Congrats man. The 1 year anniversary was the only one we celebrated. The next celebration will probably be at the 5 year mark.
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LGBThread |OT4| We're (still) Here! We're (still) Queer!
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Congrats man. The 1 year anniversary was the only one we celebrated. The next celebration will probably be at the 5 year mark.
grats! what are u guys doing to celebrate?
Yay congrats!
If I'm not mistaken, you were the poster who was wanting to turn your relationship open, or at least have some more sexual experiences and partners due to your boyfriend having many more than you, am I right? How did that turn out? Have you gotten over that feeling or not?
<3 Love you babe
Necromanti
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Something positive and relationship-related in this thread? Why I never...
Congratulations, you two.
chronos4590
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"Our Father in heaven,
Hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come.... "
Congrats DannyM and Mr.F
TheAbsolution
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Welcome! Enjoy yourself here!Hi! Thought I'd say hello after lurking for a bit.
Anthony, 23 and gay from Northern Ireland.
I'm a bit inexperienced at the whole forum thing as I haven't used one properly for a few years, so sorry if there's any protocol for introducing yourself.
So hello all you fabulous people.
The twitter drama continues...
https://twitter.com/the_dudes_rug/status/486262799073824769
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I'm too tired for that shit
https://twitter.com/the_dudes_rug/status/486262799073824769
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I'm too tired for that shit
The twitter drama continues...
https://twitter.com/the_dudes_rug/status/486262799073824769
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I'm too tired for that shit
Just block them. There's no use wasting your breath (text breath?) on bigots who will never change.
Casanova
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I've been consumed by tumblr and have been neglecting you, GAF.
I'm also starting an LGBT group at my local community college and I'm going to start preparing now before the fall semester. Any ideas? This is brand new to the school, and isn't exactly common in the area, considering I am in the bible belt.
Oh, here's a pic:
I'm also starting an LGBT group at my local community college and I'm going to start preparing now before the fall semester. Any ideas? This is brand new to the school, and isn't exactly common in the area, considering I am in the bible belt.
Oh, here's a pic:
I still don't get it.
Link to tweet, pls
via PM
I've been consumed by tumblr and have been neglecting you, GAF.
I'm also starting an LGBT group at my local community college and I'm going to start preparing now before the fall semester. Any ideas? This is brand new to the school, and isn't exactly common in the area, considering I am in the bible belt.
Oh, here's a pic:
Ginger beard? Yay! :3
<+)O Robido O(+>
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"Our Father in heaven,
Hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come.... "
Congrats DannyM and Mr.F
Lord, Taye Diggs.
CornBurrito
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The twitter drama continues...
https://twitter.com/the_dudes_rug/status/486262799073824769
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I'm too tired for that shit
Just block them. Seriously. The only reason people resort to the "it is natural" defense is because people incorrectly argue it is unnatural. The when you prove it is natural they go "well we are better than animals and animals do all sorts of bad shit". In short they are looking to justify their hate after the fact. Evidence doesn't matter to them.
Trying to ignore them just makes me even more uncomfortable inside though. And the problem is, bigots are everywhere, even if I block them on twitter or facebook, I still have to face those people in the world face to face daily at work, in public transport, in the super market, on social events or when going to bars.
I'm in a metrosexual-munching mood today.
Indeed.
People are slaves to their preconceptions, and unless something rocks them to the core they'll be happy to follow them and never give it a second thought.
Indeed.
People are slaves to their preconceptions, and unless something rocks them to the core they'll be happy to follow them and never give it a second thought.
chronos4590
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Lord, Taye Diggs.
Ooo heavens Yes especially young How Stella Got Her Groove Back era!
Might have to make an Avi change for him lol
CornBurrito
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It is the internet. You're presumably here to have a good time. Just block them. You aren't going to change their minds, and the dominoes are falling too quickly to reverse the increasing acceptance of gays and gay marriage.
It's really because of this you should just block him, El Gato.
Hours Left
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It's getting pretty damn hard to make lemonade lately.
#cryptic
#cryptic
Hours Left
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Hours Left
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Too much, that's the problem.that sucks
what's wrong?
I'm usually the one who has no problem dealing with life's issues, but I'm finding it really hard right now. There's a huge ball of tension right between my shoulder blades, and it feels like it's crushing me. It doesn't matter though, I need to stop pitying myself.
RatskyWatsky
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That's good. Just sip some ginger ale and crawl under a blanket for a while.
I'm sorry to hear that. If there's anything I can do, just let me know! <3
umop_3pisdn
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For what it's worth, you can't really will yourself to stop pitying yourself, it just adds more fuel to the fire. If your frustration is more the passing kind, I'd maybe recommend some kind of diversion instead.
Hours Left
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Thank everyone. I'll be fine.
I'm always fine.
I'm always fine.
This is totally like a very straightforward, but if you can afford it, why not get a massage? I'm sure your problems are most likely not physical, but the stress is clearly causing you physical discomfort. Releasing the physical discomfort can do wonders for your mind, however temporary the relief may be.
