CornBurrito
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lol
On a somehwat related note being drunk/tipsy makes me hungry similar to weed munchies. Anyone else get this?
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On a somehwat related note being drunk/tipsy makes me hungry similar to weed munchies. Anyone else get this?
Well, without the hunting and the making of deer jerky. I would love go camping with the bearfriend.
CornBurrito
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I could settle for camping with a bearfriend.
CornBurrito
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So that friend that I've had a crush on since a year ago. He is straight. He also has extreme self confidence issues about his weight and other stuff. And I don't think he's ever had a girl he liked reciprocate feelings for him. I don't know if he realizes it despite how unsubtle I've been lately, but I'm head over heels in love with him. I'm thinking of telling him directly that I am in love with him, if only because I want him to realize that he's perfectly loveable as he is. I'd like to see him get over his self confidence issues which he needs to do if he wants to find a girlfriend, get married, and have kids. Should I tell him this in plain terms? I'm a bit tipsy right now so I'm pretty sure this is a fuckin stupid idea but god I just want him to be happy and realize that he's actually loveable.
umop_3pisdn
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Don't tell him if it's unsolicited, timing is important. If he expresses that kind of insecurity to you, then I think it would be fine to tell him that, if that is your motivation for doing so. But if he doesn't, I think it will seem presumptuous, invasive, or inappropriate. Being tipsy doesn't help, because the part of your brain that understands tact or appropriate timing is one of the first things to get loose ime. When people are looking for your opinion or feel like they need validation, they'll make it pretty clear. I could see there being another argument here, but I think when you already have some feelings that might complicate the situation it's really better not to presume anything.
CornBurrito
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He's expressed insecurity once before. I'm 100% certain one reason for his insecurity is his weight. I'm not sure if he has other sources, but I imagine he does.
Insecurity doesn't go away just because someone tells you that you're cute.
Does that just mean flannel and dark blue jeans and a beard and a possibly red beanie?
He doesn't want to go camping though.
umop_3pisdn
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I wouldn't say anything unless he creates an opening, like if he raises the topic or suggests that his mind is on it already somehow then maybe. I think you want to avoid being perceived as unbidden, which won't happen if they're all but asking you.
That's true, I think both feelings of inferiority and confidence are often a sort of cumulative process, so one thing isn't going to 'do it', but I suppose it could add to some proverbial pile.
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Uhh...this sounds like a bad plan. Although I don't know the details, I see these as distinct possibilities:
1) It may change or jeopardize your friendship
2) He won't equate the love of a male with the love of a female, meaning that he won't necessarily take your confession as a sign that he's lovable by those he desires
I think right now, if he needs support, you can provide that best as a friend, not an unrequited lover. The furthest I'd go is complimenting him and telling him about all the great qualities he has. However, in reality, self-confidence can't be given to someone permanently (has to be personally discovered), and it can only be given temporarily if the person giving it is someone seen as personally important (i.e., a woman). It sounds to me like the best plan would be one that would help him discover his worth and a woman who sees that, too.
CornBurrito
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No longer tipsy. Yeah I won't say anything.
Yeah. Well for 1) I don't care much since I dont see the friendship extending past college and I leave in a week.
2 and the stuff after is a good point though. I do sometimes compliment him on what he wears. But sometimes he thinks I'm being sarcastic.
Camping sounds awesome though. No showers for a few days. Getting all hot and sweaty. Sex under the stars at night. Actually the sex part might be tricky since anal sex isn't exactly the cleanest. Though you could just stick to non-anal stuff and it'd be heaven.
Yeah. Well for 1) I don't care much since I dont see the friendship extending past college and I leave in a week.
2 and the stuff after is a good point though. I do sometimes compliment him on what he wears. But sometimes he thinks I'm being sarcastic.
He doesn't want to go camping though.
Camping sounds awesome though. No showers for a few days. Getting all hot and sweaty. Sex under the stars at night. Actually the sex part might be tricky since anal sex isn't exactly the cleanest. Though you could just stick to non-anal stuff and it'd be heaven.
chronos4590
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Me tbh
SoraanTribal
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Right?! I was randomly watching MKX streams because I think fighting games are fun to watch (at least if they are good), and I randomly stumbled across his stream. He's really cute and has such an awesome accent. Not to mention, he's quite good at the game, too. I watched some of his other stuff on Youtube (like Bloodborne where he's a tank top or whatever.. mmm.
