So wait, have you actually asked if he's straight or are you still assuming? You might still have a chance!
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So wait, have you actually asked if he's straight or are you still assuming? You might still have a chance!
He is straight and still wants to hang out with you after asking him out. He sounds pretty cool. Just be friends. Least you don't have to come out to him now
I just thought I'd drop in and say hello. I'm pretty sure I'm a male to females transsexual and I think I might be bi. I would have posted in the trans thread but it seems to be dead.
This is the first time I've told anyone about this. Thank god for anonymity on the internet huh?
This is the first time I've told anyone about this. Thank god for anonymity on the internet huh?
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Welcome! Another bi! Huzzah one of us one of us!
Yeah (probably) one of us hehe
#TeamBi grows ever stronger!
liking the D its what matters the most tho.
Henchmen21
Banned
We have at least one lesbian on here that would say otherwise
Blood Diamonds
Banned
I just like the D and nothing else :C
I wish they'd post more.
I got no problem with them but if you are a guy in this thread you better like the D. LOL
FelixOrion
Poet Centuriate
Thanks. Yep by the end of it I was getting tired/lazy. Actually been semi-asleep for the last 24 hours. At least I finally finished my paper. I hope my prof doesn't come back to me with too many modifications -_-
I thought it was funny, but this thread just expands so fast I can't keep up sometimes.
Awwww that's cute
I miss things like that T_T
heh, true. Welcome, by the way
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
straights are welcome too
You are welcome to watch the show honey. But you know D lovers dominate these grounds lol
Come back. I'm 99% sure one of us will crush on you if you give us the chance.
Midnight Moon
Banned
So anyway I found out the guy likes karaoke a lot. He was so cute singing and eyeing me from the stage. This one weird guy was trying to talk to me and wouldn't leave me alone, so my guy came over and was like come on babe lets go outside. I have never been rescued before lol.
When he was on the stage he kept looking at me while singing and being flirty. So anyway we kept drinking and kissing and he sat in my lap a lot with us holding eachothers hands.
He told me he wished he could stay with me tonight lol...I was like damn! This boy wants me. He took me home and when we got to the parking lot we made out a lot and I started getting those feelings.
It really sucks he is leaving to Corpus to stay with relatives until the Navy calls him up.
I plan to keep in touch with him
Anyway I tried to talk with the bf and his response was "you always say that." Then he tells me he doesn't like going out all the time. Fair enough. But when I said I felt like we are drifting apart he said I'm sorry I'll try to find a job quickly if thst will make you happy. Then he begged me to go to the movies with him but I said no we need to wait until the bills are paid.
I guess thinking about it, is that my bf does not give me enough attention and thus I must be looking for it elsewhere. It seems he only does it after I complain
I'm testing him by staying away a little bit each day to see if he really misses me. He posted a facebook post last night "feeling sad." I guess it's wrong that I was seeing someone behind is back...but I am willing to try and fix our relationship although I have almost given up.
When he was on the stage he kept looking at me while singing and being flirty. So anyway we kept drinking and kissing and he sat in my lap a lot with us holding eachothers hands.
He told me he wished he could stay with me tonight lol...I was like damn! This boy wants me. He took me home and when we got to the parking lot we made out a lot and I started getting those feelings.
It really sucks he is leaving to Corpus to stay with relatives until the Navy calls him up.
I plan to keep in touch with him
Anyway I tried to talk with the bf and his response was "you always say that." Then he tells me he doesn't like going out all the time. Fair enough. But when I said I felt like we are drifting apart he said I'm sorry I'll try to find a job quickly if thst will make you happy. Then he begged me to go to the movies with him but I said no we need to wait until the bills are paid.
I guess thinking about it, is that my bf does not give me enough attention and thus I must be looking for it elsewhere. It seems he only does it after I complain
I'm testing him by staying away a little bit each day to see if he really misses me. He posted a facebook post last night "feeling sad." I guess it's wrong that I was seeing someone behind is back...but I am willing to try and fix our relationship although I have almost given up.
