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[Leeness]

You shouldn't let that dissuade you. If you have problems that weight loss won't resolve, it's probably worth looking into.

NOPE. Haha. Little bit of achey neck and a bit of a hunch, but not worth that procedure haha.

I've been fitted for bras several times, but nothing ever seems quite right.

You can find out your own size! :O

http://www.reddit.com/r/ABraThatFit...fitted_for_a_bra_as_humiliating_as_it/c469bi0

This is a pretty good guide.

Personally, I got myself fitted at a place called Changes and they gave me my proper size and finally got me bras that are great.

 

[Lucian Cat]

It will be like an horror movie

Haha pretty much

 

[Devolution]

I love this blog piece.

 

[Lissar]

NOPE. Haha. Little bit of achey neck and a bit of a hunch, but not worth that procedure haha.



You can find out your own size! :O

http://www.reddit.com/r/ABraThatFit...fitted_for_a_bra_as_humiliating_as_it/c469bi0

This is a pretty good guide.

Personally, I got myself fitted at a place called Changes and they gave me my proper size and finally got me bras that are great.

This is slightly different from the other guides I've used but yep, as expected 30G. I've wanted to try the size out for awhile but you know how hard it is to get decently sized bras. :< I might order one next month and see.

 

[cloudwalking]

NOPE. Haha. Little bit of achey neck and a bit of a hunch, but not worth that procedure haha.



You can find out your own size! :O

http://www.reddit.com/r/ABraThatFit...fitted_for_a_bra_as_humiliating_as_it/c469bi0

This is a pretty good guide.

Personally, I got myself fitted at a place called Changes and they gave me my proper size and finally got me bras that are great.

thanks for the link. out of curiosity i measured myself according to this guide. when standing i have an 8" difference between the band and bust size and when leaning parallel to the floor (like they say to do) i have a 10" difference. which would put me at a 30 FF - GG (UK sizes).

if this guide is as accurate as people in the comments are saying, that's crazy! i recently went from D up to DD because i was noticing that i had a real shitty fit in the Ds... think i just wanted to believe that my boobs were really that small, hah. anyway, DD is a big improvement but i still find that i get some issues even when the bra is adjusted the proper way. i was considering going up one more cup size but apparently i need to go at least three sizes up? i guess it's worth a try! i might try that brastop.com site because they have a great return policy.

 

[shanshan310]

You can find out your own size! :O

http://www.reddit.com/r/ABraThatFit...fitted_for_a_bra_as_humiliating_as_it/c469bi0

This is a pretty good guide.

Personally, I got myself fitted at a place called Changes and they gave me my proper size and finally got me bras that are great.

If I calculate the difference in inches manually it comes out completely wrong @_@ I have a 6" difference, but there is no way in hell I'm an E cup.

 

[Lissar]

Do I need to post the real D and real G cup pics again!? (They're actually in the OP of this thread.) These sizes are not that big if you wear a smaller band size. Shan, what was your band size?

 

[Leeness]

Give it a try, Shan! I mean, if bras have never quite properly fit you, perhaps this is why. And if it ends up being completely off base, then at least you tried it.

Lissar, definitely try brastop. Look at all the pretty! Look at it all!

Good luck, Cloud. Haha, I guess it can be pretty shocking when you think you're a D or something and it's like "WHAT IS A G?!" Definitely give brastop a try. Hope it works for you!

 

[The Anti-Monitor]

Calling tits with a letter seems unnatural.

Gonna head out next week for maximum debauchery. So yo Leeness if you feel up for some AIM...

 

[Lissar]

Give it a try, Shan! I mean, if bras have never quite properly fit you, perhaps this is why. And if it ends up being completely off base, then at least you tried it.

Lissar, definitely try brastop. Look at all the pretty! Look at it all!

Good luck, Cloud. Haha, I guess it can be pretty shocking when you think you're a D or something and it's like "WHAT IS A G?!" Definitely give brastop a try. Hope it works for you!

Those prices aren't bad actually, even with shipping! I was expecting to have to pay $75-100 for anything decent.

And yes, I actually convinced a friend to calculate herself in a different way (but with similar results) and she ended up with 34E even though she'd been wearing 36C all of her life. She was convinced that couldn't be right, but she eventually tried it and told me it was the best fitting bra of her life. It's at least worth it to try!

