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[scar tissue]

Well, not exactly the same per say in some aspects.

I mean, I got myself into therapy and also got myself a personal trainer, that's two big things there. Plus I got a job since I think I was unemployed at the time of my ban.

baby steps!

Dude, you've come a long way. Much more than baby steps.
I won't lie, it's not smooth sailing from now on or anything, but you have all the tools to succeed. You've still got a long path ahead of you but if you keep soldiering on, I think you can arrive at a point where you are somewhat happy in the next year.
Like I already mentioned earlier ITT: I didn't think it was possible half a year ago, but my life is pretty decent despite my social anxiety. Not great, still plenty of awkward moments and being a virgin still sucks.
But I've found some new friends, gotten to know a few people in my classes at university, and I generally get the feeling that if I jumped off a building tomorrow, quite a few people would care.
And sometimes, if only for a day or two, I almost feel like I live a normal life.
You can do it too!

 

[TheSchwab_7]

So after texting this girl for a total of 2 days, i asked her out on a date since who cares if she says no. Basically I told her how great of a cook I was (grilled cheese, toast, etc.) since she was telling me how good of a cook she was. So I asked her out to dinner saturday night so we can have a professional cook for us. She's pretty cool with it telling me the pressure is on to pick a good restaurant . lol.

I've also realized my ex dumping me was one of the greatest things to happen to me because I learned about what I want, I know what it feels like to love someone, she was a dumbass and whore, and I'm so much better off without her. Some days I miss her, but things are looking up

Also, what should I wear? Haven't been on a date with another girl in over a year. Guessing I should probably shave

 

[theignoramus]

Been texting this cute girl from PoF for the last few days, not knowing she was gay. I wasnt mislead, it clearly says in her profile she's seeking a woman, Im just a fucking idiot and didnt see it. That one hurt. lol. Comedy material.
I dropped some sexual innuendo about her coming over and "dining" (on me) earlier today and she says uh, you know Im gay right?

oh, and the other great moment was when I saw some girl on the street (in a university area) with an amazing ass, started to talking to her and found out she was in junior high. (she did NOT look that young, lol)
goddamit, running into gays, under-aged women, women with boyfriends, and women who give out their number but dont text back is fucking discouraging. I feel as if Im fighting against the odds here, betting against the house. Is it really this hard? i mean if it were this hard, wouldnt the birth and marriage rate of this country be alot lower? sleazier, dirtier uglier guys than me (with more boring personalities) get women, so what the fuck.

edit: the bitch of it is, in high school I had hot women throwing themselves at me (it was mostly a sleazy kind of jungle fever, the city was 99% white) and I did fuck all with that opportunity. Now that Im actually confident enough to pursue women, I run into giant brick fucking walls everywhere. This is why alcohol exists. to dull the stench of the bullshit.

 

[ATF487]

Been texting this cute girl from PoF for the last few days, not knowing she was gay. I wasnt mislead, it clearly says in her profile she's seeking a woman, Im just a fucking idiot and didnt see it. That one hurt. lol. Comedy material.
I dropped some sexual innuendo about her coming over and "dining" (on me) earlier today and she says uh, you know Im gay right?

Challenge accepted.

 

[Minamu]

I'll try this. But what do I do if the girls live ~an hour away? Most girls I see on okc that I'm interested in don't live 10 minutes away. How do I set up a date that requires one (or both of us) to drive a decent amount? Should I go out of my way to drive near her in a city I rarely go to? Or get her to come see me? How do I accomplish this?

It's only a problem if you think it's a problem Maybe meet on some common grounds in the middle? I assume you go out to meet women as well? Not just online?

Brent's latest video might help you a bit.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZB-mDi_nKbU

Eggo: Well, I asked that girl out again, and she did say that meeting up over a coffee would be really nice. So that's progress. Rough week at school for both of us though, so no date is set in stone yet. Third time's the charm, then I'm out

 

[Eggo]

I'll try this. But what do I do if the girls live ~an hour away? Most girls I see on okc that I'm interested in don't live 10 minutes away. How do I set up a date that requires one (or both of us) to drive a decent amount? Should I go out of my way to drive near her in a city I rarely go to? Or get her to come see me? How do I accomplish this?