Too thirsty, sigh.
And yeah, I Vaati is also quite handsome. I always liked his videos and was a bit surprised when he did that "questions" video. I guess I never thought about what he'd look like.
In relation to what?
chronos4590
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To a ton of things i'm seeing around lately tbh. But anyway
I'd rather stay positive
Feel better Dari!!!!! <3
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22 years on the same street and I still don't know when the trash gets collected. Sorry Pops.
Lumberjack Lite
no beanies and the beard has to pass at a corporate job
Lumberjack Lite
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I was doing some reflecting, and I made a realization that the rational part of my brain thought was quite dumb. I became aware of the fact that I'm actively anticipating an emotional low period (not that they don't just come and go whenever already) at some point in the next year, emerging in the days before I abandon my hermitage and enter the dating world. It seems stupid to me that I would willingly expect and accept such an episode, but I'm also unsure of how to prevent it, given my current identity and psyche. I guess I have the next 12 months to figure this out and prepare myself though, so that's good.
Good morning! Enjoy my favorite morning song. It just passed midnight for me.
However, if I don't, a whiny, self-indulgent post about body image, looking for assurance that some people prioritize personality over appearance, may pop up in the future. So, uhh, if it comes to that, sorry in advance.
Catch me if I fall?
Good morning! Enjoy my favorite morning song. It just passed midnight for me.
RatskyWatsky
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Always, bae <3
Musha_Soturi
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So my company has just launched a LGBT Network Community. I work in the property industry which is pretty old school so this is a really positive step forward for us.
Valjean Lafitte
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Hetero male here. Apologies if this question came up earlier in the thread, but why do we (by which I mean practically everyone) still use the word 'lesbian' to define gay women?
Merriam-Webster defines the word 'gay' as meaning
There's nothing in the word 'gay' that suggests it only applies to men, and there are probably many homosexual women who even prefer the word 'gay' over 'lesbian', so isn't the L in LGBT sort of redundant (and dare I say even sexist for highlighting one specific gender)?
Most would agree that it's more PC to use gender-neutral nouns when talking about professions; for example, a woman who serves passengers aboard an airplane is not a 'stewardess', she's a 'flight attendant'. Because why use gender-specific words to describe someone's gender-inclusive job? I've always wondered why more people in the LGBT community don't feel the same way about the word 'lesbian'. A statement like "I have many gay and lesbian friends" sounds sexist to my ears when you could just as easily say "I have many gay guy and girl friends" or simply "I have many gay friends".
Merriam-Webster defines the word 'gay' as meaning
There's nothing in the word 'gay' that suggests it only applies to men, and there are probably many homosexual women who even prefer the word 'gay' over 'lesbian', so isn't the L in LGBT sort of redundant (and dare I say even sexist for highlighting one specific gender)?
Most would agree that it's more PC to use gender-neutral nouns when talking about professions; for example, a woman who serves passengers aboard an airplane is not a 'stewardess', she's a 'flight attendant'. Because why use gender-specific words to describe someone's gender-inclusive job? I've always wondered why more people in the LGBT community don't feel the same way about the word 'lesbian'. A statement like "I have many gay and lesbian friends" sounds sexist to my ears when you could just as easily say "I have many gay guy and girl friends" or simply "I have many gay friends".
I've been thinking about that gay/lesbian divide, and my theory is that it's due to lesbians being more generally accepted than gay men.
It creates a divide for straight guys between lesbian (good) and gay (bad). They wouldn't say they watch "gay" porn when they watch 2 girls going at it.
That's probably not the whole reason for it, but I imagine it's a large reason for such a divide. The world is run by straight men after all.
It creates a divide for straight guys between lesbian (good) and gay (bad). They wouldn't say they watch "gay" porn when they watch 2 girls going at it.
That's probably not the whole reason for it, but I imagine it's a large reason for such a divide. The world is run by straight men after all.
Dead Prince
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Here's some advice.
no ragrets
Isn't the gay/lesbian thing due to historical events that pertains to a specific culture? The same divide doesn't exist in all languages. I have read about the terminology of LGBT-individuals somewhere but I can't seem to remember where, I guess it is time to activate the mumei signal.