 

[Inanna]

Measuring your boobs is a bit tricky. I did it three times and each time the measurement came out different. 34D, 34DD, 32E. I wear 34D so it wasn't too far off.

 

[Leeness]

Those prices aren't bad actually, even with shipping! I was expecting to have to pay $75-100 for anything decent!

Right? I'm so happy I found some cheaper places.

Omg Anti, tell me when!

 

[shanshan310]

Do I need to post the real D and real G cup pics again!? (They're actually in the OP of this thread.) These sizes are not that big if you wear a smaller band size. Shan, what was your band size?

30 inch (I've been wearing 32C).

I had a look at the real cup pics. I guess I could be... maybe... I think my problem is that the top bit of the cup is always a little loose, even when the cup is too small. Do you think it might be a band problem? -awkward question-

 

[Lissar]

30 inch (I've been wearing 32C).

I had a look at the real cup pics. I guess I could be... maybe... I think my problem is that the top bit of the cup is always a little loose, even when the cup is too small. Do you think it might be a band problem? -awkward question-

Could be the shape of them. Different bra types work for different people! I suggest going to Bratabase and giving them your measurements. It also asks details about the shape and placement of your breasts to give you suggestions for bras that would be the best fit!

 

[shanshan310]

I don't think I understand the bratabase site ;.; What does it do with my measurements?
EDIT: oh hey I figured it out! It's giving me between 32D and 30E. Well whadda you know. I guess I will try buying something!

 

[Zoe]

I always have the problem where the wires cut into my arms. Guess I'm gonna have to try out different sizes according to that guide :\

 

[The Anti-Monitor]

Right? I'm so happy I found some cheaper places.

Omg Anti, tell me when!

I got time now, though I don't remember the password...

 

[Leeness]

I got time now, though I don't remember the password...

I'm on there now, if you remember your password haha.

 

[JambiBum]

how did she fare with the surgery? i've looked into it too, i'm a size DD/E but with a very small frame and i suspect that my breasts are the cause of my chronic neck ache and tension migraines. when i googled breast reduction though i got scared off because the photos are pretty grisly, and there can be some bad/strange side effects.

i found out recently that for the longest time i was wearing the incorrect bra size and got fitted for bras that offer better support, but no dice. i'd love to live without these annoying as fuck neck aches.

This is a couple of days late so I apologize but she handled it pretty well. She has scars from the surgery which she obviously doesn't like but they really aren't that bad in my opinion. She hasn't really had any strange problems after the fact either. Just your normal surgery stuff. It's saved her a ton of money on bras in the long run too. She no longer has back pain and she actually feels better about how she looks. Before they made her look pretty unproportionate because she has a small frame too. Now she is a lot happier with it.

 

[shanshan310]

Back from bra shopping (Gaf has started to distract me even when I'm not at the computer... -_-) The expensive department store I visited didn't stock size 30 at all, and 32 only goes up to D. No wonder so many people are wearing the wrong size! Its impossible to find the right size! Anyway, I bought a super cute 32D for $15 (down from $70). I think I'll try to find a better size on that website too.

 

[The Anti-Monitor]

I'm on there now, if you remember your password haha.

Couldn't remember, and wasn't much of a thinking mood.

Tell me if you can tonight, and I'll make a new one.

Back from bra shopping (Gaf has started to distract me even when I'm not at the computer... -_-) The expensive department store I visited didn't stock size 30 at all, and 32 only goes up to D. No wonder so many people are wearing the wrong size! Its impossible to find the right size! Anyway, I bought a super cute 32D for $15 (down from $70). I think I'll try to find a better size on that website too.

So you bought one that wasn't of the right size just cuz it was cute?

Awwwwww

 

[shanshan310]

So you bought one that wasn't of the right size just cuz it was cute?

Awwwwww

lol, when you put it that way I just feel silly. It was a far better fit than anything else I've ever bought Its comfortable and it really is cute!

 

[The Anti-Monitor]

lol, when you put it that way I just feel silly. It was a far better fit than anything else I've ever bought Its comfortable and it really is cute!

Man for a second there I thought you were actually gonna show yourself off and I was like damn this girl has balls.

