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Meicyn
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Honestly, there are very few child characters in JRPGs that haven't annoyed me in some manner. I'm expecting the worst.
Also, next page deserves another guy:
I need to pack on a few more pounds of muscle so I can rock some swimwear like that.
Also, I'm loving this warm weather. Love handles are starting to come in and I don't like them, so I'll be back to my old running routine starting tomorrow. Been off it for nearly four months trying to put on a bit more mass.
terrisus
Member
Oh no. the internet is broken at home.
People now don't understand the struggle.
Being up in the middle of nowhere, New Hampshire for the week.
Trying to find a local access dial-up number.
Trying to find one that was a local call from the room.
Trying to actually get through, as opposed to a busy signal.
Trying to actually do anything on it.
Seriously, kids today have it so easy >.>
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Squarecuts are one of my favorite styles of swimsuits. I'm glad they're becoming more popular in North America.
How was Meh-he-co, bb?
What a difference in lighting makes on some people.
Talking about someones avatar change.
Meicyn
Gold Member
I'd probably wear underwear in that style if they weren't prone to riding up so easily.
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Meicyn
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I am up for suggestions. I currently wear Under Armour heat gear boxer briefs in a variety of colors.
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Perry Ellis makes really nice underwear. They have a variety of styles and their cotton band squarecuts/trunks are really, really comfortable. They look really hot too. 2(x)ist is also really good. Their designs are a bit hit-or-miss sometimes, but they make a lot of different kinds and most of them look pretty sexy. You might sacrifice a bit of comfort for some of their cuts though, but nothing extreme.
My biggest suggestion though is just to go to some stores that carry a wide variety of brands/styles and change things up. Lots of guys get stuck buying the same brands/styles over and over. It's good to have dependable staples, but a new pair in a style/cut you may not have tried before can work wonders IMO.
Next time you go clothing shopping, buy yourself one pair/pack of sexy underwear. Even if it's just for yourself to see, they can make you feel really good.Boxers work for me.
As you can tell, I'm clearly a wild and exciting sort of person.
Although when I'm home, I like to be more comfortable.
So when I'm at home, I just wear cotton pajama bottoms and a t-shirt.
Did I mention how wild and exciting I was? >.>
terrisus
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OMG. It's time. Treat yo self. (New school clothes!)
Taking people clothes shopping is one of my favorite things to do. I love choosing outfits for people.
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Narrow leg shorts are amazing. One of the best men's fashion trends in the past 5 years.
I weep when I see anything wide-legged/baggy.
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Escape Goat
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Im watching True Blood and its so goofy. Why does that woman bartender sound like Wanda Sykes? I want to put her on mute.
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Ugh, why Daniel? WHY??? You'd think he'd know better, especially since he brought sexy men's swimwear back into vogue in Casino Royale.
Meicyn, here's a good website that tracks all the latest in men's underwear and swimwear. They do reviews on the different styles and post lots of pictures. The site is NSFWish though.
terrisus
Member
I'm extremely boring to shop for/with.
My "wardrobe" consists of:
White boxers
White socks
Grey sweat pants
Various t-shirts - probably about 70% of them Baseball-related, and 30% video game-related
A couple of windbreaker jackets
Loafers
I mean, I do have some "dress-up" clothes too.
Suit pants, button-down shirts, suit jackets, ties, etc.
Used them when I was doing my student teaching, and then again when I was doing financing in retail.
But, haven't needed them outside of a few special occasions in years.
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I pay good attention to what I wear but I don't actually enjoy the shopping process. I don't wear any graphic t shirts (rarely ever wear a t-shirt without other layers actually), no shorts except at home, etc. I like it and it gets me a good response.
Burn your graphic tees (burn=goodwill please) and enjoy a nice solid Oxford, maybe with the sleeves rolled.
Burn your graphic tees (burn=goodwill please) and enjoy a nice solid Oxford, maybe with the sleeves rolled.