I lived in LA when I was online dating, and there was no shortage of available women close to me. If someone messaged me who lived an hour away, I told her I wasn't interested in something that far away. It's my personal preference. I'm also not a fan of long, long distance relationships. You're in a different situation, and everybody's threshold for what they're willing to put up with is different. Personally, I wouldn't do an hour away. It's too inconvenient if you just want to hang out on a weeknight if there is that much travel time. If organizing a get-together takes that much work, it kills the spontaneity. Relationships are hard enough to maintain when you're 5 mins away, why make it even harder on yourself, if possible?

 

[BoobPhysics101]

Well, not exactly the same per say in some aspects.

I mean, I got myself into therapy and also got myself a personal trainer, that's two big things there. Plus I got a job since I think I was unemployed at the time of my ban.

baby steps!

Don't bother with a personal trainer, they are almost always a huge waste of time and money. Research yourself, or check out the GAF fitness thread.

 

[Furio53]

Don't bother with a personal trainer, they are almost always a huge waste of time and money. Research yourself, or check out the GAF fitness thread.

No man, not for him. PT is great for him, some people cant push themselves without someone there to help.

 

[luckyboyceo]

Date #3 with this girl tomorrow, we'll see how it goes. She's going ice skating with a friend before and then we're supposed to meet for drinks. Not sure if drinks is with the friend or not, but either way, should be fun. Was somewhat hesitantly aggressive the first date which lead to some making out, 2nd date, her body language just pushed me off the idea of trying anything cause she seemed so out of it, so hopefully Wednesday it'll be a lot better, plus drinks will be involved, so time to ramp it up a few notches.

This is the girl that was being moody last time you went out, right? Good luck and hopefully that was a one time thing. I imagine she'll be in a much better mood this time.

So after texting this girl for a total of 2 days, i asked her out on a date since who cares if she says no. Basically I told her how great of a cook I was (grilled cheese, toast, etc.) since she was telling me how good of a cook she was. So I asked her out to dinner saturday night so we can have a professional cook for us. She's pretty cool with it telling me the pressure is on to pick a good restaurant . lol.

I've also realized my ex dumping me was one of the greatest things to happen to me because I learned about what I want, I know what it feels like to love someone, she was a dumbass and whore, and I'm so much better off without her. Some days I miss her, but things are looking up

Also, what should I wear? Haven't been on a date with another girl in over a year. Guessing I should probably shave

Sounds like you're coming around to having a good attitude about everything now. That's great to hear. Hopefully you're starting to turn the corner and now that you've potentially found someone else, it will be much easier to keep your mind off your ex.

As far as clothing goes, just look nice and presentable. Is the restaurant you're going to upscale? Or just casual dining? Regardless, dressing up never hurt anyone. I wore a dress shirt, tie, and some really nice jeans on my date the other night, but if you're not a tie guy you could easily get by without one. Maybe throw on a blazer or sportcoat if you have one as well? I guess it depends on your wardrobe. Try and do something more than a sweatshirt and jeans if possible though.

 

[BoobPhysics101]

No man, not for him. PT is great for him, some people cant push themselves without someone there to help.

I know, but it's much better to just find a friend who can train you. That's what I did. And there's quite a few knowledgeable friends he could make at the gym I'm sure. Whenever I see personal trainers, they're just making their client do retarded exercises that are are fluff-cardio.

 

[Miguel]

This is the girl that was being moody last time you went out, right? Good luck and hopefully that was a one time thing. I imagine she'll be in a much better mood this time.

Yeah that's the one.

 

[Cubsfan23]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=dnEwNikkc0s

 

[Mr.City]

Don't bother with a personal trainer, they are almost always a huge waste of time and money. Research yourself, or check out the GAF fitness thread.

The PT he's working is a highly ranked Olympic lifter and works at a gym with the nation's top US Olympic lifting coach.

