RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
I do!
Wait really? I thought I was just being paranoid...
None of the chat sites that I've used seemed to be very active anyway. It was usually just the same 10 people over and over again. What sites did/do you use?
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LGBThread |OT4| We're (still) Here! We're (still) Queer!
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I do!
Wait really? I thought I was just being paranoid...
None of the chat sites that I've used seemed to be very active anyway. It was usually just the same 10 people over and over again. What sites did/do you use?
Henchmen21
Banned
No but than my father and I barely talk to each other
CornBurrito
Member
Haly is 2kawaii4me.
PM'd.
Also CornBurrito, Atlantis reminded me that you were trying to get into DOTA at one point. You still trying to get the hang of things or did you abandon?
CornBurrito
Member
PM'd.
Also CornBurrito, Atlantis reminded me that you were trying to get into DOTA at one point. You still trying to get the hang of things or did you abandon?
Mostly been playing other games or doing school work. But still interested in learning!
My father is tolerant of my sexuality most of the time but when we get in an argument over something he always uses it as an insult against me. As if me liking peen invalidates anything that I have to say...
Awesome!
Whenever you're free you should add me on Steam so we could play sometimes. I'm pretty knowledgeable about most of the roles/heroes in the game so I can help you out a bit.
http://steamcommunity.com/id/robynhoodfenty/
that sounds terrible, coming out is worse enough
umop_3pisdn
Member
Sometimes I think not having a place in the traditional moral framework can create a space for a kind of hedonic excess. It's not that the traditional western perspective on 'sexual morality' is healthy (I don't think it is) or that sex-positivity is a bad thing (it certainly isn't in my opinion), more that it seems to leave a kind of ideological void, and that actual sex-positivity seems to involve a more thoughtful cultural shift.
Very well put. Basically what I wanted to say but you stated it far more eloquently than I!
Well, I'm not sure if this is worse but I feel as though he only said those as a reaction to the fact that I have two gay uncles, and that somehow I will follow their example and be turned gay. It also doesn't help that I've never had a girlfriend(or boyfriend) which just happens to fuel his paranoia.
oh, you aren't out? and I have a gay uncle, it's kind of weird, hah
MisterGrey3000
Member
lol
I was just about to mention that.
Believe it or not, Disney is incredibly LGBT friendly and I'm also pretty sure that they have a good number of talented LGBT people (young and old) working at their premier animation studios (Disney Animation Studios and Pixar)
I would not be surprised if we get more than a few Disney characters/couples that are handled like that one teenager/protagonist (spoiler/payoff for a great movie long joke that isn't at the expense of the LGBT character) from Paranorman in the next couple of years.
I want my animated adaptation of "The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert" Disney!
Be careful with cam sites, guys. I remember a while back I saw a site that placed photos from chatroulette onto a google map that gave you an approximate location based on the person's IP address. People from your local area could potentially recognize you even if you try to obscure your face with sunglasses or whatever. I'm not sure if it's still possible to do that with chatroulette anymore, but similar sites might have the same issue.
Blackstarhat
Member
This is why i refuse to officaily come out to my parents i cant aford to lose them. i tried tellling em i was bi at 16 but they would not except it so i told them i was straight and i was just confused. They still believe that i'm straight to this day.
If anything, I became closer with my parents once I came out to them. It's probably because I tried to somewhat distance myself from them as a teen since I didn't know how they'd react.
Once I told mom and dad I was gay, being with them started to feel a lot more natural. We call each other a number of times each week, they ask how me and my bf are doing and other everyday stuff like that. All in all they're awesome parents and in retrospect I have no idea why I was so scared as a teen they'd abandon me forever.
What I'm trying to say is that while it may seem that you're parents will be harsh and judging about your coming out, they'll probably be okay with it in time. It may come as a shock for them at first but they'll understand eventually. After all, they're your parents.
Once I told mom and dad I was gay, being with them started to feel a lot more natural. We call each other a number of times each week, they ask how me and my bf are doing and other everyday stuff like that. All in all they're awesome parents and in retrospect I have no idea why I was so scared as a teen they'd abandon me forever.
What I'm trying to say is that while it may seem that you're parents will be harsh and judging about your coming out, they'll probably be okay with it in time. It may come as a shock for them at first but they'll understand eventually. After all, they're your parents.
Are you in a relationship or do you simply like her? I'm in a LDR, 521 miles. He's a canuck while im in the states. A little over the year. It has its ups and downs, but whenever we're together its great, so plan for that. And look forward to that.
Just got to read this now. I have no idea what we are at the moment; I'm trying not to over-think it and just go with the flow. Originally, she was coming up to my area in December for something job-related and we were planning on just hanging out (read: casual sex) for a few days then.
Then we started talking all the time and things seem to be progressing. She makes quite a bit of money, so plane tickets are not really an issue for her; yesterday she was discussing potentially paying me a visit ahead of schedule, but then she had to stop the conversation to do something work-related, so I'm not sure what the timeline is.
I don't think either of could do a monogamous LDR for any serious duration. I think we'll just see where things go and cross that bridge if and when we get to it. Her current job (and my eventual one) will let her work in basically any country she wants, so there's that. I'm just going to enjoy things as they are.
Squall5042
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It's weird to think that no one is gay, or at least out, in my family. They all 'seem' straight, and I don't expect anyone to be hiding it. I wouldn't know how I would feel if I had a gay aunt or uncle.
