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[SRG01]

I have experience with getting back with exes. I did so twice. I never will again.

Regardless of success stories you may have heard about exes reuniting, the odds are against you. The vast majority of ex reunions don't work out. You are going to try regardless of what I or anybody else says, just know that the cake always tastes sweeter in your memories than it does in real life. We tend to minimize the negative memories of our past relationships because by nature why would we want to paint all our past experiences in a miserable light? We would rather be able to think of our past endeavors in a way that doesn't make us want to punch ourselves in the face. It's only when we get back with these people that we remember why we didn't work out in the first place.

100%. Unless the reason was something you can "grow out of" or something trivial like going away for college, then do not get back together with your ex.

It took me two things to get me over my ex: enough self-respect to leave a bad relationship, and enough sense to have civil interaction with her. The second part is the most important, as it helps you see that you're missing nothing at all.

 

[MetalGuardian]

Last Friday I went to my 8 am still slightly drunk from my Thirsty Thursday antics. Much to my delight, an adorable new asian girl walked into the class and sat in the empty seat next to me. She mentioned she didn't have her text book yet and said she wished she could study over the three day weekend. I told her she could borrow mine, and she was incredibly appreciative. At the end of class, still feeling good, I asked for her number "in case I had any questions about the assignment."

"Sure!" she said. "And text me so I have your number too!"

I sent her a single text after that to which she responded to, but after that I didn't talk to her until I saw her in class today (didn't want to come off to strong after just meeting her).

We talked a little bit in class today, and damn. She is intelligent (damn asians and their superior intellectual abilities!), incredibly polite, and as I said earlier really cute.

What is the game plan here? I'll be seeing her three times a week in class, and she sits right next to me, but I feel like there is a small window of opportunity to make a move before I'm permanently viewed as just a friendly classmate. At the same time though, asking her out in class would be awkward (lots of people around, putting her on the spot, etc.). Plus if she says no, I will still have another 16 weeks of sitting next to her before the semester is over. I don't want to ask her out over text (that is for pussies!) and calling after only talking to her briefly a couple times might seem too fast. Plus, who knows if she is actually interested or not. She seems really polite and friendly, so there is a good possibility I'm reading too much into our interactions. At the same time, I'll be damned if I let good opportunities pass me right on by without making some sort of effort

Should I just keep trying to talk to her in class and go from there? Or maybe send her a text or two and try to start talking that way? Perhaps write a heroic crown of sonnets?

 

[woodchuck]

After class, ask her if she's hungry. If she wants to grab a bite to eat.

 

[Paper Tiger]

After class, ask her if she's hungry. If she wants to grab a bite to eat.

Bingo. Her response to this will tell you a lot.

 

[Russell]

This is the year I hope to have an intimate experience with a woman. There's no reason why it shouldn't happen.

 

[soultron]

This is the year I hope to have an intimate experience with a woman. There's no reason why it shouldn't happen.

Change your tone if you don't want to come of as a total creep like last time. The only reason it won't happen is you if you let it.

@Mr. Paer: Yeah, you need to make some kind of move to establish that you're interested. To me (and probably to her, too) you're just coming off as a really nice guy. The fact that you got her number doesn't really mean much in this situation. The suggestion to go out to get food is a good one.

 

[Russell]

Change your tone if you don't want to come of as a total creep like last time. The only reason it won't happen is you if you let it.

What the fuck are you talking about?

 

[soultron]

What the fuck are you talking about?

Weren't you the dude who was all like, "It physically hurts me that other men get with women and i don't! I deserve it! They're keeping something from me wahhhh wahhh!"

If you weren't that guy, then great.

If you are, then you've got some major internal work to do.

 

[jon bones]

no, that'ss that guy

russell - work on improving yourself, keep a healthy and positive attitude and work for it. don't be afraid of rejection or failure. try, try again and go get some.

this is assuming that you're a real poster... i think someone else said he was "griefing" us? i don't know what's more sad. russell as a real poster or someone so bored they would make fake posts.

