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[Aesius]

Mhmmm. Planning the second one for Wednesday or Saturday.

This makes me realize that I haven't gone on an actual "first" date in years. Every girl I've dated/messed around with in the past 3 years has been a drinking buddy first. I actually hate traditional dates - especially if I haven't been physical with the girl yet or gotten drunk with her :lol

 

[twilitesparklemotion]

Never date 19 year olds.

They have too much energy but not enough technique in bed
They whine and bitch and moan constantly
They are flaky as fuck
They are dumb as fuck
They are boring as fuck
They can't hold a conversation unless its about the most meaningless trivial bullshit in the world like juicy fucking couture or the latest lady gaga song
What they are doing, thinking, feeling, knowing, learning, being, and wanting changes on a second to second basis in such drastic ways that it's like dating a mental patient with multiple personality disorder.

Fuck them if you can only because I believe in having a wide range of sexual experiences but never ever ever date one.

Being 20, I love this post.

 

[Ranger X]

:lol Never saw that thread before. The basis is actually there. Great op.

Now we need some more advanced guides:

- How to get a secret lover during marriage.
- How to get back in the dating realm after years of stable relationship.
- How to detect your girl is cheating.

 

[-PXG-]

:lol Never saw that thread before. The basis is actually there. Great op.

Now we need some more advanced guides:

- How to get a secret lover during marriage.
- How to get back in the dating realm after years of stable relationship.
- How to detect your girl is cheating.

Thanks to GAF and Enco for compiling all the info. I just pasted it in the OP. So very little credit goes to me.

 

[grap3fruitman]

So I went out with my cousin and her friends for New Year's Eve. We pre-gamed at a hotel but I was sobering up by the time we got to the bar. That factored in with all the happy couples made me extremely depressed. And then... my cousin finds a cute girl complaining about her boyfriend in the bathroom and offers to introduce her to me. She bites and it gets awkward because I'm sober as shit and have no clue what to do. Great job, grap3. Saw her outside afterward when everyone was trying to get a cab and it was even more awkward, haha. Sigh... forever alone.

Edit: I really did put a lot of effort into putting together a nice outfit for the hope that I'd meet someone that night. =(

 

[HappyBivouac]

Can someone explain "shorty" to me?

 

[-PXG-]

Can someone explain "shorty" to me?

girl/ girlfriend.

I prefer wifey. I love calling my girls that for some reason, as ignorant and ghetto as it sounds. :lol

 

[siddx]

So I went out with my cousin and her friends for New Year's Eve. We pre-gamed at a hotel but I was sobering up by the time we got to the bar. That factored in with all the happy couples made me extremely depressed. And then... my cousin finds a cute girl complaining about her boyfriend in the bathroom and offers to introduce her to me. She bites and it gets awkward because I'm sober as shit and have no clue what to do. Great job, grap3. Saw her outside afterward when everyone was trying to get a cab and it was even more awkward, haha. Sigh... forever alone.

Edit: I really did put a lot of effort into putting together a nice outfit for the hope that I'd meet someone that night. =(

Pretend that every girl you talk to is Hitler with a nice pair of tits. It will change the entire way you interact with them and get you laid. If you want a real relationship I don't recommend this though.





Full disclosure I am drunk and exhausted and about to pass out so I am not sure how good my advice is right now

 

[HappyBivouac]

girl/ girlfriend.

I prefer wifey. I love calling my girls that for some reason, as ignorant and ghetto as it sounds. :lol

It's not that I don't know what it means. It's that I've always thought it sounded really terrible and I want to know its origins.

 

[-PXG-]

Pretend that every girl you talk to is Hitler with a nice pair of tits. It will change the entire way you interact with them and get you laid. If you want a real relationship I don't recommend this though.





Full disclosure I am drunk and exhausted and about to pass out so I am not sure how good my advice is right now

Eh, you're fine.

 

[Ether_Snake]

Can someone explain "shorty" to me?

It's the use of a diminutive to make a girl feel inferior to your superiorness.

 

[-PXG-]

It's not that I don't know what it means. It's that I've always thought it sounded really terrible and I want to know its origins.