 

[Subtervotion]

I lived in LA when I was online dating, and there was no shortage of available women close to me. If someone messaged me who lived an hour away, I told her I wasn't interested in something that far away. It's my personal preference. I'm also not a fan of long, long distance relationships. You're in a different situation, and everybody's threshold for what they're willing to put up with is different. Personally, I wouldn't do an hour away. It's too inconvenient if you just want to hang out on a weeknight if there is that much travel time. If organizing a get-together takes that much work, it kills the spontaneity. Relationships are hard enough to maintain when you're 5 mins away, why make it even harder on yourself, if possible?

Because all the attractive intelligent girls on okc live ~50 miles away. :'-(

 

[reilo]

Because all the attractive intelligent girls on okc live ~50 miles away. :'-(

Or they're not ones that find OKC appealing. Get out of house and away from the computer.

 

[Atramental]

Because all the attractive intelligent girls on okc live ~50 miles away. :'-(

And the girls on okc that live closest to me are total hambeasts... I know this feel, bro.

But yeah, get rid of okc. You're more likely to run into a beautiful and intelligent girl in real life. The more I go out the more I realize that they are everywhere.

 

[Tater Tot]

Hey guys got a little dilemma going on. I had a crush on a girl for a while and only saw her in school in very little instances. Well, I was at a workshop the other day and she was there, I decided to sit in front of her and we started talking. After the workshop I walked her to her class but before I left I asked for her number and she gave me it. While we were talking beforehand, she told me that she had a free hour on thursdays. Anyways, after she gave me her number I told her that i'll see her on thursday. She asked me what for and I told her to hang out. She said ok in a low voice and went into her class. I don't have much relationship experience so I come to you guys for help. Did I fuck this up? ja

Edit: I was thinking about calling her on thursday because my phone cannot send texts.

 

[reilo]

Hey guys got a little dilemma going on. I had a crush on a girl for a while and only saw her in school in very little instances. Well, I was at a workshop the other day and she was there, I decided to sit in front of her and we started talking. After the workshop I walked her to her class but before I left I asked for her number and she gave me it. While we were talking beforehand, she told me that she had a free hour on thursdays. Anyways, after she gave me her number I told her that i'll see her on thursday. She asked me what for and I told her to hang out. She said ok in a low voice and went into her class. I don't have much relationship experience so I come to you guys for help. Did I fuck this up? ja

Edit: I was thinking about calling her on thursday because my phone cannot send texts.

Did you fuck up? How about you tell us on Friday after you call her on Thursday asking her to meet you at a place y to do activity x.

 

[ConradCervantes]

Goddamn, contacts go a long way.

I've been wearing glasses for seventeen years, but finally took the plunge into putting a piece of film onto my eyeballs for the first time. Go into work, and I notice my female clientele regard me slightly differently now. They could just be being nice, but I've always been told by girls I've dated that my eyes are "intense", so the fact that they're no longer obscured by lenses may help my game out even further. Too bad I didn't strike upon this years ago!

 

[luckyboyceo]

Hey guys got a little dilemma going on. I had a crush on a girl for a while and only saw her in school in very little instances. Well, I was at a workshop the other day and she was there, I decided to sit in front of her and we started talking. After the workshop I walked her to her class but before I left I asked for her number and she gave me it. While we were talking beforehand, she told me that she had a free hour on thursdays. Anyways, after she gave me her number I told her that i'll see her on thursday. She asked me what for and I told her to hang out. She said ok in a low voice and went into her class. I don't have much relationship experience so I come to you guys for help. Did I fuck this up? ja

Edit: I was thinking about calling her on thursday because my phone cannot send texts.

How did this come up? Did she hint at wanting to do something Thursday? Or was it more a "thank god I have a free hour to relax Thursday" type of thing?

To me, you make it sound like she didn't seem particularly interested in hanging out. You could of course, call her as reilo has suggested and try and make plans, but if you feel like maybe you misinterpreted her then chances are you probably did.

