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[TurboLibre]

Pro spoiler single gaf, go to a goddam nightclub, get wasted you WILL PULL

Not me. I'm a social guy but drinking makes me very quiet in a bar/club scene.

 

[DrFunk]

Yesterday at midnight i was stuck in a queue for like an hour last mnight, trying to get into a Free bar and i met this stunner. I saw my friend like a metre in front of her at the line and i said what's up to him, said hey to his girl, etc etc. Then i pointed to this girl and said, "Do you know how fine that girl is?", he was like "Yeah, you have no chance". So i went up tho her with a i just don't give a fuck attitude and said "hey, what's your name?" She said her name and i forgot it 10 seconds later. I have a traditional Nigerian name so her and i bantered over the pronunciation of it for like 10 seconds. Got to chatting to her about this, that and life. At Midnight i asked her if she kissed anyone, she said no and so her and i kissed briefly, i could have tried to make out with ehr but for some reason i didn't want to push my luck. She was smoking. She said she was half two european countries, quarter Chinese and quarter jamaican. 100% hottie. She and her firends went to another club but before she left i asked her for her number and she gave it to me but only on the condition we would be friends cos of a bad break up. No angry make up sex for me. So how would you lot go about talking to this girl 3 day rule?

That fact that you approached her was awesome enough. But yeah, if she was interested, she wouldn't have used the "friends" condition.

Still, at least you got some practice!

 

[soultron]

Pro spoiler single gaf, go to a goddam nightclub, get wasted you WILL PULL

You got yourself some using this tactic, and that's great. It's not going to work everytime, nor will it work for everyone -- nothing is guaranteed. Some of us in here have issues like confidence that need attention first.

 

[-PXG-]

Some of these guys couldn't pull teeth if they were dentists

Damn :lol

cold bloooooooooooded

Ugh....I'm hung over and resting up for my date tomorrow. Gotta be in tip top condition. Right now, I feel like ass though.

 

[Eggo]

Not me. I'm a social guy but drinking makes me very quiet in a bar/club scene.

Are you really social? If you're good with people, a bar is a target-rich environment. Why would you clam up there if you like talking to people? We had a group of ten last night at the bar and there was one shy, quiet guy who sat around awkwardly because he was scared. You don't want to be That Guy.

 

[Acid08]

Went to a party last night and there were literally 3 girls to like 10 guys. 2 of them had boyfriends who were there and the last one was basically my friends girl for the night. She flirted with me a shitload while I was there but I didn't really pursue anything since she was my friends girl. She had a fuckin awesome ass though.

 

[Alucrid]

Some of these guys couldn't pull teeth if they were dentists

To be fair I'd have a hard time putting down animals if I were a Veterinarian. Childhood dreams were crushed when I learned I'd have to do that. I thought it was all have fun with animals and shit.

 

[jas0nuk]

I got a slap from a girl last night for refusing to clean up some mess on her carpet (not my mess, but...)

I think I'm in there...



... :lol

Good times. Quite a hilarious New Year's Eve.

 

[Devolution]

To be fair I'd have a hard time putting down animals if I were a Veterinarian. Childhood dreams were crushed when I learned I'd have to do that. I thought it was all have fun with animals and shit.

You also get to tell people if their pet is horribly sick or dying. =/

 

[Ultima_5]

Back to the Gir-Age thread! =( How do you avoid being needy.... I'm in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. I go away to college, and we see each other during breaks, and she comes up to visit me every other week or so... We normally text, but she's often slow to respond, and when she does it's normally quite terse, and i normally get annoyed by this... We don't talk on the phone (probably because we were friends for a year or so before we started dating... idk thinking about calling her just seems odd to me). We skyped occasionally when we first started going out, but now we don't. It's winter break right now, and I've been home for a week or two. I've seen her most nights after she gets off of work which is nice, but it sill doesn't seem like enough... I didn't get to see her NYE, because she was at a party w/ her friends, and I got kind of upset because I was looking forward to kissing in the new year with her...

I know she wouldn't ever cheat on me, so you guys don't have to make that suggestion... I know i'm needy, and it's putting a strain on the relationship... how do I avoid this. I really like this girl, and when we're together she's amazing. How do I avoid being needy / get used to having such limited contact with her...

