full-time as a cashier, so I interact with people a lot, which really sharpens my social abilities. I have a decent wit and am pretty silly. I also approach and message plenty of women. It's really a numbers thing after a while.

Pretty much describes me. That's why I've had three dates in the passed two weeks and two more planned after Christmas.

 

[Count Dookkake]

After a 2 year relationship, this girl breaks up with me.

How did I know this? Well, I log into Facebook. That's how.

No call, no explanation, nothing.

She couldn't even gather up the respect to tell me this face to face, because supposedly it's Finals week so she's busy studying and working on take home tests. For starters, if you know the material already and you were already doing A+ work, you don't need to cram or go out of your way to focus on finals as much as someone who has been struggling with their studies and doing C+ level work.

Something as huge as this should be made time for to talk about, but I guess relationships are so far down the totem pole compared to other trivial things she can make time for. Fuck that noise. I'm convinced that she's just throwing that excuse given how education's this super huge god-tier priority to her, just so she wouldn't talk to me today, let alone this weekend.

Her response to all of this? "We'll talk MONDAY."
How about, we never speak ever again, how about that?

At this point, I don't even give a fuck about closure or a happy ending. I refuse to even accept her as my friend down the line in life. For stooping as low as to declare that we are over after two years in this relationship OVER THE INTERNET, is a fucking scumbag thing to do. I at least deserve a face to face discussion about something like this. Shit like breaking up over the phone or over the internet should be reserved for relationships that just began like 2 months in or something, where there aren't any emotions invested, you know. It sucks. People like her deserve to be spit on for that kind of audacity.

Fuck at least 2 of her best friends.

 

[Mr.City]

Pretty much describes me. That's why I've had three dates in the passed two weeks and two more planned after Christmas.

I got four chicks talking to me, and they all seem to really dig me. The worst part is that I keep hitting on women. I can't help it.

 

[Calion]

Going to a movie either tomorrow night or Sunday night with a female a met a few months back. I hope it goes well...

 

[Jamesfrom818]

After a 2 year relationship, this girl breaks up with me.

How did I know this? Well, I log into Facebook. That's how.

No call, no explanation, nothing.

She couldn't even gather up the respect to tell me this face to face, because supposedly it's Finals week so she's busy studying and working on take home tests. For starters, if you know the material already and you were already doing A+ work, you don't need to cram or go out of your way to focus on finals as much as someone who has been struggling with their studies and doing C+ level work.

Something as huge as this should be made time for to talk about, but I guess relationships are so far down the totem pole compared to other trivial things she can make time for. Fuck that noise. I'm convinced that she's just throwing that excuse given how education's this super huge god-tier priority to her, just so she wouldn't talk to me today, let alone this weekend.

Her response to all of this? "We'll talk MONDAY."
How about, we never speak ever again, how about that?

At this point, I don't even give a fuck about closure or a happy ending. I refuse to even accept her as my friend down the line in life. For stooping as low as to declare that we are over after two years in this relationship OVER THE INTERNET, is a fucking scumbag thing to do. I at least deserve a face to face discussion about something like this. Shit like breaking up over the phone or over the internet should be reserved for relationships that just began like 2 months in or something, where there aren't any emotions invested, you know. It sucks. People like her deserve to be spit on for that kind of audacity.

Shit sucks man. Time to hit up the strip club and then head back out into the world.

My highschool sweetheart broke up with me over the phone just before I was going to school. After 4 years, I didn't deserve a face to face conversation. Whatever. Old news now.

 

[JumpJeff84]

Christened my new mattress and box spring last the other night, very impressed. Tomorrow the bed frame, headboard and footboard should be here.

Good times ahead, friends.

 

[Kccitystar]

Shit sucks man. Time to hit up the strip club and then head back out into the world.

My highschool sweetheart broke up with me over the phone just before I was going to school. After 4 years, I didn't deserve a face to face conversation. Whatever. Old news now.

What is even worse is that her excuse as to why we wont talk this weekend is because of finals. Fuck this bitch. Relationships are serious business, and if it's so fucking low on the totem pole of important matters, why waste my time?

 

[hydragonwarrior]

Don't know if anyone remembers my girl-age bullshit man but fuck, I feel like I need a fucking do-over. New job. New friends. New places to go out. New fucking everything. I work with my ex, she works from home but she came in this week for a holiday party and it was hard as hell. I got totally caught up in all the bullshit again and now I'm sitting here on a Friday night tired as hell from work all week and typing up my sob story on GAF. I wonder how I became such a fucking pussy and lost so much self esteem. I know the self loathing gets old but that is what this thread is all about, man!!