I wouldn't say you fucked up, it's definitely salvageable. Of course, the only real way to find out is to call her. I'd probably just ride it out and see how she acts towards you the next few days, but if you feel the need to know then give her a call.

 

[Frank "Trashman" Reynolds]

bitches crazy dont liosten to this shit

 

[Druz]

Hey guys got a little dilemma going on. I had a crush on a girl for a while and only saw her in school in very little instances. Well, I was at a workshop the other day and she was there, I decided to sit in front of her and we started talking. After the workshop I walked her to her class but before I left I asked for her number and she gave me it. While we were talking beforehand, she told me that she had a free hour on thursdays. Anyways, after she gave me her number I told her that i'll see her on thursday. She asked me what for and I told her to hang out. She said ok in a low voice and went into her class. I don't have much relationship experience so I come to you guys for help. Did I fuck this up? ja

Edit: I was thinking about calling her on thursday because my phone cannot send texts.

Sounds like she didn't have any intention of having you over... I don't know how the others haven't caught on to this yet. You getting her number and you hearing that she's free for an hour is completely out of order from one implying the other.

 

[Miguel]

Cool, I think I've managed to set up a future date, once neither of us is super busy with thanksgiving/traveling/other activities. She asked what I had planned for tomorrow afternoon, and I have plans set up with my siblings/cousins to hang out for a bit during the afternoon, and I can't break those plans since I promised my youngest cousin we'd go to Dave and Buster's years ago once we were all of age to be able to go/bring minors (my cousin). Told her I'd be free later in the evening (well, not entirely true, but would be willing to make rearrangements elsewhere, though probably a bad idea but left it open)...

This came at the back end about a conversation about family, so she goes

cool.
by then ill be with family.
was gunna suggest something but your jam packed!!! lol

so we talked about trying to set up something down the line once the Thanksgiving crazy wears off. We had discussed doing karaoke about a week ago (been talking to her a little longer than that). Asked her out once already but didn't really get much of a response to that, but we'd been talking about photography so I didn't want to just let that go, it was fun talking to someone else I hadn't already bored to death about photography. So, by the time we actually ever do go on a date, it may be 2-3 weeks into knowing each other, but that's fine, she seems like a really cool girl. I don't see a problem with an early dec date, in the mean time there's the other MoodyOnThe2ndDate girl for now.

 

[BoobPhysics101]

The PT he's working is a highly ranked Olympic lifter and works at a gym with the nation's top US Olympic lifting coach.

In that case, so worth it.

 

[Bucket-o-roadkill]

And the girls on okc that live closest to me are total hambeasts... I know this feel, bro.

But yeah, get rid of okc. You're more likely to run into a beautiful and intelligent girl in real life. The more I go out the more I realize that they are everywhere.

I can't really complain considering I've met a handful of girls I've spoken to online over the past year, but for the past few months its got really dire. I don't know if over the summer more girls use these things so its easier to get talking to girls who may be interested or what, but I'm lucky to even have someone view my profile, let alone actually bother talking to me. These sites are becoming pretty draining, its so bad for self esteem being completely blanked most of the time, online or offline.

 

[low-G]

Or they're not ones that find OKC appealing. Get out of house and away from the computer.

What social venues do you suggest, because when I go out around here I might see one attractive girl, period. I think it's more likely I'd be better off moving in with my friend who lives near a major city.

 

[Brandson]

What social venues do you suggest, because when I go out around here I might see one attractive girl, period. I think it's more likely I'd be better off moving in with my friend who lives near a major city.

I don't know if this applies to your town, but an excellent place to meet interesting people in general is at social events organized by cultural institutions for young professionals. Many museums, symphonies, operas, ballets, etc. have organizations whose sole purpose is to get more young patrons so they throw social events marketed directly at them where everyone goes to experience some new exhibition or activity. If nothing else, they're usually inexpensive and great ways to network. As a bonus, you might even learn a bit about history, art, or even have some unexpected fun.

If that's not an option, you can always try taking some yoga or crossfit classes, or participate in some of the running groups put on by Running Room or Lululemon, or whatever equivalent store is in your town. People with at least moderately healthy lifestyles tend to show up for those.

