Some interesting gay-short films in here (overall good quality and acting). Really liked Triple Standard (Lee Amir = new crush!!! )
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michaeltraps
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At least where I'm from (heavily Irish, Italian, Catholic) it's customary to have an engagement party within six months of the engagement which is, on average, about two years away from the actual wedding date. This is typically held at a hall or restaurant, can sometimes have a DJ, and doesn't have a registry... so cash gifts are just assumed. In my experience, the groom's family handles the expenses of this event, since it's "traditional" for the bride's family to pay for the majority of the actual wedding reception (because reasons).
And I don't think I've even MET 700 people in my life. Weddings here can get pretty large, too. It has nothing to do with who the bride and groom actually know or want at their wedding, it's more about the parents/family of the couple who NEED to invite cousins X,Y,Z, family friend F through G, because they "have" to (lest you be spoken about behind your back!). It's actually one of the primary causes of stress during the planning phases of the wedding from my observations and, since the parents are usually footing a good portion of the bill, the couple's hands are usually tied.
I wouldn't mind having something in a venue, mind you, but nothing in the range of 200-300 people. I would also want to be able to pay for the wedding between the two of us, rather than have to answer to another third party (be it his family or mine) when making decisions on the matter.
I'm done with my wedding rant now, I promise. It's been bottling up over the past few years...
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... Gosh, why would I waste money on a wedding party? Why should I provide for others when my entire attention should be on my significant other...? I'll just buy some cake (Because cake is delicious), mention the wedding to others before saying that they will not be invited to the party, and then fuck away off from where I live, never to return!
... In theory.
... In theory.
I'm glad you wrote about it, I love learning about different cultures and their customs! So it seems a few of the customs are similar to Croatian ones, which shouldn't be surprising since Italy and Croatia are practically neighbor countries (and Croatia is a predominantly Catholic country).
As for respecting the couple's parents's wishes, it's the same here. So many large wedding receptions are held that way simply because the parents wish so, and since they're the ones covering the reception costs, their wishes have to be respected.
So cash gifts are given during the engagement party? In my country it's always during the wedding reception. Thankfully one of the old customs isn't practiced anymore, the one during which the gifts were read out loud in front of everybody, meaning that if someone gave 500 $ to the newlyweds, whoever was the host of the reception would take the mic and then say: "xx gave 500 $". The horror.
Your idea of 200 people sounds reasonable, and I hope you get your way someday. But first of all, I hope you find a soulmate who you'll spend the rest of your life with
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Gooooooooood morning GayGAF <3!
Masquerader
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Good morrow!
BlueBadger
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How's it going?!
hope you're all doing super well today!Also totally random, I decided I'm going to cosplay as Apollo at PAX in august LOL! Speaking of PAX, is anyone else going?!
Henchmen21
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How's it going?!
Also totally random, I decided I'm going to cosplay as Apollo at PAX in august LOL! Speaking of PAX, is anyone else going?!
Spaceship or Boxer?
BlueBadger
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Err.. Apollo Justice. LOL I'm sorry I didn't specify.
michaeltraps
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Hey, if I can turn my jaded ramblings into an informative rant, I'm all for it!I'm glad you wrote about it, I love learning about different cultures and their customs! So it seems a few of the customs are similar to Croatian ones, which shouldn't be surprising since Italy and Croatia are practically neighbor countries (and Croatia is a predominantly Catholic country).
As for respecting the couple's parents's wishes, it's the same here. So many large wedding receptions are held that way simply because the parents wish so, and since they're the ones covering the reception costs, their wishes have to be respected.
So cash gifts are given during the engagement party? In my country it's always during the wedding reception. Thankfully one of the old customs isn't practiced anymore, the one during which the gifts were read out loud in front of everybody, meaning that if someone gave 500 $ to the newlyweds, whoever was the host of the reception would take the mic and then say: "xx gave 500 $". The horror.
Your idea of 200 people sounds reasonable, and I hope you get your way someday. But first of all, I hope you find a soulmate who you'll spend the rest of your life with
Yeah, I mean a lot of people give money for both the engagement party AND wedding. Unless you want to pick something off of the gift registry. And wow, they used to read out gifts and dollar amounts during? That seems... like a breach of confidentiality or something... That brings Catholic guilt to a whole new level.
Well thank you! And same to you, sir. Yeah. Those plans are honestly so far down the pipeline that I don't have anything other than hazy generalities planned. Can't put the cart before the horse, after all!
Poltergust
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How are you gonna get your hair to look like his?
BlueBadger
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I think I'mma try this:
And pray that I don't mess up (which I usually do with my hair
)Masquerader
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Definitely a common height 'round these parts.
Masquerader
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Oh? Which one?
Masquerader
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... That guy? Wow. Eh. Cool, I suppose! It's unconventional, but interesting!
michaeltraps
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I love stuff like this. It's nice to see animation making strides as well.
And it's why I love ParaNorman so much <3
Dead Prince
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always felt he was gay from the first movie.
Dead Prince
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he could be into both. into dragons.
BlueBadger
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LOL I love all of them!!
addicted to the series to the point where I've memorized most of the scripts
Indeed!
Masquerader
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LOL I love all of them!!but I love how dorky Apollo isaddicted to the series to the point where I've memorized most of the scripts
Actually, my favourite character is Damon Gant~ He's just so... Jolly!
For a true bastard, anyway.
