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[hellclerk]

I went ahead and did it, she added me and she sent me a message saying

"i dont remember you!
lol JK JK i do!
maybe next tiime! "

hmmm , do I even reply?

You can either reply with "Sounds good/like fun ", "Sure, I'm going to [band, movie, play, party, etc.] [this weekend, tomorrow, monday, etc], it would be great if you came along", or you could not and wait until something does come up and invite her to that. Whatever you choose depends on your circumstances and how forward the girl was when you met her. Personally I'd wait a few days, but with Christmas coming up, asking sooner than later might end up working out better.

edit:

Something on the lines of "what did you think of the club" or "you're a good dancer". Some shit like that. Remember, don't think so hard Too much thought leads to insecurity, self elimination and self sabotage.

Also what PXG said. I might suggest thinking about it, but really, going with your gut before your head can make a decision is the best way. My gut just tends to be calculating :lol

 

[Joel Was Right]

i wonder why you feel comfortable giving advice on this topic

Stone cold

 

[-PXG-]

Stone cold

Get used to it. That's jon bones for you. Some times a hard reality check is what you need.

 

[jamesinclair]

So tomorrow I finally get to meet the girl I've been talking to online since October

Spoiler

2009

.

I'm a bit nervous, even though it should be 100% casual.

I also decided to get her Community season 1 as a christmas gift. More expensive than the It Crowd, but more hours of fun for all.

Oh and no, we've never talked on the phone, just texted...so that will be a surprise too.

 

[Acid08]

So tomorrow I finally get to meet the girl I've been talking to online since October

Spoiler

2009

.

I'm a bit nervous, even though it should be 100% casual.

I alsod ecided to get her Community season 1 as a christmas gift. More expensive than the It Crowd, but more hours of fun for all.

Oh and no, we've never talked on the phone, just texted...so that will be a surprise too.

So many red flags here it seems like.

 

[jamesinclair]

So many red flags here it seems like.

I wonder if this is where the phrase comes from...?

 

[grap3fruitman]

I wonder if this is where the phrase comes from...?

The need for a facepalm smiley on GAF is made apparent by this post.

The phrase comes from soccer.

 

[grap3fruitman]

So tomorrow I finally get to meet the girl I've been talking to online since October

Spoiler

2009

.
I'm a bit nervous, even though it should be 100% casual.
I also decided to get her Community season 1 as a christmas gift. More expensive than the It Crowd, but more hours of fun for all.
Oh and no, we've never talked on the phone, just texted...so that will be a surprise too.

You should also make her aware that you can gift her any game she wants on Steam.

 

[jamesinclair]

The need for a facepalm smiley on GAF is made apparent by this post.

The phrase comes from soccer.

Double face palm...? Even your link points out that soccer has red CARDs not red flags.

You should also make her aware that you can gift her any game she wants on Steam.

I dont think either of us are nerdy enough for this

 

[Alucrid]

The need for a facepalm smiley on GAF is made apparent by this post.

The phrase comes from soccer.

No. Red flag doesn't equal red card. Red flag just means to raise awareness or attention to something. It originated from red flags used by armies to signal that they were preparing for battle.

 

[Acid08]

I dont think either of us are nerdy enough for this

But it's totally cool to talk to a girl online for over a year and now just finally meet her. But, yes, fuck those Steam nerds.

 

[jamesinclair]

But it's totally cool to talk to a girl online for over a year and now just finally meet her. But, yes, fuck those Steam nerds.

 

[-PXG-]

I'm kind out of it right now, which explains why this pic is scaring the shit out of me.

 

[jamesinclair]

It is pretty damn scary :lol

 

[Ether_Snake]

Alright. This week has pretty much been the week where I think I can say I woke up.

Since my acne pretty much completely cleared up since I made a thread about (I'm almost 100% certain that it is thanks to eating one whole sweet potato every evening, I highly recommend it!), I have been much more confident. I don't care how much some people will try to pretend that the acne thing was not a problem, but to me on a personal level it definitly was, it made me feel like crap, especially since I knew that I was a good looking guy underneath.