And hey no problem with buying it just cuz it's cute. Just kinda funny.

 

[Inanna]

lol, when you put it that way I just feel silly. It was a far better fit than anything else I've ever bought Its comfortable and it really is cute!

My boobs aren't that big but still if I wore bras like that, they'd be spilling out like crazy. :|

Watched The Dark Knight Rises a while back and damn, I think I am in love with Joseph Gordon-Levitt! He's not typically handsome but there is something about him that is just so damn hot. I can't quite put my finger on it.

 

[BladeWorker]

Since we're all still talking about boobs and bras, figured I'd share this little gem of a place in TO: Secrets from your Sister

Complete with blog, celebrity bra critique, et cetera.

 

[Platy]

My boobs aren't that big but still if I wore bras like that, they'd be spilling out like crazy. :|.

 

[Lucian Cat]

Oh that is a cute bra shan. Similar to one I got from elle macpherson (?) Seems to hold everything in place well.

 

[Leeness]

I got this one recently, and I laaaaaaahv it. It's so pretty and makes me look so nice.

I've also been coveting this one for a while. I WANT IT. I also want this one for some everyday wear, and its white counterpart for under white things!

Now that I have been ~opened up~ to the world of cheap cute bras for my size, I want them all. Haha.

Spoiler

Just because men don't find me sexually appealing doesn't mean I can't look pretty for me!

 

[Mineshaft_Gap]

I've been away for a loooong looong time. What did I miss?

 

[Mineshaft_Gap]

Two questions and I'd like opinions from other girlgaf on these.

Two points of contention with my significant other have me second guessing myself and my feelings.

I find that my #1 complaint when I'm being intimate with my partner is that he doesn't make very much noise. I on the other hand, make plenty of noise. When my partner doesn't vocalize at all it makes me think that something is wrong or that he isn't enjoying himself. When he finishes he makes some noise but otherwise there are times when I might keep going because I couldn't tell. Sometimes he's more vocal but I think he's putting it on in reaction to me. Is this pretty normal for guys or not really? Too busy trying to concentrate is his excuse. I've only ever been with one person so I have no point of reference. I guess guys could answer this too.

Secondly. The topic came up recently where my significant other admitted to watching porn. I kind of already figured but since I didn't really know for sure I just didn't let it bother me. I've always considered myself a pretty cool and understanding girlfriend. I never would really think that I have a problem with it but I do. When I spoke out about it my boyfriend and his friend both said my feelings were irrational, ill-informed, and unfair. They said that porn is a means to an end. They said that guys don't lust after the girls in porn but that it's something they watch out of habit to help facilitate getting the jerk off process over quickly. I don't see how that makes sense. How you could watch another woman having sex and not lust after them. Isn't lusting after them the whole point of watching porn? They seemed to disagree.

I don't know whether I'm jealous, disappointed, or what. I felt like maybe he was "beyond" that. He's very special to me and little revelations like this sometimes remind me that he's still... I don't know. I just sort of feel like in our relationship he should be above that. Like I should be enough for him. When I say it like that I DO feel irrational though. Then I get angry at myself for second guessing my feelings. I don't get jealous or upset that he masturbates. I just sort of misguidedly thought he did it without watching porn.

Am I a jealous lunatic girlfriend?

 

[Lucian Cat]

Two questions and I'd like opinions from other girlgaf on these.

Two points of contention with my significant other have me second guessing myself and my feelings.

I find that my #1 complaint when I'm being intimate with my partner is that he doesn't make very much noise. I on the other hand, make plenty of noise. When my partner doesn't vocalize at all it makes me think that something is wrong or that he isn't enjoying himself. When he finishes he makes some noise but otherwise there are times when I might keep going because I couldn't tell. Sometimes he's more vocal but I think he's putting it on in reaction to me. Is this pretty normal for guys or not really? Too busy trying to concentrate is his excuse. I've only ever been with one person so I have no point of reference. I guess guys could answer this too.

