Oh what a cool coincidence
I just imagine him living on in your dog. Ok, that sounded way less weird in my head -.-
GirlGAF |OT 2| Shall I Compare Thee to a Summer's Eve?
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I just imagine him living on in your dog. Ok, that sounded way less weird in my head -.-Sorry for the double post. I came back from bra shopping with my mum. What a great experience. I figured y'all would understand.
The last time I went bra shopping with her, she kept comparing my breasts to hers, saying how better her implants looked despite her being older than me. And then she called me dumb for not wanting plastic surgery.
I tried to get her to leave me alone so I could go today in peace, but nope. So I've gained a bit a weight and knew I need a different bra size. I tell the manager lady and she takes one look at me and is like yeah, you need a bigger cup size. Measures me and tells me I should be wearing a 32D, maybe 32DD, instead of a 32C. I measured myself before going in and that fell in line with that I figured with those online calculators and stuff.
So whatever, I try on different styles in those sizes and turns out that 32DD fits best. My mum starts freaking out. Telling the lady helping me how I can't possible have a size that big because my breasts are too small, it must be my back that's gotten bigger with my weight, that I'm too young, that she would never wear anything that big (as if that's somehow shameful?), etc. I kept asking questions trying to get a feel for what was the best style for my shape and how a properly fitted bra is supposed to fit. The lady was super nice, but jesus christ my mum was so rude to her and making this face of disgust at me the whole time. I had to give up and apologize to the lady.
I don't fucking get it. She was so, so adamant that I couldn't possibly be a 32DD. As if that's a big cup size anyways. She kept making excuses, like how I'm too lazy to wash my bras and they'll stretch so I can't buy a cup size that big, and how she doesn't like how the 32DD looks on me because it makes my chest look too big or some bullshit. Like, I'm sorry that the smaller cup sizes were squishing my breasts and fitting on my chest really awkwardly? I noticed the difference putting on the correct size. There was also some bullshit with her trying to compare me to the pictures of models on the walls and how my breasts don't look as nice as theirs so how could I be that size? I don't even know.
It's just really upsetting. Especially since it's not just being rude to me, but being rude to someone who is trying to do their job and helping. And then she pretends like she does nothing wrong, and when I tell her I don't want to do stuff with her, she acts all surprised. Well mum, this is why.
The last time I went bra shopping with her, she kept comparing my breasts to hers, saying how better her implants looked despite her being older than me. And then she called me dumb for not wanting plastic surgery.
I tried to get her to leave me alone so I could go today in peace, but nope. So I've gained a bit a weight and knew I need a different bra size. I tell the manager lady and she takes one look at me and is like yeah, you need a bigger cup size. Measures me and tells me I should be wearing a 32D, maybe 32DD, instead of a 32C. I measured myself before going in and that fell in line with that I figured with those online calculators and stuff.
So whatever, I try on different styles in those sizes and turns out that 32DD fits best. My mum starts freaking out. Telling the lady helping me how I can't possible have a size that big because my breasts are too small, it must be my back that's gotten bigger with my weight, that I'm too young, that she would never wear anything that big (as if that's somehow shameful?), etc. I kept asking questions trying to get a feel for what was the best style for my shape and how a properly fitted bra is supposed to fit. The lady was super nice, but jesus christ my mum was so rude to her and making this face of disgust at me the whole time. I had to give up and apologize to the lady.
I don't fucking get it. She was so, so adamant that I couldn't possibly be a 32DD. As if that's a big cup size anyways. She kept making excuses, like how I'm too lazy to wash my bras and they'll stretch so I can't buy a cup size that big, and how she doesn't like how the 32DD looks on me because it makes my chest look too big or some bullshit. Like, I'm sorry that the smaller cup sizes were squishing my breasts and fitting on my chest really awkwardly? I noticed the difference putting on the correct size. There was also some bullshit with her trying to compare me to the pictures of models on the walls and how my breasts don't look as nice as theirs so how could I be that size? I don't even know.
It's just really upsetting. Especially since it's not just being rude to me, but being rude to someone who is trying to do their job and helping. And then she pretends like she does nothing wrong, and when I tell her I don't want to do stuff with her, she acts all surprised. Well mum, this is why.
Morrigan Stark
Arrogant Smirk
Holy shit, your mom has... issues. So sorry you had to deal with this. 
Your mom sounds like she'd belong on notalwaysright.com. Hell you should submit that story, even though she technically wasn't the customer. 
Honestly, from what you are saying, it sounds like she's insecure and jealous that your boobs are bigger than hers. Which is just about the saddest most pathetic thing I can think of, especially with regards to a mother and her own daughter. Holy shit.