Lonely Friday nights suck fucking balls.

Tactics Dating: Let us Loathe Together

 

[hellclerk]

Well there goes my weekend... I don't even know why she never got back to me. I asked her if we were still on yesterday and she said yes. I went to the show anyway, had enough fun to distract me a little, and I got a couple of free CDs out of it, but there was hardly anyone under 25 there and I just felt like shit. Got to meet the band I went to see, talked a good bit while other acts were on stage, but nothing really conks out the straight up rejection of getting stood up...

 

[vitaminwateryum]

Well there goes my weekend... I don't even know why she never got back to me. I asked her if we were still on yesterday and she said yes. I went to the show anyway, had enough fun to distract me a little, and I got a couple of free CDs out of it, but there was hardly anyone under 25 there and I just felt like shit. Got to meet the band I went to see, talked a good bit while other acts were on stage, but nothing really conks out the straight up rejection of getting stood up...

Eh, it happens. She missed out, not you.

 

[norinrad]

Well there goes my weekend... I don't even know why she never got back to me. I asked her if we were still on yesterday and she said yes. I went to the show anyway, had enough fun to distract me a little, and I got a couple of free CDs out of it, but there was hardly anyone under 25 there and I just felt like shit. Got to meet the band I went to see, talked a good bit while other acts were on stage, but nothing really conks out the straight up rejection of getting stood up...

Her loss and over time you will learn not to give a shit and genuinely pick out the cool women who are really down to earth and interested in the real you. She's a time waster and never allow her to come closer to you ever again

Have a great weekend my friend

 

[hellclerk]

Eh, it happens. She missed out, not you.

Yeah, it happens. Every fucking time... Fun fact: I have never been on a date. I've either been shut down or stood up. And it is the shittiest thing to have to go through eight goddamn years of it. It feels like smashing your head up against a brick wall.

Fuck I'm bitter right now. I don't even want sex, I just want someone I can be myself with...

Edit: sorry, didn't mean to rave. I'm tired, feeling depressed and bitter. Getting stood up is the worst, like getting someone to be prom queen only to drop a bucket of goat blood on them as they get their award. It's not that I would have been disappointed if she had cancelled, it's that she just didn't fucking show, that was most of my reason for going in the first place.

 

[Joel Was Right]

I'm going to tell you something that is difficult to talk about it for me. I had a pregnancy scare (twice) and each time my and my ex were contemplating abortion, despite it being against our principles. This "contemplation" lasted about a week each time before we decided that we'd keep it, but it brought me to tears and countless nights without proper sleep as I wrestled with the ethical and emotional burdens I had.

Quite often now everytime I see a hot girl, or think about sex, I see that incredible feminine body with a pregnant womb and then I feel fear and anxiety. Completely kills it for me. Can you imagine how this feels? When GAF refers to a 'hottie' with a pic, within seconds I see that actress/model with a womb and that sexual desire dies instantly. I fear that I have need to see a counsellor if I have another serious relationship, because right now part of me is petrified to have sex as I equate to pregnancy

 

[-PXG-]

I'm going to tell you something that is difficult to talk about it for me. I had a pregnancy scare (twice) and each time my and my ex were contemplating abortion, despite it being against our principles. This "contemplation" lasted about a week each time before we decided that we'd keep it, but it brought me to tears and countless nights without proper sleep as I wrestled with the ethical and emotional burdens I had.

Quite often now everytime I see a hot girl, or think about sex, I see that incredible feminine body with a pregnant womb and then I feel fear and anxiety. Completely kills it for me. Can you imagine how this feels? When GAF refers to a 'hottie' with a pic, within seconds I see that actress/model with a womb and that sexual desire dies instantly. I fear that I have need to see a counsellor if I have another serious relationship, because right now part of me is petrified to have sex as I equate to pregnancy

Uh...see a therapist. That's pretty fucked up. Also...condoms and the pill are your friends. Use them.

 

[Miguel]

Yeah, it happens. Every fucking time... Fun fact: I have never been on a date. I've either been shut down or stood up. And it is the shittiest thing to have to go through eight goddamn years of it. It feels like smashing your head up against a brick wall.

Fuck I'm bitter right now. I don't even want sex, I just want someone I can be myself with...

Edit: sorry, didn't mean to rave. I'm tired, feeling depressed and bitter. Getting stood up is the worst, like getting someone to be prom queen only to drop a bucket of goat blood on them as they get their award. It's not that I would have been disappointed if she had cancelled, it's that she just didn't fucking show, that was most of my reason for going in the first place.