Secondly. The topic came up recently where my significant other admitted to watching porn. I kind of already figured but since I didn't really know for sure I just didn't let it bother me. I've always considered myself a pretty cool and understanding girlfriend. I never would really think that I have a problem with it but I do. When I spoke out about it my boyfriend and his friend both said my feelings were irrational, ill-informed, and unfair. They said that porn is a means to an end. They said that guys don't lust after the girls in porn but that it's something they watch out of habit to help facilitate getting the jerk off process over quickly. I don't see how that makes sense. How you could watch another woman having sex and not lust after them. Isn't lusting after them the whole point of watching porn? They seemed to disagree.

I don't know whether I'm jealous, disappointed, or what. I felt like maybe he was "beyond" that. He's very special to me and little revelations like this sometimes remind me that he's still... I don't know. I just sort of feel like in our relationship he should be above that. Like I should be enough for him. When I say it like that I DO feel irrational though. Then I get angry at myself for second guessing my feelings. I don't get jealous or upset that he masturbates. I just sort of misguidedly thought he did it without watching porn.

Am I a jealous lunatic girlfriend?

1. I am ridiculously quiet during sex to the point that my partner thinks I don't enjoy it. I've just always been quiet. He's basically the same except for a few moans here and there. It depends entirely on the person really. There are noisy ones, and quiet ones from my experience.

2. I don't like porn, it's just something I'm not comfortable with. Unfortunately my guy loves it and I just have to get over it. Whether I can is another story. Seems like we're in the same boat here. Don't really have much advice other than maybe tell him how you feel?

We can be jealous lunatic girlfriends together!

 

[Emitan]

I don't lust after the girls in porn. Like they said it's just a means to an end.

 

[Professor Beef]

I wasn't really a noisy guy during sex, but that's just me. I don't think it's something to worry about, though. Every guy is different, and not all guys are gonna make noise.

As for the second point, it's...weird. Speaking as a guy who watches porn on occasion, I find most porn stars attractive. They're part of the reason I watch, after all. But I don't really "lust" after them like you're...kinda implying, I think? It's just the fantasy aspect. I doubt he's going to drop you and try to hook up with one (especially since, if I'm remembering correctly, you two have been together for so long), and it's likely that he watches porn for the occasions that he's unable to have sex with you.

This is all speculation of course, but I hope it gives you some insight. I don't see you as being crazy jealous or anything; just worried, which is normal.

 

[EviLore]

Two questions and I'd like opinions from other girlgaf on these.

Two points of contention with my significant other have me second guessing myself and my feelings.

I find that my #1 complaint when I'm being intimate with my partner is that he doesn't make very much noise. I on the other hand, make plenty of noise. When my partner doesn't vocalize at all it makes me think that something is wrong or that he isn't enjoying himself. When he finishes he makes some noise but otherwise there are times when I might keep going because I couldn't tell. Sometimes he's more vocal but I think he's putting it on in reaction to me. Is this pretty normal for guys or not really? Too busy trying to concentrate is his excuse. I've only ever been with one person so I have no point of reference. I guess guys could answer this too.

Secondly. The topic came up recently where my significant other admitted to watching porn. I kind of already figured but since I didn't really know for sure I just didn't let it bother me. I've always considered myself a pretty cool and understanding girlfriend. I never would really think that I have a problem with it but I do. When I spoke out about it my boyfriend and his friend both said my feelings were irrational, ill-informed, and unfair. They said that porn is a means to an end. They said that guys don't lust after the girls in porn but that it's something they watch out of habit to help facilitate getting the jerk off process over quickly. I don't see how that makes sense. How you could watch another woman having sex and not lust after them. Isn't lusting after them the whole point of watching porn? They seemed to disagree.

I don't know whether I'm jealous, disappointed, or what. I felt like maybe he was "beyond" that. He's very special to me and little revelations like this sometimes remind me that he's still... I don't know. I just sort of feel like in our relationship he should be above that. Like I should be enough for him. When I say it like that I DO feel irrational though. Then I get angry at myself for second guessing my feelings. I don't get jealous or upset that he masturbates. I just sort of misguidedly thought he did it without watching porn.

Am I a jealous lunatic girlfriend?

Totally normal for guys not to make noise, they're concentrating: on lasting longer, on pleasing their partners, and it's just not really something that's common in general.

Men can can approach sex and sexual stimulation without an emotional connection whatsoever. He can love you with all his heart and be totally committed to you and load up porn and get aroused and get off without any problem whatsoever, because it's a means to an end to him, not an emotional betrayal, and all men masturbate.