So recently I've been going out more and of course making eye contact with more confidence. Yesterday evening I went to the movies and there was this girl with her two friends, and as I'm walking in her direction towards the movie's room I looked at her, she looked at me but instinctively immediately looked away, then realized I was looking at her and she looked back at me and we locked eyes. I saw her smile forming like in slow-motion and as I'm getting closer she interrupts her friends who were talking to each other, eyes still locked to mine and now with a big smile, she says something to them. I only caught words along the lines of "oh my god" or "oh my, look" with an excited tone and I knew she was talking about me (almost certainly about my eyes since any time I got a girl to openly complement me it's been about my eyes). When I walked a few steps pass her I turned my head around and now all three of them were looking straight at me. Of course I turned my head back and just entered the room. It all happened really fast but my mind works like a camera in such moments, I recall every little details.

I think I have a pretty good ability at "reading" people but I have to make something out of it. I need to be more reactive.

I swear as soon as I move out this apartment next summer I'm picking girls up. I got too much shit I want to focus on right now to be playing this game, but after I move, IT.IS.ON.

 

[sooperkool]

Alright. This week has pretty much been the week where I think I can say I woke up.

Since my acne pretty much completely cleared up since I made a thread about (I'm almost 100% certain that it is thanks to eating one whole sweet potato every evening, I highly recommend it!), I have been much more confident. I don't care how much some people will try to pretend that the acne thing was not a problem, but to me on a personal level it definitly was, it made me feel like crap, especially since I knew that I was a good looking guy underneath.

So recently I've been going out more and of course making eye contact with more confidence. Yesterday evening I went to the movies and there was this girl with her two friends, and as I'm walking in her direction towards the movie's room I looked at her, she looked at me but instinctively immediately looked away, then realized I was looking at her and she looked back at me and we locked eyes. I saw her smile forming like in slow-motion and as I'm getting closer she interrupts her friends who were talking to each other, eyes still locked to mine and now with a big smile, she says something to them. I only caught words along the lines of "oh my god" or "oh my, look" with an excited tone and I knew she was talking about me (almost certainly about my eyes since any time I got a girl to openly complement me it's been about my eyes). When I walked a few steps pass her I turned my head around and now all three of them were looking straight at me. Of course I turned my head back and just entered the room. It all happened really fast but my mind works like a camera in such moments, I recall every little details.

I think I have a pretty good ability at "reading" people but I have to make something out of it. I need to be more reactive.

I swear as soon as I move out this apartment next summer I'm picking girls up. I got too much shit I want to focus on right now to be playing this game, but after I move, IT.IS.ON.

Yeah this is great but......

How about you act on stuff like this by saying hello, chatting and getting some digits.

 

[Ether_Snake]

Hey I was going to the movie with a couple of buddies. I wasn't going to leave them to go talk to three random girls just cause they looked at me. And maybe you missed this?

I think I have a pretty good ability at "reading" people but I have to make something out of it. I need to be more reactive.

So yeah, I know.

 

[Cyan]

What up GAF? Was at a party tonight, tried to chat up this way hot Swedish girl and she was just not really bothering to talk. Got a few laughs from her, but she just didn't seem to want to chat. Mono-syllabic answers and whatnot. Just standoffish and uninterested.

So, was kind of bothered about that, but talked with this other cute girl, and decided that if I didn't get her number GAF would yell at me. Got her number, but she's out of town until early next year. Any advice for when I do call her up? "Hey, this is that dude from three weeks ago..."

 

[SephCast]

I can't wait for someone like CrushDance or anyone else to post this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o.

 

[industrian]

I think I have a pretty good ability at "reading" people but I have to make something out of it. I need to be more reactive.

Sometimes I think I have high functioning autism or some shit because I have difficulty in reading people and situations. I tend to overthink and/or become paranoid because of it.

