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chronos4590

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Alcoori said:
I honestly can't wait until next week to read about the trainwreck.
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Same. Got my popcorn and my reading Glasses ready
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Sibylus

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BeesEight said:
Let's be honest, you're only playing Dota.
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Haha, that's definitely a monumental omission. Yeah, Dota 2 definitely! >->

King Endymion said:
What? No, I want to be in a normal relationship, of course, but looking at other guys and talking to them, there are usually no attraction there for me, it happens so rarely that I have to give it a shot. Am I setting myself up to get hurt? Maybe, my feelings has kind of decreased lately anyway that I wouldn't get too upset if things didn't work ut now, if I fall for him and we begin a relationship and then get hurt, well, then I have given it a shot.
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But I don't understand how you're ignoring half of the attraction equation just because he physically does it for you. At the rate you're making excuses for his character flaws, how long are you willing to put up with them? A week? A month? A year?
 
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jdforge

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Bo said:
Haha, that's definitely a monumental omission. Yeah, Dota 2 definitely! >->


But I don't understand how you're ignoring half of the attraction equation just because he physically does it for you. At the rate you're making excuses for his character flaws, how long are you willing to put up with them? A week? A month? A year?
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Have you ever heard of the term "good enough"?

Plenty of people overlook the flaws of others, as they're able to do that. Maybe this guy can live with someone that others can't, but that doesn't make it wrong or a bad life choice.

It's up to the individual every time.
 
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King Endymion

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Bo said:
Haha, that's definitely a monumental omission. Yeah, Dota 2 definitely! >->


But I don't understand how you're ignoring half of the attraction equation just because he physically does it for you. At the rate you're making excuses for his character flaws, how long are you willing to put up with them? A week? A month? A year?
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I'm not flawless myself, I believe in compromise. That doesn't mean I'm gonna be in a relationship where I'm being put down and hurt, not at all, but I'm willing to give it a shot.
At least he is driving down here and not the opposite, so I don't have to worry about that, that was my requirement, that we meet for the first time where I feel comfortable. :)
 
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lunch

there's ALWAYS ONE
needlejuice said:
Have you ever heard of the term "good enough"?

Plenty of people overlook the flaws of others, as they're able to do that. Maybe this guy can live with someone that others can't, but that doesn't make it wrong or a bad life choice.

It's up to the individual every time.
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Those are pretty big flaws that he laid out though. King Endymion's story is essentially the same as this:

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xxczx

xxczx

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ive done two shifts in a gay nightclub and ive only been complimented and bought shots by girls. kinda depressing.
 
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Sibylus

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needlejuice said:
Have you ever heard of the term "good enough"?

Plenty of people overlook the flaws of others, as they're able to do that. Maybe this guy can live with someone that others can't, but that doesn't make it wrong or a bad life choice.

It's up to the individual every time.
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Whilst I agree in principle, we're not talking about "dislikes children", "has a bit of a temper", or "has self-loathing issues" here. We're talking "openly conceited, openly plays mind-games, says weird shit but maaaybe it's a front, doesn't take my concerns seriously". Complete galaxy removed from the former, needle.

I don't think anybody is objecting strenuously to him just having some fun with the guy, but pursuing a relationship? You have to relate first. Start the excuse train at your peril.
 
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BeesEight

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needlejuice said:
Have you ever heard of the term "good enough"?

Plenty of people overlook the flaws of others, as they're able to do that. Maybe this guy can live with someone that others can't, but that doesn't make it wrong or a bad life choice.

It's up to the individual every time.
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But by his own admission he seems to have serious doubts about this guy. I mean, why else pop unto Gaf and give this rather overwhelmingly negative appraisal of the guy.

From my reading, it seems like he's trying to reconcile these prominent red flags in the hopes that the impression this guy gives off is some sort of obfuscatory guise. And all because he's just a pretty face.

On the one hand, I wouldn't recommend he go through with something so obviously doomed but at least he's expressed awareness of certain issues from the start. I think more interestingly would be the introspective analysis of 'why this guy and not someone else' but that usually only comes after the damage is done.

xxczx said:
ive done two shifts in a gay nightclub and ive only been complimented and bought shots by girls. kinda depressing.
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I've been in numerous pubs and clubs and never got offered drinks by girls. You're ahead of the curve!

Bo said:
Haha, that's definitely a monumental omission. Yeah, Dota 2 definitely! >->
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Admittance is the first step to recovery.
 
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Sibylus

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BeesEight said:
But by his own admission he seems to have serious doubts about this guy. I mean, why else pop unto Gaf and give this rather overwhelmingly negative appraisal of the guy.

From my reading, it seems like he's trying to reconcile these rather prominent red flags in the hopes that the impression this guy gives off is some sort of obfuscatory guise. And all because he's just a pretty face.

On the one hand, I wouldn't recommend he go through with something so obviously doomed but at least he's expressed awareness of certain issues from the start. I think more interestingly would be the introspective analysis of 'why this guy and not someone else' but that usually only comes after the damage is done.
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Yup, and I think you have to ask yourself a hard question Endy: if this guy wasn't a pretty face, would you be giving him a pass for any of this stuff?
 