Your mom sounds like she'd belong on notalwaysright.com. Hell you should submit that story, even though she technically wasn't the customer. Honestly, from what you are saying, it sounds like she's insecure and jealous that your boobs are bigger than hers. Which is just about the saddest most pathetic thing I can think of, especially with regards to a mother and her own daughter. Holy shit.
Troubled Bat
Member
I'm so sorry for your loss, Tash. My sincere condolences.
Hi! I'm doing good! Got my phone back on, so I can finally be back on GAF. xP I've been going on a movie spree all day. Hah.
Hi! I'm doing good! Got my phone back on, so I can finally be back on GAF. xP I've been going on a movie spree all day. Hah.
Simply Sarah
Member
Belated, but best wishes Tash and sorry for the loss.
Holy crap, you're mom has major issues. I'm struggling to wrap my head around this and I'm failing at it badly. In line with what Morrigan said, it sounds like her only purpose in going along is to make herself feel better by ripping you down. Pretty fucked up all around.
Holy crap, you're mom has major issues. I'm struggling to wrap my head around this and I'm failing at it badly. In line with what Morrigan said, it sounds like her only purpose in going along is to make herself feel better by ripping you down. Pretty fucked up all around.
I'm glad it sounds like this isn't that common. But yeah... I mean, I get why my mum has all these body issues and is obsessed with beauty and plastic surgery. Growing up in Colombia will do that to you. But could she not take it out on me? :c
And the way she just refuses to accept reality in really weird situations (like a fucking bra size) is just so frustrating. She's done stuff like this before too, like when she cried in front of my college counselor because I wasn't a good enough student to get into college. Despite me being Salutatorian, having a 3.98 GPA, and getting a near perfect score on the SAT and ACT. It's this weird thing where she has this image of me in her mind and anyone (including myself) that tries to tell her otherwise just flips her world upside down and she doesn't understand and gets angry.
Sorry y'all, I just had to rant because I didn't want to cause a scene in the store and it's impossible to tell my mum that she's doing anything wrong. At least tomorrow I'll be back home in NYC and will only have to put up with her bullshit every once and a while through phone.
And the way she just refuses to accept reality in really weird situations (like a fucking bra size) is just so frustrating. She's done stuff like this before too, like when she cried in front of my college counselor because I wasn't a good enough student to get into college. Despite me being Salutatorian, having a 3.98 GPA, and getting a near perfect score on the SAT and ACT. It's this weird thing where she has this image of me in her mind and anyone (including myself) that tries to tell her otherwise just flips her world upside down and she doesn't understand and gets angry.
One of my girl friend's mum is the same, about weight, and it's just so unnecessary. It is pathetic. :/ It's hard for me to believe it comes from jealousy since my mum has always been considered gorgeous and has a body I could only dream of.
Sorry y'all, I just had to rant because I didn't want to cause a scene in the store and it's impossible to tell my mum that she's doing anything wrong. At least tomorrow I'll be back home in NYC and will only have to put up with her bullshit every once and a while through phone.
H.Protagonist
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Ahhhhhh...
I just finished the project I've been trapped on for over a year now. Feels weird to be sitting here and not be juggling twenty open files. I can get a haircut! I can even go outside now! Yaaaaay!
I just finished the project I've been trapped on for over a year now. Feels weird to be sitting here and not be juggling twenty open files. I can get a haircut! I can even go outside now! Yaaaaay!
YesNOnoNOYes
Member
Ahhhhhh...
I just finished the project I've been trapped on for over a year now. Feels weird to be sitting here and not be juggling twenty open files. I can get a haircut! I can even go outside now! Yaaaaay!
Aaaaahhhh
Congratulations!!!! Now go and live! and be FREE! like a bird!!!!!
H.Protagonist
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Haha. I'll have to ease into that freedom. I haven't left the house in at least a week. The sun's gonna be brutal.
Now that that's put to bed I can redirect some of my time to fun stuff like the book or a friggin' honeymoon finally. Wahey~
Hope everyone else's 2015 is going good or better.
Morrigan Stark
Arrogant Smirk
Congrats! Take a well-deserved rest.Ahhhhhh...
I just finished the project I've been trapped on for over a year now. Feels weird to be sitting here and not be juggling twenty open files. I can get a haircut! I can even go outside now! Yaaaaay!
Also... Based on a retweet I saw... is that the localization project of Trails in the Sky: Second Chapter, by any chance? :O
H.Protagonist
[-_-]/
Thanks, and yup. That bloody game. -_-
InfiniteNine
Rolling Girl
Oh boy, finally home and I can eat what I want! I lost 10 pounds sitting in the hospital with their awful food. FREEDOOOM! *orders chinese*
I'd actually like to know this too since I'm job hunting still. o:
Zoe
Member
I usually get my work clothes from New York & Co with some JC Penney mixed in. Both are good for sales/clearances.