I have a question, somewhat related to the topic at hand.
Are there any good books on the Psychology of Homophobia (or Sexual Prejudice in general)?
Would like to read more about the reasons why exactly people react with disgust to other people who have a different sort of sexual orientation.
Are there any good books on the Psychology of Homophobia (or Sexual Prejudice in general)?
Would like to read more about the reasons why exactly people react with disgust to other people who have a different sort of sexual orientation.
Mumei has a comprehensive list, I'm sure, might be worth a PM if he doesn't see your post. Apologies for dropping it on you Mumei
Maybe Homophobia: A History, Homophobic Bullying: Research and Theoretical Perspectives, or Dude, You're A Fag: Masculinity and Sexuality in High School would help. I've only read the last one (definitely recommend!); the other two may or may not be useful to you.
Thank you for the recommendations, Mumei.
I have to look up the book descriptions but I think I'm mostly interested in why it is that many parents can't accept the homo- or bisexuality of their child.
The last one that you mentioned sounds interesting from the title alone though, even if its not directly what I'm looking for. Because I saw a lot of homophobia in my school and it's probably good to know what that is linked to, why homophobia is so much more concentrated in schools than anywhere else.
CornBurrito
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Having only very limited knowledge, my hypothesis (and take this with a grain of salt) is that developing children are more susceptible to group think and peer pressure than adults. Maybe because of age, or because very rarely do you get a consistent (5 days a week). and large grouping of people with similar social statuses (socioeconomic class, age, etc...).
Christopher
Member
What the fuck is wrong with him?
CornBurrito
Member
From what I can gather (from internet message boards, take with grain of salt) an old idea that has since fallen out of favor is that older gay men would target young and confused teens. Then seduce them, and take advantage of them sexually. Which in turn would make the young/confused teen gay.
i prefer guys with bulk but theres a line that i draw tbh
if arnold s. at his peak approached me i would puke a bit
I find an abundance of muscle mass extremely attractive.
The contest-oiled look is a turnoff though.
Indeed.
The contest-oiled look is a turnoff though.
Indeed.
CornBurrito
Member
Avatar back because Grizzo.
TheAbsolution
Member
Eh. I sorta agree. I just like it somewhere in between. A little bulk but not too much.
That amount of muscle is great.
TheAbsolution
Member
Yeah. That's what I'm talking about.
Good definition and not too much fat either.
The One Who Knocks
Member
While I very much enjoy that degree of definition, I must say that I thought the very first image was computer generated (be it reasonably or unreasonably, it reminded me of "Infamous Second Sons"). I very much have a preference for 'twink' builds and very much like him as a result.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
There is a difference between being nuts and desiring a horrible death. That guy falls into category two, in my opinion.
Thank you for the recommendations, Mumei.
I have to look up the book descriptions but I think I'm mostly interested in why it is that many parents can't accept the homo- or bisexuality of their child.
The last one that you mentioned sounds interesting from the title alone though, even if its not directly what I'm looking for. Because I saw a lot of homophobia in my school and it's probably good to know what that is linked to, why homophobia is so much more concentrated in schools than anywhere else.
Maybe this? I haven't read much of anything about the psychology of homophobia in parents, but maybe you'd glean some insights from reading parents talk about their reactions.
KibblesBits
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All the work I've done to shut it off.
All the hours I've spent locking it away.
Mentally fatigued and drained.
I let all my progress be dashed!
Years have gone by since the last time.
I'd hardened my heart so as not to be hurt.
And then it all came crashing down.
Mortar and brick, smashed!
The weapon, smiles and jokes, warmth.
I let it flood through me.
So starved I was! No...
Maybe thirsty at best.
I told myself I wouldn't let this happen again.
Think of your heart, think of your sanity!
But no, emotions will not be held in check.
I am but a reed among a tempest.
Soft and sweet, their gazes were ignored.
Lovely and fragrant, a simple hello was enough.
No! Strength and power caught my eye.
Edges, not curves are that I see.
But only from one individual.
Do I feel the desire for intimacy.
Get real, it cannot be!
FLEE!
Lovely ladies, vying for my attention.
No moves have been made.
His smile is my intention.
Jesus fuck. I'm lost.
How much sanity, will it cost?
The last time this happened my heart hurt for so long.
Can someone please stage an intervention?
-J
All the hours I've spent locking it away.
Mentally fatigued and drained.
I let all my progress be dashed!
Years have gone by since the last time.
I'd hardened my heart so as not to be hurt.
And then it all came crashing down.
Mortar and brick, smashed!
The weapon, smiles and jokes, warmth.
I let it flood through me.
So starved I was! No...
Maybe thirsty at best.
I told myself I wouldn't let this happen again.
Think of your heart, think of your sanity!
But no, emotions will not be held in check.
I am but a reed among a tempest.
Soft and sweet, their gazes were ignored.
Lovely and fragrant, a simple hello was enough.
No! Strength and power caught my eye.
Edges, not curves are that I see.
But only from one individual.
Do I feel the desire for intimacy.
Get real, it cannot be!
FLEE!
Lovely ladies, vying for my attention.
No moves have been made.
His smile is my intention.
Jesus fuck. I'm lost.
How much sanity, will it cost?
The last time this happened my heart hurt for so long.
Can someone please stage an intervention?
-J
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