 

[jamesinclair]

Back to the Gir-Age thread! =( How do you avoid being needy.... I'm in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. I go away to college, and we see each other during breaks, and she comes up to visit me every other week or so... We normally text, but she's often slow to respond, and when she does it's normally quite terse, and i normally get annoyed by this... We don't talk on the phone (probably because we were friends for a year or so before we started dating... idk thinking about calling her just seems odd to me). We skyped occasionally when we first started going out, but now we don't. It's winter break right now, and I've been home for a week or two. I've seen her most nights after she gets off of work which is nice, but it sill doesn't seem like enough... I didn't get to see her NYE, because she was at a party w/ her friends, and I got kind of upset because I was looking forward to kissing in the new year with her...

I know she wouldn't ever cheat on me, so you guys don't have to make that suggestion... I know i'm needy, and it's putting a strain on the relationship... how do I avoid this. I really like this girl, and when we're together she's amazing. How do I avoid being needy / get used to having such limited contact with her...

She may not be cheating on you now, but she will.

I've highlighted an enormous red flag.

This is clearly a doomed relationship. She may not even see it as a relationship, just as a fuck buddy type deal.

 

[hellclerk]

She may not be cheating on you now, but she will.

I've highlighted an enormous red flag.

This is clearly a doomed relationship. She may not even see it as a relationship, just as a fuck buddy type deal.

Speaks our Mullet Casanova....

I wouldn't put read too much into it, but if you want to be with her often, talk to her about it as a tepid thing, like you could go either way with it. Like, bring it up as a concern but as one in the back of your mind to give her the option of agreeing and seeing each other more often or dismissing it and not worrying about it. If she seems to be against it, that's a sort of red flag. Something might be up.

 

[soultron]

She may not be cheating on you now, but she will.

I've highlighted an enormous red flag.

This is clearly a doomed relationship. She may not even see it as a relationship, just as a fuck buddy type deal.

Two people in a relationship can actually do things apart and not be cheating.

Feeding the poor guy stuff like this is only going to make him insecure, jealous, or even more needy.

To the poster who asked, just make sure you busy yourself. You probably don't have enough things to do in your life right now, and you have a lot of downtime to dwell and wish you were together. Join some clubs at school, get a job, start going to the gym, pick up a hobby, whatever.

Part of not being needy is staying busy (having a life outside of your relationship) and knowing your own self-worth, if you ask me. Don't worry if it takes her a while to text you back; she has a life and obligations too. She will get back to you! If she never gets back to you, then you have bigger problems.

Focus on enjoying the time you get together and not wishing for more -- with your distance this might be all you guys can do for now.

 

[BentMyWookiee]

I'm 26 and I've always been pretty shy and lacked in confidence to approach girls who I don't know. I had actually never asked a girl that I didn't know for her number before... until last night. I was hanging out with a friend at a pub for new year's eve (with no real expectation of meeting women). But I saw this girl there who I thought was really beautiful. And at one point she was dancing with her friend on the dance floor, so I got my friend to go out there with me. He occupied/danced with her friend while I danced with the beautiful girl. It worked out pretty well and we had some light conversation while dancing for a little. She gave me a hug when we were done dancing and we both went back to our separate groups of friends. When it was getting close to midnight the DJ announced that he was playing the last song of 2010. So I went up to the girl, who was sitting at a table with her friends, and asked her if she wanted to dance again. She was happy to. And her guy friend said all excitedly, oh is this BentMyWookiee?! So it seems like she was talking about me to her friends

Anyway, we danced and talked a little more and when we were done I just told her that I'd love to get a chance to know her and asked for her number. I got it! I now have a 100% success rate of getting numbers :lol

I'm going to give her a call tomorrow and ask her out. I was thinking maybe meeting up for coffee for a casual first date. And if that goes well, then maybe dinner and outdoor ice skating for the next date. Does that sound like a good plan?

 

[TurboLibre]

Are you really social? If you're good with people, a bar is a target-rich environment. Why would you clam up there if you like talking to people? We had a group of ten last night at the bar and there was one shy, quiet guy who sat around awkwardly because he was scared. You don't want to be That Guy.

It depends. I'm great hanging out with friends or chatting up people who come over to us. I'm not so good at approaching new people though, but that's not a bar specific thing. When I get drunk at these places I can sometimes end up like your friend. That's more because of other factors though, like the music being too loud so I can't hear the person right next to me or my friends all separated and there's nobody to talk to.

That's become sort of rare though, I've had a great time at the bars these past few years.