Not to mention that since East Asian people are always nice it's almost impossible to tell if that girl's interested in you or just making conversation. Back in Scotland you don't have this problem. If a girl likes you, she's generally as subtle as a brick through a window in letting you know.

But I know my girlfriend loves me, the signs are in big red font and projected into the sky like the Batsignal.

I swear as soon as I move out this apartment next summer I'm picking girls up.

I said the exact same shit for three years. What exactly is wrong with your apartment right now? The only problem girls have with a dude's apartment is if the parents are living there too.

 

[kuYuri]

I guess I'll just ask this here:

Should I be ashamed for getting a boner when a girl was grinding on me?

 

[Danj]

I guess I'll just ask this here:

Should I be ashamed for getting a boner when a girl was grinding on me?

This is not an experience I've ever had but I'm going to guess the correct answer is "no". I guess it depends what you mean by "grinding" though.

 

[Argyle]

Big-ass tortoise and the hare image

Dude...no. Just no. If that's how things turned out, so be it, but please don't tell me you planned it this way. No matter what, it's definitely not the way you want to go about this if you want to date this person.

I think the gift is a bad idea too. The filter I would use is "if this were a person I have absolutely no interest in dating, would I buy this gift for them?" Maybe the answer is yes, but since you have expressed the idea that you actually would like to date this girl despite feeling "oh we are just fine as friends!", I suspect you are not thinking about this clearly.

 

[sadaiyappan]

My mom is going to introduce me to a girl in January at a temple. She is asking me if I want to get married in February. :lol

 

[sadaiyappan]

And I almost want to go along with this and get married because then I will get to live on my own (first time in a long time) and my mom will give me money. She says she will buy me a car in India and possibly build me a house.

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

And I almost want to go along with this and get married because then I will get to live on my own (first time in a long time) and my mom will give me money. She says she will buy me a car in India and possibly build me a house.

Question is what task is she not willing to endure to get you married.

 

[sooperkool]

Hey I was going to the movie with a couple of buddies. I wasn't going to leave them to go talk to three random girls just cause they looked at me. And maybe you missed this?



So yeah, I know.

My point is, stop reinforcing the behavior that you already have. Your buddies are not going to mind you going to chat up some females because it looks like they might be interested. Stop waiting for some magical time when the stars align and you can "start" pulling in all the girls. Act now. You should have at least said hello to the girls if for nothing else other than some practice. I've got a girl and still talk to random girls that show interest even to say that I'm seeing someone if it gets that far.

 

[Yoboman]

Hey I was going to the movie with a couple of buddies. I wasn't going to leave them to go talk to three random girls just cause they looked at me. And maybe you missed this?



So yeah, I know.

Bros before hoes unless you can get them out of clothes.

 

[Xun]

I guess I'll just ask this here:

Should I be ashamed for getting a boner when a girl was grinding on me?

I'm sure the would like it to be honest.

Also any news on Comby?

 

[grap3fruitman]

Double face palm...? Even your link points out that soccer has red CARDs not red flags.

Whoops. You got me.

I dont think either of us are nerdy enough for this

I was making a reference to this. I'm surprised no one caught it.

Anyway, James, happy failing.

Should I be ashamed for getting a boner when a girl was grinding on me?

That seems like a perfectly normal reaction to me.

 

[Joel Was Right]

This thread reminds me of a group of predators discussing tactics for their next hunt

 

[norinrad]

This thread reminds me of a group of predators discussing tactics for their next hunt

:lol :lol :lol

I think Bladeworker(sp) has been saying the same thing for weeks

 

[-PXG-]

This thread reminds me of a group of predators discussing tactics for their next hunt

Your point being?...

 

[industrian]

I guess I'll just ask this here:

Should I be ashamed for getting a boner when a girl was grinding on me?

At New Year 2009/2010 a hot Korean girl hugged me and I got a boner. She looked at me, I said "that means you're beautiful" and she ran away embarrassed.