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All the more reason to change things up! Start with just a few pieces and build from there. It's incredible what a few solid pairs of denim and some button downs can lead too. And you can definitely found jeans that are just as comfortable as sweatpants and infinitely more flattering.
My wardrobe is pretty eclectic. Lots of mixing and matching.
I am in bad need of dress clothes though. I got rid of the majority all my old stuff (most of which I hated or was way too big) and now I've got almost nothing currently. I gotta pick up some nice dress shirts, a few pairs of trousers and I'd love a new suit. But those are on the backburner for now. Oh, and some new dress shoes, two pairs preferably.
terrisus
Member
Ick. Can't stand jeans/denim.
Khakis are passable.
Dress pants are better.
But, frankly, just about anything other than jeans/denim >.>
Take your pic HH
edit: also what's with pale white people and calf tattoos?
Personally for myself I don't like them. I don't see any tattoos.
terrisus
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Right ankle of the guy on the right.
Elitist1945
Member
I convinced one of my cute friends to come to California with me next year.
Fuck yeah.
Fuck yeah.
Escape Goat
Member
We need to give Pantheon an anatomy lesson.
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You can buy jeans that feel exactly like sweatpants. Better even. Fabrication has come a long way.
Also, burn all your khakis.
terrisus
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But then how will my wife be able to drive?
/bad joke that no one would notice if I didn't point it out >.>
HUELEN10
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Your gender? Male
Your sexual orientation? Asexual (polyromantic)
Where Are You From? West Coast
Where Do You Live? East Coast
How Old Are you? 26
Favorite Type of Music? Instrumental scores (I <3 Giacchino)
Profession or Career interest? Law
Favorite video game(s)? WarioWare Inc, WarioWare Twisted, Sonic Unleashed, OutRun 2, Super Mario Galaxy, and Paper Mario: The Thousand-Year Door all come to mind...
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Model building, trail running, music, and hobbyist software development. Oh, and Star Trek, don't get me started on Star Trek...
So yeah, I actually have been writing a proper introduction post for many days, but then I realized on about page 5 of my write-up that it would be way, way too long, so I'm gonna try to be brief. When I was a little kid, I wasn't like most of the other kids around me. While the other boys were into stuff like Guns, Street Sharks, Power Rangers, Video Games, and sports, I was into plushies, trains and planes, nature, crafting, science, and anything and everything cute. When I joined the Boy Scouts, I was kicked out within 3 meetings for being a "sissy" (they actually called me that in front of my mom and dad!); they explained that I was being too picky about getting dirty, and thought my use of hand wipes that I snuck into my pocket and handkerchiefs was making me a "class clown". The fact that I also recommended we build a solar cooker (which I saw on Bill Nye) to make all of our foods proper was apparently the last straw for my sissy rebellion) I cried for hours back home after I was out of scouting; all I wanted to do was be like my hero, Neil Armstrong, who made it to eagle scout. A year or 2 later, when one of my 5th-grade classmates caught me cross-stitching in my study hall, He ran, took my stitch, and needless to say, I became more of a pariah.
Middle school came and with it did puberty... for most of us. Feeling concerned that nothing was happening besides my boys dropping, my parents took me to the doctors. After many tests, I found out that I was normal mentally and hormonally; my puberty was not abnormal in any way, no was my brain or hormone levels. As I grew older, and saw those around me change, I noticed how much different I felt compared to those around me. I tried watching the same tv shows the others did, like The OC, American Idol, Boston Public, and shit like that, but though I enjoyed a bit of it, I didn't understand it like I now (sorta) do. By my senior year, everyone thought I was either playing hard to get, or gay. The gay kids around me treated me like shit. They were either being all like "come out already" or saying I was being a discriminatory jerk trying to act gay to make fun of them. The longer I stayed in HS, the worse it got, but HS isn't forever...