 

[Russell]

Who the fuck are you to tell me I have internal work to do. I don't need to hear that shit. I'm healthy; I'm strong; I'm in better physical shape than most guys my age; I'm not socially inept; I'm funny.

Yeah, I get fucking pissed off at times -- when I think about it. But if you have never experienced what's it's like to experience a genuine, reciprocated, emotional-physical connection with a member of the opposite sex, then you need to shut the fuck up.

I don't like being judged in a negative manner, especially by people who don't know me. Everyone has problems. Some people are better hiding them than others.

Edit:
I've recently made a few friends that I see every weekend. One of them is especially good at making connections with women. I have a feeling this year I will experience what I've always wanted to experience. That's a good thing.

 

[Slo]

Who the fuck are you to tell me I have internal work to do. I don't need to hear that shit. I'm healthy; I'm strong; I'm in better physical shape than most guys my age; I'm not socially inept; I'm funny.

Yeah, I get fucking pissed off at times -- when I think about it. But if you have never experienced what's it's like to experience a genuine, reciprocated, emotional-physical connection with a member of the opposite sex, then you need to shut the fuck up.

I don't like being judged in a negative manner, especially by people who don't know me. Everyone has problems. Some people are better hiding them than others.

I think you should use this as a pick up line.

 

[soultron]

If you're not a joke character, and,

this is me being genuine with zero sarcasm,

you need to see a therapist. Your current outlook is not conducive to interacting with most anyone, let alone females.

 

[Russell]

If you're not a joke character, and,

this is me being genuine with zero sarcasm,

you need to see a therapist. Your current outlook is not conducive to interacting with most anyone, let alone females.

I need to see a therapist? Fuck off. Everyone has problems. I'm only typing this shit being I'm feeling a certain way. 99.8-percent of my waking existence, I don't feel this way.

Edit:
I don't need to see a therapist. I need to make a connection with a woman, not a fucking therapist.

 

[Slo]

I need to see a therapist? Fuck off. Everyone has problems. I'm only typing this shit being I'm feeling a certain way. 99.8-percent of my waking existence, I don't feel this way.

I remember you saying things similar to this last time too. So if I understand you right, most of the time you're an awesome dude, but whenever you're in the mood to be an asshole you log onto GAF and post in this thread?

 

[BobDylan]

Who the fuck are you to tell me I have internal work to do. I don't need to hear that shit. I'm healthy; I'm strong; I'm in better physical shape than most guys my age; I'm not socially inept; I'm funny.

Yeah, I get fucking pissed off at times -- when I think about it. But if you have never experienced what's it's like to experience a genuine, reciprocated, emotional-physical connection with a member of the opposite sex, then you need to shut the fuck up.

I don't like being judged in a negative manner, especially by people who don't know me. Everyone has problems. Some people are better hiding them than others.

Edit:
I've recently made a few friends that I see every weekend. One of them is especially good at making connections with women. I have a feeling this year I will experience what I've always wanted to experience. That's a good thing.

easy docpan jr.

with that said. I recently started seeing this girl. first time I have actually wanted to continue seeing someone after meeting them in about 2 years since my last gf. sure I hooked up with girls and some of them liked me but I never felt the same way about them. we went on our first "date" last night after meeting and hanging out this past weekend. there is a pretty good chance we will officially date in the future. I think the best part though for me is that I really feel good about life right now. I started working out again, getting a new job and just overall being a lot more positive about things. the past few years have been rough due to switching colleges and having to go through some real bullshit with my psycho ex gf. feels like im getting a fresh start to a new chapter in life

 

[TurboLibre]

I thought we came to the conclusion Russell was a joke character.