:/

 

[JB1981]

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahah.... Im the worst with shit like this .... I was with my ex for a year and even after a year of being together I still got like insta-boners when she would touch me or hug me hahahahahhah

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Y'all should just be proud everything is still in working order. See it as an evolutionary advantage. The faster you get things up to working speed, the faster you can spread your genes.

 

[Dabookerman]

I take it if I can hold an erection for long periods of time but cannot ejaculate during the deed this is most likely down to "nerves"?
I suppose it's better than not being to get an erection at all...

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahah.... Im the worst with shit like this .... I was with my ex for a year and even after a year of being together I still got like insta-boners when she would touch me or hug me hahahahahhah

I have the exact same problem. With my ex and with this new girl. It's only really annoying in public..

 

[Joel Was Right]

Your point being?...

It's just funny to see how this one subject of wo-man can bring all men together and hang on each others word of advice and tips. We are so primal almost every post reads like 'how to win a wo-man so you can get laid'. Women do something similar as well. Its just interesting to see

 

[projekt84]

It's just funny to see how this one subject of wo-man can bring all men together and hang on each others word of advice and tips. We are so primal almost every post reads like 'how to win a wo-man so you can get laid'. Women do something similar as well. Its just interesting to see

Why are you typing "wo-man" ?

It's a thread about women. A thread about computers will be men together and hang on each others word of advice and tips as well, but about computers.

What about yourself, are you trying to say you're above all of this?

I have the exact same problem. With my ex and with this new girl. It's only really annoying in public..

You should appreciate that shit. I don't give a fuck if I get a raging boner with a girl. Only time would maybe mind is holding hands walking down the street. But still that's only a maybe.

 

[industrian]

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahah.... Im the worst with shit like this .... I was with my ex for a year and even after a year of being together I still got like insta-boners when she would touch me or hug me hahahahahhah

Pretty much in the same boat. Industrian Jr. is ready for action at a moment's notice. Girl holds my hand - he's ready. Girl smiles at me - ready. I walk across the road outside my house - ready.

I was actually scared I'd developed ED recently due to my medication as I had certain "difficulties" last week. But I had sex for two hours tonight so I guess it was just nerves. I'm still getting used to this "sex while sober" thing.

 

[aeiko]

ok so here's the thing.. im not usually someone who looks to meet girls online.. i've met some great girls from my area before, and got into a major relationship that ended up going bad....because the girl was being super clingy and had issues in general (which i found out about later -___-)...

anyways, i came across this one girl from michigan on fb (im in NJ).. while looking for another friend of mine...thought she was gorgeouss... so I was like what the hell... and jus messaged her and she actually responded back positively... anyways, we've been talking for the past few days...i added her... and she gave me her google chat thing (no number yet...).... so yeh, what i really dig about her.. is that she's aggressive as fuck.. i find it so attractive about her, and she doesn't back down when i insult her back... it's funny.. we're essentially bad mouthing each other at this point and having serious conversations about life and stuff....(trying to steer clear of the friend zone..ugh..been there). Anyways, I'm not sure where I should head with this. this whole online thing feels like it won't get me anywhere... lol. Gaf?

 

[Joel Was Right]

Why are you typing "wo-man" ?

It's a thread about women. A thread about computers will be men together and hang on each others word of advice and tips as well, but about computers.

What about yourself, are you trying to say you're above all of this?

Oh no, you misunderstood. I am hopeless with women. I typed wo-man to mimic the cliche way cavemen are portrayed (in cartoons) when referring to women, to illustrate my point that we are primal when it comes to the opposite sex. Hope that makes sense, I wasn't trying to make fun of people here or something

 

[Dabookerman]

Pretty much in the same boat. Industrian Jr. is ready for action at a moment's notice. Girl holds my hand - he's ready. Girl smiles at me - ready. I walk across the road outside my house - ready.

I was actually scared I'd developed ED recently due to my medication as I had certain "difficulties" last week. But I had sex for two hours tonight so I guess it was just nerves. I'm still getting used to this "sex while sober" thing.

LMAO!

