I am seriously stoked. Shaking-in-my-chair stoked. Maybe I'm over-reading this, but she must be pretty confident about it if she's willing to talk about it in public.
It might be time to order those triforce rings..
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I am seriously stoked. Shaking-in-my-chair stoked. Maybe I'm over-reading this, but she must be pretty confident about it if she's willing to talk about it in public.
It might be time to order those triforce rings..
CornBurrito
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Will someone please please PLEASE make a version of the penny gif with Scalia's face placed over Penny's?
Or better yet, his face over the chainsaw gif dude.
Or better yet, his face over the chainsaw gif dude.
SoraanTribal
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WTP0pE-eTKM
Chris Pratt can go "snake out" on me any time he wants.
Chris Pratt can go "snake out" on me any time he wants.
God, he's so fucking cute.
CornBurrito
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The gif of the woman in the green dress that does that dance. Posted in every gay marriage thread.
Caladrius is internally conflicted about his love life (or lack thereof). Hm.
You want him to turn into a Nendoroid?
You want him to turn into a Nendoroid?
Yep.
And he went from being someone I barely paid attention to, to being one of the hottest men in Hollywood in, like, two days.
I wish I had one
That'll come with time as you take further steps forward into the world. It's not easy, but you seem like a compassionate person. Your challenge is most likely going to be how you can make that quality shine to outsiders.
I'm theoretically capable of getting into the dating scene, but I'm not entirely sure if I actually want to if I'm going to move in two years again.
umop_3pisdn
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That's kind of perfect though, there's no pressure, so you can just enjoy someone's company without worrying if you're going to get married or whatever.
For the short game, yeah.
I primarily want something long-term though.
Like, if I actually manage to pick up dates with any sort of frequency (lol) I might end up changing my tune, but my priorities right now are incompatible with my situation.
umop_3pisdn
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1-2 years is basically long term by the standards of a first relationship imo. I don't think a fear of loss is the best reason to wait it out. Two years isn't a trivial chunk of time.
Maybe. I'm just tired of continually losing people.
I've never even had friends for longer than two years.
If nothing else, I'll have to be working by the time we finally do move, so there is the potential that I could room with someone instead of leaving in case the relationship actually did stick.
umop_3pisdn
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Hm I can understand that. But even if you settle down somewhere there's no guarantee the people you meet will become fixtures in your life, or that the people you leave behind will stay in the past forever, for that matter. But I don't really have anything to say that's not a lame platitude.
But speaking of platitudes, I think all in all we're privileged to be in a position to experience meaningful loss.
You seem more compassionate than me, and I'm the sort of person that's supposed to have a compassionate temperament
Okay, you're not an ass like me! :V
That is true. I guess it's just hard for me to really accept that. I don't really feel like I have any individual purpose so the idea that there's no one I could support and empower for most of their life is hard for me to swallow.
It is, it just depends on how quickly I can acclimate myself to socializing more.
umop_3pisdn
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I think purpose is always in a sense individual. It can be a feeling we have in response to things outside of us, but I'm convinced that the part of it that feels 'purposeful' always feels like a secret transmission we receive in our hearts. I realize I seem crazy for splitting hairs, I just think you have a lot to be surprised by between your expectations and how a meaningful or purposeful relationship might play out for you.
You seem more compassionate than me, and I'm the sort of person that's supposed to have a compassionate temperament
Hmm how did you get to that conclusion?
1. I'm an ass
2. Don't you use apps anyway? You can try lgbt groups too, I bet they are more common in your country than where I live :v
umop_3pisdn
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Couldn't say. I just have an impression of you being more thoughtful and patient with other people than I am.
<+)O Robido O(+>
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You, for once, didn't lie.
I'd say that's a fairly reasonable response. I have, after all, only been in one relationship-or-so-it-looked-like, so the only thing I really have to go off of are abstract ideals and the negative example my parents present as opposed to concrete wants. That's likely to change once I actually start engaging with people and get into actual relationships.
Start punting kittens and we'll talk about dickery.
And I do on occasion. I'm nuking what I have and restarting my profiles for California in the next couple of weeks. Thankfully I'm getting closer to 21, so my options as far as social venues are going to be more expansive come February.
Theres a scene in Guardians of the Galaxy when he's only in his underwear and holy shit he's incredibly hot. Probably my biggest celebrity crush at the moment.
I'm the least patient person in the world and there are more thoughtful people out there, definitly those two things aren't words to describe my personality :S
D:
You are 20, right? Yes, you'll definitely have it easier then and you are out with your parents IIRC so it is not complicated
Muhahahahahaha
And correct. That's the one big positive in all this.