Originally, it was a term used for people who were younger than you (say school, work or in a gang) or people new to some kind of peer group. But for some reason, that is beyond me, people started using it for women, girlfriends or some kind of female significant other. I guess, typically, women are shorter than men, so you calling them "shorty" makes sense.

But those are the origins, or at least the ones I know.

 

[HappyBivouac]

It's the use of a diminutive to make a girl feel inferior to your superiorness.

This is what I figured.

 

[GiJoccin]

I've been on 2 dates with this girl. She seems really into me, and I like her, but she has been talking a lot about exes. I even told her after our first date, when she started to talk about her exes, that what's done is done and I don't usually talk about exes early on... but sure enough 2nd date and she starts talking about them again. The thing is, she talked about them in a joking way as in like... funny sex stories - and mostly she was asking me about mine. I know talking about exes is a red flag - but is it all right if it's not talking about feelings, and just joking?

 

[SRG01]

I've been on 2 dates with this girl. She seems really into me, and I like her, but she has been talking a lot about exes. I even told her after our first date, when she started to talk about her exes, that what's done is done and I don't usually talk about exes early on... but sure enough 2nd date and she starts talking about them again. The thing is, she talked about them in a joking way as in like... funny sex stories - and mostly she was asking me about mine. I know talking about exes is a red flag - but is it all right if it's not talking about feelings, and just joking?

Sometimes conversation is just conversation. Just see where the third date goes.

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

So I went out with my cousin and her friends for New Year's Eve. We pre-gamed at a hotel but I was sobering up by the time we got to the bar. That factored in with all the happy couples made me extremely depressed. And then... my cousin finds a cute girl complaining about her boyfriend in the bathroom and offers to introduce her to me. She bites and it gets awkward because I'm sober as shit and have no clue what to do. Great job, grap3. Saw her outside afterward when everyone was trying to get a cab and it was even more awkward, haha. Sigh... forever alone.

Edit: I really did put a lot of effort into putting together a nice outfit for the hope that I'd meet someone that night. =(

At least it's progress.

 

[Mr.Squirrel]

It's the use of a diminutive to make a girl feel inferior to your superiorness.

This is what I figured.

:lol where the fuck do you guys come up with this bullshit @>@? Shorty just means a female. Shorty, wife, your wiz, etc....NO ONE takes being called shorty as an insult, and no one uses that word in a negative way.

you guys can't be that damn corny can you?

 

[Burai]

I've been on 2 dates with this girl. She seems really into me, and I like her, but she has been talking a lot about exes. I even told her after our first date, when she started to talk about her exes, that what's done is done and I don't usually talk about exes early on... but sure enough 2nd date and she starts talking about them again. The thing is, she talked about them in a joking way as in like... funny sex stories - and mostly she was asking me about mine. I know talking about exes is a red flag - but is it all right if it's not talking about feelings, and just joking?

The red flag to look for is talking about a specific ex all the time and with a reverence. That means she's on the rebound and would get back together with them at the drop of a hat. That flag doesn't appear to be waving here.

What you have just sounds like general banter and, if they are stories about sex, then all the better. It means that she's comfortable talking about it with you which means that you'll probably end up in bed sooner rather than later.

Often if you go from relationship to relationship, the only interesting stories someone might have is about exes and what they did with them recreationally. I don't think you have anything to worry about here.

 

[HappyBivouac]

:lol where the fuck do you guys come up with this bullshit @>@? Shorty just means a female. Shorty, wife, your wiz, etc....NO ONE takes being called shorty as an insult, and no one uses that word in a negative way.

you guys can't be that damn corny can you?

I just meant it seems like that's the likely origin. It's just like the old debate about black people using the n-word in a brotherly/friendly manner. The n-word has been adopted from a word that was formerly just condescending and offensive, and the use of "shorty" to refer to a woman is adopted from a term originally used to refer to someone below you in whatever hierarchy. Though I did say it sounds terrible, I didn't mean it as a personal attack on anyone's character.

 

[SephCast]

2010 was a great year for me. I've talked about my quarterly goals system, but I figured I could plug it again.

