I ship so hard y'all.
I think my first ship was Mulder and Scully.
Then Spike and Buffy.
Then Doctor/Anyonebutrose
Now my current obsession is JohnLock and my OtP is Destiel. >.<
I'm the opposite, I crushed hard on Vegeta and had moments of Trunks
I have the same problem wishing to be a boy
Though I love wearing dresses and makeup and really admire strong women and want to be like them, I myself don't particularly feel feminine.You do not want to be a boy. If you never, ever listen to me on anything else, please listen to me on this: being a boy is one of the worst things ever.I have the same problem wishing to be a boy
There are down sides to almost everything, yeah.I don't really wish I was a boy, but I can't really say what my favorite thing about being a girl is. Everything also has a downside
I hardly ever feel feminine either.
You do not want to be a boy. If you never, ever listen to me on anything else, please listen to me on this: being a boy is the worst thing ever.But still! Trust me. Itchy facial hair and having to shave your face all the time? ughewmahgod The droning influence of testosterone? *gags* Rough skin? ummmmObviously transmen would disagree...
If you want me to go on, I can!
Look at it this way. Being born in the wrong body is so bad that, despite the way women are treated in western society in comparison to men, you have male-to-female transitions.
Look at it this way. Being born in the wrong body is so bad that, despite the way women are treated in western society in comparison to men, you have male-to-female transitions.
Because, in the end, it's not worth it. That mismatch is too unbearable. Besides, if you want to be a man to escape the social trappings of being female, remember, that wouldn't solve the core problem!
I actually consider myself more genderfluid than anything. I have a lot of warped mentality concerning my appearance, and I've come to the conclusion that even if I changed my sex, it wouldn't fix my problems in the least. Of course this has nothing to do with trans or anything. My poor body image also has nothing to do with my gender identity. I really just consider myself more androgynous than anything. What I should have said was all my childhood up to my early 20s, I felt and wished more than anything to be a boy. In my late twenties, I've realized that wouldn't change anything for me.
I don't see how my thinking women having a feminine glow that men can't have leads to pressure of those who don't conform to gender norms. Please don't group me like that.
I ship so hard y'all.
I think my first ship was Mulder and Scully.
Then Spike and Buffy.
Then Doctor/Anyonebutrose
Now my current obsession is JohnLock and my OtP is Destiel. >.<
I'm the opposite, I crushed hard on Vegeta and had moments of Trunks
You do need to be explained it, because it's not 100% intuitive, but once you get it down, it becomes second nature, like tying your shoelaces.There is something I've been wondering, regarding gender dysphoria (is that the right term? basically what trans people suffer from, the feeling of being born in the wrong body/gender). Obviously, the treatment for this disorder is transition, and the evidence is solid: people who suffered from this and successfully transitioned are happier and feel better about their bodies and so on. Basically, gender dysphoria is the disorder, and transition is the treatment (correct me if I'm spouting bollocks, of course).Look at it this way. Being born in the wrong body is so bad that, despite the way women are treated in western society in comparison to men, you have male-to-female transitions.
Because, in the end, it's not worth it. That mismatch is too unbearable. Besides, if you want to be a man to escape the social trappings of being female, remember, that wouldn't solve the core problem!
Um, I think you're either reading too much into (or misreading) what I wrote. Have you ever seen me pressure someone on this forum for not conforming to gender standards?
"Pretty" can mean many different things, and can take many different forms. For example, when you said "pretty men," I have no idea what that means exactly. But I was trying to convey a form of prettiness, a feminine glow that women have, that I love about being female.
There is something I've been wondering, regarding gender dysphoria (is that the right term? basically what trans people suffer from, the feeling of being born in the wrong body/gender). Obviously, the treatment for this disorder is transition, and the evidence is solid: people who suffered from this and successfully transitioned are happier and feel better about their bodies and so on. Basically, gender dysphoria is the disorder, and transition is the treatment (correct me if I'm spouting bollocks, of course).
What I wonder is this: right now, the only treatment that I know of is transitioning. But, hypothetically, if there were, say, a drug that treated the feeling of dysphoria, so to speak, perhaps the same way antidepressants work, do you think anyone would ever choose that over the full process of transition? Or would that be unthinkable because the dysphoria is so strong that only altering the body would be acceptable? Or perhaps it depends on the person, since I've heard people who self-identify as a different gender than their birth sex, but still won't fully transition for various reasons.
Just something I've wondered, and I'd be interested in your perspective on this.