COLLEGE TIEM! I was placed in a dorm with 2 other guys, one was a cool surfer dude, the other was a protestant bro who seemed like a decent guy. After we got settled in, I noticed how different our areas were. His area was a little messy, with some Sports Illustrated swimsuit covers on the walls, and I had everything neat, smelling of lavender, with a few beanie babies on my desk, a cute calendar, and a notebook with cute little doodles I drew after week of welcome. Now, even with my disconnect, I've always been extremely sociable and sociably apt. Just because I don't "get" some things doesn't mean I don't know how to function in society, so I joined the RHA to get credits as well as observe how other people are like. The moor rooms I checked, the more wrong I felt being... me. Depressed in the library, I was reading on depression and sexuality, and mental development and then I asked myself... what if I'm not getting things on a sexual or adult level because I'm actually not into that. I know that some people are born blind, maybe I was born without the ability to lust.
Over the next month, I read journals, books, interviews, sites, and even old newsgroups, and learned a lot about sex, sexuality, mental disorders, and gender. After a whole week of getting up the courage, I walked into my University's LGBT center; I learned about a month or so earlier when a girl from the center did a project for our english class. I walked up to the counter and requested to speak with a counselor and a peer advisor so I could better find myself...
Guys, this is one of the reasons why I never thought I would come out on GAF, I've just been hurt but what you are about to hear too much. Hell, even coming out IRL is something I don't take lightly.
Anyways, I told them that even though I am a guy, I've never been into girls or other guys, or anything else for that matter, and even though I am fine with being called male and dress like a guy, and am totally cool with being a guy, I just know from the bottom of my heart that if suddenly I magically became a woman with absolutely nothing else changing, I would be the same; same mannerisms, same voice, same habits, same preferences, same everything. I took a deep breath with eyes starting to water, and said that I think I was asexual.
She laughed at me, I was on the verge of tears, and that bitch fucking laughed at me. She told me I had nothing to worry about, and if I like guys it's okay. I told her that I wasn't hiding anything or being difficult, and then her laugh turned to anger. Her calm, welcoming voice turned to stern anger, and her co-hort the peer advisor was giving me a look too. She asked me what my "deal" was? I asked "what do you mean, I came here for help because I might be queer". She then asked if I was Jewish (which I am, and she guessed it based on name), and I told her yes. She said how dare I use religion to try to coax and shame them out of their lifestyle, and that it's not a sin (I didn't say a SINGLE word about religion either). I started sobbing, the peer counselor interjecting "and you're not even dysphoric, do some better research next time; we don't tolerate bigotry here". In tears, I left the center, walked through the woods, and then cried in my dorm, alone... more alone than I had ever felt in life.
At that moment I decided to just ignore sex and sexuality, and just "fake it" until I somehow "made it". When I moved into my new dorm, my setup was sterile; no cute, no plushies, no pretty/trendy colors, no nothing, just a clean workspace with a plain wallpaper. I started getting along with others that shared my interests, including a person I would later live with after college, and things were looking; not looking up, just looking, and I thought that was good enough for me. Then, after a few months, I decided to come out to my parents. My father is all like, do what makes you happy; if you wanna never have children and if you are happy alone, go for it. He said I needn't ever feel any pressure about getting married or having kids or anything I'm not comfortable with; he doesn't want or need grandchildren, he just wants to see me live the way I want. My mom is loving too, but perhaps too old-school and loving. I still think she doesn't realize that I'm not just a "good boy" who's "not a pervert", I am just not capable of sexual attraction. After I came out, I decided to go back to being... me. Bought some new plushies and new pins and lots of cool stuff for my desk.
Years later, my clash with the LGBT community continued. First, I was called a homophobe simply because I said no when asked in a college survey if I was gonna vote for the legalization of gay marriage in my state (I would never vote on marital issues and never have, simply because I don't believe that government should have anything to do with marriage. I don't both for it, but I don't vote against it either; seems like the right thing to do in my situation anyways). Then, I was labeled as a "Lezzie hater" because I made a complaint to the dorm above me for loud noises, and it later escalated to me be accused of a homophobic hate crime (and keep in mind all I did was call UPD about the noise!). Reading more into the LGBT community and the HRC, I learned of Dan Savage, and I definitely don't like a lot of the thing's he's said about asexual people, which is why I never affiliated with the HRC or any LGBT association. Few weeks after that, I was labeled a s bigot once more, because I happened to be the only one in my dorm not to sign my name along the "LGBTA" support sheet (mainly because A stood for ally on the sheet and I'm not LGBT or THAT A), and because I'm Jewish I MUST be gay shaming (again, I did not make a single comment about religion at all!)...