I always had a problem with getting things done and actually trying to change my life. Last year, I switched up my New Years Resolutions and switched to a quarterly goal system. I know this sounds really square and business like, but it actually worked out for me. I found 5 realistic goals and set them. I successfully completed 4 out of the 5, with the last being weight loss, which I only missed by a pound. After a full year of realistic goals for each quarter, I ended up going out with a couple different girls, finding myself a steady girlfriend, and finding a lot of new friends in the process.

Just go out there and try to change yourself into the person you want to be, but do it realistically. For example, my Q4 goals were:

1. Volunteer 1 time
2. Go to an Ethiopian Restaurant
3. Get weight down to 157
4. Go to [Local Restaurant that I've wanted to try]
5. Finish Sopranos DVDs
6. Go Ice Skating
7. Watch Dexter Season 1
8. Catch up on Futurama
9. Eat Italian Food
10. Eat Chik Fil A
11. Get roommate to go out on a date with a girl
12. Go to an NBA game in October, November, December
13. Buy 2 new dress shirts
14. Get a new video card
15. Get to work early 10 times
16. Finish A Clash of Kings

I'm telling you guys, the quarterly system changed my life.

 

[hellclerk]

HAHA! Oh lord, I can't stop laughing, and that's a problem because my bro's trying to sleep. I got an email from OKC. Apparently, I'm attractive now. I don't deny this, I know I'm not ugly, but to get an email that announces [my face] = good looking is probably the highlight of my night. :lol

 

[woodchuck]

2010 was a great year for me. I've talked about my quarterly goals system, but I figured I could plug it again.

I always had a problem with getting things done and actually trying to change my life. Last year, I switched up my New Years Resolutions and switched to a quarterly goal system. I know this sounds really square and business like, but it actually worked out for me. I found 5 realistic goals and set them. I successfully completed 4 out of the 5, with the last being weight loss, which I only missed by a pound. After a full year of realistic goals for each quarter, I ended up going out with a couple different girls, finding myself a steady girlfriend, and finding a lot of new friends in the process.

Just go out there and try to change yourself into the person you want to be, but do it realistically. For example, my Q4 goals were:

1. Volunteer 1 time
2. Go to an Ethiopian Restaurant
3. Get weight down to 157
4. Go to [Local Restaurant that I've wanted to try]
5. Finish Sopranos DVDs
6. Go Ice Skating
7. Watch Dexter Season 1
8. Catch up on Futurama
9. Eat Italian Food
10. Eat Chik Fil A
11. Get roommate to go out on a date with a girl
12. Go to an NBA game in October, November, December
13. Buy 2 new dress shirts
14. Get a new video card
15. Get to work early 10 times
16. Finish A Clash of Kings

I'm telling you guys, the quarterly system changed my life.

This is good shit. I'm going to start doing this

 

[Solideliquid]

HAHA! Oh lord, I can't stop laughing, and that's a problem because my bro's trying to sleep. I got an email from OKC. Apparently, I'm attractive now. I don't deny this, I know I'm not ugly, but to get an email that announces [my face] = good looking is probably the highlight of my night. :lol

Isn't that automated?

On another note, IRL a co-worker a few days ago was chatting me up and she and I were talking for a good while. Finally she brings up this movie she wants to see. I tell her I really want to see it as well and I can't get anyone to go with me to see it. So she looks up at me and says "well, let me give you my number, call me when you get off work sometime next week and we will go".

Instant first date? Or just a friendly invite?

 

[SephCast]

This is good shit. I'm going to start doing this

It seriously has changed my life. Start simple with things like going to a restaurant you've always wanted to try or seeing a movie that you wanted to see.

 

[Burai]

2010 was a great year for me. I've talked about my quarterly goals system, but I figured I could plug it again.

I always had a problem with getting things done and actually trying to change my life. Last year, I switched up my New Years Resolutions and switched to a quarterly goal system. I know this sounds really square and business like, but it actually worked out for me. I found 5 realistic goals and set them. I successfully completed 4 out of the 5, with the last being weight loss, which I only missed by a pound. After a full year of realistic goals for each quarter, I ended up going out with a couple different girls, finding myself a steady girlfriend, and finding a lot of new friends in the process.