US? My defaults are usually Ann Taylor or Banana Republic (sometimes J. Crew). You can get pretty good deals during sales or at the outlet stores.
hi GirlGAF!
um, I guess I should introduce myself since this is my first post! I'm lil, a senior in high school, and I live in New England. I love making art and I'm currently in the process of applying to art school. I like games, books, music, tea, all that jazz. I'm also disabled, which doesn't mean much to anyone other than that I'm an occasional wheelchair user, I have a lot of doctors' appointments, and my doctors let me drink Coke every day.
It's a bit weird because I've lurked here for a long time and know of so many of you but you gals don't know me! Regardless, it's nice to meet you all!
um, I guess I should introduce myself since this is my first post! I'm lil, a senior in high school, and I live in New England. I love making art and I'm currently in the process of applying to art school. I like games, books, music, tea, all that jazz. I'm also disabled, which doesn't mean much to anyone other than that I'm an occasional wheelchair user, I have a lot of doctors' appointments, and my doctors let me drink Coke every day.
It's a bit weird because I've lurked here for a long time and know of so many of you but you gals don't know me! Regardless, it's nice to meet you all!
Recently I went to H&M to find a top that was business casual for an interview, and surprisingly found a lot of nice ones (they had a whole section for it too). Pretty cheepo too.
If you're looking to spend a little more and it's in your area, try UNIQLO too. That's where I usually get my dress pants which aren't so much either and fit pretty nice
hi GirlGAF!
um, I guess I should introduce myself since this is my first post! I'm lil, a senior in high school, and I live in New England. I love making art and I'm currently in the process of applying to art school. I like games, books, music, tea, all that jazz. I'm also disabled, which doesn't mean much to anyone other than that I'm an occasional wheelchair user, I have a lot of doctors' appointments, and my doctors let me drink Coke every day.
It's a bit weird because I've lurked here for a long time and know of so many of you but you gals don't know me! Regardless, it's nice to meet you all!
Welcome girly!!
I'm pretty sure you and Pau are going to be great friends.
Aww, thanks Kisaya!!
Let's see, I've applied to MassArt, Montserrat, Maine College of Art, School of Visual Arts, and Savannah College of Art and Design. Now I just have to get my portfolio in to all of those and start applying for scholarships and financial aid, because right now I can really only afford MassArt with a lot of loans, gah!hi GirlGAF!
um, I guess I should introduce myself since this is my first post! I'm lil, a senior in high school, and I live in New England. I love making art and I'm currently in the process of applying to art school. I like games, books, music, tea, all that jazz. I'm also disabled, which doesn't mean much to anyone other than that I'm an occasional wheelchair user, I have a lot of doctors' appointments, and my doctors let me drink Coke every day.
It's a bit weird because I've lurked here for a long time and know of so many of you but you gals don't know me! Regardless, it's nice to meet you all!
Hey welcome!
Thanks everyone for the input. I've now got some great options. I jumped on two pairs of pants because sales so I hope they fit.
InfiniteNine
Rolling Girl
Welcome! Hope you enjoy your induction into GirlGAF! H.Pro will proceed with the hazing.
H.Pro will proceed with the hazing.
Just Kidding! Hope you feel welcome.
I really like JCPenney's Worthington pants. They come in 2 basic fits - Modern and Curvy. They cost about $25 a pair but I go to RetailMeNot and get coupons so I can get them for $18 or so. I typically pair them with the plain "JCP" crew neck shirt and either a button down or cardigan over top. Their blazers don't fit me so good so I always size up so the shoulders fit and then get the waist tailored (costs about $20). Their blazer are around $25-30.
If you want something a bit sexier Express has work pants but they will definitely show off your butt. I really like their button down shirts but if you have any boobs at all you have to wear something with more coverage underneath as the buttons don't go all the way to your neck.
For tops it depends how professional you have to get.
- Button Downs: Lands End (clearance and coupons!), JCPenney, Express, Ann Taylor (clearance rack!)
- General tops: Christopher and Banks (I have found lots of really cute and modest work appropriate tops here), JCP, New York & Co., Kohl's
- Undershirts: My current favorite is the 100% cotton JCP brand shirts. I also like Ann Taylor Loft but you have to be careful, a lot of their shirts are so thin you can see your bra through them no matter what.
I suppose I should introduce myself too!
Longtime GAF lurker, I finally decided to get an account a few months ago. I have worked in the games industry for 7 years. I love all animals and am currently owned by a cat. I have been with my spouse for 10 years this year. I like games, cooking, knitting/crochet and reading.
Longtime GAF lurker, I finally decided to get an account a few months ago. I have worked in the games industry for 7 years. I love all animals and am currently owned by a cat. I have been with my spouse for 10 years this year. I like games, cooking, knitting/crochet and reading.