 

[Timedog]

So the girl I thought was crazy, I scheduled another date again, since GAF thought I was dumb for giving up vag for her being weird. The day of the date she texts me from work, asking if her sister and kids can come along. I was like WHAT THE FUCK!? I told her no, that would be awkward, cause it would be. She said her sister didn't have to come. Anyways, she said she'd pick me up at 715 (I ride a scooter, and there's ice, so it was that or I take the bus). She doesn't show up, and texts me like an hour later and says "I'm at Ale House, come down!". We were supposed to go to dinner at a Pho restaurant, so nothing about that made sense. This is some bullshit so I just don't answer back. I'm NOT into enabling bullshit behavior. And she keeps texting telling me how she wants me to come down. Then later on like the 4th text, she says her and her sister REALLY want to see me. Oh really, your sister that wasn't supposed to come along??? Eventually I respond, and just say "goodnight".

WOMEN ARE INSANE.

 

[Barrage]

Doing the last-minute scramble right now.

I have a lunch date with a girl in about an hour. I asked my buddy to recommend a place to take a vegetarian, and he suggested an Italian place. Turns out it's A DELI INSIDE OF A GROCERY STORE. Can't be bringing my date into that shit.

So now i've gotta find a place while we're walking, AND pretend like I know about it (since I told I had "the perfect place in mind." Ugh, stop drunk texting.)

Should be a good test of my bullshitting skills. Wish me luck.

 

[Russell]

I thought we came to the conclusion Russell was a joke character.

Anyone who thinks I'm a "joke character" can fuck off for all I care.

Making a connection with a woman should be the simplest, most natural thing in the world. I just get so fucking pissed off that I have a problem with it. The only natural "cure" would be for me to make a genuine connection with a woman. Once that's done, a whole world that's been closed off my whole life would suddenly be opened. That's what I need, not no "therapy/counseling" bullshit.

 

[BobDylan]

Anyone who thinks I'm a "joke character" can fuck off for all I care.

Making a connection with a woman should be the simplest, most natural thing in the world. I just get so fucking pissed off that I have a problem with it. The only natural "cure" would be for me to make a genuine connection with a woman. Once that's done, a whole world that's been closed off my whole life would suddenly be opened. That's what I need, not no "therapy/counseling" bullshit.

have you ever made a genuine connection with a woman before?

 

[duk]

someone needs to get laid lol

 

[Mike Works]

Anyone who thinks I'm a "joke character" can fuck off for all I care.

Making a connection with a woman should be the simplest, most natural thing in the world. I just get so fucking pissed off that I have a problem with it. The only natural "cure" would be for me to make a genuine connection with a woman. Once that's done, a whole world that's been closed off my whole life would suddenly be opened. That's what I need, not no "therapy/counseling" bullshit.

Dude, I came home from a long day of work/school yesterday exhausted. My girlfriend had baked me cookies. We made dinner, then sat down on the couch together and watched an episode of one of my favorite shows (Deadwood). After it was over, we went to the bedroom. The day ended with her head lying on my chest, her hair under my nose, and her legs wrapped in mine.

And it felt sooo good.

 

[TurboLibre]

Anyone who thinks I'm a "joke character" can fuck off for all I care.

Then maybe you shouldn't go into a thread about advice and blow up every time they try to give it. So what if therapy isn't your thing? No need to get all butt-hurt about it. Maybe you are a real guy with anger problems but every post you make just reeks of "Joke Character".

If you are clowning all of us, tone it down to get more success out of it. You're being too obvious. If you're a real dude, learn how to talk to other people. Nobody is going to help someone who is constantly an asshole to them.

 

[Chinner]

don't worry russle, you sound like a reasonable guy. if anything it only reinforces that all women are evil and are in cahoots to be big doodoo heads to you.

 

[dskillzhtown]

Anyone who thinks I'm a "joke character" can fuck off for all I care.

Making a connection with a woman should be the simplest, most natural thing in the world. I just get so fucking pissed off that I have a problem with it. The only natural "cure" would be for me to make a genuine connection with a woman. Once that's done, a whole world that's been closed off my whole life would suddenly be opened. That's what I need, not no "therapy/counseling" bullshit.