Yeah exactly. I blame condoms for now.. but still. I do enjoy the fact that I could go on for hours if I wanted. It's just the uncertainty of knowing when it will end that bothers me.

 

[Joel Was Right]

ok so here's the thing.. im not usually someone who looks to meet girls online.. i've met some great girls from my area before, and got into a major relationship that ended up going bad....because the girl was being super clingy and had issues in general (which i found out about later -___-)...

anyways, i came across this one girl from michigan on fb (im in NJ).. while looking for another friend of mine...thought she was gorgeouss... so I was like what the hell... and jus messaged her and she actually responded back positively... anyways, we've been talking for the past few days...i added her... and she gave me her google chat thing (no number yet...).... so yeh, what i really dig about her.. is that she's aggressive as fuck.. i find it so attractive about her, and she doesn't back down when i insult her back... it's funny.. we're essentially bad mouthing each other at this point and having serious conversations about life and stuff....(trying to steer clear of the friend zone..ugh..been there). Anyways, I'm not sure where I should head with this. this whole online thing feels like it won't get me anywhere... lol. Gaf?

The online dynamic is an enigma. You're conscious that making your romantic interests obvious early would be a fatal mistake, and so the viable option is to just develop a friendship first, or at least get to know each other to the point you'd be comfortable in meeting up. But you're also conscious that going this route can lead you to become a brother like figure to her, or such good friends that she can't picture you two as a couple. But on thing is for sure: you need to shift whatever this out of the online realm and onto the digits, and face to face sooner rather than later.

 

[hellclerk]

Pretty much in the same boat. Industrian Jr. is ready for action at a moment's notice. Girl holds my hand - he's ready. Girl smiles at me - ready. I walk across the road outside my house - ready.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VLnWf1sQkjY

Also, They came out with a new video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o

 

[jamesinclair]

Dude...no. Just no. If that's how things turned out, so be it, but please don't tell me you planned it this way. No matter what, it's definitely not the way you want to go about this if you want to date this person.

I think the gift is a bad idea too. The filter I would use is "if this were a person I have absolutely no interest in dating, would I buy this gift for them?" Maybe the answer is yes, but since you have expressed the idea that you actually would like to date this girl despite feeling "oh we are just fine as friends!", I suspect you are not thinking about this clearly.

No no, it wasn't planned at all. I like to take things slow, but that means a month of chat before a date...not over a year. It just turned out that was unfortunately.

I can't date her, we go out later today, and I fly away on Wednesday. I'm not doing a long distance thing.

I was making a reference to this. I'm surprised no one caught it.

Anyway, James, happy failing.
.

Oh, I saw the thread title but never clicked it.

I will report on the failing later tonight.

 

[The Elite]

My fucking phone, facebook and OKC profile is blowing up with messages. The less attentive I am, the more messages I get.

Yeah, my OKC profile has been like that lately. Meeting a girl for coffee this afternoon. Jumping back into the date space after being out of the game for years.

 

[Ether_Snake]

Sometimes I think I have high functioning autism or some shit because I have difficulty in reading people and situations. I tend to overthink and/or become paranoid because of it.

Not to mention that since East Asian people are always nice it's almost impossible to tell if that girl's interested in you or just making conversation. Back in Scotland you don't have this problem. If a girl likes you, she's generally as subtle as a brick through a window in letting you know.

But I know my girlfriend loves me, the signs are in big red font and projected into the sky like the Batsignal.



I said the exact same shit for three years. What exactly is wrong with your apartment right now? The only problem girls have with a dude's apartment is if the parents are living there too.

I have a list of things to deal with and the last one is changing apartment in July. It's not a big deal, I just don't want to be bothered with more stuff until then.

 

[Mecha_Infantry]

Have we ever exposed our OK Cupid profiles in this thread?

 

[jamesinclair]

Have we ever exposed our OK Cupid profiles in this thread?

A couple of people have copy/pasted their about section for feedback.

I don't think anybody has provided a full link.

Sort of awkward. But feel free to start off a new linking trend.