Musha_Soturi
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My lesbian friends refer to themselves as lesbians
*shrug*
*shrug*
So I watched the other day the Cucumber and Banana episodes Logo put on Facebook and I'm not really feeling it :/ the kid was a complete ass, the older guy was completely uninteresting and the stalker girl was creepy, I think the creepiest part was the episode trying to sell her story as something sweet... I really don't see where the hype comes from, this are very unlikable characters and not in the "flawed but complex" kind of way, they are just offputting.
Henchmen21
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Welcome to characters created by Russell T. "I'm a hack" Davies.
There are a few genuinely nice moments and characters, mostly in Banana.
Helen's story and Amy's story were particularly sweet, despite the horrible things going on around them.
But yeah, in general the characters were incredibly unlikable, especially Freddie who is treated as gods gift to gay men in the series, despite being an utter tool and not really that attractive.
I thought Scotty's story (the stalker one) was pretty creepy, but there was some nice moments in there too.
umop_3pisdn
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So like I'm good at writing papers that my professors like to read, but writing papers is a horrible agony and a vast ocean of despair. Does that put it in the pro or con column in considering work/jobs. What kind of twisted person writes (not creative writing but that other shit) for fun, like do sane people actually like to do that? It's like the intellectual equivalent of drips of mineralized water forming a stalactite over the course of thousands of years.
Here's some advice.
Such wise words.
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Here's some advice.
I'm going to be the totally ignorant one here (please don't hang me)...is this just a random suggestion because jerking off is supposed to be pleasurable or is there also something psychologically beneficial about it that would help with decision making?
umop_3pisdn
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it's about not letting your dick/hormones make decisions.
personally I just let the voices in my head shout it out, loudest one wins.
personally I just let the voices in my head shout it out, loudest one wins.
Here's some advice.
My penis hasn't failed me yet.
tiebreaker
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Here's some advice.
That's a pretty sound advice. I usually feel more relaxed after that and able to think clearer.
Anyway, I was watching some let's play videos of Suikoden 2 on Youtube.... It made me realized how I miss the good old JRPGs.
So, on a whim, I bought a Vita off Ebay. Needless to say, I didn't jerk off beforehand...
I hope I won't get the usual buyer's remorse.
CornBurrito
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Welp, done with undergrad in 4 days.
Next steps:
1. Do postbacc in Computer Science
2. Get job in CompSci and make decent $
3. Find boyfriend/husband
Next steps:
1. Do postbacc in Computer Science
2. Get job in CompSci and make decent $
3. Find boyfriend/husband
Really? Are you sure you're in the right thread?
AlexMeloche
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Congrats! Hopefully for you everything will go as planned!
Some Buzzfeed video about male beauty worldwide. That Australian dude. <3
I have no idea why "Germanic features with tan skin are considered an ideal beauty combination" here in Brazil. Also don't remove your body hair Turkish men!
I have no idea why "Germanic features with tan skin are considered an ideal beauty combination" here in Brazil. Also don't remove your body hair Turkish men!
Are you going to be in resident evil 7?
Edit: what's ATRL?
Some Buzzfeed video about male beauty worldwide. That Australian dude. <3
I have no idea why "Germanic features with tan skin are considered an ideal beauty combination" here in Brazil. Also don't remove your body hair Turkish men!
Yeah I watched that video a while ago. I wasn't surprised. Predictable results.
BadMediaKarma
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That video sums up 80% of the gay community and most of what I've seen in this thread.
did u mean: popgaf
AlexMeloche
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Some Buzzfeed video about male beauty worldwide. That Australian dude. <3
I have no idea why "Germanic features with tan skin are considered an ideal beauty combination" here in Brazil. Also don't remove your body hair Turkish men!
USA, Nigeria and Italy for me.
They were maybe a bit too muscular for my tastes tho (except maybe the Italian one).
I actually really liked the future looking dude, since he is of multiple races/backgrounds.
Hmmm... There's much to be said about this.
In any case, beauty is just a social construct.
That video sums up 80% of the gay community and most of what I've seen in this thread.
Hmmm... There's much to be said about this.
In any case, beauty is just a social construct.
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