Just go out there and try to change yourself into the person you want to be, but do it realistically. For example, my Q4 goals were:

1. Volunteer 1 time
2. Go to an Ethiopian Restaurant
3. Get weight down to 157
4. Go to [Local Restaurant that I've wanted to try]
5. Finish Sopranos DVDs
6. Go Ice Skating
7. Watch Dexter Season 1
8. Catch up on Futurama
9. Eat Italian Food
10. Eat Chik Fil A
11. Get roommate to go out on a date with a girl
12. Go to an NBA game in October, November, December
13. Buy 2 new dress shirts
14. Get a new video card
15. Get to work early 10 times
16. Finish A Clash of Kings

I'm telling you guys, the quarterly system changed my life.

It's a good way to achieve things. Most resolutions fail because;

A) If it were that important to you, you'd already be doing it without having to wait til January. Decide to join the gym on October 31st? Sign up November 1st.
B) You feel like crap on Jan 1st after the partying and overindulgence of the week and night before so your motivation and energy will be gone before you even start.
C) Most people set unrealistic goals which are either out of their hands, vague or untrackable.

Your system is good because it's realistic in terms of goals and timescales and has plenty of treat tasks as well as hard work.

There was an article I read yesterday that comes to similar conclusions that you have. It's worth a read for anyone attempting to change their life in 2011:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/2011/jan/01/how-to-better-person-2011

 

[mj1108]

2010 was a great year for me. I've talked about my quarterly goals system, but I figured I could plug it again.

I always had a problem with getting things done and actually trying to change my life. Last year, I switched up my New Years Resolutions and switched to a quarterly goal system. I know this sounds really square and business like, but it actually worked out for me. I found 5 realistic goals and set them. I successfully completed 4 out of the 5, with the last being weight loss, which I only missed by a pound. After a full year of realistic goals for each quarter, I ended up going out with a couple different girls, finding myself a steady girlfriend, and finding a lot of new friends in the process.

Just go out there and try to change yourself into the person you want to be, but do it realistically. For example, my Q4 goals were:

1. Volunteer 1 time
2. Go to an Ethiopian Restaurant
3. Get weight down to 157
4. Go to [Local Restaurant that I've wanted to try]
5. Finish Sopranos DVDs
6. Go Ice Skating
7. Watch Dexter Season 1
8. Catch up on Futurama
9. Eat Italian Food
10. Eat Chik Fil A
11. Get roommate to go out on a date with a girl
12. Go to an NBA game in October, November, December
13. Buy 2 new dress shirts
14. Get a new video card
15. Get to work early 10 times
16. Finish A Clash of Kings

I'm telling you guys, the quarterly system changed my life.

Damn, now this is a great idea.

 

[CrushDance]

So I went to a party tonight for our company. Concise.

Drank a little
Danced
Chatted
Bought her a drink when she came in
Didn't suffocate her right away
Chilled for a while
Chatted her up
Danced
Drank a little
Asked her to dance
She said no
I backed off
Danced some more
She came over as everyone watched me dance
I didn't ask her to dance when she was there
She went back to her friends
I danced some more
Drank some more
Gave her a hug
Came home

So there it is. Now I'm not sure what's going on anymore. And before you guys ask, I did ask her out the next day after our GAF talk and she said she'd like to but due to the holidays we held off on it. I thought tonight would be easy but didn't want to pressure her at a company party and played it easy. I'm guessing she was shy or something because yesterday we flirted like mad. But I have a feeling that things may have gone wrong somewhere.

Oh well. I'll try one last time to get her out this week and then move on.

 

[Eggo]

No. If she likes me, REALLY likes me. She'll stay.

So, how's that working out for you?

 

[The Elite]

Pretend that every girl you talk to is Hitler with a nice pair of tits. It will change the entire way you interact with them and get you laid. If you want a real relationship I don't recommend this though.





Full disclosure I am drunk and exhausted and about to pass out so I am not sure how good my advice is right now

Interesting advice. Will it hold up when you are sober though?
:lol

 

[The Elite]

2010 was a great year for me. I've talked about my quarterly goals system, but I figured I could plug it again.

