Neither. Don't feel obligated to open up to people that aren't your friends. If they are your friends, then it's still your choice regardless of what they may think or say. They have to earn your trust and vice versa. If they're just talking about their sex life, then good for them that's their choice. If you don't disclose such information to them and they think bad of you, then let them. Don't let what other people think affect you.
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Neither. Don't feel obligated to open up to people that aren't your friends. If they are your friends, then it's still your choice regardless of what they may think or say. They have to earn your trust and vice versa. If they're just talking about their sex life, then good for them that's their choice. If you don't disclose such information to them and they think bad of you, then let them. Don't let what other people think affect you.
dragonlife
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You've only hung out with them for 15 minutes and they're already insulting you? Why would they call you a religious idiot? Seems like quite a leap. How exactly did you answer?
Anyway, everyone has insecurities. Some people are better at hiding them than others, but hiding them doesn't make you an asshole or a hypocrite, just human.
If groups scare you, just break away. You shouldn't feel obligated to be around them unless it's a challenge you want to face head-on by flinging yourself at it. If so, congrats and good luck.
Anyway, everyone has insecurities. Some people are better at hiding them than others, but hiding them doesn't make you an asshole or a hypocrite, just human.
If groups scare you, just break away. You shouldn't feel obligated to be around them unless it's a challenge you want to face head-on by flinging yourself at it. If so, congrats and good luck.
tiebreaker
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Hi LettersGAF, how is everyone's day?
I have a long weekend ahead of me, but don't have any plan at the moment. At worst I'll just pile through my backlog. yay.
Don't let others' opinions of you define who you are.
I have a long weekend ahead of me, but don't have any plan at the moment. At worst I'll just pile through my backlog. yay.
Don't let others' opinions of you define who you are.
RatskyWatsky
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i love irregular hair colors. i really would like to experiment with that as well someday
It can be fun for sure. Another thing you can try is the old "hot & cold", where you keep something warm such as coffee, tea or milk and some ice cubes nearby when you make out with your partner. Then hear and see them twist and turn as you go from a hot tongue to cold ice around their sensitive areas
youre just full of ideas arent you
thank goodness you got away from all that!
gl bb
where r u going to college
That feel when you're gay and someone of the opposite sex is trying to ask you out...
It doesn't happen to me too often because I've usually mentioned my girlfriend or some other reference to being a lesbian early enough on that guys get the hint. But it just hasn't come up in conversation with this guy. Argh I'm so bad at this ><
It doesn't happen to me too often because I've usually mentioned my girlfriend or some other reference to being a lesbian early enough on that guys get the hint. But it just hasn't come up in conversation with this guy. Argh I'm so bad at this ><
CornBurrito
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Since the game Coming Out on Top got so much attention I'll drop this here:
https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/fantastic-boyfriends#/story
https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/fantastic-boyfriends#/story
Astral Dog
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lol i could barely answer just said "no i dont have a girlfriend" , talked a little about myself and was going to say more but they just changed the subject, obviously noticed i was nervous.
The day after they made a little comment ("were you scared!), ok but then constantly bring up how i was weird/not normal and religious and more little things the next days, they never called me a religious idiot, but went in a little rant about that and said it kinda looking at me, so sorry if i said they did.
i mean i can feel comfortable around large groups , but three or more people looking and talking to me easily can make me nervous, specially if i dont know them, could be talking about anything really, not just this.
dont just drop the bomb.
leave little hints here and there, he is going to know sooner or later, have fun!
should understand after.
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I've never had the chance to go (only been to Disney World a couple times), but I'm really glad it exists. The most recent times I've been to Disneyland I've seen gay couples on dates and walking around the park, and it makes me realize how much I want do that with a future (hypothetical/imaginary) partner. Disneyland and Disney was a big part of my family's culture and my upbringing and still is very important to me. It makes me feel warm just thinking about sharing that with someone.
If I were you, if you can find the courage, I would simply say something like, "I'm not comfortable talking about that stuff and I don't feel comfortable when you talk about me in that way. Please respect that." Sometimes friends don't understand when their words are hurtful or they're going too far. Every time I've had friends tease me about something that I was really not comfortable about and I told them that it was hurtful, they quickly stopped and apologized. However, if your friends DO realize the harm and they continue anyway, then it's worth evaluating your friendship.
Perhaps asking him about his personal life and following up with a very literal explanation of how you and your gf are doing would be the most expedient way to go?
It's like, I know sexual jokes more often than not mean a sexual intention, but it was that one time, he's very coy and weird, he texted me twice again today, I responded and he ignored those texts, I dunno, should I make a move? He doesn"t seem like a dick, but is he a dick? Should I try anything? If so what should I try?
Dead Prince
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BR, Louisiana. Home of awesome food
And where Pitch perfect was filmed
And where Pitch perfect was filmed
CornBurrito
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Yeah how come Disney World doesn't have a Straight Day?
NEVER!!!
YOU ALL ARE TERRIBLE PEOPLE, EVERYONE OF YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED!!!
HUMANS SUCK!!!
Humanity is an experiment gone completely awfully wrong. Blegh.
Depends on what he texted you and what you texted him back. If he did text you twice then it's obvious that he is interested, or at least he has some interests. Don't worry about him not replying. Some people are like that.
As I said, I really don't know much about how you two have interacted so far... but maybe you could ask him out for a coffee, or something? Aren't there Carnivals in Colombia by this time of the year? I mean if you really are interested, then invite him somewhere fun. There's lots of things to do in Colombia I'm sure, like carnivals. If I was you, I would just ask him out somewhere. Something like "Hey when are you free? Would you want to go to ____? Do you want to hang out and _____?" I dunno, it's up to you really to figure it out.