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King Endymion

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Bo said:
Yup, and I think you have to ask yourself a hard question Endy: if this guy wasn't a pretty face, would you be giving him a pass for any of this stuff?
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Well, considering I didn't really find him that attractive physically in the beginning, yeah, I probably would, he got more attractive once I got to know him and now I find him absolutely gorgeous.

I dunno, maybe I'm just ready to try something, I have only had one boyfriend before, I have had a pretty bad time just living lately so maybe my body wants to feel something, even if it ends up badly. I don't know why, but I feel like I am getting old even though I'm only 23, I want to have a real relationship, move in with someone and create a life together, you know.
 
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Sai-kun

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it might just be me, but settling down is like the last thing i think i'd be thinking about at 23. dating, sure, but moving in and shit? ehhhh.
 
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BeesEight

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King Endymion said:
I don't know why, but I feel like I am getting old even though I'm only 23, I want to have a real relationship, move in with someone and create a life together, you know.
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Gay death is a thing. I hope someone's prepared my mausoleum.

Well, the nice thing is you're still young and free to make lots of mistakes. Trust me, I can definitely relate to the whole 'being alone' bit. I suppose the best advice I can give is to temper your expectations. While you are prepared to settle down, I'd really make sure that option is on his table before making any big commitment. Well... that and compatibility which seems to be the biggest issue here.
 
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King Endymion

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BeesEight said:
Gay death is a thing. I hope someone's prepared my mausoleum.

Well, the nice thing is you're still young and free to make lots of mistakes. Trust me, I can definitely relate to the whole 'being alone' bit. I suppose the best advice I can give is to temper your expectations. While you are prepared to settle down, I'd really make sure that option is on his table before making any big commitment. Well... that and compatibility which seems to be the biggest issue here.
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It is on his table, or so he says at least, he has stuff in his past that makes things uncertain, but still, he wants to settle down.

I know it's not healthy thinking that I have, I dunno, I had a bad breakup last year, I haven't mourned my mom's death, I still live at home and desperately want to move out as well as having a job that isn't exactly satisfying. I guess I'm just looking for that little shining light in my life that makes it better, even thogh I know it's wrong and naive. :/
 
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BeesEight

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King Endymion said:
It is on his table, or so he says at least, he has stuff in his past that makes things uncertain, but still, he wants to settle down.

I know it's not healthy thinking that I have, I dunno, I had a bad breakup last year, I haven't mourned my mom's death, I still live at home and desperately want to move out as well as having a job that isn't exactly satisfying. I guess I'm just looking for that little shining light in my life that makes it better, even thogh I know it's wrong and naive. :/
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Nothing wrong with looking for the shining light. It's just a mistake to try and find it in someone else.
 
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btkadams

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i was in a bout of depression this past summer and then i found my current bf. things were going very well for a few months and i thought it had solved my sadness, but i've been feeling a lot down again lately. having a boyfriend won't fix your problems. the excitement of having someone there might distract you for a little while, but problems in your life need to be faced. i've learned that and i'm working to improve my situation (it has nothing to do with my bf btw, but with my career/friendcircle/etc).
 
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nickcv

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endymion you'll find the right guy to settle down with when it's time, is not something you can force.

It's not like buying a car, there's not amount of effort you can put into finding the right person to actually achieve that.

Some people go around for years looking for the right person, some others just find it casually.
It's not something you can have control over, and while i do agree that looking for that person is always the right thing to do, you cannot force someone to be that person for you.

You'll find him when you'll find him.
 
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RatskyWatsky

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icarus-daedelus said:
I can't tell if this post is sarcastic or not (if so, feel free to look down on me from afar as I hang my head in shame) but that is like the least surprising thing considering how much Kojima clearly and enthusiastically loves well-defined man-ass. Even I remember this and I haven't played a real videogame nor ventured into Gaming in like a year.
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I just looked at the ESRB rating, and nudity isn't listed anywhere. :/
 
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Sibylus

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BeesEight said:
Nothing wrong with looking for the shining light. It's just a mistake to try and find it in someone else.
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Have to agree with Bees again (when are we getting betrothed, dear?), you have to get your own house in order. Nobody can clean it for you, they can certainly help, but the change for the better begins and ends with your own personal growth.
 
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Nohar

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@Endymion: Well, I guess everything has been said. It's your call, but be careful. I don't really like this guy's attitude, to be honest.

I'll just add one more thing: whatever you do with him, do not take any risks. I'm going to state pretty obvious things, but better be safe than sorry: if you end up having sex with him, be sure to use a condom. Hand-play is "kinda" safe, as long as you don't have a flesh wound on your hands. If you enter in contact with pre-ejaculate liquid or semen, be sure to wash your hands (repeatidly). Do not use those liquids as lubrifiant, and avoid contact between those liquids and your penis, your eyes, your anus, your mouth and any potential wound. Blow job is not safe either (more risks if you are the one doing it than if you are the one receiving it, but in the end it doesn't change the fact that there is a risk). Do not assume he is clean.
 