Finally, the one thing that hurt me most as of recently was the fact that one of my friends that came out as trans was kinda sexist towards me. After she came out as trans (MTF btw, not that it matters), I came out to her with my queerness as well. I don't know why I did it, maybe to let her know that she's not the only one who's not straight, and that she had a friend that would be there for her. In the weeks that followed, she became quite sexist. She stopped taking my advice on makeup and fashion simply because I am male (news flash, she is too (not that there's anything wrong with that)), and said that she needs a girl's advice; this made me feel horrible. I didn't chose a dick, does me having a dick suddenly make my opinions and my experience in fashion of all genders invalid? It felt really bad. Not 3 weeks after that, I had another bad sexist experience from a (not that it should matter, but here it is for completion) lesbian storeclerk. Me and one of my good friends (who happens to be female) each came into the store with bags of the same size. When we entered, the clerk told us we needed to leave the bag at the counter, but I said nah, and offered to take my friend's bag to the car as well. She then said, "No, hers is fine", and I said "why?" then my friend said "yeah, these are practically the same bag". The clerk was then all like "well, you have a purse, it's different", and I said she was being sexist and the my friend angrily stormed out, holding my hand. Again, getting treated like a criminal just because I have a dick. This friend of mine and I also have something in common: we're both non-common queers. She is pansexual, and she has had trouble within the LGBT community herself because of it.
How are things now? Well, I keep my sex and sexuality to myself, and there's still a disconnect, but I am more open to talk about it now. As long as it is not face to face (so phone or online), I respond to any pronoun (I have never called myself agender, but I'd be lying if I said I jst go with what I am, because that's how little of a deal it means to me (again, I just know I'd be the same if I magically switched sexes one day)) Hell, not even a year ago, I even came out to my best friend in casual conversation, and like a true best friend, he always knew that I was asexual (made me so happy). Yeah, I don't understand how boobs can be sexualized, and no, I don't like dick, but that's okay. I've been hurt a lot by a lot of people. I've been hurt by heterosexual people, and I've been hurt the same, hell, maybe even greater, by people within the LGBT community, supposedly fighting for equality and understanding. But even after all this hurt, specially what happened at the LGBT center with me, I don't hate anyone based on their sexuality. Just because I don't both one way or the other on marriage, or I'm not comfortable being affiliated with any major LGBT/HRC group, doesn't mean I'm not queer. I don't go out in public saying it, I mean why should I need to, but I don't want to be alone anymore. I will never fit in and belong with straight people because I'm not straight, and until more mainstream LGBT groups open up more about sexual orientations that are not that common, but every bit as valid, I don't belong there either. This thread, and its posters, seem to be the most welcoming place I have ever seen in my life when it comes to these things, and I truly mean it; I hope I'm not wrong.
You're good people, so I respectfully ask... Is there a place for me here? If not, I will sadly respect it, just as I respected my pardoned permaban, something I never made an alt for. If there is, I say thank you.
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Where Are You From? West Coast
Where Do You Live? East Coast
How Old Are you? 26
Favorite Type of Music? Instrumental scores (I <3 Giacchino)
Profession or Career interest? Law
Favorite video game(s)? WarioWare Inc, WarioWare Twisted, Sonic Unleashed, OutRun 2, Super Mario Galaxy, and Paper Mario: The Thousand-Year Door all come to mind...
What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Model building, trail running, music, and hobbyist software development. Oh, and Star Trek, don't get me started on Star Trek...