I forgot to give my phone number to my Trig classmate. Typical. I've tried friending him on Facebook but he hasn't accepted, which makes me wonder. He doesn't use the main site very much at all though (I see almost no posts) but I've seen him use messenger before, and I should think he would have gotten a notification for it or something.
Adding to all this is that during my incident last week I had left a note that alluded to him in passing (the note wasn't about him in specific, but I had mentioned a myriad of grievances), about the fact that I didn't think he actually cared about me, which makes me hesitate even further to try and contact him.
I really hope this isn't like last time. Though I suppose I deserve it a lot more than last time.
Congratulations
You must now reach out in earnest to people. your time will be short and it's up to you to make it valuable
Unlike how I've done it so far
Adding to all this is that during my incident last week I had left a note that alluded to him in passing (the note wasn't about him in specific, but I had mentioned a myriad of grievances), about the fact that I didn't think he actually cared about me, which makes me hesitate even further to try and contact him.
I really hope this isn't like last time. Though I suppose I deserve it a lot more than last time.
Congratulations
You must now reach out in earnest to people. your time will be short and it's up to you to make it valuable
Unlike how I've done it so far
In my defense there's no telling how long I'll get to stay anywhere. Not in my defense is that the amount of time shouldn't matter so much as what I do with it. Hrm
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CornBurrito
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I <3 <3 <3 generalizations. Come at me.
Prototype Viktor
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You didn't score high enough on the gay test
I'm near California. Houston is close right
GAF ads telling me to transition
Leona Lewis
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Just thought I'd share this amusing coincidence that greeted me when I opened Grindr this morning.
Oh that Discover card seems like a good deal *giggles*
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Grindr tho? Slut!
What kind of hussy pix you got to get 28 messages tho. PM it to me.
Guys, I'm feeling a bit uneasy. The closer my plan of studying abroad (for six months) gets, the more I doubt it's a good idea I'm kind of terrified of coming back with no job and no savings, and maybe this is not a plan for a 27 years old grandpa. I've never struggled with finding a job, I've grown far too comfortable with my routine, including my trustworthy but dead end job. What am I doing :x
I'm kind of terrified of coming back with no job and no savings, and maybe this is not a plan for a 27 years old grandpa. I've never struggled with finding a job, I've grown far too comfortable with my routine, including my trustworthy but dead end job. What am I doing :xLeona Lewis
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I can advertise all I want. Doesn't mean I give out the goods all that easily
dragonlife
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What am I supposed to be looking at in that Grindr pic? PT dude with the creepy face in the background?
EDIT: Oh, Superman.
EDIT: Oh, Superman.
Leona Lewis
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Legless dude's torso and torsoless dude's legs match almost perfectly.
dragonlife
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Well, shit.
28 is supposed to be a lot?
Blood Diamonds
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rude
CornBurrito
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Anyone here listen to Andrew Jackson Jihad? I've fallen in love with their music, and am looking for similar stuff.
Blood Diamonds
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rude
Leona Lewis
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I get a shitload of messages every day. Lots of thirsty lads in NJ
To be fair, my profile pic is doing the most
I get a shitload of messages every day. Lots of thirsty lads in NJ
To be fair, my profile pic is doing the most
👀
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I, actually, wouldn't know. I don't slut around on Grindr. How many do you get? You're a cutie so I'm guessing a bunch.
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I'm in Orlando, FL usually.
Also, Fury Road with D Box seats was great. Every engine was pretty much directly linked to the chair rumble and then it coasted all over with the aerial shots and jerked around with the car flips. It was very cool and I think the engine effect sold it most so I think I'll be excited next time a car heavy movie rolls in again to try out.
Everyone come see me for gay days.
Also, Fury Road with D Box seats was great. Every engine was pretty much directly linked to the chair rumble and then it coasted all over with the aerial shots and jerked around with the car flips. It was very cool and I think the engine effect sold it most so I think I'll be excited next time a car heavy movie rolls in again to try out.
Everyone come see me for gay days.
Leona Lewis
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Do you use OurTime.com for your thirsty hook-ups?
Leona Lewis
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If only they knew the things Rob does with his crucifixes...
I like number 2 a lot, you know always there's a kid's first time in a gay bar or gay area in general and they are terrified but brave, but still they are alone, and some need a little push.
The rest are a bit crazy, are gay people really that vapid that we need these other obvious recommendations? I don't feel the need to say any of that to my gay friends.
^ ...I want a piece of the action
Guy on the very bottom right looks like my best friend from middle school what the fuck
Guy above that would be modestly attractive if I didn't have the suspicion he was a married man.
Do you not have anyone to come back to?
Guy on the very bottom right looks like my best friend from middle school what the fuck
Guy above that would be modestly attractive if I didn't have the suspicion he was a married man.
Guys, I'm feeling a bit uneasy. The closer my plan of studying abroad (for six months) gets, the more I doubt it's a good idea
Do you not have anyone to come back to?
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I'm getting real tired of your ageist bullsh*t Leanus. You better act right before you get smacked right
on the ass.
Not this slut shaming for being on grindr
Number 2 is totally one that should be said more often. It doesn't always feel like people want anyone new to join them and rather stay in their own bubbles if you dont fit their types. Kinda why I end up avoiding gay bars lol.
Butterfly Witch
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Yeah, i'm probably going with some ombres like red, blue and purple.
youre just full of ideas arent you
Really? It's like the olderst trick in the book where I come from but hey, happy to have shared something new
Yeah, it was pretty much "if you wear that then you're a slut!!" to just about everything. Earrings, hair bands, nail polish and I'm not even going to start on makeup.
I love it
New to me! You'll have to show me sometimeReally? It's like the olderst trick in the book where I come from but hey, happy to have shared something new
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