So me and the guy agreed to work out having our first date. He's like a couple of hours away but he comes up to my town a lot so we are working on it. We will see where this goes
I think this is awesome of course, and maybe this is my paranoid self talking, but exercise caution, meet him in a public place, get to know each other, etc. etc. because after all he came from 4chan
Anyway I tried to talk with the bf and his response was "you always say that." Then he tells me he doesn't like going out all the time. Fair enough. But when I said I felt like we are drifting apart he said I'm sorry I'll try to find a job quickly if thst will make you happy. Then he begged me to go to the movies with him but I said no we need to wait until the bills are paid.
I guess thinking about it, is that my bf does not give me enough attention and thus I must be looking for it elsewhere. It seems he only does it after I complain
I'm testing him by staying away a little bit each day to see if he really misses me. He posted a facebook post last night "feeling sad." I guess it's wrong that I was seeing someone behind is back...but I am willing to try and fix our relationship although I have almost given up.
I really think you should dump this guy. Going back to your post on the last page, I don't think it's reasonable to worry that this person is the "love of your life", pretty much because I don't think it reasonable to believe that you only have one "love of your life". Certainly, no one person is precisely like another, but it doesn't mean that you're only able to have a fulfilling, meaningful relationship with one sole individual. There are over seven billion people on this planet: Even if your man were one in a million, there'd still be seven million others just like him. (Fake edit: Alcoori said exactly the same thing.)
As for your plan to "test" him, I think that's terrible. I would absolutely despise my partner if he tested me. Cut your losses, break it off, find someone worth your time (and whose time you're worth), and maybe keep this man as a friend.
(As for why you might have continued this relationship even though it is shite, there are many possibilities. Alcoori touched upon familiarity, but to me you just seem anxious about finding someone else, to which all I can say is that you will, they'll be the absolute bestest love of your life, and then they'll dump you or you'll dump them.)
Again, I'm ignorant: What is 4chan and why is it dangerous?I think this is awesome of course, and maybe this is my paranoid self talking, but exercise caution, meet him in a public place, get to know each other, etc. etc. because after all he came from 4chan
Aeriscloud
Banned
It's an img board that features some of the scummiest people on the internet.
It always surprises me people who don't know about 4chan, although I think is best if you don't find out, it is the origin of everything funny and awful about the Internet, but the awful bits will get filtered and the funnny ones will arrive to you in the form of funny memes, so there's no need to go there.
Like I said, I'm very ignorant
To be honest, I really don't follow you. On one hand you write purely romantic things like "what if he's the love of my life" and thus don't want to break up with him. On the other hand you screw him: you cheat on him, you don't trust him (checking someones phone and email, i.e. stuff that should be considered fully private, is a big no no) and test him by pushing him aside. Of course, it's hard to get the full story out of your posts, but given the information it seems like you're the bad guy here, not him.
I'm no 4chan user, but it's very much the opposite of NeoGAF. A message board which is very open where you can post without registrating. What people call memes now is usually what was big on 4chan in like 2005. Rick rolling for example came from an older meme where people would post a link leading to a duck with wheels (duck rolling) which evolved to the Rick Ashley video.
It's "dangerous" because you can find everything there from pure gold to porn and they like to make fun of everyone
This is what a 4chan post looks like and this one is popular here. You can find more (without going there) at /r/4chan on reddit.
Blood Diamonds
Banned
oh my god school hasn't even started and it's already a little shitty :c my best friend (i hate calling him that) has second lunch and I have first lunch .-. Was really hoping to have some fun with the dude, I've known him for 5 years plus I'm a little worried about him because I can tell he's been really depressed.
we have two of the same classes but on different hours *sigh* I really hope I get to see my other friends this school year.
Don't feel like trying to make new ones :v
we have two of the same classes but on different hours *sigh* I really hope I get to see my other friends this school year.
Don't feel like trying to make new ones :v
Bless those people as the 'lucky ones'
Henchmen21
Banned
1: FU for being young
2: Why do you hate calling him that? If he's your best friend, than that's what he is.
1: FU for being young
2: Why do you hate calling him that? If he's your best friend, than that's what he is.
Hey, I was going to ask the same!