So yeah, I actually have been writing a proper introduction post for many days, but then I realized on about page 5 of my write-up that it would be way, way too long, so I'm gonna try to be brief. When I was a little kid, I wasn't like most of the other kids around me. While the other boys were into stuff like Guns, Street Sharks, Power Rangers, Video Games, and sports, I was into plushies, trains and planes, nature, crafting, science, and anything and everything cute. When I joined the Boy Scouts, I was kicked out within 3 meetings for being a "sissy" (they actually called me that in front of my mom and dad!); they explained that I was being too picky about getting dirty, and thought my use of hand wipes that I snuck into my pocket and handkerchiefs was making me a "class clown". The fact that I also recommended we build a solar cooker (which I saw on Bill Nye) to make all of our foods proper was apparently the last straw for my sissy rebellion) I cried for hours back home after I was out of scouting; all I wanted to do was be like my hero, Neil Armstrong, who made it to eagle scout. A year or 2 later, when one of my 5th-grade classmates caught me cross-stitching in my study hall, He ran, took my stitch, and needless to say, I became more of a pariah.
Middle school came and with it did puberty... for most of us. Feeling concerned that nothing was happening besides my boys dropping, my parents took me to the doctors. After many tests, I found out that I was normal mentally and hormonally; my puberty was not abnormal in any way, no was my brain or hormone levels. As I grew older, and saw those around me change, I noticed how much different I felt compared to those around me. I tried watching the same tv shows the others did, like The OC, American Idol, Boston Public, and shit like that, but though I enjoyed a bit of it, I didn't understand it like I now (sorta) do. By my senior year, everyone thought I was either playing hard to get, or gay. The gay kids around me treated me like shit. They were either being all like "come out already" or saying I was being a discriminatory jerk trying to act gay to make fun of them. The longer I stayed in HS, the worse it got, but HS isn't forever...
COLLEGE TIEM! I was placed in a dorm with 2 other guys, one was a cool surfer dude, the other was a protestant bro who seemed like a decent guy. After we got settled in, I noticed how different our areas were. His area was a little messy, with some Sports Illustrated swimsuit covers on the walls, and I had everything neat, smelling of lavender, with a few beanie babies on my desk, a cute calendar, and a notebook with cute little doodles I drew after week of welcome. Now, even with my disconnect, I've always been extremely sociable and sociably apt. Just because I don't "get" some things doesn't mean I don't know how to function in society, so I joined the RHA to get credits as well as observe how other people are like. The moor rooms I checked, the more wrong I felt being... me. Depressed in the library, I was reading on depression and sexuality, and mental development and then I asked myself... what if I'm not getting things on a sexual or adult level because I'm actually not into that. I know that some people are born blind, maybe I was born without the ability to lust.
Over the next month, I read journals, books, interviews, sites, and even old newsgroups, and learned a lot about sex, sexuality, mental disorders, and gender. After a whole week of getting up the courage, I walked into my University's LGBT center; I learned about a month or so earlier when a girl from the center did a project for our english class. I walked up to the counter and requested to speak with a counselor and a peer advisor so I could better find myself...
Guys, this is one of the reasons why I never thought I would come out on GAF, I've just been hurt but what you are about to hear too much. Hell, even coming out IRL is something I don't take lightly.
Anyways, I told them that even though I am a guy, I've never been into girls or other guys, or anything else for that matter, and even though I am fine with being called male and dress like a guy, and am totally cool with being a guy, I just know from the bottom of my heart that if suddenly I magically became a woman with absolutely nothing else changing, I would be the same; same mannerisms, same voice, same habits, same preferences, same everything. I took a deep breath with eyes starting to water, and said that I think I was asexual.
