Crikey, this thread sure took a turn and I'm sorry to bring it up again since y'all seem to have moved on to posting gifs from TV shows I've never heard of.
I was trying to find a study (because this thread is in some dire need of actual statistics) that showed the difference between the imagined infidelity of heterosexual couples versus male-male couples and female-female couples and the actual infidelity rate (albeit self reported). It wasn't perfect (mostly due to sample size) but it made for some really fun reading, apparently people think that lesbians aren't unfaithful (they are, but less than everyone else), gay men unsurprisingly were perceived as total sluts (they kind of were, but not statistically significantly more than heteros) and surprisingly (to some) straight women cheat too.
But unfortunately that endeavour came to a halt since there is a limit to how many blatantly homophobic (e.g. family research council) websites I can stand seeing in my search results before I feel like punching a wall. Combining that with having to dig through bullshit evolutionary psychology papers for their references to find that they too are bullshit evolutionary psychology which wasn't much fun either so I kind of gave up.
The fine folks at
the Kinsey institute only had statistics on heterosexual monogamous couples:
I should note that the percentage difference between women and men is deemed not significant in the study, so don't get hung up on the exact numbers.
Unfortunately for the reasons stated above (and then some), finding anything resembling reliable statistics for the LGBT community proved impossible but most studies I read seemed to agree that cheating was more common among gay men and less common among gay women and also that the infidelity rates among all types of couples is decreasing. The reason I don't provide even ballpark figures is that that the infidelity rate among e.g. gay men varied between 29% to figures over 100% (well technically "seven times that of heterosexual men"). I know I probably should link the "study" (fucking bullshit evolutionary psychology...) from which that last gem came from but I don't want to encourage people to find bad science.
So where as I think it is fair to state there is an issue with infidelity among gay men, I don't think it is fair to say that it is somehow
exponentially worse in our community.
Now it is a bit too late over here (and my insomnia can only sustain my trawling through the web for oh so long), so if someone else wants to tackle the very real problems with racism, sexism, transphobia and biphobia within the LGBT community, feel free to do so.