Though my parents hate guests and are judgmental so if I start bringing men home frequently they're going to get pissy. 2bad4them.
They hate guests because they are not tolerant of your sexual preference or they just hate people? My father loves when someone comes home, unfortunately I live a bit far from the civilization so people rarely come here
My father would only have issues with excessive affection right in front of them. He comes from a rather conservative family (by New England standards) so he's not 100% comfortable with it, but he never says anything about it.
They mostly just don't like having people around much.
Blackstarhat
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I agree hes very cute.
I finally had a full five hours of sleep. Good change of pace from all the sleepless nights. Maybe this will mean that I'm actually productive for once at work!
And I already bought it now anyway. (Even if my current PC can't handle it, have to get a new one)
What's the difference between 20 and 21? Do you think that the guys will take you more serious since you are of higher age or is it that you're allowed to drink, legally?
I don't have Premium for GB...
And I already bought it now anyway. (Even if my current PC can't handle it, have to get a new one)
What's the difference between 20 and 21? Do you think that the guys will take you more serious since you are of higher age or is it that you're allowed to drink, legally?
That's the drinking age in the United States, so I'll have unrestricted access to bars and clubs.
Ah, so that's it. Are there no clubs for people that are 16/18+ years where you live?
VICTORsaurio
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I'm working on The Voice Mexico so I'll be working around Ricky Martin for a few months. Never been a huge fan but damn, he's fine!
Under 21 clubs are lame, to be honest.
RatskyWatsky
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yeah, all they play is kidz bop and shit
Hours Left
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Oh my. Sunday can't come soon enough.
Oh my. Sunday can't come soon enough.
Rejoice http://www.buzzfeed.com/rachelzarrell/chris-pratt-is-the-adorable-goofball-of-your-dreams
Hours Left
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He practically perfect in every way. Marvel knows how to pick 'em.
I'm on pins and needles about who they are gonna cast as Doctor Strange though. The rumored choices make me go D:
Well, if you are under 21 it's the only choice you have. That or you fake your ID, but that could get you in big trouble.
Btw, someone mentioned in the parody porn thread that there is a Twilight porn parody already and after searching for it I found out that it's called Twinklight.
I might just watch that tonight... for science!
Btw, someone mentioned in the parody porn thread that there is a Twilight porn parody already and after searching for it I found out that it's called Twinklight.
I might just watch that tonight... for science!
please love yourself
The One Who Knocks
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Ok so I have quite a serious request. This morning, I received this:
For some context for those unaware (given that I've briefly mentioned it in the Mental Health thread and via PM to an individual), and to give a brief overview, there was an incident back in around April (I believe) where my father threatened to kick me out after making an assumption that I was gay, and I suspected my mother and he have been trying to work out a reason to kick me out of the house (college education funds are an issue I'm unsure of, he implied that he wouldn't be paying them and I've been researching student loans, yet I'm unsure if they are certainly going to assist at that time or not) because it would not be 'socially acceptable' to kick out a child and would reflect badly of them without an adequate excuse to tell relatives. To put it rather bluntly, I abhor them. I can recognise, and be grateful for, the large financial assistance they've always provided, but when one's mother is neurotic, passive-aggressive, emotionally manipulative, obsessive, condescending, gossips endlessly about everything you do, and seeks to control and dominate every facet of your life (ringing relatives after you leave to find out what you did and said, interrogating friends and their parents, accompanying you everywhere to observe what is done), and your father is an aggressive, pompous, racist, homophobic, lying, domineering drunkard who violates any and all privacy measures he can (from breaking into locks, to trying to bypass passwords) there's only so long that you can weigh excellent financial service higher than a completely destructive pair of personalities. I'm not trying to alleviate myself of fault, by any means, being rather blunt repeatedly with my dissatisfaction towards their personalities, but I've never 'stepped out line' in a manner that would warrant obsessive observation, passive-aggressive behaviour, over-reactions to the slightest errors (which is a primary cause of my displeasure; one can only face being screamed at and told how worthless, selfish, and useless they are for an hour so many times after using the wrong cloth, identical to the correct one, to wash dishes).