She laughed at me, I was on the verge of tears, and that bitch fucking laughed at me. She told me I had nothing to worry about, and if I like guys it's okay. I told her that I wasn't hiding anything or being difficult, and then her laugh turned to anger. Her calm, welcoming voice turned to stern anger, and her co-hort the peer advisor was giving me a look too. She asked me what my "deal" was? I asked "what do you mean, I came here for help because I might be queer". She then asked if I was Jewish (which I am, and she guessed it based on name), and I told her yes. She said how dare I use religion to try to coax and shame them out of their lifestyle, and that it's not a sin (I didn't say a SINGLE word about religion either). I started sobbing, the peer counselor interjecting "and you're not even dysphoric, do some better research next time; we don't tolerate bigotry here". In tears, I left the center, walked through the woods, and then cried in my dorm, alone... more alone than I had ever felt in life.
At that moment I decided to just ignore sex and sexuality, and just "fake it" until I somehow "made it". When I moved into my new dorm, my setup was sterile; no cute, no plushies, no pretty/trendy colors, no nothing, just a clean workspace with a plain wallpaper. I started getting along with others that shared my interests, including a person I would later live with after college, and things were looking; not looking up, just looking, and I thought that was good enough for me. Then, after a few months, I decided to come out to my parents. My father is all like, do what makes you happy; if you wanna never have children and if you are happy alone, go for it. He said I needn't ever feel any pressure about getting married or having kids or anything I'm not comfortable with; he doesn't want or need grandchildren, he just wants to see me live the way I want. My mom is loving too, but perhaps too old-school and loving. I still think she doesn't realize that I'm not just a "good boy" who's "not a pervert", I am just not capable of sexual attraction. After I came out, I decided to go back to being... me. Bought some new plushies and new pins and lots of cool stuff for my desk.
Years later, my clash with the LGBT community continued. First, I was called a homophobe simply because I said no when asked in a college survey if I was gonna vote for the legalization of gay marriage in my state (I would never vote on marital issues and never have, simply because I don't believe that government should have anything to do with marriage. I don't both for it, but I don't vote against it either; seems like the right thing to do in my situation anyways). Then, I was labeled as a "Lezzie hater" because I made a complaint to the dorm above me for loud noises, and it later escalated to me be accused of a homophobic hate crime (and keep in mind all I did was call UPD about the noise!). Reading more into the LGBT community and the HRC, I learned of Dan Savage, and I definitely don't like a lot of the thing's he's said about asexual people, which is why I never affiliated with the HRC or any LGBT association. Few weeks after that, I was labeled a s bigot once more, because I happened to be the only one in my dorm not to sign my name along the "LGBTA" support sheet (mainly because A stood for ally on the sheet and I'm not LGBT or THAT A), and because I'm Jewish I MUST be gay shaming (again, I did not make a single comment about religion at all!)...
Finally, the one thing that hurt me most as of recently was the fact that one of my friends that came out as trans was kinda sexist towards me. After she came out as trans (MTF btw, not that it matters), I came out to her with my queerness as well. I don't know why I did it, maybe to let her know that she's not the only one who's not straight, and that she had a friend that would be there for her. In the weeks that followed, she became quite sexist. She stopped taking my advice on makeup and fashion simply because I am male (news flash, she is too (not that there's anything wrong with that)), and said that she needs a girl's advice; this made me feel horrible. I didn't chose a dick, does me having a dick suddenly make my opinions and my experience in fashion of all genders invalid? It felt really bad. Not 3 weeks after that, I had another bad sexist experience from a (not that it should matter, but here it is for completion) lesbian storeclerk. Me and one of my good friends (who happens to be female) each came into the store with bags of the same size. When we entered, the clerk told us we needed to leave the bag at the counter, but I said nah, and offered to take my friend's bag to the car as well. She then said, "No, hers is fine", and I said "why?" then my friend said "yeah, these are practically the same bag". The clerk was then all like "well, you have a purse, it's different", and I said she was being sexist and the my friend angrily stormed out, holding my hand. Again, getting treated like a criminal just because I have a dick. This friend of mine and I also have something in common: we're both non-common queers. She is pansexual, and she has had trouble within the LGBT community herself because of it.