Sucks dude, I guess I don't have much help besides saying that it eventually gets better if you keep at it. It may take forever (as I experienced). Once you get into the habit of asking, then getting rejected/stood up, you stop caring about it in two ways... you stop caring about being stood up/rejected, but also, you stop caring about how attractive a girl looks and the whole "she'd never go out with me" thing starts fading a bit.

It's kind of a fucked up way of looking at things, but at least from what I've read from the last few pages, you're maybe in the same boat I was in (and not that I'm off the boat really, just that I am starting to see land now)

This probably makes no sense whatsoever, so feel free to ignore. :lol

 

[SuperAndroid17]

Well last night a good night. I went to the club with a couple friends and danced with these 2 chicks. I grabbed a number from one of them but I didn't get the other girls number who thought I was really cute #... cause im a big pussy. I was thinking of facebooking her.. but if I do.. what should I say?

 

[Joel Was Right]

Well last night a good night. I went to the club with a couple friends and danced with these 2 chicks. I grabbed a number from one of them but I didn't get the other girls number who thought I was really cute #... cause im a big pussy. I was thinking of facebooking her.. but if I do.. what should I say?

Hey..we met at that club the other night...? It was a shame we didn't get the chance to dance/talk a little more. Maybe next time you want to go out...

 

[SuperAndroid17]

Hey..we met at that club the other night...? It was a shame we didn't get the chance to dance/talk a little more. Maybe next time you want to go out...

this is great , but should I wait a little? i mean If I do this now.. wouldnt it be predictable?

 

[-PXG-]

this is great , but should I wait a little? i mean If I do this now.. wouldnt it be predictable?

Who cares? Think less about the whole thing and just message her.

 

[Joel Was Right]

this is great , but should I wait a little? i mean If I do this now.. wouldnt it be predictable?

Wait 3 days after you met her. Just say you two met at the club and that you were disappointed you didn't have much time to talk to one another "or even dance!" [subtle way to show romantic interest]. Then proceed however you want to after that. If/when she responds, tell her that you'd love to go out next time she fancies a night to the club(s)

 

[Rocket Scientist]

No. Don't listen to anyone in here. This is what you should do. Wait 4 and a half days. Exactly 4 and a half. If you're not good at math, here I'll help you. 4 and a half days is exactly 108 hours. On the first day, rub sesame oil on your hands and feet and wash your hair with egg white. On the second day, pour baby powder in your left hand and smack the shit out of yourself (this will do your skin good and make women want you even more). On the third day don't go to the toilet all day and resist any urges to pass gas. On the fourth day, call Domino's and tell them to send me a medium sized pizza, tip them for me while you're at it. On the fifth day, send her that message on Facebook. By the end of the fifth day (this is why you want to do it in the middle of the day) you'll be at her place playing Yahtzee, if you know what I mean. Hope this helps.

 

[Aesius]

So that 18 year old at work is definitely digging me. I think.

Yesterday, she told me her boyfriend dumped her - almost completely out of the blue. She smiles and gets kind of nervous when I talk to her. And I catch her looking at me out of the corner of my eye pretty frequently. But at other times she's completely cold.

I'll probably work with her tomorrow - time to just man up and ask for her number.

 

[SuperAndroid17]

Who cares? Think less about the whole thing and just message her.

I went ahead and did it, she added me and she sent me a message saying

"i dont remember you!
lol JK JK i do!
maybe next tiime! "

hmmm , do I even reply?

 

[Dragon]

Got a date in an hour. From a dating website. She didn't have a facebook account so I only saw two pictures of her. Not sure what to think, they're attractive but far away. Oh well, I'm gonna have two glasses of wine and see where it goes!!

 

[jon bones]

Wait 3 days after you met her. Just say you two met at the club and that you were disappointed you didn't have much time to talk to one another "or even dance!" [subtle way to show romantic interest]. Then proceed however you want to after that. If/when she responds, tell her that you'd love to go out next time she fancies a night to the club(s)

i wonder why you feel comfortable giving advice on this topic

 

[-PXG-]

I went ahead and did it, she added me and she sent me a message saying

"i dont remember you!
lol JK JK i do!
maybe next tiime! "

hmmm , do I even reply?

Something on the lines of "what did you think of the club" or "you're a good dancer". Some shit like that. Remember, don't think so hard Too much thought leads to insecurity, self elimination and self sabotage.