 

[Mammoth Jones]

Update:

Got told she wanted to divorce me by text. I suggested we meet face to face to discuss splitting everything up. We did. 10 hours later I get a message from an old friend on Facebook saying "why did your wife change her status to single", I hop on Facebook, she blocked me.

Some people will tell you how sorry they are. I'm not. I say fuck her. My number 1 requirement in a spouse in loyalty. Period. Forget all the other bullshit we take for granted. While some of my buddies are focused on a chicks head ability, or her money, or her this and that...my absilute demand is loyalty.

I told my shorty time and time agian. If you're not happy, if there's a problem, if you find someone better than me: Tell me. I won't pout. Beg. Plead. I'll either make changes that are required or I'll let you do you.

She didn't. She chose to bullshit. So I don't feel sorry. I feel glad. Glad we never have to deal with her bullshit again. All I can say is it's good because now you don't have to spend the rest of your life with someone that's so fucking selfish as to not even tell you there's a problem.

In time, you'll heal. And will find a woman that's worthy of you.

All the respect in the world.

<brofist>

 

[Dina]

Goddamn, contacts go a long way.

I've been wearing glasses for seventeen years, but finally took the plunge into putting a piece of film onto my eyeballs for the first time. Go into work, and I notice my female clientele regard me slightly differently now. They could just be being nice, but I've always been told by girls I've dated that my eyes are "intense", so the fact that they're no longer obscured by lenses may help my game out even further. Too bad I didn't strike upon this years ago!

I'm back to glasses now, but having had glasses for so long it's actually unsettling how focused I can look when wearing contacts. Never knew how intense my eyes were until I put off my glasses and my now-ex mentioned it to me.

 

[threenote]

my time in Paris has been filled with debauchery, but a couple weeks ago I went too far. I'm in a study abroad program with only american students, and I made out with my friend's "girlfriend" He saw, and he knows. We hang out in the same group, and he's been pretty aggressive with me, but he's finally cooled down. We hang out in the same group, but nobody has acknowledged what happened.

Incidentally, the night before, I hooked up with one of my good friend's crush. He is really into her, and I did "awful" things to her.

I honestly still hate myself for being such a complete piece of shit. I was obivously fucking hammered, but that's no excuse.

The worst part is that I think I might have feelings for my friend's "girlfriend." I've never really opened up to any human before, but I did with her. It's really weird.

 

[reilo]

Niiiice.

Honestly? You were being a dick by making out with the "girlfriend", but the crush stuff? First come, first served.

 

[threenote]

Niiiice.

Honestly? You were being a dick by making out with the "girlfriend", but the crush stuff? First come, first served.

Yeah, you're right. I guess I felt badly about it because he's supposed to be my friend.

It's so funny how awful I was with girls before I studied abroad.

I recommend it to everyone here, it has truly changed my life.

 

[Spacebar]

Goddamn, contacts go a long way.

I've been wearing glasses for seventeen years, but finally took the plunge into putting a piece of film onto my eyeballs for the first time. Go into work, and I notice my female clientele regard me slightly differently now. They could just be being nice, but I've always been told by girls I've dated that my eyes are "intense", so the fact that they're no longer obscured by lenses may help my game out even further. Too bad I didn't strike upon this years ago!

I wore glasses all my life and I was around 20 or so when I got contacts. All the girls thought I got colored contacts because they never noticed how blue my eyes were. Some even thought I was lying when I said I just got regular contacts. lol

I think glasses look fine if they're the right fit for you. It's just one of those things where you change something about yourself people will notice. Especially the people you're around a lot such as work and friends. Good luck with the new look!

 

[threenote]

I wore glasses all my life and I was around 20 or so when I got contacts. All the girls thought I got colored contacts because they never noticed how blue my eyes were. Some even thought I was lying when I said I just got regular contacts. lol

I think glasses look fine if they're the right fit for you. It's just one of those things where you change something about yourself people will notice. Especially the people you're around a lot such as work and friends. Good luck with the new look!