How are things now? Well, I keep my sex and sexuality to myself, and there's still a disconnect, but I am more open to talk about it now. As long as it is not face to face (so phone or online), I respond to any pronoun (I have never called myself agender, but I'd be lying if I said I jst go with what I am, because that's how little of a deal it means to me (again, I just know I'd be the same if I magically switched sexes one day)) Hell, not even a year ago, I even came out to my best friend in casual conversation, and like a true best friend, he always knew that I was asexual (made me so happy). Yeah, I don't understand how boobs can be sexualized, and no, I don't like dick, but that's okay. I've been hurt a lot by a lot of people. I've been hurt by heterosexual people, and I've been hurt the same, hell, maybe even greater, by people within the LGBT community, supposedly fighting for equality and understanding. But even after all this hurt, specially what happened at the LGBT center with me, I don't hate anyone based on their sexuality. Just because I don't both one way or the other on marriage, or I'm not comfortable being affiliated with any major LGBT/HRC group, doesn't mean I'm not queer. I don't go out in public saying it, I mean why should I need to, but I don't want to be alone anymore. I will never fit in and belong with straight people because I'm not straight, and until more mainstream LGBT groups open up more about sexual orientations that are not that common, but every bit as valid, I don't belong there either. This thread, and its posters, seem to be the most welcoming place I have ever seen in my life when it comes to these things, and I truly mean it; I hope I'm not wrong.
You're good people, so I respectfully ask... Is there a place for me here? If not, I will sadly respect it, just as I respected my pardoned permaban, something I never made an alt for. If there is, I say thank you.
terrisus
Member
Read through that all...
It's a bunch to process...
I'm going to have to sleep on it and write up a better reply in the morning.
But, I just want to say, considering I've known you since before you started college...
I'm sorry for not getting in contact with you, and not having talked with you over that time...
I hope that you can forgive me.
It's a bunch to process...
I'm going to have to sleep on it and write up a better reply in the morning.
But, I just want to say, considering I've known you since before you started college...
I'm sorry for not getting in contact with you, and not having talked with you over that time...
I hope that you can forgive me.
I don't know why the chat hasn't been working on my phone, ugh.
Well, I think I've been friendzoned, or at least I wasn't being led to anything but a simple friendship. This guy I'm chatting with messaged me on Friday. He was at a party and started saying that he was liking a dancer there. He talked about it the whole night describing how he liked him and that he wanted to talk to him.
Then I messaged him yesterday and we practically talked during the whole day but things seemed to get clearer. He kept talking about the guy but he discovered that he's straight. We proceeded to talk about the guys he tried to date and I mentioned how brave he was to invite them to go out with him, so I asked for advice about it. He told me that that I shouldn't do it with friends or with people that I'm falling in live with. The thing is, he is not the kind of person who doesn't speak directly but it seemed this time that he was hinting at not to ever ask him on a date.
Combine it with him having a brief crush on a guy he had seen for the first time and other guys that he has asked out and it is obvious that he doesn't consider me romantically. This isn't the first time that I think about it and things seemed to go well but I fear that I shouldn't get more feelings towards him. Still, I think of him everyday, I'd say that I'm developing a crush on him and this is not good for me. I don't know what I should do, I tried to do something with him next Saturday but he'll be busy and I can't see a date when I can see him again considering that I've been very busy too and I guess he will be in the same situation, making it more complicated to meet again. What should I do?
Edit: Sorry for the wall, seems that I'm very dramatic 😑
Well, I think I've been friendzoned, or at least I wasn't being led to anything but a simple friendship. This guy I'm chatting with messaged me on Friday. He was at a party and started saying that he was liking a dancer there. He talked about it the whole night describing how he liked him and that he wanted to talk to him.
Then I messaged him yesterday and we practically talked during the whole day but things seemed to get clearer. He kept talking about the guy but he discovered that he's straight. We proceeded to talk about the guys he tried to date and I mentioned how brave he was to invite them to go out with him, so I asked for advice about it. He told me that that I shouldn't do it with friends or with people that I'm falling in live with. The thing is, he is not the kind of person who doesn't speak directly but it seemed this time that he was hinting at not to ever ask him on a date.
