Yeah, skinny (but not scrawny), big boobs and a .7 waist-to-hip ratio. Again, not saying that every single guy has these preferences, but more than enough do that it warps female behavior and body image in some pretty terrible ways. There is no "bear" and "twink" and "otter" to provide different archetypes for women to adhere to.
Boobs are pretty nice. Shame guys don't have 'em
So, a new question: is there a substantial distinction between the types of men that heterosexual women find appealing, and the types of men that homosexual men find appealing?
I'm sure there is quite a bit of overlap, that's unavoidable. But is there a tendency, for example, for men to like more hairiness? Or women to? Or men to like shorter men?
Also, I'd be interested to know if this question is frequently asked. I always enjoy finding out if my curiosities are common or unusual.
So, a new question: is there a substantial distinction between the types of men that heterosexual women find appealing, and the types of men that homosexual men find appealing?
I'm sure there is quite a bit of overlap, that's unavoidable. But is there a tendency, for example, for men to like more hairiness? Or women to? Or men to like shorter men?
Also, I'd be interested to know if this question is frequently asked. I always enjoy finding out if my curiosities are common or unusual.
Holy shit, the people telling you this need to be slapped. The fact that people still think like that.... disgusting.
CHEEZMO™;48918024 said:Blue handkerchief in the back of my pants, sir.
Well, acting in stereotypical ways is an easy way to identify your interest for random people you meet. I always make sure to wear pink shirts and tight jeans when I go to straight clubs with my friends, or crosdress >.<
I think I'll flag the next time I'm in a goth club just to see what will happen.
I need a gif of that girl's face hahaha
I feel like my straight friends are as heterogeneous in their ideal woman standards, but the sense of homogeneity comes into play in having a very low threshold for "Eh, I'll tap it" which seems to be what comes up in casual conversation.
Didn't know if you wanted the lead into it as well, so I added it anyway(I could change it if you want):
The perception of straight males as expressing homogenious tastes in women might be more a side effect of (straight white) male gaze's pervasiveness in media and marketing.
CHEEZMO;48993129 said:
Course, in high school, most guys are pretty desperate to be with anyone so types are fairly irrelevant anyway.
Uh, I think it goes further than that.
Holy shit, the people telling you this need to be slapped. The fact that people still think like that.... disgusting.
I'm pretty sure you know that but it bears repeating. There is no need for anyone to act more gay or less gay. Acting gay doesn't even mean anything because the only way for you to be gay is to identify as one.
There are different ways to express that gayness, and all are as valid as the other ones.
Yeah. I won't change, it just still ..kinda fuuny in some way and ironic since I'm usually told that; by other gay men.To play devil's advocate, maybe they're saying that you're unrecognizable as gay and therefore guys won't approach you.
Acting more like a stereotypical gay guy isn't a solution though.
Yep! Jon Favreau!I saw Obama's former head speechwriter on Jon Stewart's show the other day. He was setting off my gaydar something fierce. He's pretty hot too.
So, a new question: is there a substantial distinction between the types of men that heterosexual women find appealing, and the types of men that homosexual men find appealing?
I'm sure there is quite a bit of overlap, that's unavoidable. But is there a tendency, for example, for men to like more hairiness? Or women to? Or men to like shorter men?
Also, I'd be interested to know if this question is frequently asked. I always enjoy finding out if my curiosities are common or unusual.
Yep! Jon Favreau!
Guy seems to be straight though, as he dated Rashida Jones recently too.
If gaydar is really a thing then mine is totally broken. When one of my best friends told me she was a lesbian late last year I was, like, utterly floored by this revelation. (To be fair, I had just met her mid-July, so it wasn't like I'd failed to notice for years on end. Still!)
And that's not the first time that has ever happened, nor only with women, lol.
If gaydar is really a thing then mine is totally broken. When one of my best friends told me she was a lesbian late last year I was, like, utterly floored by this revelation. (To be fair, I had just met her mid-July, so it wasn't like I'd failed to notice for years on end. Still!)
And that's not the first time that has ever happened, nor only with women, lol.
If gaydar is really a thing then mine is totally broken. When one of my best friends told me she was a lesbian late last year I was, like, utterly floored by this revelation. (To be fair, I had just met her mid-July, so it wasn't like I'd failed to notice for years on end. Still!)
And that's not the first time that has ever happened, nor only with women, lol.
If gaydar is really a thing then mine is totally broken. When one of my best friends told me she was a lesbian late last year I was, like, utterly floored by this revelation. (To be fair, I had just met her mid-July, so it wasn't like I'd failed to notice for years on end. Still!)
And that's not the first time that has ever happened, nor only with women, lol.
My gaydar sucks too, usually I can only tell if there's like a sustained eye contact thing going on or something.
I'm the same, and even then I sometimes worry that I'm imagining sexual tension at times.