I think the fact that you are so social inept that you can't make a genuine connection with a woman is why people are suggesting counseling. Your antics on this page hint at some issues. You need to learn how not to RAGE like a lunatic. Maybe it is best you don't get with anyone until you get that under control because in any relationship there are times you aren't the happiest. If you flipping out like this over a fucking post on a message board, not telling how you would react to a woman pissing you off.

 

[BobDylan]

Dude, I came home from a long day of work/school yesterday exhausted. My girlfriend had baked me cookies. We made dinner, then sat down on the couch together and watched an episode of one of my favorite shows (Deadwood). After it was over, we went to the bedroom. The day ended with her head lying on my chest, her hair under my nose, and her legs wrapped in mine.

And it felt sooo good.

fist bump.

 

[JumpJeff84]

I feel like I should give seminars on POF/OK Cupid technique.

I reactivated my accounts two weeks ago, and after sending abou 10 messages I ended up with 6 phone numbers in less than 48 hours.

Straight up, that's a good percentage. I don't like to brag, but c'mon! Gimme my props!

Been on first dates with two of 'em, and neither turned out to be fat, either. Liked 'em both, and plan to see them both again.

 

[Wellington]

I guess as an update, I talked to my chick. I had thought about it a lot during the day and really we were both being idiots. She's an idiot for putting herself in the position of being alone with any other guy, and I'm an idiot for not fully trusting her. We agreed to tone down our idiocies. All is well.

I admit, it's going to be very hard for me to keep jealousy in check. Her birthday is coming up and she's been sending me pics of the dresses she wants to wear for the past couple of days... I just really don't want to get into a fight haha. How do you guys cope with this?

Maybe there is no coping, you just get used to it. I should just date a hog or something, make my life easier.

 

[Russell]

I think the fact that you are so social inept that you can't make a genuine connection with a woman is why people are suggesting counseling. Your antics on this page hint at some issues. You need to learn how not to RAGE like a lunatic. Maybe it is best you don't get with anyone until you get that under control because in any relationship there are times you aren't the happiest. If you flipping out like this over a fucking post on a message board, not telling how you would react to a woman pissing you off.

Motherfucker. Did you even read my prior post? I clearly said I am NOT socially inept or socially retarded or whatever the fuck word you want to use. What I'm typing here is not representative of myself if you knew me in real life. In real life, I'm kind, generous, sweet, caring, and compassionate. No one in real life has ever seen me as a "raging lunatic." Why? Because I don't behave like one. I'm not some emotionless, unfeeling fuck either.

 

[JB1981]

100%. Unless the reason was something you can "grow out of" or something trivial like going away for college, then do not get back together with your ex.

It took me two things to get me over my ex: enough self-respect to leave a bad relationship, and enough sense to have civil interaction with her. The second part is the most important, as it helps you see that you're missing nothing at all.

Man, this is the post I needed to see today. Thanks, GAF.

 

[vitaminwateryum]

Motherfucker. Did you even read my prior post? I clearly said I am NOT socially inept or socially retarded or whatever the fuck word you want to use. What I'm typing here is not representative of myself if you knew me in real life. In real life, I'm kind, generous, sweet, caring, and compassionate. No one in real life has ever seen me as a "raging lunatic." Why? Because I don't behave like one. I'm not some emotionless, unfeeling fuck either.

Actually, they just don't tell you directly in fear of you turning into the fucking hulk. We have no indication as to how you act in real life other than what you post on this board. Guess what? You're coming off as some sort of steroid lovin' whack job. Also, I don't get it- you say that in real life you're charming, funny, good looking, in good shape...yet you can't make an emotional connection with a woman. Doesn't that seem a bit odd?

 

[PBY]

Motherfucker. Did you even read my prior post? I clearly said I am NOT socially inept or socially retarded or whatever the fuck word you want to use. What I'm typing here is not representative of myself if you knew me in real life. In real life, I'm kind, generous, sweet, caring, and compassionate. No one in real life has ever seen me as a "raging lunatic." Why? Because I don't behave like one. I'm not some emotionless, unfeeling fuck either.