 

[cloudwalking]

This is a couple of days late so I apologize but she handled it pretty well. She has scars from the surgery which she obviously doesn't like but they really aren't that bad in my opinion. She hasn't really had any strange problems after the fact either. Just your normal surgery stuff. It's saved her a ton of money on bras in the long run too. She no longer has back pain and she actually feels better about how she looks. Before they made her look pretty unproportionate because she has a small frame too. Now she is a lot happier with it.

thanks for the reply! i may go talk to my doctor about it, she has seen my boobs enough to know what's up, haha. if she recommends it it may have to be something i seriously consider, though i am still a bit frightened of the prospect, but that's normal i think the proportion thing is one of my biggest beefs if i look at it cosmetically. i have a small waist and no ass but just these huge boobs, it makes no sense. i feel really self-conscious wearing tight clothing even though i'm thin just because i get weird looks and stuff when i'm out.

I got this one recently, and I laaaaaaahv it. It's so pretty and makes me look so nice.

oh, this one is great! <3 i was looking at the same one, except in black. how did you find the band size to fit? some people on bratabase said the band size in that particular bra runs a little big and you should consider going down a band size if you buy it.

and ducky, welcome back! i don't have much knowledge to impart on your dilemma, but i will say that i can understand why your SO watching porn might make you feel insecure, and i don't think you are in the wrong for not feeling great about it.

 

[JambiBum]

thanks for the reply! i may go talk to my doctor about it, she has seen my boobs enough to know what's up, haha. if she recommends it it may have to be something i seriously consider, though i am still a bit frightened of the prospect, but that's normal i think the proportion thing is one of my biggest beefs if i look at it cosmetically. i have a small waist and no ass but just these huge boobs, it makes no sense. i feel really self-conscious wearing tight clothing even though i'm thin just because i get weird looks and stuff when i'm out.



oh, this one is great! <3 i was looking at the same one, except in black. how did you find the band size to fit? some people on bratabase said the band size in that particular bra runs a little big and you should consider going down a band size if you buy it.

and ducky, welcome back! i don't have much knowledge to impart on your dilemma, but i will say that i can understand why your SO watching porn might make you feel insecure, and i don't think you are in the wrong for not feeling great about it.

Her confidence had a huge boost after the fact. From the sound of it you sound like you have the same issues that she used to because of them. She got those looks too, like her boobs must have been fake because of how small she was and she hated it. Now she gets the kind of looks people actually want to get because she is a lot more confident. I catch myself staring at her all the time and I've never done that with other girlfriends. Might also be because I'm crazy about her though lol.

 

[JambiBum]

Ducky, if this is too personal and you don't want to answer it's fine, but do you masturbate when he isn't around? If not then why and if yes then do you only think about him or do you fantasize about others too? You have to realize that he isn't replacing you when he watches porn. Sometimes people just need to get off when they might not have anyone there to do it with. I understand feeling insecure about him watching porn but as others have said it's really just a means to an end. As long as he is still climaxing when you are together then you don't really need to worry. If you are ok with doing it, try watching the porn he likes with him. It can intensify things and it will help you understand why he likes it. Ask him if he would like you to do that with him.

As for the sound thing, I make sounds but it also depends on the situation. If I'm the one doing the work at the time then I'm usually pretty quiet because I'm concentrating. If she's currently in control then I'm not quiet. It all depends on the person though.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

Porn can be a sensitive topic for some.
A lot of guys don't like giving these things a lot of thought, and just say it's an urge thing or just a way to get off easier but dig down and you'll find that there is a lot going on that is one either ignores or is unaware of.

What goes on in your guy's mind when he's getting off?

There is obviously a couple of mental processes involved when he watches porn (or else the physical stimulation of masturbation would suffice), such as a sexual attraction to the porn actress on the screen which elicits a response of arousal. Sometimes, men are also living vicariously through the male porn star on screen as well (which is why big dick porn is popular, not because guys watching it are interested in the dick, but because they are living through the POV of the guy and thus the big dick becomes an appendage of their own), and sometimes even an emotional connection of a degree (you might like the personality of the pornstar, or behavioural characteristics).