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King Endymion

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Nohar said:
@Endymion: Well, I guess everything has been said. It's your call, but be careful. I don't really like this guy's attitude, to be honest.

I'll just add one more thing: whatever you do with him, do not take any risks. I'm going to state pretty obvious things, but better be safe than sorry: if you end up having sex with him, be sure to use a condom. Hand-play is "kinda" safe, as long as you don't have a flesh wound on your hands. If you enter in contact with pre-ejaculate liquid or semen, be sure to wash your hands (repeatidly). Do not use those liquids as lubrifiant, and avoid contact between those liquids and your penis, your eyes, your anus, your mouth and any potential wound. Blow job is not safe either (more risks if you are the one doing it than if you are the one receiving it, but in the end it doesn't change the fact that there is a risk). Do not assume he is clean.
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Thanks. :)
While I do think he is clean, I'm not gonna assume it, for sure.
I made the mistake of asking him about sex partners, while they may not be too many, it was a lot for me since I'm so inexperienced, thankfully, there were only a few guys on the list and the rest girls. But yeah, I can't assume he is clean, we probably won't do anything like that though, since I'm living in home and we're not going to my place at all, just out in the city. :)
 
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Emitan

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Don't like DmC because you think Dino is hot (he's not BTW).

Just because Fang is hot doesn't mean she's a good character!

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MyAbsolution

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Bo said:
To be blunt, Endymion, it almost seems like you're going out of your way to get hurt by this guy on the off-chance that his horrific first impression is somehow the complete and utter opposite of his true hidden self. Secretly hoping he's playing mind-games with you so that he's not an irredeemable douchebag still makes him a douchebag, it's a self-defeating exercise. I don't understand why you're giving him the time of day. Is it your express purpose to be someone's toy?


Strategy games and FPSes are my meat and potatoes, Company of Heroes 1 and 2, AoE II, Starcraft II, Civilization V, Half-Life series, Halo series, Left 4 Dead series, Bioshock series, Mirror's Edge, Metro 2033 series, etc.
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We are from the same place and like the same games?!

Fucken rights.
 
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Emitan

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icarus-daedelus said:
It's the Aussie accent, man. It just amps up the heat to blinding levels.

tbqh I can never get over how good that character design is considering I generally don't care for Nomura at all.
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Australian accents have always been the sexiest accent to me. I always had Fang as the leader of my party even if it meant playing a boring tank for half the game.
 
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MyAbsolution

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Guess ill be the hater that says aussie accents sound absolutely grating for chicks?

I think Clare from Lost just made me pray for her island send off every episode...
 
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daripad

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Today I decided to come out to my friends, then try thought I was joking and laughed hard at that, so I turned it into a jock and decided not to confirm it was true .

Then before a class a friend starts massaging my shoulders :p that was hot but unfortunately he is straight.

Oh, and I have to add that I don't know why, but some guys with reading glasses look extremely hotter than they do without them, such a weird thing, but I must like them because I love guys with nerdy looks.
 
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daripad

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Dany M said:
Why were they laughing?
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They think a gay person is someone that acts like a girl, so they thought it was just a jock (sometimes they do that kind of jokes). I decided not to tell them that it was true later because I figured they might be a bit homophobic (though one of our friends acts very gay and suspiciously has a girlfriend, but no one criticises him). So maybe I will tell them one by one so they think that I am being serious.
 
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Emitan

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daripad said:
Today I decided to come out to my friends, then try thought I was joking and laughed hard at that, so I turned it into a jock and decided not to confirm it was true .

Then before a class a friend starts massaging my shoulders :p that was hot but unfortunately he is straight.

Oh, and I have to add that I don't know why, but some guys with reading glasses look extremely hotter than they do without them, such a weird thing, but I must like them because I love guys with nerdy looks.
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If they laughed at you coming out are they really your friends? :/
 
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daripad

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Emitan said:
If they laughed at you coming out are they really your friends? :/
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It may have been my fault, since I am one of the most joking guy of them, and sine I did it when we were all together and the situation we were in, it was easy to confuse it as a joke or a serious thing. That's why I said that I am going to tell them personally one by one, because that is what I tend to do when sometimes I want to say something serious.


Edit: Finally I am a member OMG lets party today

Edit 2: I'd like to add that my friends have played a huge role when I am feeling very depressed and suicidal, they always make me feel good and forget what is happening at least for a brief moment. They try their best to help me or suggest me what to do with some problems I have, so I can safely say they are my friends.
 
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nickcv

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so your problem is that you are the clown in your group and they just didn't take it seriously, i don't see anything bad in that, but set the record straight (pun intended!) :p
 
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daripad

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nickcv said:
so your problem is that you are the clown in your group and they just didn't take it seriously, i don't see anything bad in that, but set the record straight (pun intended!) :p
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Yes, I am the clown :( Unfortunately my jokes are bad (though they're fun for them)

LOCK said:
Guys, I can't stop thinking about Justin Timberlake dressed as a Porn Star on SNL.

sigh
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What is SNL?
 
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