 

[soultron]

Great job! See how easy things can be? Asking (and not just going up and grinding up on) a girl to dance is such a simple move that can pay off well.

I'd probably wait until Monday or Tuesday to call, personally. That way to can schedule a date for the middle or end (Wednesday or Thursday) of the business week. Just my two cents.

 

[Mangoverboard]

Ok GAF, wee bit of advice needed here.

So I'm out at this bar last night watching a friends band, ringing in the new year with a load of friends. So all evening I'm flirting with this girl and she is pretty hardcore flirty with me, kept grabbing my hand and all that jazz. So then at about half 12 a few of us got a taxi to a club. She swapped seats in the taxi so she would be beside me. We were holding hands at this stage now too.

So one of our friends starts cracking jokes about we are definitely hooking up that night. Then all our other friends start too. There's 7 of us in the taxi, so we have 10 minutes of 5 people taking the piss about how its a fact we are getting together. I laughed it off, but she kept quiet the whole time.

So we get to the club and she just... disappears. Barely saw her for the rest of the night. Any time I did she was surrounded by her female friends. I would have just gone over but some old friends of mine that I didnt know were in town had come out so I was spending time with them.

So what happened? Did she get nervous because our friends were joking about it? Was she worried I thought I was definitely gunna be getting some? That I'd think her easy of something?

She texted me this morning but I was groggy and wasn't being very talkative and she stopped replying. Did I fuck up there? I'm thinking I wont talk to her again until I finish work tomorrow.

Any insight?

 

[soultron]

Maybe she got spooked. You can thank your friends for that one if it was the case. Haha.

Call her tomorrow and ask her out. That might show her you're interested in getting to know her and not just banging her (if that was what freaked her out). If she says no, welp, onto the next one!

If you call her though, I wouldn't make a big deal about what happened that night.

 

[Mangoverboard]

Yeah thats what I was thinking of doing so I'll definitely go with that. Not gunna mention what happened at all.

Thanks!

 

[PBY]

:lol I am sure she is, I loved mixed girls too, but trust me, those phrases are huge huge warning signs that scream "not interested".
You are confident enough to talk to beautiful girls, you shouldn't bog yourself down with this dead end. Go back out there and talk to more of them.

Also, if you are desperate to get laid, go to a mostly white club or bar frequented by college girls. Dumb, horny, drunk, white college girls have three weaknesses; black guys, guys with accents, and guys who look like frat boys who will date rape them. If you throw on an exaggerated Nigerian accent and a polo t shirt you will fuck the entire bar :lol

I agree.... to a point. My school girl population consists of: 50% are the girls that you just described, and the other 50% are incredibly racist, Southern girls. So just a fair warning. Throw on a polo, nice cologne, you'll be fine.

 

[soultron]

Had a decentish time on NYE, but ultimately fudged up a few key things.

Trying to keep a long story short, went out to a potluck at a friend-of-a-friend's house before we were all headed out to a club together. There's this one girl there who we hit it off really well on the dance floor the last time we all went out, but she's super shy unless she's hammered. (Could've done something that night, but I was a little drunk and just coming off of my recent break up, so I just wasn't feeling like a random hook up at the time. Haha.) We talk a bit, flirt some, before we go out.

When we get there, I dance with a few girls, talk with a few on the dance floor. Eventually we start dancing, and it's even more grindy than the last time. We start talking while dancing, she's stroking my arms and the back of my neck, I'm running my hands all over her legs, back, etc. We were getting on well; talking, joking around, taking the occasional silence to really get into a song and dance up on each other. I didn't ask her for her number since we were all going back to the same place for left overs from the potluck.

Her friend was trashed, and she was getting concerned. When we all get back, she starts taking care of her friend. They've got nowhere to sleep at that house, so I tell them both to come back to mine and my three friends' house(s) since we have matresses and couches to sleep on. They both agree to come. Haha.

I figured I could isolate her from her friend, but I wasn't forward enough. We stayed up for a bit watching movies, but they both went to bed (in the same bed... damnit.) so I left to walk back to my place as all my buddies stayed up to finish the movie. I was convinced this was going to be my first time bedding a girl straight from a house party or bar, but I just didn't know how to go about it in the end. I guess the next time I'm vibing well with some girl I just have to ask her, "Hey, you should stay with me tonight," or some shit.

How would you slicksters have gone in this situation?

Saw her this morning for breakfast with some friends and just acted like nothing happened, still joked around with her and all that. She said it was fun and that she actually enjoyed the fact that I actually danced.