Yeah, another friend of mine told me that that's his trick as well for feeling out gay men.
I don't know that it would work so well for women, though, at least in my age bracket and living situation - as all of my female friends, being that we live in such close proximity in a dormitory, are perfectly comfortable with things like physical closeness and extended eye contact. Relying on the usual stereotypes that everyone uses (for better or worse) sometimes works and other times leaves me with a huge blindspot, which is what happened above with the aforementioned friend.
I'm the same, and even then I sometimes worry that I'm imagining sexual tension at times.
Yeah. I won't change, it just still ..kinda fuuny in some way and ironic since I'm usually told that; by other gay men.
This may seem like an odd comparison, but since I waited tables just before college, it is the example that always comes to mind for me.
When waiting tables, there are about 4-5 jokes that you can reliably expect to hear every night, and you are obliged to laugh at them as if it's the first time you've heard it. For example, when someone has completely cleared their plate, they will often say, as you pick up their empty plate, "I bet you can tell I didn't like it!"
Haha! Yes. You are the fortieth person to tell me that joke this week. That person has done nothing especially wrong, but since that time I've always been conscious of telling wrote jokes that everyone tells thinking they're clever. Similarly, I expect minorities and subgroups have a select few questions they're asked routinely by everyone. At least in those cases you don't have to act amused, unless it's a joke, I guess.
What was/is navigating highschool like for some of y'all?
Probably a somewhat tired topic but w/e: What was/is navigating highschool like for some of y'all?
I'm a Freshman right now, it's pretty damn fun. I think there are a lot more good looking guys than what I expected. I have groups of friends who I hang out with depending on my mood, but the ones that I hang out with afterschool are pretty much my true friends and the ones I have the most fun with, for example we wrote on a school poster today and ran away from a teacher...Probably a somewhat tired topic but w/e: What was/is navigating highschool like for some of y'all?
Yeah, I seem to always rationalize that I'm imagining the signs, because I find them attractive so I want them to be gay.I'm the same, and even then I sometimes worry that I'm imagining sexual tension at times.
Probably a somewhat tired topic but w/e: What was/is navigating highschool like for some of y'all?
Yeah, I seem to always rationalize that I'm imagining the signs, because I find them attractive so I want them to be gay.
But in general my Gaydar sucks, I can never tell.
I used to get coffee pretty frequently from the same place most mornings. The cashier guy was really cute, but I assumed he was straight.... because let's face it most guys I find attractive that I don't meet at a gay bar/club or online seem to be straight. Now I did notice him always looking me directly in the eyes and smiling, but I just assumed he took the "always be friendly to the customer thing" a little too seriously and thought nothing more of it. I thought to myself I don't need a crush on a straight guy, I've been down that road too many times as a teenager.
This went on for a few weeks until finally one day I was a little late and didn't come in during morning rush hour and he starts a conversation with me, asks if I'm gay, and asks me out. At the time, that like made my month because I never seem to meet random gay people during my normal day to day life ...maybe I just miss the all the signs
Probably a somewhat tired topic but w/e: What was/is navigating highschool like for some of y'all?
Probably a somewhat tired topic but w/e: What was/is navigating highschool like for some of y'all?
Probably a somewhat tired topic but w/e: What was/is navigating highschool like for some of y'all?
This was actually more of like a 7-11 type place though. yep, I liked my cheap coffee.Like every barista I know is gay, if I get hit on in a neutral setting it's practically always in a coffee shop.
Probably a somewhat tired topic but w/e: What was/is navigating highschool like for some of y'all?
Probably a somewhat tired topic but w/e: What was/is navigating highschool like for some of y'all?
Probably a somewhat tired topic but w/e: What was/is navigating highschool like for some of y'all?
I was in denial in high school so I thought I was a straight male and it was pretty awful.
I knew a bunch of gay people though. My school was huuuge. I always found it funny that my lesbian friend said I was the only guy she'd ever consider dating. Heh.
I'm pretty certain that gaydar is 80% confirmation bias and 20% lucky intuition. Knew someone that claimed to have amazing gaydar and I can remember a few times they were wrong that they promptly forgot.
I wonder how he'd react to my tentative plan to become a sex worker.
This went on for a few weeks until finally one day I was a little late and didn't come in during morning rush hour and he starts a conversation with me, asks if I'm gay, and asks me out.
Probably a somewhat tired topic but w/e: What was/is navigating highschool like for some of y'all?
Nothing exciting, that's why I didn't mention it.AND....? then what happened?
Nothing exciting, that why I didn't mention it.
We dated for a few weeks, he eventually moved pretty far away. We tried the long distance relationship thing for awhile but that didn't work out.
That's not what I wanted to hear. You should have made something up so as not to disappoint me. Now I'm going to bed without any sexytime stories to keep me warm. ;__;