InfiniteNine
Rolling Girl
Welcome! I love cats, games, and cooking too. o: I hope you enjoy it here. <3
Aww, thanks Kisaya!!
Nice! Those are all great school, I pretty much know a person or two from all of them. Any specific major you want to go into? I go to SUNY Fashion Institute of Technology in NYC majoring in Visual Arts Management. If you get accepted and decide to go to SVA hit me up
And welcome, Grimalkin! I'm personally glad to see this thread a bit more lively again, haha.
InfiniteNine
Rolling Girl
Probably just give it a trial run and see if you like it more?
Hi new people!
I mostly lurk this thread now, mainly because I don't know what to say! I feel very old and British! But I am pretty much always on GAF.
Nice! Those are all great school, I pretty much know a person or two from all of them. Any specific major you want to go into? I go to SUNY Fashion Institute of Technology in NYC majoring in Visual Arts Management. If you get accepted and decide to go to SVA hit me up
And welcome, Grimalkin! I'm personally glad to see this thread a bit more lively again, haha.
I mostly lurk this thread now, mainly because I don't know what to say! I feel very old and British! But I am pretty much always on GAF.
Arsenic Yellow
Member
Girl do it. I started filling mine in last year and I definitely noticed a different. You can really define your eyebrows that way.
I agree with the others, get a cheap drugstore pencil and try it! I think a well defined brow looks polished.
Thanks everyone!!
Yay for more newbies!! I, too, am owned by a cat.
Oh wow, nice! I'm planning on majoring in Illustration. Visual Arts Management, that's excellent!! How do you like it? I'll totally hit you up if I end up at SVA.Nice! Those are all great school, I pretty much know a person or two from all of them. Any specific major you want to go into? I go to SUNY Fashion Institute of Technology in NYC majoring in Visual Arts Management. If you get accepted and decide to go to SVA hit me up
And welcome, Grimalkin! I'm personally glad to see this thread a bit more lively again, haha.
I suppose I should introduce myself too!
Longtime GAF lurker, I finally decided to get an account a few months ago. I have worked in the games industry for 7 years. I love all animals and am currently owned by a cat. I have been with my spouse for 10 years this year. I like games, cooking, knitting/crochet and reading.
Yay for more newbies!! I, too, am owned by a cat.
Hey lil!Aww, thanks Kisaya!!
I went to SVA for a year and studied Illustration as well! If you have any questions, let me know!
PS: I am also addicted to coke-a-cola. <3
Hello new people!
That is diet coke with splenda for me. Awful sounding combination, but I love it.
That is diet coke with splenda for me. Awful sounding combination, but I love it.
oh my gosh, really? That's awesome, thanks so much!! <3 Nice to meet another Coke addict, too!
Oooh yeah, I got introduced to Roy Rogers at my sister's wedding and I'm obSESSED.
InfiniteNine
Rolling Girl
I love Cherry Coke and Dr. Pepper although I think I like any cherry hinted soda.
Thanks for the brow advice I'm planning to just visit Sephora on a good day and have one of the sales people help me find the right pencil ;p
I love it! Literally the best major for me. It's a lot of Art History, but not very curatorial thankfully. I had a great internship last semester working with the Communications dept at a museum in Queens, and this semester I scored an amazing internship at a non-profit dedicated to advancing women's professional leadership in the visual arts!
^ This is me. I miss drinking soda Have to cut it off again completely because I gained some tummy fat T_T
I'm planning to just visit Sephora on a good day and have one of the sales people help me find the right pencil ;pOh wow, nice! I'm planning on majoring in Illustration. Visual Arts Management, that's excellent!! How do you like it? I'll totally hit you up if I end up at SVA.
I love it! Literally the best major for me. It's a lot of Art History, but not very curatorial thankfully. I had a great internship last semester working with the Communications dept at a museum in Queens, and this semester I scored an amazing internship at a non-profit dedicated to advancing women's professional leadership in the visual arts!
^ This is me. I miss drinking soda
Have to cut it off again completely because I gained some tummy fat T_TInfiniteNine
Rolling Girl
Maybe I should do that too I need to get rid of the goo on my tummy. ):
Me too although cherry drpepper I don't often see but that could just be me not looking.
I understand that a fair bit although I only have that sort of thing once in a blue moon it's far too sugary for me generally.
It helps a lot if you just cut everything but water and green tea
Work out with me and your cousin
I was thinking of finding a cheap membership for us?It helps a lot if you just cut everything but water and green tea
Work out with me and your cousin
Haha.. you'll have better luck getting Grace to tag along rather than me. I'm not a gym person for a few reasons that I'm too embarrassed to say. lol. I just need to restrict what I eat.. No more lazy instant ramen.