 

[Alastor]

My 2011 started with a bang.

So, as my acquaintance with this girl begin where I was hoping the previous ones would end (in a bedroom), I'm also taking a different approach here. I actually suprise called her this morning with little to none conversation topics in my head and it went good (me from 2010 would only send text messages to a girl and have conversation arranged before the call). I'm still nervous when I touch her, but I think it's normal, coming from someone who waited few months to kiss someone in the cheek. I also have no idea where this is going, I'm NOT open with my feelings (besides telling that I like her) and not expecting anything big (emotionally) from the get-go.

As it should be few years ago, but better late than never Glad this totally unexpected turn of events woke me up.

She lives 2 hours from me, but it's actually close compared to my previous experiences...

And yeah, I'm out of Virgin-GAF, sorry dudes ;P

 

[-PXG-]

Ok GAF, wee bit of advice needed here.

So I'm out at this bar last night watching a friends band, ringing in the new year with a load of friends. So all evening I'm flirting with this girl and she is pretty hardcore flirty with me, kept grabbing my hand and all that jazz. So then at about half 12 a few of us got a taxi to a club. She swapped seats in the taxi so she would be beside me. We were holding hands at this stage now too.

So one of our friends starts cracking jokes about we are definitely hooking up that night. Then all our other friends start too. There's 7 of us in the taxi, so we have 10 minutes of 5 people taking the piss about how its a fact we are getting together. I laughed it off, but she kept quiet the whole time.

So we get to the club and she just... disappears. Barely saw her for the rest of the night. Any time I did she was surrounded by her female friends. I would have just gone over but some old friends of mine that I didnt know were in town had come out so I was spending time with them.

So what happened? Did she get nervous because our friends were joking about it? Was she worried I thought I was definitely gunna be getting some? That I'd think her easy of something?

She texted me this morning but I was groggy and wasn't being very talkative and she stopped replying. Did I fuck up there? I'm thinking I wont talk to her again until I finish work tomorrow.

Any insight?

Your friends are assholes. You got cock blocked big time son. You didn't do anything wrong.

Got a really nice date planned for today. Girl number 5 now. Got another one planned for Thursday night. Anyway, the one I'm seeing today is mad chill and down to Earth as hell. I am genuinley excited about this one

 

[MarkMan]

2010 was weird for me.

I'm 28 years old. I had a kid when I was 19(proud father btw, I'm single and my daughter lives with me). I work all the time and barely have time to myself. I just took a vacation this year (first time in 2 years). Being a family man and a working man gives me almost no time for the ladies. I'm also traveling more than I am at home.

But the last two years... Is the most girls have approached me in my entire life. I don't know what it is. I didn't get any play when I was in high school/college and after I had a kid and had a bad break up with my baby's momma, I didn't want to try my hands at love again.

So yea, 2009 and 2010. Was the most I ever had dates/sex/intimate moments with women, EVER.

WHY!? I didn't change... Is it because I have a good career job and somewhat some kind of 'status' now? Can women smell that kind of stuff?

 

[-PXG-]

2010 was weird for me.

I'm 28 years old. I had a kid when I was 19(proud father btw, I'm single and my daughter lives with me). I work all the time and barely have time to myself. I just took a vacation this year (first time in 2 years). Being a family man and a working man gives me almost no time for the ladies.

But the last two years... Is the most girls have approached me in my entire life. I don't know what it is. I didn't get any play when I was in high school/college and after I had a kid and had a bad break up with my baby's momma, I didn't want to try my hands at love again.

So yea, 2009 and 2010. Was the most I ever had dates/sex/intimate moments with women, EVER.

WHY!? I didn't change... Is it because I have a job and somewhat some kind of 'status' now? Can women smell that kind of stuff?

You said it yourself... Your work is your life. As much as you'd like to devote more time towards yourself and a special lady, the nature of your work and being a parent won't allow it. You simply don't have time for both. There aren't enough hours in a day. Don't ever look at your success or having a daughter as a burden. You're obviously a hard working man and a good father. You have it twisted. Those women aren't good enough for you. But in due time one will come along that be compatible and fit in with your lifestyle.

Oh, and need to pay for VIP advice. I'll accept payment in TEs

 

[Darklord]

So I have a question. I was at a place tonight and there was this fairly hot girl. However, it seemed she was with a guy. For most of the night I was 50/50 on if he was a boyfriend/husband or not(note: The place I was at seemed to be FULL of couples). So what's the go with something like that? Go in anyway and see how it turns out?

