In all seriousness, it depends on context. The second you start ruling without that, you don’t have a message board anymore, just a bunch of people frightened to be themselves, without tripping over some rule. Once you have no-context modding, you’ll have cliques consistently, successfully using those rules to remove people they don’t like, or alter a power structure.
I think most people understand basic decorum, and when and where language and heated moments are warranted. If they don’t, they tend to glow-in-the-dark as terrible users, with a constant average of poor posts, and get removed anyway.
Letting be people be people, and work things out without virtual helicopter parents (modern moderation everywhere else) is underrated. The current Gaf approach where two users get salty as hell at each other (as long as they don’t knock a thread right off course), but work it out, or part ways, is A+, and needs to be a standard.
That’s what needed to happen with the fuck off, instead of tattletaleing straight to the Ban Review thread, with intonations of tit-for-tat, and attempted moderation control.
See, watch.
Nobody likes you, Claus. Go meekly find your courage, repeat someone, and join a battle halfway through, elsewhere,