Combine it with him having a brief crush on a guy he had seen for the first time and other guys that he has asked out and it is obvious that he doesn't consider me romantically. This isn't the first time that I think about it and things seemed to go well but I fear that I shouldn't get more feelings towards him. Still, I think of him everyday, I'd say that I'm developing a crush on him and this is not good for me. I don't know what I should do, I tried to do something with him next Saturday but he'll be busy and I can't see a date when I can see him again considering that I've been very busy too and I guess he will be in the same situation, making it more complicated to meet again. What should I do?
Edit: Sorry for the wall, seems that I'm very dramatic 😑
kitchenmotors
Banned
How so?
TheAbsolution
Member
Hmm, I don't know. I'd say go for it if you aren't really worried about some form of backlash.
How long hove you known him for?
I should have mentioned that, sorry 😅
Well, I know him for two months now but the first time we met was 4 years ago.
Hours Left
Member
It's obvious you've had to deal with a quite a lot of abhorrent behavior in your life, and for that I'm truly sorry. You are of course welcome.
We do have multiple varying opinions here (for example, you and I differ on our views on abstaining from voting for LGBT rights), but no one should ever pressure or bully someone into making decisions or actions, that's reprehensible. It's your life and you should live it however you see fit. As long as everyone is being respectful, that's what counts. I hope you're able to feel comfortable to express yourself here.
TheAbsolution
Member
I use it all the time just to look up stuff.
Showtime, navigation directions, that sort of thing. It also keeps track of my favorite sports team stuff so I know what's going on.
It looks through my email so I know when a package is coming.
Use it almost every day.
Blood Diamonds
Banned
I'm sorry you've gone through so much shit .
There's a place for everyone here, anytime you feel like writing about something or asking for opinions or whatever you can do it here and we'll be respectful (I hope...)
So welcome!
Escape Goat
Member
is that her soul that rises? I wonder what color mine is.
Her powers which can be the soul too I suppose.
Of course there is a place for you here. Thanks for sharing with us, I can't imagine how you may have felt all this time. The world is pretty close minded and just recently did gays and lesbians get a breathing room, but everyone else is still having a hard time. Fuck anyone who makes you feel like you don't fit. You should know that you are welcome here
What? He looks fine there. Yes, the briefs in Casino Royale were fine. But I seriously doubt he wants to "speedo" all the damn time. Those shorts look great on him. Some of you/fashionistas, I don't get.
Comfort > style.
Yes. Exactly.
You need to get on Twitter or PM me
Did you drink the tap water, though?
chronos4590
Member
Of course there is a place for you here. Thanks for sharing with us, I can't imagine how you may have felt all this time. The world is pretty close minded and just recently did gays and lesbians get a breathing room, but everyone else is still having a hard time. Fuck anyone who makes you feel like you don't fit. You should know that you are welcome here
Yeah indeed it must have sucked :/
. This is something i always think about regarding the community and also people outside of it as well. People still just dont understand basic things that need to be respected. And we should not put the front to hope that is going to get us respect, i dont play into respectability politics, no one should. People still dont have the basic decency to not say or do certain things when they know they're going to get in trouble anyway and not put their foot up their ass. Just as HUELEN10 you mentioned with the community and "allies" and they chastised you for calling them out since it should actually be asexual, and they go at you for that? Allies are welcome but they need to also stay in their lane and know when to do or not say things and not cloud the voices of queer folk.
Some things are better left unsaid or undone. Same goes for family members who do wrong or think they're doign right but they hurt instead, or other queer folk and the persistent transphobia, racism, body shaming, and other forms of oppressive behaviors. Its a lot that our community needs to self reflect just as we need others to reflect on us too. The more open minded we become the better we as society start to see. Hope you found or will find better outlooks in the future, and not dealing with that mess over again. No one needs to deal with that type of mess again especially after so long.
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