Even if there is a desire to have sex with a pornstar (and I would say that watching and getting off porn shows a basic desire to do so) it does not mean that he would necessarily have sex with said pornstar should the opportunity arise (say, should you say you were okay with it and he had a chance) - and if that's the case then you can at least comfort yourself with the knowledge of your sexual function and ability being held in higher regard to him.

 

[The Anti-Monitor]

Two questions and I'd like opinions from other girlgaf on these.

Two points of contention with my significant other have me second guessing myself and my feelings.

I find that my #1 complaint when I'm being intimate with my partner is that he doesn't make very much noise. I on the other hand, make plenty of noise. When my partner doesn't vocalize at all it makes me think that something is wrong or that he isn't enjoying himself. When he finishes he makes some noise but otherwise there are times when I might keep going because I couldn't tell. Sometimes he's more vocal but I think he's putting it on in reaction to me. Is this pretty normal for guys or not really? Too busy trying to concentrate is his excuse. I've only ever been with one person so I have no point of reference. I guess guys could answer this too.

Secondly. The topic came up recently where my significant other admitted to watching porn. I kind of already figured but since I didn't really know for sure I just didn't let it bother me. I've always considered myself a pretty cool and understanding girlfriend. I never would really think that I have a problem with it but I do. When I spoke out about it my boyfriend and his friend both said my feelings were irrational, ill-informed, and unfair. They said that porn is a means to an end. They said that guys don't lust after the girls in porn but that it's something they watch out of habit to help facilitate getting the jerk off process over quickly. I don't see how that makes sense. How you could watch another woman having sex and not lust after them. Isn't lusting after them the whole point of watching porn? They seemed to disagree.

I don't know whether I'm jealous, disappointed, or what. I felt like maybe he was "beyond" that. He's very special to me and little revelations like this sometimes remind me that he's still... I don't know. I just sort of feel like in our relationship he should be above that. Like I should be enough for him. When I say it like that I DO feel irrational though. Then I get angry at myself for second guessing my feelings. I don't get jealous or upset that he masturbates. I just sort of misguidedly thought he did it without watching porn.

Am I a jealous lunatic girlfriend?

Most guys don't make noise.

And there's no problem with porn. Maybe he finds the actresses hot, but what he likes is the action. And even if he found them hot there's nothing wrong with that. You can't control who you are attracted to. And porn is harmless.

 

[shanshan310]

Ducky, you should try watching it together!

I don't think you are being silly at all. I personally don't mind my boyfriend doing it (he sends me so many pictures I've kind of become desensitized to it) but initially there was a feeling of 'wow I can never measure up to these women'. I guess my being self conscious was the main reason, but I too thought he was 'above it'. He never really seemed like the type. Half the trouble is coming to terms with your man not being quite the person you thought he was

Isn't lusting after them the whole point of watching porn?

I agree. It may just be a means to an end, but its still lusting.

 

[Inanna]

Now that I have been ~opened up~ to the world of cheap cute bras for my size, I want them all. Haha.

Spoiler

Just because men don't find me sexually appealing doesn't mean I can't look pretty for me!

Those are anything but cheap! The ones I get are pretty good and also under a £10

I can be very quite during sex and even during orgasm. You kinda have to get used to being quiet during sex when you've lived with your family for as long as I have! I still don't make that much noise even though I live with my guy now. Moaning and groaning is okay but I don't really like over the top "OH MY GOD, AHHHH EHHH UHHH OHHH" really loud porno style noises.

I'm probably one of the lucky ones because my guy doesn't really care much for porn, actually we both don't care much for it, I think I've probably watched it more than he has. I'm not sure how I'd react to it if he started watching it.

 

[clearacell]

Secondly. The topic came up recently where my significant other admitted to watching porn. I kind of already figured but since I didn't really know for sure I just didn't let it bother me. I've always considered myself a pretty cool and understanding girlfriend. I never would really think that I have a problem with it but I do. When I spoke out about it my boyfriend and his friend both said my feelings were irrational, ill-informed, and unfair. They said that porn is a means to an end. They said that guys don't lust after the girls in porn but that it's something they watch out of habit to help facilitate getting the jerk off process over quickly. I don't see how that makes sense. How you could watch another woman having sex and not lust after them. Isn't lusting after them the whole point of watching porn? They seemed to disagree.

