Oh god, were to start.
My background: I have been working in the game's industry for about 15 years now in pretty much any position but raw programming (I can hack though!).
I can use Unity, I do concept and 3D Art, I do game design, I do world-building, I also did community management and do PR and communcation as well as Business development all in the same field.
While I find it annoying that people most of the time assume I am a booth babe and that I have to explain that I am actually part of the development team when I showcase one of your games I generally only had positive experiences as a girl. The whole thing about not wanting to work in the industry because of hate or stereotypes is definitely not true for me nor did I ever experience it as something that would hold me back. I also never understood why others care so much. It's just human nature to attack those that do something you are passionate about and are maybe not agreeing with. That is equally true for male and female.
The thing is, this whole stereotype problem is an educational issue and not an industry issue. The fact that the internet made everything worse because gamers worldwide can voice their opinion on something they are VERY passionate about without fearing consequences of what they say doesn't help this. Human beings always tend to attack someone for the most obvious thing that others most likely will find to be out of the ordinary (if that makes sense..)
What about the music industry? Look at all the freaking sexist videos - there are a shitload of women working in that industry despite all that and no one really considers it a big issue, yet the gaming industry all of a sudden is THE culprit while in fact it's an issue with society and how kids grow up in respecting other human beings for what they are.
IE: the rage about a girl being screamed at and called a bitch in CoD is presented as a sexism issue while in fact those kids who do that would scream and call a male they get worked up "white pig" or "black pig" or whatever is convenient to cause a reaction in the other party.
I admire Romero and other female developers who fight the good fight but I honestly think they are fighting the symptoms and not the cause. Who in their right mind seriously thinks that Video games teach their kids morals and stereotypes? If you as parent raise your kids to know that it's not a girl's job to play with dolls if she doesn't want and that's great for her to get a great job and that she does HAVE to have kids to have a fullfilled life if she doesn't want to, you do much more for that whole issue than we could in one industry.
I am a gamer, I am a geek and nerd and I never EVER felt alienated either playing games or working in the industry. I also never felt threatened or unwelcome at a conference due to booth babes. I generally tend to think if someone has a problem with that, it's their own personal problem.
There were the weird, hurting comments on a picture that was posted of me once where one of the comment was, "she is wearking hooker boots, suits her" - but on the other hand, there were really nasty comments on other male devs too. It's a reflection of general lack of respect for other human beings and they just use the parts that they feel will hurt the most for that particular person.
My parents were pretty open, they never forced or kept me from doing anything particular and I developed a taste for gaming very early on without ever feeling out of place. *shrug*
But maybe working in mostly men teams has made me kind of a boy myself