I always had a problem with getting things done and actually trying to change my life. Last year, I switched up my New Years Resolutions and switched to a quarterly goal system. I know this sounds really square and business like, but it actually worked out for me. I found 5 realistic goals and set them. I successfully completed 4 out of the 5, with the last being weight loss, which I only missed by a pound. After a full year of realistic goals for each quarter, I ended up going out with a couple different girls, finding myself a steady girlfriend, and finding a lot of new friends in the process.

Just go out there and try to change yourself into the person you want to be, but do it realistically. For example, my Q4 goals were:

1. Volunteer 1 time
2. Go to an Ethiopian Restaurant
3. Get weight down to 157
4. Go to [Local Restaurant that I've wanted to try]
5. Finish Sopranos DVDs
6. Go Ice Skating
7. Watch Dexter Season 1
8. Catch up on Futurama
9. Eat Italian Food
10. Eat Chik Fil A
11. Get roommate to go out on a date with a girl
12. Go to an NBA game in October, November, December
13. Buy 2 new dress shirts
14. Get a new video card
15. Get to work early 10 times
16. Finish A Clash of Kings

I'm telling you guys, the quarterly system changed my life.

Need to put together a list like this. Good stuff.

 

[Mecha_Infantry]

Sooooo..

I need to move outta the house with my mum at the minute. Problem is I'm doing my masters and working full-time and money is literally falling out of my pockets right now.

The girl I'm banging wants to come to mine and it seems as if I can't get an empty house for the night...FML

 

[grap3fruitman]

At least it's progress.

How's that progress?

 

[Danielsan]

How's that progress?

You got out and met a new girl. She showed interest. That isn't progress? Even if it's little steps at a time, it's still a good thing.

Last two weeks have been somewhat difficult for me. My... well, what may or may not be my girlfriend was extremely busy with work and parent troubles. Didn't get to see her since the 20th. We maintained contact every day though. The whole ordeal really left me confused and somewhat insecure. However today she woke me up with a text saying that she is in love with me, we chatted for a bit at 7 in the morning and things feel right again. Hopefully I will be going to her place (not her parents') tonight.

Meanwhile the previous girl is considerably pissed with me. She contacted me the day before New Years asking me if I wanted to help her out with her English CV and a letter of application. Considering she was also going to join me, my friends and her friends during New Years I figured I'd do the right thing and help her out to the best of my capabilities. So I dropped by at her place right as her parents were outside and ready to leave to do grocery shopping. Long story short: I ended up looking like a bit of a rude dick due to the fact that I forgot to introduce myself properly when they got back. It slipped my mind, shit happens. She also found out about my current girl, but I didn't feel it was right to go into that whole ordeal with her.

During New Years things also got a bit strange as I kinda got the notion that, at the one hand she was pissed at me for my behaviour the day before, and on the other hand she seemed jealous and angry with me about the new girl. That night I may also have jokingly made some poor remarks in my drunken state regarding a ex-coworker of hers. I felt bad and send her an email to apologize for any poor remarks or behaviour yesterday. Well I just got back the snarkiest of snarky emails. Guess there goes any hope of remaining "just friends" with her. Kind of sucks because she is one of the best friends of my best friend's girlfriend and she can be fun to hang with. Ooh well.

 

[Slo]

Since people have been recommending it in this thread, I went and created myself an OkCupid profile. There's still a couple of sections that I'm not sure what to put in yet, but I like very much that their Match Questions mostly seem to be questions that I can actually answer. That's always been one of the major problems I've spotted when I've looked at other online dating sites - I've never dated or had a relationship before so there's a lot of questions I don't know the answer to.

My honest first impression of your profile is "I'm a computer tech who likes computers, the internet, surfing the internet on computers, talking about computers, talking about the internet, and talking about computers on the internet." It gives me the impression that you're looking for someone to surf arstechnica with you.

Maybe put a little more variety in your profile, emphasize that you like going to see moves with your friends. Don't hide that you like computers etc, but emphasize that you're a fun person to be around who does more than just giggle at memes online all day.