I don't know whether I'm jealous, disappointed, or what. I felt like maybe he was "beyond" that. He's very special to me and little revelations like this sometimes remind me that he's still... I don't know. I just sort of feel like in our relationship he should be above that. Like I should be enough for him. When I say it like that I DO feel irrational though. Then I get angry at myself for second guessing my feelings. I don't get jealous or upset that he masturbates. I just sort of misguidedly thought he did it without watching porn.

Am I a jealous lunatic girlfriend?

He is right, it's just a means to an end. After a guy is done with his business, he doesn't really give a second thought about the subject he was jerking it to. Hell, a lot of the time one doesn't even think it's sexy at all after they blow their load. You, on the other hand, are probably on his mind all the time no matter what state of horniness he is in. For the fight for his attention, you will always win over porn...but sometimes a guy just needs a break.

 

[Ezalc]

Just because men don't find me sexually appealing doesn't mean I can't look pretty for me!

:|.

Two questions and I'd like opinions from other girlgaf on these.

Two points of contention with my significant other have me second guessing myself and my feelings.

I find that my #1 complaint when I'm being intimate with my partner is that he doesn't make very much noise. I on the other hand, make plenty of noise. When my partner doesn't vocalize at all it makes me think that something is wrong or that he isn't enjoying himself. When he finishes he makes some noise but otherwise there are times when I might keep going because I couldn't tell. Sometimes he's more vocal but I think he's putting it on in reaction to me. Is this pretty normal for guys or not really? Too busy trying to concentrate is his excuse. I've only ever been with one person so I have no point of reference. I guess guys could answer this too.

Secondly. The topic came up recently where my significant other admitted to watching porn. I kind of already figured but since I didn't really know for sure I just didn't let it bother me. I've always considered myself a pretty cool and understanding girlfriend. I never would really think that I have a problem with it but I do. When I spoke out about it my boyfriend and his friend both said my feelings were irrational, ill-informed, and unfair. They said that porn is a means to an end. They said that guys don't lust after the girls in porn but that it's something they watch out of habit to help facilitate getting the jerk off process over quickly. I don't see how that makes sense. How you could watch another woman having sex and not lust after them. Isn't lusting after them the whole point of watching porn? They seemed to disagree.

I don't know whether I'm jealous, disappointed, or what. I felt like maybe he was "beyond" that. He's very special to me and little revelations like this sometimes remind me that he's still... I don't know. I just sort of feel like in our relationship he should be above that. Like I should be enough for him. When I say it like that I DO feel irrational though. Then I get angry at myself for second guessing my feelings. I don't get jealous or upset that he masturbates. I just sort of misguidedly thought he did it without watching porn.

Am I a jealous lunatic girlfriend?

1. I can't comment on this one yet :C

2. Porn is just a way to release sexual tension, some guys even do it either because they are bored or because they are stressed and want to relax. There's nothing wrong with it at all honestly. Men just usually get off and then forget about it and honestly if I had the chance to have sex with a porn star I don't think I would, regardless if I had a girlfriend or not. As Shan suggested why don't you try watching it together? It could lead to a new experience and it can be fun for you two!

 

[HamPster PamPster]

Twirling your hair / Playing with your hair? Yea or Nay?

I've notice my daughter started doing this a lot in recent weeks? Should I care, seems like a harmless habit but I have no idea if its considered a bad habit or not

Anyone have this habit? What did you do to break it

 

[Platy]

When i'm bored I always play with my hair .. but it usualy ends with me just ...undoing any knots =P

Secondly. The topic came up recently where my significant other admitted to watching porn. I kind of already figured but since I didn't really know for sure I just didn't let it bother me. I've always considered myself a pretty cool and understanding girlfriend.

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Am I a jealous lunatic girlfriend?

It reminds you that he is still ... human ? =P
99,99% of any guy watches porn
It is always a safe bet to assume he does.

It is just fantasy ... it affects how he thinks about you in the same way that playing GTA affects how he loves to run over people =P
They are 2 completly diferent things.

Also, depending on how intimate you 2 are, it might be even be interesting to see togheter.