With that out of the way, I am hoping for some advice on how exactly to respond. The dilemma presented is that I'm quite sure if I respond in too vitrolic a manner that I will be kicked out of the house. At the same time, I do not wish to respond too passively, and in such a submissive manner that she continues to degrade every aspect of my life; I very much wish for her to change, and if I am too light in my response, this will not happen. In short, how the hell do I balance my respose so that it's harsh enough to provide a dose of reality (my aunt has repeatedly told her to go to a therapist, and I'm half-contemplating advising it), yet not harsh enough that I'm immediately kicked out when I'm not yet financially independant (I have a job as a waiter at a local hotel for weddings and banquets, yet that's only a day or two per week for five to eight hours, not nearly enough to sustain myself, particularly with college looming)?
For some context for those unaware (given that I've briefly mentioned it in the Mental Health thread and via PM to an individual), and to give a brief overview, there was an incident back in around April (I believe) where my father threatened to kick me out after making an assumption that I was gay, and I suspected my mother and he have been trying to work out a reason to kick me out of the house (college education funds are an issue I'm unsure of, he implied that he wouldn't be paying them and I've been researching student loans, yet I'm unsure if they are certainly going to assist at that time or not) because it would not be 'socially acceptable' to kick out a child and would reflect badly of them without an adequate excuse to tell relatives. To put it rather bluntly, I abhor them. I can recognise, and be grateful for, the large financial assistance they've always provided, but when one's mother is neurotic, passive-aggressive, emotionally manipulative, obsessive, condescending, gossips endlessly about everything you do, and seeks to control and dominate every facet of your life (ringing relatives after you leave to find out what you did and said, interrogating friends and their parents, accompanying you everywhere to observe what is done), and your father is an aggressive, pompous, racist, homophobic, lying, domineering drunkard who violates any and all privacy measures he can (from breaking into locks, to trying to bypass passwords) there's only so long that you can weigh excellent financial service higher than a completely destructive pair of personalities. I'm not trying to alleviate myself of fault, by any means, being rather blunt repeatedly with my dissatisfaction towards their personalities, but I've never 'stepped out line' in a manner that would warrant obsessive observation, passive-aggressive behaviour, over-reactions to the slightest errors (which is a primary cause of my displeasure; one can only face being screamed at and told how worthless, selfish, and useless they are for an hour so many times after using the wrong cloth, identical to the correct one, to wash dishes).
With that out of the way, I am hoping for some advice on how exactly to respond. The dilemma presented is that I'm quite sure if I respond in too vitrolic a manner that I will be kicked out of the house. At the same time, I do not wish to respond too passively, and in such a submissive manner that she continues to degrade every aspect of my life; I very much wish for her to change, and if I am too light in my response, this will not happen. In short, how the hell do I balance my respose so that it's harsh enough to provide a dose of reality (my aunt has repeatedly told her to go to a therapist, and I'm half-contemplating advising it), yet not harsh enough that I'm immediately kicked out when I'm not yet financially independant (I have a job as a waiter at a local hotel for weddings and banquets, yet that's only a day or two per week for five to eight hours, not nearly enough to sustain myself, particularly with college looming)?
The One Who Knocks, I can't help with a proper answer to your mom, but I hope you can get through this. My father sort of has the same behavior as yours and his wife tends to be passive aggressive as your mom and is a hell loving here when they behave that way. I can't encourage you to stay with them because as I am right now I'm unhappy but financial support is important for your studies.
Well, I can tell you one thing, your mother won't change through an email. Your parents might just get pissed off if you say that you want them to change or you don't like their attitude. Whatever you write is not going to work for them, because they will always want to be the ones who know everything and their minds will never change. My father got through a period where he changed but it quickly faded to his previous behavior. I'm sorry for your situation
Well, I can tell you one thing, your mother won't change through an email. Your parents might just get pissed off if you say that you want them to change or you don't like their attitude. Whatever you write is not going to work for them, because they will always want to be the ones who know everything and their minds will never change. My father got through a period where he changed but it quickly faded to his previous behavior. I'm sorry for your situation
Do you mean masturbation? Or are talking about self-love?
Hope you enjoy your new job!Job get!
No more surfing gaf during the day.
What would work better than a therapy for your mother alone would probably be family therapy.But I don't know the whole picture so it's just a wild guess.
I guess I should go see this in a theater, then?
it was a joke about watching twilight porn..............
I could be completely wrong and off-base about this... but this reads as a lose lose situation where she is fishing for a response that she can use to manipulate the situation.
I almost feel as if taking the passive "I'm finding myself and have a lot of new responsibilities to worry about" approach might be best until you can get to a point where you're self sufficient. Otherwise it might end up being the catalyst you're trying to prevent.
On the other hand, you could always say, "Mom would you go to therapy with me? I think I need help finding balance in my life and would appreciate your company.". Or is she too smart to be fooled by something like this?
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