Please don't take offense, I'm just trying to help.

 

[Danj]

Make sure to answer a lot more questions. My highest match percentage is apparently 99% but I've never met anyone higher than 95%. I've got along with the women I've met with just fine (only met a couple and I started in December) but neither has developed until anything more yet. But, considering I started about a week into December, having two dates isn't a terrible start. Especially over the holidays.

More questions? I already answered like 341 of them.. that's not enough? Or is it that I'm not answering enough of the right kind of questions?

EDIT: I'm a 79% match with you.

That's weird, why would it say that? Unless you're a girl? I'm pretty sure I told it I was a straight male looking for women...

 

[The Elite]

More questions? I already answered like 341 of them.. that's not enough? Or is it that I'm not answering enough of the right kind of questions?



That's weird, why would it say that? Unless you're a girl? I'm pretty sure I told it I was a straight male looking for women...

No, I'm a guy, but if a guy looks at your profile it still gives you a match %.

:lol

I have about 750 questions answered. I would think around 341 would be enough but it may require more to narrow down who you're best compatible with.

 

[Danj]

My honest first impression of your profile is "I'm a computer tech who likes computers, the internet, surfing the internet on computers, talking about computers, talking about the internet, and talking about computers on the internet." It gives me the impression that you're looking for someone to surf arstechnica with you.

Maybe put a little more variety in your profile, emphasize that you like going to see moves with your friends. Don't hide that you like computers etc, but emphasize that you're a fun person to be around who does more than just giggle at memes online all day.

Please don't take offense, I'm just trying to help.

Really? I only put like one line about computers and the internet in there, whereas there's more about movies and books and stuff. What parts would you suggest need changing?

 

[Slo]

Really? I only put like one line about computers and the internet in there, whereas there's more about movies and books and stuff. What parts would you suggest need changing?

It's just really prevalent is all. What do you do? Computers. What are you good at? Computers. And the Internet. What could you not live without? Computers and the Internet.

Maybe put some of your other interests under "things I'm good at." Maybe reorder the "things I couldn't live without" section so that your computer isn't the first item.

And just my personal opinion, but I'd rewrite the What I'm Doing section to sound more optimistic and positive. Downplay that you don't have many friends and just moved out of your parents house, and instead say how excited you are to finally be in Cambridge, how there's a lot of opportunity there, how you came here because you got a great job offer, how you're pumped to meet new people. Say how you're excited to try new things and new places. In short: don't sound like Eeyore.

 

[GiJoccin]

Last two weeks have been somewhat difficult for me. My... well, what may or may not be my girlfriend was extremely busy with work and parent troubles. Didn't get to see her since the 20th. We maintained contact every day though. The whole ordeal really left me confused and somewhat insecure. However today she woke me up with a text saying that she is in love with me, we chatted for a bit at 7 in the morning and things feel right again. Hopefully I will be going to her place (not her parents') tonight.

the new girl sounds like she's a craaaaazy one... and you sound like a really nice guy - don't over think things

 

[Danj]

It's just really prevalent is all. What do you do? Computers. What are you good at? Computers. And the Internet. What could you not live without? Computers and the Internet.

Maybe put some of your other interests under "things I'm good at." Maybe reorder the "things I couldn't live without" section so that your computer isn't the first item.

Yeah that's a bit of a problem... I don't have a huge amount of other interests...

And just my personal opinion, but I'd rewrite the What I'm Doing section to sound more optimistic and positive. Downplay that you don't have many friends and just moved out of your parents house, and instead say how excited you are to finally be in Cambridge, how there's a lot of opportunity there, how you came here because you got a great job offer, how you're pumped to meet new people. Say how you're excited to try new things and new places. In short: don't sound like Eeyore.

OK, I've changed this bit a little, please have another look and let me know what you think?

 

[Danielsan]

the new girl sounds like she's a craaaaazy one... and you sound like a really nice guy - don't over think things

Yeah I detect some hints of crazy as well. She can be really sweet though and I care about her. It's just that sometimes and I can't a handle on what she wants. I try not to over think things anymore, still it's a natural trait of mine. :/

 

[Dragon]

Update on the girl I've been dating for the past month, she texted me today just asking me how I was doing and if I was still going to the Bobcats game tonight. Perhaps she just wanted some space? She just seemed like a different person over the past couple of days, wondering what's going on. I suppose it's a good sign I got the text though. Not contacting her over the past few days seems to have paid off.