Oh and for the record. She was single and the guy was just a friend. Yeah, kinda blew that one.

 

[FormallyMegadrive]

So I have a question. I was at a place tonight and there was this fairly hot girl. However, it seemed she was with a guy. For most of the night I was 50/50 on if he was a boyfriend/husband or not(note: The place I was at seemed to be FULL of couples). So what's the go with something like that? Go in anyway and see how it turns out?

Oh and for the record. She was single and the guy was just a friend. Yeah, kinda blew that one.

Depends, really. You have to read the body language rather than just assume he's a boyfriend or whatever. And really, you could just go for it, except just talk and see if the guy does anything. If he interferes, then you know she's spoken for or she doesn't want to hook up and is using him as her guard for the night.

I had a situation with my girlfriend a few years ago when she was getting hit on by some dude and I just walked up beside her and we both ended up trying to hook him up with chicks.

Just, if the boyfriend gets tense, just agree you'll leave her alone or something.

 

[JasoNsider]

Ugh, I hate you all! Haha :lol Things have been not so smooth sailing on my end as we roll into 2011.

I realized I definitely have a weakness that needs working on - I start missing people a LOT more as I'm away from them. While that seems to align with "absence makes the heart grow fonder", the girls I've been with seem to get the opposite. It really does feel like if there's time separating us they will slowly forget about me. The frustrating part is really that my condition is completely inverse to theirs.

 

[JasoNsider]

So I have a question. I was at a place tonight and there was this fairly hot girl. However, it seemed she was with a guy. For most of the night I was 50/50 on if he was a boyfriend/husband or not(note: The place I was at seemed to be FULL of couples). So what's the go with something like that? Go in anyway and see how it turns out?

Oh and for the record. She was single and the guy was just a friend. Yeah, kinda blew that one.

Often times you gotta read the introduction well. However, if you find yourself in a one-on-one conversation don't hesitate to start a dialog about it. "So, what do you and your boyfriend do?....oh, he's not your boyfriend? Sorry, my bad." Seriously, I've had girls slip in the pseudo questions about marital status before and some are even pros at it so you'd ALMOST never know they're juicing you

 

[Kccitystar]

OK, so this fucking slimeball piece of shit "friend" called me yesterday and thought he was doing an honorable thing by telling me he's talking to my ex-GF and that it just "happened", because we technically were not together at the time and they started hanging out, etc.

Then I started connecting the dots. In times of strife between the ex and I, while my friends were murmuring about me just breaking up with her, he was the only one very adamant about it and telling me, "if she doesn't want to be with you, she just doesn't want to be with you, you just have to move on, etc."

So, I know now that when friends urge you to break up with your girlfriend instead of urging you to resolve your differences with her or whatever, most of the time they're the ones that are suggesting to do so because they want to move in on your lady and take your spot. That whole "we just started talking" thing is bullshit to me. I am no longer "friends" with this person as well as the circle of friends I had (him included) because they hid this from me the entire time, as if nobody had the balls to be a true friend and tell me what's going on. Fuck people.

 

[siddx]

Ugh, I hate you all! Haha :lol Things have been not so smooth sailing on my end as we roll into 2011.

I realized I definitely have a weakness that needs working on - I start missing people a LOT more as I'm away from them. While that seems to align with "absence makes the heart grow fonder", the girls I've been with seem to get the opposite. It really does feel like if there's time separating us they will slowly forget about me. The frustrating part is really that my condition is completely inverse to theirs.

Some people fill absence with attention and affection from other places. And while i'm sure some may consider this a sexist generalization, I find that many girls have the emotional attention span of an infant when they are in their early 20's and below. They are like emotional leeches and not having a constant source to feed on will make them find a new source to suck off (hehe). It's not true with every female and im sure some people dont agree but I have found that it has applied in my life more often than not and that almost every girl I've dated who was in her early 20's or younger (and a few that were older as well) were like a puppy who wanted to get pet by the first person to pay attention to her or feed her. And if that person started ignoring her and someone else offered to pay attention, she'd go right ahead and run over to him (or her).

To be fair life is way too short to have your romance tied to someone who is not there all that often.