Hours Left
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I do like getting massages, but I have a large amount of scarring over parts of my upper body due to genetics, so I'm self conscious about it. (Plus, I've become a lazy piece of trash that can't be motivated to work out anymore.)
I really shouldn't of said anything. My problems are so lame compared to people dealing with real stuff. I'm very lucky to have the life I have, and I need to just suck it up and deal with the stuff that's wrong myself.
umop_3pisdn
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If you're unhappy that isn't a miniscule problem, try to be more compassionate with yourself.
Hours Left
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A lot of the solutions are staring me in the face though. I just have to actually do something about them.
I've lost a lot of motivation, and instead just sit around feeling sorry for myself, wishing some magical fix will just appear. My biggest problem is myself.
It's poor to compare your problems to other people's imo. Just because someone else may be undergoing something that is more problematic, that doesn't diminish the effect that your own personal problems might have on you.
If you're unhappy with yourself then you should take the initiative to fix it. I suffer from some major self esteem issues as well, I have this HUGE birthmark on the lower part of my back that makes me feel uncomfortable to the point where I would never want to partake in any activity that would allow people to see it, so I know what you're talking about. I've recently got into working out as well because I was generally unhappy with how I felt; it's all about shifting your perspective so you can allow yourself to be happy again.
umop_3pisdn
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Mind over matter doesn't work. I don't think it's helpful to regard a lack of motivation as a moral failing, it's a lot more complex than that. We can't just make ourselves more energetic or ambitious than we are right now. Pushing yourself in small, consistent ways would likely help to develop a momentum, but patience is probably more helpful overall.
Hours Left
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This is some great advice. I appreciate it.
What it boils down to though is that I need to be able to fix my own problems. Worrying about them doesn't help anyone, especially me. I need to get my act together.
The twitter drama continues...
https://twitter.com/the_dudes_rug/status/486262799073824769
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I'm too tired for that shit
This is where you should stop:
There's really no point in discussing anything with someone who doesn't know (or denies) that humans are just a species in animal kingdoms.
Easy. They don't understand the process of evolution. That their understanding of biology is confused and inward-looking is a natural consequence.
so... I went to my first "big" gaypride event, Madrid celebrated gaypride which lasted 5 days with an opening on Wednesday and a final event on sunday evening.
has anyon here attended an event like this anywhere else? how did it go in your place?
here it was intense, I've never seen that many gay guys in one place, it was in the thousands or more. it is definitely not the place to hook up "nicely" if you know what I mean, you either go with your group of friends (which I didn't) and avoid eye contact with every guy or fuck within 30 minutes with whoever makes eye contact and smiles to you. I wanted to go for a beer and just hang out in the streets of madrid, nobody wanted that so I was on my own, I remained sexless throughout the week but I enjoyed it still.
I've been hitting the gym for a while so I thought I'd look decent around anyone, lol I got a huuuuge reality check, everybody looked like chris evans, those handsome spanish mofos, they are perfect.
gay dating app when absolutely crazy...lol
on one night, some guy wrote to me over growlr, we seemed to be just some meters away from each other, a blond musclebear, husband material for me at least on paper. he said he was on his own like me and he said he'd come to where I am, that I shouldn't move... he never appeared and never wrote again on the app... I assumed he saw me from afar and said "nope". Even so, wouldn't common sense make you write a line like "hey sorry, I changed my mind, have fun"??? I would've been perfectly ok with that. I thought about writing something like "you are an asshole" but I guess it's not worth it.
anyway... whatever, it's a flesh market there, people don't give a shit about other people. Courtesy goes out the window. lesson learned,
has anyon here attended an event like this anywhere else? how did it go in your place?
here it was intense, I've never seen that many gay guys in one place, it was in the thousands or more. it is definitely not the place to hook up "nicely" if you know what I mean, you either go with your group of friends (which I didn't) and avoid eye contact with every guy or fuck within 30 minutes with whoever makes eye contact and smiles to you. I wanted to go for a beer and just hang out in the streets of madrid, nobody wanted that so I was on my own, I remained sexless throughout the week but I enjoyed it still.
I've been hitting the gym for a while so I thought I'd look decent around anyone, lol I got a huuuuge reality check, everybody looked like chris evans, those handsome spanish mofos, they are perfect.
gay dating app when absolutely crazy...lol
on one night, some guy wrote to me over growlr, we seemed to be just some meters away from each other, a blond musclebear, husband material for me at least on paper. he said he was on his own like me and he said he'd come to where I am, that I shouldn't move... he never appeared and never wrote again on the app... I assumed he saw me from afar and said "nope". Even so, wouldn't common sense make you write a line like "hey sorry, I changed my mind, have fun"??? I would've been perfectly ok with that. I thought about writing something like "you are an asshole" but I guess it's not worth it.
anyway... whatever, it's a flesh market there, people don't give a shit about other people. Courtesy goes out the window. lesson learned,
Nah, that was someone who I know joking with the bigoted guy. The only bigoted douche here is the douche rug.
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