COME AT ME

 

[TurboLibre]

Motherfucker. Did you even read my prior post? I clearly said I am NOT socially inept or socially retarded or whatever the fuck word you want to use. What I'm typing here is not representative of myself if you knew me in real life. In real life, I'm kind, generous, sweet, caring, and compassionate. No one in real life has ever seen me as a "raging lunatic." Why? Because I don't behave like one. I'm not some emotionless, unfeeling fuck either.

How dare you judge me based off the only impression I give!
You dumb fucks don't understand how nice I am! I'm kind and charming, but you shit bags don't see it because you don't know ME! FUCK! Kind AND Charming!! And Sweet too.

 

[Chinner]

COME AT ME

bro, i don't want to cum on you.

 

[Zomba13]

Motherfucker. Did you even read my prior post? I clearly said I am NOT socially inept or socially retarded or whatever the fuck word you want to use. What I'm typing here is not representative of myself if you knew me in real life. In real life, I'm kind, generous, sweet, caring, and compassionate. No one in real life has ever seen me as a "raging lunatic." Why? Because I don't behave like one. I'm not some emotionless, unfeeling fuck either.

To be fair all people on here have to judge you off of is what you have posted and, to be honest, you come across as a bit of an angry dick ('a bit' was just me being nice). Maybe you should be a bit nicer in your messages and more open to criticism?
Don't worry though, I <3 you :3

 

[Chinner]

tim buckly wrote that

 

[jon bones]

How dare you judge me based off the only impression I give!
You dumb fucks don't understand how nice I am! I'm kind and charming, but you shit bags don't see it because you don't know ME! FUCK! Kind AND Charming!! And Sweet too.

AND IM FUNNY

 

[WyndhamPrice]

Motherfucker. Did you even read my prior post? I clearly said I am NOT socially inept or socially retarded or whatever the fuck word you want to use. What I'm typing here is not representative of myself if you knew me in real life. In real life, I'm kind, generous, sweet, caring, and compassionate. No one in real life has ever seen me as a "raging lunatic." Why? Because I don't behave like one. I'm not some emotionless, unfeeling fuck either.

Meet me somewhere, motherfucker!

But seriously why can't you behave like the supposedly kind person you are here instead of a cast member of Jersey Shore?

 

[dskillzhtown]

I guess as an update, I talked to my chick. I had thought about it a lot during the day and really we were both being idiots. She's an idiot for putting herself in the position of being alone with any other guy, and I'm an idiot for not fully trusting her. We agreed to tone down our idiocies. All is well.

I admit, it's going to be very hard for me to keep jealousy in check. Her birthday is coming up and she's been sending me pics of the dresses she wants to wear for the past couple of days... I just really don't want to get into a fight haha. How do you guys cope with this?

Maybe there is no coping, you just get used to it. I should just date a hog or something, make my life easier.

Honestly, I don't cope with it because it hasn't been an issue with anyone I dated seriously. If I am dating someone seriously then it just has been understood that she isn't going to be hanging out with random guys. WTF for? I wasn't going to be hanging out with random chicks. A friend or a co-worker for lunch, yeah. But a movie, a concert, dinner? That ain't happening. Again, that's just me. I may be a jealous idiot, but that's me. I still have female friends, but keep them at a facebook distance at the most part.

Hopefully your compromise works out for you. Though it seems to me that she is still going to hang out with her friends solo and you are going to have to just 'dealwithit.jpg'

 

[jon bones]

But seriously why can't you behave like the supposedly kind person you are here instead of a cast member of Jersey Shore?

the jersey shore cast gets laid though, remember?

 

[WyndhamPrice]

I feel like those of you who aren't comfortable hanging out with members of the opposite sex or their significant other doing the same have some glaring trust/insecurity issues. It has never been a problem for me. Trust your partner until they give you a reason not to, not the other way around.

the jersey shore cast gets laid though, remember?