Also in reference to the concept that two people can do things apart. This is very true and very important in a healthy relationship, but there is one eternal truth: If you care about someone or even just like them, you want to be around them for important events. Birthdays, New Years, Concerts, and so on. If the person who supposedly is into you doesn't want to spend an event like New Years with you, she or he is gone gone gone.

 

[PoliceCop]

So...I'm supposed to be having sex with this gorgeous model but I chaffed my dick beating off after our last date. I need a new penis. Help me GAF.

 

[Cuban Legend]

use a finer grit sandpaper?

seriously: use some moisturizing lotion/baby oil before you jerk it to lessen the chaffing

 

[siddx]

use a finer grit sandpaper?

seriously: use some moisturizing lotion/baby oil before you jerk it to lessen the chaffing

You're a nice guy to try and answer him but he's trollin trollin trollin. Just ignore him.

 

[PoliceCop]

My penis begs to differ, sid.

 

[Dragon]

Ugh. I've only been dating this girl three weeks, and over the last three days she's been acting completely different. Not responding to texts, not seeming really interested in the conversation when she does respond, and resisting going out with me. I'm assuming she's dating someone else.

So I guess I'm just gonna stop talking to her, ball is in her court, I'm not going to beg for her to go out with me, just frustrating.

 

[Cuban Legend]

Well, with all due seriousness then, unless your hand is like sandpaper then try not to jerk it with any sort of abrasive material (socks, etc) also moisturize before/during/after jerking it i suppose would help against chaffing...

I can't say for sure, never chaffed gunther before

 

[PoliceCop]

It was the sock that rocked me, and I'll never go back to her again, but I need a miracle cure.

 

[siddx]

Ugh. I've only been dating this girl three weeks, and over the last three days she's been acting completely different. Not responding to texts, not seeming really interested in the conversation when she does respond, and resisting going out with me. I'm assuming she's dating someone else.

So I guess I'm just gonna stop talking to her, ball is in her court, I'm not going to beg for her to go out with me, just frustrating.

Yeah thats likely the case, sorry. But good on you for recognizing it instead of spazing out and having an emotional breakdown through text with her like many other gaffers would have done

If and when she eventually texts you to ask why you are ignoring her, dont give in the temptation to be A. rude B. act like a spurned lover.
Be polite and to the point. "You made it clear you were no longer interested so I turned my attention elsewhere, no hard feelings though, I wish you the best."
Or if you want to be a dick (which is way funner)
"I don't have time for bullshit whores who play games. Stop fucking texting me."

That second one might actually get you laid if she's the crazy type lol.

 

[Cuban Legend]

It was the sock that rocked me, and I'll never go back to her again, but I need a miracle cure.

It's a sensitive area of skin, Curing it with a miracle probably isn't possible. Speeding up it's healing is though.

 

[hellclerk]

It was the sock that rocked me, and I'll never go back to her again, but I need a miracle cure.

Assuming you're not trolling, medicated body powder. It won't fix you instantly, but keep in on your junk all day and things should get better eventually, possibly better enough by the end of the night. If you're wearing a rubber, you should be fine.

 

[PoliceCop]

Thanks for the tips. Should I be moisturizing or drying?

 

[Dragon]

Yeah thats likely the case, sorry. But good on you for recognizing it instead of spazing out and having an emotional breakdown through text with her like many other gaffers would have done

If and when she eventually texts you to ask why you are ignoring her, dont give in the temptation to be A. rude B. act like a spurned lover.
Be polite and to the point. "You made it clear you were no longer interested so I turned my attention elsewhere, no hard feelings though, I wish you the best."
Or if you want to be a dick (which is way funner)
"I don't have time for bullshit whores who play games. Stop fucking texting me."

That second one might actually get you laid if she's the crazy type lol.

Yeah it's just weird. Everytime we've hung out we've had a great time together. Makes me scratch my head and try to figure out what went wrong.

Thanks for the advice. Good thing I go back to work tomorrow. And there's football today. I need to start doing something. There's rec kickball leagues that a bunch of my exes are in. Maybe I'll check those out :lol

 

[Burai]

2010 was weird for me.

I'm 28 years old. I had a kid when I was 19(proud father btw, I'm single and my daughter lives with me). I work all the time and barely have time to myself. I just took a vacation this year (first time in 2 years). Being a family man and a working man gives me almost no time for the ladies. I'm also traveling more than I am at home.

But the last two years... Is the most girls have approached me in my entire life. I don't know what it is. I didn't get any play when I was in high school/college and after I had a kid and had a bad break up with my baby's momma, I didn't want to try my hands at love again.