Yeah, some people look awful without their glasses. One of my buddies is that way, I couldn't recognize him when he took them off. But, others just need to show off their gorgeous eyes.

 

[luckyboyceo]

Well, fuck. Done with classes for the week and I didn't once speak with the girl I went out with Saturday night.

Had intended on making plans for date #2 today, but as with Monday, after class she left with her group of friends and I never got the chance to say anything. I didn't think chasing after her was a good move. Obviously this is on me here, but I'm pissed cause there's pretty much nothing I can do and now I have to wait until Monday to see her again. Sucks.

Thinking about trying to salvage the situation by texting her later tonight. Just something simple like, "hey have a good thanksgiving break. hope you enjoy watching elf for the billionth time (her tradition) and let's go out again when you get back." Or would that just be awkward considering we've seen each other but haven't spoken since Sunday night? Thoughts?

 

[threenote]

Well, fuck. Done with classes for the week and I didn't once speak with the girl I went out with Saturday night.

Had intended on making plans for date #2 today, but as with Monday, after class she left with her group of friends and I never got the chance to say anything. I didn't think chasing after her was a good move. Obviously this is on me here, but I'm pissed cause there's pretty much nothing I can do and now I have to wait until Monday to see her again. Sucks.

Thinking about trying to salvage the situation by texting her later tonight. Just something simple like, "hey have a good thanksgiving break. hope you enjoy watching elf for the billionth time (her tradition) and let's go out again when you get back." Or would that just be awkward considering we've seen each other but haven't spoken since Sunday night? Thoughts?

Just talk to her and see how she is doing. Honestly, she is probably sitting there thinking about talking to YOU. Us guys need to just be more upfront. If you like her, talk to her but don't be a clingy stalker.

I know I'm saying this like it's easy. In reality, one of the most difficult things is discerning the fine line between clingy and just trying to talk to a girl. I go through it all the time, so I guess I shouldn't be talking.

 

[Stormtrooper30]

So, my girlfriend of 11 months broke up with me two months ago due to distance and some other things that she threw in there to make it seem more legit. Just saw her today (as we have the same friend group and are back from break) and I in no way am over her yet. Fuck me. I'm even talking to a girl at school now, and still I cannot forget about my past.

 

[Liquid_015]

Hey GAF,

I have no idea what the hell is going on with me, and I cannot stop thinking of her. I really like this one girl so bad that I have no idea what I can do... The thing is she told me she would only screw this one guy at a fraternity... and most Gaffers here told me to bail out. As of now, I am pretty sure I am in the friendzone... Gaf is this game over??

 

[lawlohwhat]

So, my girlfriend of 11 months broke up with me two months ago due to distance and some other things that she threw in there to make it seem more legit. Just saw her today (as we have the same friend group and are back from break) and I in no way am over her yet. Fuck me. I'm even talking to a girl at school now, and still I cannot forget about my past.

Two months is nothing. Be patient and focus on your own life.

 

[Atramental]

Hey GAF,

I have no idea what the hell is going on with me, and I cannot stop thinking of her. I really like this one girl so bad that I have no idea what I can do... The thing is she told me she would only screw this one guy at a fraternity... and most Gaffers here told me to bail out. As of now, I am pretty sure I am in the friendzone... Gaf is this game over??

Beat off, have a stiff drink, and play some Skyrim.

More fish in the sea. etc. etc.

 

[Liquid_015]

Beat off, have a stiff drink, and play some Skyrim.

Unfortunately, I do not have my PS3 with me on campus, and everyone has gone home since it is Thanksgiving break... sigh. Simply put, would it be best to forget and move on or do I still have a chance?

The weird thing is I am so godamn attracted to her, and I have no idea why I am or how.... It's so godamn frustrating...

 

[Mammoth Jones]

Hey GAF,

I have no idea what the hell is going on with me, and I cannot stop thinking of her. I really like this one girl so bad that I have no idea what I can do... The thing is she told me she would only screw this one guy at a fraternity... and most Gaffers here told me to bail out. As of now, I am pretty sure I am in the friendzone... Gaf is this game over??