Oh yeah, maybe Russell shouldn't adjust his attitude then. Just move to Seaside, bro!

 

[JB1981]

I have a question and I figured I'd post it here to get a general consensus.

I have been with my girlfriend officially, for a little less than a month, but we've been dating since Labor Day. I know her well enough and I want to think that she knows me as well. The issue is whether I'm being jealous for no reason or if I'm right on this subject.

We both have a lot of friends, some of the opposite sex. Some of her "bffs" are guys, I have one "bff" that is a girl. She believes that she should be able to meet with any guy that is her friend, one on one, whenever she wants within reason (like after work, not late night or weird situations). I believe that no, that's not cool, and am willing to compromise and say that if I know the guy, then yeah, she can meet them alone but aside from that it's a no fly zone. (Mostly because I am very physically imposing and I am comfortable if they see that I am willing to choke them out if they try some shit)

It's like, the only argument we ever have because she does have a lot of guy friends, a lot of which I have met. She went to see Black Swan with one of them and I had no issues with it. She's gone to IHOP with another, I have no problem with it, both of those guys I know. She tells me Sunday night that Wednesday she's meeting up with another guy after work for Pinkberry, I said it is a problem because I don't know the guy. She says that I have trust issues and that I just have to trust her, I say fuck that shit she's fucking crazy to think that any guy would go along with it.

Personally, I don't think that I am wrong. If you're in a relationship, I would expect that your bf, gf, whatever does not go out with someone of the opposite sex in a one on one situation. Is that unreasonable?
This is a hard situation for me because this is easily the prettiest girl I've ever dated. I've already gotten into a fight at a club because some guy pushed up on her. Doing things like this really doesn't ease my concern.

I'm no expert but I think this is all you need to know. This is how you feel and it's probably never going to change. All you need to know is you don't like it. You are the one who is dating this girl, no one else.

I know I personally hate it and it would cause big trust issues for me.

 

[The Shadow]

I'd be very concerned for the girl that gets near Russell. He sounds like a rapist waiting for his first victim.

 

[Russell]

you say that in real life you're charming, funny, good looking, in good shape...yet you can't make an emotional connection with a woman. Doesn't that seem a bit odd?

No, it isn't odd. I have a feeling that the reason why I've never been in a relationship has something to do with the fact that I've never asked a woman out. I have a feeling that all the women I've met in my life, not one of them believed I was interested in them. I've never communicated to a woman that I was interested in her. I know me more than anyone else, and that might be my problem.

 

[jon bones]

Oh yeah, maybe Russell shouldn't adjust his attitude then. Just move to Seaside, bro!

he needs to lay off the bitterness though... being a douche is great and all but only if it stems from brash confidence not from sexual tension

I'd be very concerned for the girl that gets near Russell. He sounds like a rapist waiting for his first victim.

real talk.

 

[Russell]

I'd be very concerned for the girl that gets near Russell. He sounds like a rapist waiting for his first victim.

Fuck you too.

 

[jon bones]

No, it isn't odd. I have a feeling that the reason why I've never been in a relationship has something to do with the fact that I've never asked a woman out. I have a feeling that all the women I've met in my life, not one of them believed I was interested in them. I've never communicated to a woman that I was interested in her. I know me more than anyone else, and that might be my problem.

i heard posting about it on the internet helps

 

[WyndhamPrice]

No, it isn't odd. I have a feeling that the reason why I've never been in a relationship has something to do with the fact that I've never asked a woman out. I have a feeling that all the women I've met in my life, not one of them believed I was interested in them. I've never communicated to a woman that I was interested in her. I know me more than anyone else, and that might be my problem.

So why haven't you communicated? It helps to try, you know.

 

[Chinner]

you guys are so unfair, stop teaming up against russell. bro, have you thought about moving area? sounds like all the girls in your area are terrible jerks.

 

[Russell]

You say the most un-funny, un-witty things. Maybe you should change your style.

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