So yea, 2009 and 2010. Was the most I ever had dates/sex/intimate moments with women, EVER.

WHY!? I didn't change... Is it because I have a good career job and somewhat some kind of 'status' now? Can women smell that kind of stuff?

It's because you're getting older and as you get older the things that women of a similar age value in a man change. The body clock is now ticking! To a 20 year old girl, a guy with a young daughter and a serious career isn't going to be any fun. To a 28 year old (who's looking to settle down soon and have her own kids) you're an experienced father who'll be able to raise her children too and you've made a serious investment in your career that will support you and your family.

My 20s were a nightmare for dating but as I enter my thirties (I'm 29 now so nearly there), I'm finding the women are getting better. All the things that they found boring about me - hard-working, sensible, clever - are decent attributes to have now.

Funnily enough, I'm now seeing a girl I've known for three years who's 25 and has an 18 month old daughter. She friendzoned me from the outset and, to be honest, there was no way I was ever going to date someone with a kid a couple of years back. I didn't want that responsibility.

But as I'm now at the stage where I want kids of my own soon, it's not really a bother for me now. And for her, she was getting fed up of going clubbing every now and again (when she could find a sitter), finding a guy who'd tell her everything she'd want to hear to get her in bed and have him never call her back because they didn't *really* want a single mum.

When you see us, we don't seem to make much sense on the surface. She's stunningly beautiful with the body of a model and I'm a skinny geek, but we've both matured to the point where we've grown into and we're perfect for each other.

 

[MarkMan]

I forgot to mention.. All the girls I've been dating/messing around with are in their early 20s >.<

 

[HappyBivouac]

With the girls that regularly show up in photos in your thread, I seriously hope you're not complaining. It almost seems like you are.:lol

It's probably a mix of what burai said, and simply that after a little while of avoiding love, you're now sending out vibes that you're back in the game again or something like that.

 

[Burai]

It still works for you though. Women value maturity no matter what their age. You probably won't get past fooling around, but you seem happy enough with that! :lol

 

[soultron]

I asked in my last post above, but here we go again: what do you guys think the best way of asking a girl from a bar or party to come home with you? Direct? Covert like, "wanna come back to my place for some movies?" Haha I'm totally clueless about this and it would've helped me on NYE.

 

[Xun]

Ok GAF, wee bit of advice needed here.

So I'm out at this bar last night watching a friends band, ringing in the new year with a load of friends. So all evening I'm flirting with this girl and she is pretty hardcore flirty with me, kept grabbing my hand and all that jazz. So then at about half 12 a few of us got a taxi to a club. She swapped seats in the taxi so she would be beside me. We were holding hands at this stage now too.

So one of our friends starts cracking jokes about we are definitely hooking up that night. Then all our other friends start too. There's 7 of us in the taxi, so we have 10 minutes of 5 people taking the piss about how its a fact we are getting together. I laughed it off, but she kept quiet the whole time.

So we get to the club and she just... disappears. Barely saw her for the rest of the night. Any time I did she was surrounded by her female friends. I would have just gone over but some old friends of mine that I didnt know were in town had come out so I was spending time with them.

So what happened? Did she get nervous because our friends were joking about it? Was she worried I thought I was definitely gunna be getting some? That I'd think her easy of something?

She texted me this morning but I was groggy and wasn't being very talkative and she stopped replying. Did I fuck up there? I'm thinking I wont talk to her again until I finish work tomorrow.

Any insight?

Your friends sound like dicks!

Keep us posted.

 

[Burai]

I asked in my last post above, but here we go again: what do you guys think the best way of asking a girl from a bar or party to come home with you? Direct? Covert like, "wanna come back to my place for some movies?" Haha I'm totally clueless about this and it would've helped me on NYE.

Depends. If you just want to bang her tonight and never see her again, then you might as well just ask her back to yours. If she reacts in horror, throws a drink in your face and runs off crying then it was never going to happen anyway.

But if you want to actually date her, then there's probably no real harm in not taking her home right now. You'll have plenty of opportunity for that later anyway. If she really wants to come home with you, it'll probably end up happening anyway. You'll know when to ask because you'll both be all over each other.

In your case on NYE, she was NEVER, EVER going to abandon her friend. Her friend took her out of the mood and she was never coming back. I wouldn't take it personally. Events just sometimes transpire against you.