It's not a simple answer. A lot of the issues stem from my upbringing and genetics, my mother suffered from bulimia for 15 years and would criticize every inch of me. Would talk about my stomach, body and face to the point where she'd once a week put me under one of those large light magnifying glass to look at the pores and blemishes of my face. At this point of my life, I'm starting to realize I may have body dismorphia. I'm never pleased about my looks, constantly fixated on my face and weigh myself 4-6 times a day (minimum) and any body hair is not permitted (though I've gotten much better about the hair issue, my current partner is the first to touch my hair with any stubble, and I've grown ok with growing pubic hair) I've recently quit purging (it's been about two weeks) but I still have other bad habits concerning eating disorders. I want to go to a doctor, but I have to wait until after I graduate in May. I don't think any way I'd look will make me feel good about myself, I need to work on myself before I can love the reflection. cutting my hair short was the best thing I made at 19, it forced me to not hide behind my thick long hair.
Correct!
Basically yes, as far as I know.
This is a difficult question to answer because it's both a good "What if?" question and ridiculous in that, it's like asking, "Would you take medicine to not like [insert thing that helps define you]?" (No malice in that use of the word "ridiculous," but just trying to draw an equivalence).What I wonder is this: right now, the only treatment that I know of is transitioning. But, hypothetically, if there were, say, a drug that treated the feeling of dysphoria, so to speak, perhaps the same way antidepressants work, do you think anyone would ever choose that over the full process of transition? Or would that be unthinkable because the dysphoria is so strong that only altering the body would be acceptable? Or perhaps it depends on the person, since I've heard people who self-identify as a different gender than their birth sex, but still won't fully transition for various reasons.
Just something I've wondered, and I'd be interested in your perspective on this.
There is something I've been wondering, regarding gender dysphoria (is that the right term? basically what trans people suffer from, the feeling of being born in the wrong body/gender). Obviously, the treatment for this disorder is transition, and the evidence is solid: people who suffered from this and successfully transitioned are happier and feel better about their bodies and so on. Basically, gender dysphoria is the disorder, and transition is the treatment (correct me if I'm spouting bollocks, of course).
What I wonder is this: right now, the only treatment that I know of is transitioning. But, hypothetically, if there were, say, a drug that treated the feeling of dysphoria, so to speak, perhaps the same way antidepressants work, do you think anyone would ever choose that over the full process of transition? Or would that be unthinkable because the dysphoria is so strong that only altering the body would be acceptable? Or perhaps it depends on the person, since I've heard people who self-identify as a different gender than their birth sex, but still won't fully transition for various reasons.
Just something I've wondered, and I'd be interested in your perspective on this.
That reminds me; as a kid I had an Action Man doll (European GI-Joe copy that stuck with the Barbie format) with a flocked beard.Because beards look good on them. It's the combination of the rougher skin and the coarse beard hair that I think does it (I could be wrong).
Beards: they might be good-looking, but they're not so pleasant to have on your face
No problem, I get that it's a weird question.
Thanks for the answers. You all make a lot of sense. So gender dysphoria is more than just birth sex and gender identity not lining up, but it's at the very core of your identity, and as such, it's far more than just treating the dysphoria the way you would treat, say, depression or bipolar disorder. I think I was erring in assuming that it was something similar to depression, basically some brain wiring that can be managed or treated through treatment (in this case, transitioning instead of anti-depressants), but it seems to go far beyond that. In which case I think you're right and very few would choose the hypothetical pill over transitioning, unless they had no other choice (such as living in a country where transitioning is not legal... I'm sure that exists, sadly
or lacking the money for gender reassignment surgery, and so on).Thanks for the answers. You all make a lot of sense. So gender dysphoria is more than just birth sex and gender identity not lining up, but it's at the very core of your identity, and as such, it's far more than just treating the dysphoria the way you would treat, say, depression or bipolar disorder. I think I was erring in assuming that it was something similar to depression, basically some brain wiring that can be managed or treated through treatment (in this case, transitioning instead of anti-depressants), but it seems to go far beyond that. In which case I think you're right and very few would choose the hypothetical pill over transitioning, unless they had no other choice (such as living in a country where transitioning is not legal... I'm sure that exists, sadly
Thanks again everyone for putting up with my stupid questions. I'm sure you get eye-rolling questions like that all the time, so I appreciate your patience in educating me. ^^
I definitely agree with that.
And this also. I realize that the hypothetical pill wouldn't alter your identity. I guess I was wondering if some folks would ever seek that as an alternative to transitioning, since transitioning is a difficult and complicated process. But, based on what you and others have said, that does appear unlikely.
Yeah, being transgender isn't a mental illness, since successfully transitioned folks are happy and comfortable in their own skin. But would you say that gender dysphoria, pre-transition, is a mental disorder? Or perhaps it should be called something else?
>_>
Yes, or at least it was.
This is probably going to sound stupid but I think it isn't a mental disorder pre transition it should just be gender dysphoria. That's my understanding of it personal being pre anything.
Sounds like somebody won't get an invitation to my future wedding (Yeah, as if somebody would want to marry me. lol).
Im not game enough for them myself, but I've always found people who commit a lifelong statement to their bodies hella rad <3