Aarglefarg
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EDIT: I'll elaborate. If I'm calling you out, I'm not holding a grudge at all. But I am aware and concerned about the message it sends.
Responding like it is a big deal for someone in this thread to have sex with women is sending an unwelcoming message. It puts the G first, LBT way behind. Queer people (in this case I infer a bi man) talking about having sex with women belong equally in this thread as those talking about sex with men. It shouldn't be a big deal, shouldn't get a 'wat', an 'ew' or a 'disgusting', whether in jest or not. It's a problem when one person does it and it's disproportionately bigger when a group do it.
I acknowledge that when it's in-group humour (in this case a bi person saying it), it can be different because the context of who is saying it is different, but when people don't know it's in-group it seems the same and so I'm concerned about it too.
Fun is good, there are boundaries to stay in to keep things from being unfun, here's where a boundary should go.
All cool?
EDIT: I'll elaborate. If I'm calling you out, I'm not holding a grudge at all. But I am aware and concerned about the message it sends.
Responding like it is a big deal for someone in this thread to have sex with women is sending an unwelcoming message. It puts the G first, LBT way behind. Queer people (in this case I infer a bi man) talking about having sex with women belong equally in this thread as those talking about sex with men. It shouldn't be a big deal, shouldn't get a 'wat', an 'ew' or a 'disgusting', whether in jest or not. It's a problem when one person does it and it's disproportionately bigger when a group do it.
I acknowledge that when it's in-group humour (in this case a bi person saying it), it can be different because the context of who is saying it is different, but when people don't know it's in-group it seems the same and so I'm concerned about it too.
Fun is good, there are boundaries to stay in to keep things from being unfun, here's where a boundary should go.
All cool?