 

[Inanna]

Isn't lusting after them the whole point of watching porn?

The only way I see myself having a problem with my guy watching porn is if he started watching porn that only had a certain "type" of female pornstars that look totally different than what I look like. i.e, porn with redheaded pale girls only etc etc. I think I might take it as him being attracted and as Ducky said lusting after girls that look like that and not girls that look like me, if that makes any sense.

 

[Devolution]

Two questions and I'd like opinions from other girlgaf on these.

Two points of contention with my significant other have me second guessing myself and my feelings.

I find that my #1 complaint when I'm being intimate with my partner is that he doesn't make very much noise. I on the other hand, make plenty of noise. When my partner doesn't vocalize at all it makes me think that something is wrong or that he isn't enjoying himself. When he finishes he makes some noise but otherwise there are times when I might keep going because I couldn't tell. Sometimes he's more vocal but I think he's putting it on in reaction to me. Is this pretty normal for guys or not really? Too busy trying to concentrate is his excuse. I've only ever been with one person so I have no point of reference. I guess guys could answer this too.

Sometimes they make noise, sometimes they don't. Short answer: everyone is different and every sex encounter even with the same partner is different. There might be something you do or times in which he's more likely to moan. I don't think it means much of anything really. I've noticed so far men are more apt to moan during a beej than sex though. Although if you're really going at it you can get him to grunt from exertion.

Secondly. The topic came up recently where my significant other admitted to watching porn. I kind of already figured but since I didn't really know for sure I just didn't let it bother me. I've always considered myself a pretty cool and understanding girlfriend. I never would really think that I have a problem with it but I do. When I spoke out about it my boyfriend and his friend both said my feelings were irrational, ill-informed, and unfair. They said that porn is a means to an end. They said that guys don't lust after the girls in porn but that it's something they watch out of habit to help facilitate getting the jerk off process over quickly. I don't see how that makes sense. How you could watch another woman having sex and not lust after them. Isn't lusting after them the whole point of watching porn? They seemed to disagree.

I don't know whether I'm jealous, disappointed, or what. I felt like maybe he was "beyond" that. He's very special to me and little revelations like this sometimes remind me that he's still... I don't know. I just sort of feel like in our relationship he should be above that. Like I should be enough for him. When I say it like that I DO feel irrational though. Then I get angry at myself for second guessing my feelings. I don't get jealous or upset that he masturbates. I just sort of misguidedly thought he did it without watching porn.

Am I a jealous lunatic girlfriend?

Physical lust for an idealistic form in porn is not much different than crushing on a male celebrity for us. Most men can distance themselves from the porn and the fantasy. (It's when they get addicted that you have to watch out.) You are enough for him. Porn is an outlet not a girlfriend or wife. Have you ever watched porn with him? Or watched it at all? I feel like some women who make these claims need to watch it for themselves, and maybe get off, and realize that the porn is basically to get you going and does not serve as a replacement for real sex or your partner.

 

[shanshan310]

Just on the noise thing, you should talk to him about it - he might be trying to keep quiet, but perhaps letting him know you think it will improve things might convince him to try. Or get him to try talking to you during sex.

 

[Dom Brunt]

I also want this one for some everyday wear, and its white counterpart for under white things!

You should try to find a bra that matches your skin tone for wearing under white shirts since white bras are usually visible under white t-shirts and such (at least in direct sunlight or photos taken with flash), nude ones aren't. Sorry if old news lol.

 

[Leeness]

oh, this one is great! <3 i was looking at the same one, except in black. how did you find the band size to fit? some people on bratabase said the band size in that particular bra runs a little big and you should consider going down a band size if you buy it.

Mine is fine! I bought it in my size and it fits great

Those are anything but cheap! The ones I get are pretty good and also under a £10

Well, before I found ones that were $35-50, I was paying $120+ for mine so...yeah, it's cheap

You should try to find a bra that matches your skin tone for wearing under white shirts since white bras are usually visible under white t-shirts and such (at least in direct sunlight or photos taken with flash), nude ones aren't. Sorry if old news lol.

Oh yeah. I'm pretty pale though haha. I dunno. Eventually. I don't have the money right now for any more

I know nothing about the other topics happening right now haha.