Midnight Moon
Banned
The reason I check his phone is because of last year and it always bothered me. And every single time I would check I would find something bad on his phone :/
I actually stopped checking it lately and we haven't really had a big fight. But I just talked to him just trying to motivate him to do something besides sit in the apartment all day. I told him I feel like we are falling apart that we are drifting and he told me that I never seem to want to do anything with him. That I always go with my friend somewhere, I guess he just doesn't want to go with me and my friend, just me.
We use to have big fights all the time like we were gonna break up and now we don't. He just went to go pickup his check from his last job that he got fired from and said he would go look for jobs. I try to ask him why he is not motivated to do anything and he still didn't give me a legit reason.
tl;dr I am a terrible person but I want to fix it with him...
Blood Diamonds
Banned
1: FU for being young
2: Why do you hate calling him that? If he's your best friend, than that's what he is.
1. I'm sorry :C
2. I don't know, it feels weird. It's not a term I would usually use, and neither would he, so it's weird in that sense? I dunno, he's stood up for me multiple times and I've stood up for him a lot too.
I think people don't even know about goatsee anymore. Tsk tsk.
As for Midnight Moon story, you had a lot of great advice. Now if you want to keep "working" on the relationship, then I'm just gonna sit back and enjoy the show. After all who doesn't like a hot mess?
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
Keep diggin' that hole.
All I see are excuses, shameful behavior, and a big, big mess being made.
I don't think anyone in this thread will disagree that relationships require work and effort from both parties, but you can also throw good money after bad.
The real question you need to ask yourself is "Why him and not anyone else?" If the only answer you can give yourself is "Because he's the only person I've got at the moment", then you're doing both you and your partner a disservice.
I'm going to go off on a limb and say maybe you should end it.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
You mean your boyfriend only wants to spend time with you and not your friends? What a weirdo!
So let me get this straight. You're cheating on him, checking his emails and his phone, Complaining about him not wanting to go out, but when he asks you if you want to go cinema you say no because of reasons and 'testing' him to see if he truly cares about you.
You also are on his case about him getting a job but pointed out that he is an illegal immigrant which means the chances of him getting a job is low and must be really hard!
I feel sorry for your boyfriend he deserves so much better. It also sounds like you're only with him because you enjoy the freedom of having your own place
My advice tell him you cheated on him. If you love him try to work it out with him, if not you need to end it.
So let me get this straight. You're cheating on him, checking his emails and his phone, Complaining about him not wanting to go out, but when he asks you if you want to go cinema you say no because of reasons and 'testing' him to see if he truly cares about you.
You also are on his case about him getting a job but pointed out that he is an illegal immigrant which means the chances of him getting a job is low and must be really hard!
I feel sorry for your boyfriend he deserves so much better. It also sounds like you're only with him because you enjoy the freedom of having your own place
My advice tell him you cheated on him. If you love him try to work it out with him, if not you need to end it.
/slowclap
Either breakup with him and deal with losing your living independence or stop cheating on him/playing mindgames and actually commit to making it work.
You're doing the worst possible things to everyone involved at the moment.
I always wonder why cheating seems to be so common and then I read posts like these. Grow a spine, make a decision, and find some decency/self-restraint if you're going to agree to be in a monogamous relationship in the future.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
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I see some parallels with Midnight's story and my previous relationship. I was the one who always wanted to stay home while my bf wanted to hang out. I once read his chat logs and learned that he cheated on me years before. I confronted him about it (refusing to tell him how I found out). He denied it and persisted to act shocked, completely innocent, and lying to my face while looking me straight in the eyes for full 30 minutes, until he finally cracked and admitted it when he realized I wasn't buying his bullshit.
Cue me bursting into tears and running out of the car. That was the end of a 3+ years relationship.
The fact that he cheated on me didn't bother me anywhere as much as knowing that he lied to me about it for years and tried his damndest to deny it after I found out about it. I couldn't trust anything he'd tell me at that point.
Cue me bursting into tears and running out of the car. That was the end of a 3+ years relationship.
The fact that he cheated on me didn't bother me anywhere as much as knowing that he lied to me about it for years and tried his damndest to deny it after I found out about it. I couldn't trust anything he'd tell me at that point.
Congrats! Me coming out to my mom was so anti climatic, no tears or anything of the sort (which was kind of a relief in the end)
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