 

[siddx]

Interesting advice. Will it hold up when you are sober though?
:lol

I am now sober and....hmmm yeah I still think it could work :lol

 

[Slayer-33]

Yeah I detect some hints of crazy as well. She can be really sweet though and I care about her. It's just that sometimes and I can't a handle on what she wants. I try not to over think things anymore, still it's a natural trait of mine. :/

:lol

 

[The Elite]

I am now sober and....hmmm yeah I still think it could work :lol

Hitler with boobs it is for my next date then. I'll give it a shot.

:lol

 

[siddx]

Update on the girl I've been dating for the past month, she texted me today just asking me how I was doing and if I was still going to the Bobcats game tonight. Perhaps she just wanted some space? She just seemed like a different person over the past couple of days, wondering what's going on. I suppose it's a good sign I got the text though. Not contacting her over the past few days seems to have paid off.

It's not hard to send a text. Even if someone is busy during the day, it takes 10 seconds to write "hey having a crazy busy day, ill text you when things calm down!" And if someone likes you, they will go out of their way to let you know they aren't ignoring you, just busy.

Outside of odd circumstances like getting multiple texts at once and missing one, I never ignore texts for more than a few hours or a day at most unless I am purposefully trying to push that person away from me.

If I had to bet I'd say the ignoring her thing has peeked her curiosity at why you aren't pestering her with texts or calling her.


Worst case scenario : She is fucking someone else and wants to keep you in the loop as someone who will pine over her and make her feel good.

Middle case scenario: She isn't really feeling you that much anymore but is intrigued by why you didn't react to her ignoring you.

Best case scenario: She is just one of those people who genuinely needs her alone time and it wasn't personal at all and she isn't playing hide the tip with anyone else. Still shitty though, text a motherfucker, it doesn't take more than a few seconds bitch.

See how your next face to face interaction goes. Play it cool.

 

[CrushDance]

So, how's that working out for you?

What are you getting at? I asked her out the day after the milkshake thing.

 

[-PXG-]

What are you getting at? I asked her out the day after the milkshake thing.

Is this the girl from a few weeks ago who made it blatantly obvious that she's into you?

 

[duk]

Update on the girl I've been dating for the past month, she texted me today just asking me how I was doing and if I was still going to the Bobcats game tonight. Perhaps she just wanted some space? She just seemed like a different person over the past couple of days, wondering what's going on. I suppose it's a good sign I got the text though. Not contacting her over the past few days seems to have paid off.

Rule #1: never give the girl the attention she wants

 

[Dragon]

It's not hard to send a text. Even if someone is busy during the day, it takes 10 seconds to write "hey having a crazy busy day, ill text you when things calm down!" And if someone likes you, they will go out of their way to let you know they aren't ignoring you, just busy.

Outside of odd circumstances like getting multiple texts at once and missing one, I never ignore texts for more than a few hours or a day at most unless I am purposefully trying to push that person away from me.

If I had to bet I'd say the ignoring her thing has peeked her curiosity at why you aren't pestering her with texts or calling her.


Worst case scenario : She is fucking someone else and wants to keep you in the loop as someone who will pine over her and make her feel good.

Middle case scenario: She isn't really feeling you that much anymore but is intrigued by why you didn't react to her ignoring you.

Best case scenario: She is just one of those people who genuinely needs her alone time and it wasn't personal at all and she isn't playing hide the tip with anyone else. Still shitty though, text a motherfucker, it doesn't take more than a few seconds bitch.

See how your next face to face interaction goes. Play it cool.

Yeah you're right. Ignoring a couple of texts is weird. We talked on texts all morning and then I asked her what she's doing this week and silence :lol Mind you this wasn't hey want to get together as much as just curiosity. No clue with this girl.

Update: She's busy this entire week. I think she's lost interest, otherwise she would have made time.