Also, stupid question... Is the Blue Badger the cause of your username~? If so, I should greet you with "What the hell was that wriggling piece of plywood!?" from now on~
BlueBadger
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The answer to your question is "YESSSSS". LOL. And I give you special permission to do so
Masquerader
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The answer to your question is "YESSSSS". LOL. And I give you special permission to do so
Why, thank you, oh Wriggling Piece of Plywood~!
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chronos4590
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Awesome regarding HTTYD 2. Movie is going to be amazing and hopefully it snags an award this year unlike the first. We gotta support the director Dean Deblois who is gay too!
You might be over-thinking it
I ideally would prefer to be with someone with similar views about such issues, but if you otherwise completely click with him then I think you should start worrying only once you hit an actual "wall" with it. I think you guys can work it out by being completely respectful of each other's position.
I ideally would prefer to be with someone with similar views about such issues, but if you otherwise completely click with him then I think you should start worrying only once you hit an actual "wall" with it. I think you guys can work it out by being completely respectful of each other's position.
toothless, duh
he's gonna get a dragon boyfriend and they'll be adorable
holy shit those are some DEPRESSING comments
(the actor is straight)
(I feel sorry for those kids. Not because they don't get to see the movie, but because their father is a waste of air.)
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Mister Blackadder, you are in love with your manservant, Bob? May I prescribe leeches?
In all seriousness, though, there's nothing wrong~ If anything does arise, settle things in a diplomatic fashion~! If you like him, then it's worth doing so.
In all seriousness, though, there's nothing wrong~ If anything does arise, settle things in a diplomatic fashion~! If you like him, then it's worth doing so.
michaeltraps
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Lucario said:
It's amazing how many of those shitheads connected their full names, twitter accounts, real pictures, Facebook accounts, etc.....
I couldn't be with the guy (The red flags would be a major problem for me), but if you find him cute and have similar interest then I say go for it.
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Thanks for the thoughts guys.
I'm willing to keep this going and wait until I hit an actual wall, as Rm88~ suggested, rather than cutting the cord based on presumptions. Even though it's not causing any immediate problems (yet?), It'll probably take a bit of effort on my part to suppress concerns about his religious inclination... espeically since it's been ingrained in his DNA. But to be fair, it is also partially responsible for his depth of character and humility which I'm attracted to.
I'm willing to keep this going and wait until I hit an actual wall, as Rm88~ suggested, rather than cutting the cord based on presumptions. Even though it's not causing any immediate problems (yet?), It'll probably take a bit of effort on my part to suppress concerns about his religious inclination... espeically since it's been ingrained in his DNA. But to be fair, it is also partially responsible for his depth of character and humility which I'm attracted to.
One of the most stable relationships I know is between a mostly atheist man with some shinto/buddhist beliefs and a christian woman. His stance: IDGAF about your beliefs as long as you don't push them down my throat. To be fair she's not a hardcore believer or anything, I'm not sure if it's even okay for very christian people to marry people from other cultural/religious backgrounds.
I honestly can see Bailey's position, I think people whose lives revolve around religion can often present traits I don't want in a partner. But in your situation any possible disagreement has yet to happen, so really, just go through it and wait for things to develop
I honestly can see Bailey's position, I think people whose lives revolve around religion can often present traits I don't want in a partner. But in your situation any possible disagreement has yet to happen, so really, just go through it and wait for things to develop
Actually, the red flag that is the most concerning is the last one, with the potential clinginess. That's something that drove me away from one guy I met last year (a guy my friends set me up with) so I can really relate to that one. We went out on two dates and he already had plans for the next few weeks, which seriously freaked me out (among other things which felt like red flags to me). Of course, I ended it immediately after that.
But then again, if I had liked him enough, I would have simply told him to take it slow.
I guess in the end it all depends on how much you like the guy. If you really, really like him and think there could be something more between the two of you, then go for it, it all might turn out better than you expect. If not, then don't. I hope you work it out somehow, though, because aside from some red flags, that guy sounds nice.
I really enjoyed reading those jaded ramblings, so thank you for that
Yes, Catholic guilt indeed
I'll never forget my cousin's wedding reception during which gifts were read out, it was ten years ago. When the guy who read them out loud got to my parents' gift, he made a really mean joke on their account (they gave less money than some of my cousin's friends because they couldn't afford it at the time), which was probably the most humiliating moment of their lives. Thankfully that stupid custom is no more.And thank you! I hope both of us have stable long-term relationships eventually
So that guy I went down to houston to visit for a few days has kept in contact with me. We gave ourselves a month and we got over the "wanting to date" stuff. But at the same time I miss how he used to always want to talk to me 24/7. It's changed so dramatically now that it's just weird. Sigh the sooner I get back on the horse the better.
Aw don't give up boo! You will find your true sweetheart someday
(ALSO, you should tell me when you are in Houston so we can chill!)
Aw don't give up boo! You will find your true sweetheart someday(ALSO, you should tell me when you are in Houston so we can chill!)
Hopefully one day. Just need to focus on the weight issue first.
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So there's this university where I live (Trinity Western). And you can tell by the name obviously that it's Christian-based. Which is obviously fine. But they're thinking of opening up a law school within their university, and they're not allowing LGBT students into the program. I really hope the Law Society here doesn't approve it or let it fly at all, but it's a debate that's been going on for a while now and it just makes me really upset every time I hear about it. The Canadian charter does state freedom of religion, yes, but it also promotes the right to equality as well.. And they're totally okay with making a law school that's so blatantly unconstitutional ;_;
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