Have you actually been aggressive with her so she knows you want them drawers? Or are you trying to slyly play the "friend" role while you gain her trust with the hopes of her seeing how much of a great guy you are and all that?

If you've let her know how you feel through words/actions and she declined, nothing you can do. If you're trying to play that friend shit first, you're doing it wrong.

 

[Atramental]

Unfortunately, I do not have my PS3 with me on campus, and everyone has gone home since it is Thanksgiving break... sigh. Simply put, would it be best to forget and move on or do I still have a chance?

The weird thing is I am so godamn attracted to her, and I have no idea why I am or how.... It's so godamn frustrating...

Hormones.

If she told you flat out that she would only screw that one guy then she's not worth your time.

So yes, move on and find someone else. The best way to get rid of your infatuation for this girl is by focusing your time and energy into something else. Could be another girl or a hobby of yours. Working out helps as well.

 

[Liquid_015]

Have you actually been aggressive with her so she knows you want them drawers? Or are you trying to slyly play the "friend" role while you gain her trust with the hopes of her seeing how much of a great guy you are and all that?

If you've let her know how you feel through words/actions and she declined, nothing you can do. If you're trying to play that friend shit first, you're doing it wrong.

I'm more of the introvert, shy, quiet kind of guy. So I would assume I am doing it wrong in your terms? I mean she openly told me she wanted to screw this one guy, and even went to the extent of telling me that she likes this one guy and that she can try to act "cute" to him and see if he wanted to watch a movie...

 

[luckyboyceo]

Just talk to her and see how she is doing. Honestly, she is probably sitting there thinking about talking to YOU. Us guys need to just be more upfront. If you like her, talk to her but don't be a clingy stalker.

I know I'm saying this like it's easy. In reality, one of the most difficult things is discerning the fine line between clingy and just trying to talk to a girl. I go through it all the time, so I guess I shouldn't be talking.

By talk you mean text I assume? Cause I won't be seeing her till Monday with Thanksgiving weekend and all.

I think you're right. I've gotten the vibe that she's just shy. She doesn't ever take the initiative to talk to me or text me, but whenever I do she seems extremely receptive. I think she may be intimidated by me a little bit since I'm a few years older than her. I guess I'm used to girls I'm interested in being more outgoing so she's kind of thrown me off-guard a bit.

Thanks for the insight, I'll probably text her later tonight and see what happens.

 

[Furio53]

I'm more of the introvert, shy, quiet kind of guy. So I would assume I am doing it wrong in your terms? I mean she openly told me she wanted to screw this one guy, and even went to the extent of telling me that she likes this one guy and that she can try to act "cute" to him and see if he wanted to watch a movie...

dude it's a college girl. Get her some drinks and have sex.

 

[Decado]

Brent's latest video might help you a bit.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZB-mDi_nKbU

Is this guy for real? Your "vibe"? o_0

 

[Miguel]

lol, so not really getting any favorable responses to a little smalltalk with moodyon2nddate girl, and honestly don't feel like driving that far tonight. Gonna probably just go hang out with some friends downtown.

...in comes a new challenger, lol. Chick who accused me of hiding a wife/significant other just texted me "hey... member me?... sorry bout the other night"

Haven't responded... probably won't... but I'm up for suggestions since imo, that bridge is burned for me.

Give me your best/worst GAF.

 

[Man]

I have spent three nights with a woman during vacation. It's pretty clear from her end that this was just a temporary flirt and having left the country I'm destroyed. I got breakfast now but that's almost without having eaten since Sunday. She was absolutely stunning, I doubt I will hook up with someone so fine again. How long until this goes away...

 

[Blader]

I have spent three nights with a woman during vacation. It's pretty clear from her end that this was just a temporary flirt and having left the country I'm destroyed. I got breakfast now but that's almost without having eaten since Sunday. She was absolutely stunning, I doubt I will hook up with someone so fine again. How long until this goes away...

Until the next one.