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[Bumblebeetuna]

I am terrible at being late and it's almost cost me a few jobs. Some of them started scheduling me earlier just knowing I'd be late anyway. Like, they need me 12-9, but would schedule me 11-8 since I'd be late and work until closer to 9 anyway.

 

[Kas]

I'm usually 5-10 minutes late for work or gatherings, but any later and I'll callm

 

[stryke]

My parents are terribly late to everything. As a kid I used to manipulate the clock at home just so we can get out of the house quicker.

 

[Lothar]

Especially when things like Google Maps literally tell you how long it'll take to get somewhere these days.

Google Maps usually make me even later. I'll be in bed looking at my phone and it says it takes 20 minutes to get there. So I'll say "Good, I can rest until it's 20 minutes till." Then I'll wind up getting stuck in 30 minutes of traffic or just hitting every red light.

 

[AtomskEater]

Isn't it also disrespectful of people's time to always expect them to be on time?

They were inherently doing something else. If it's more than like 15 minutes late then yeah, but otherwise I think being a dick about it kind of makes you the dick.

If they agreed to a certain time, why is it rude to expect them to have the ability to plan ahead so that they can come on time? Or contact me if plans change. Like, usually when I meet friends with "hard" times ("let's meet at 6" vs "around 6/6ish sound good?", the latter leaving more wiggle room for people to come whenever), it's because the event starts at a certain time, or we're at a restaurant or something and people are left standing around burning their own time they could be using to do other stuff waiting for people to show up.

Like, I don't care about 5-10 minutes or every once in a while but consistent and/or excessive lateness is an indicator that someone doesn't value your time. Like someone else said in here, "if you want me to be on time make yourself important to me", that's a fine thing to say regarding your friends or family, lol.

Oddly enough most of my friends are pretty good about being on time or texting me if they're not going to make it. It's family that causes the most problems.

 

[CrocoDuck]

At my job I used to enter in at 8 in the morning. That was back in 2012. Month by month I would be late by 15 minute increments. Now in 2016 I enter at 12 in the afternoon.

My boss called me out on it about 2 years ago and I explained to him that I have problems sleeping, so I need the extra time. Luckily he's understanding and doesn't even get mad when I'm late.

 

[Subpar Scrub]

I'm usually half an hour or 1 hour late to parties. I don't want to get there when nobody else is, I want to get there when it's already moving along. If it's something that has to be booked or done as a group (bowling, paintball, movies, restaraunts etc) I'm usually 5 minutes early.

 

[jobrro]

Yeah. Parties with heaps of people and no set dinner time are OK, everyone is expected to arrive at different times. If it is a set time try to be there. If you run late a couple of times which puts other people at an inconvenience, reevaluate your getting ready timeline.

 

[Palabrah]

Time is a human construct. Leave me be.

 

[ohlawd]

ugh there's a defense force for being on late. you guys serious?

if there's something going on, at least respect other people's time if you don't respect your own. this fuck you I got mine attitude is terrible

 

[Lothar]

ugh there's a defense force for being on late. you guys serious?

if there's something going on, at least respect other people's time if you don't respect your own. this fuck you I got mine attitude is terrible

I agree. Respect other people's time that are late. Why is it all about you and your plans? Respect people's right to take it easy and procrastinate.

 

[Diprosalic]

If you’re early, you’re on time. If you’re on time, you’re late.

if we have a meeting at 8, we start at 8, you don't show up at 8.

 

[cooljeanius]

Late to this thread... are you guys talking about me?

 

[Zantetsuken]

If you’re early, you’re on time. If you’re on time, you’re late.

if we have a meeting at 8, we start at 8, you don't show up at 8.

I learned this when serving. At least 10 min early was the norm.

 

[ohlawd]

I agree. Respect other people's time that are late. Why is it all about you and your plans? Respect people's right to take it easy and procrastinate.

no one cares if you're occasionally late.

making it a constant thing though? it's doubly unfortunate people need you to be there when they're probably better off where you weren't invited at all. hanging out, meetings at work, all situations. this thread's made it very easy to see who holds up shit that needs done. shameful.

 

[Zen_Arcade]

Google Maps usually make me even later. I'll be in bed looking at my phone and it says it takes 20 minutes to get there. So I'll say "Good, I can rest until it's 20 minutes till." Then I'll wind up getting stuck in 30 minutes of traffic or just hitting every red light.

It's an estimated time. You should be adding like 10 minutes to that. At the very worst that means you're like 10 minutes early.

I agree. Respect other people's time that are late. Why is it all about you and your plans? Respect people's right to take it easy and procrastinate.

It's not my plans. It's OUR plans. That's why I asked you to be there. If you can't be there at that time, don't agree to come at that time.

 

[Novocaine]

Now all I can think of after seeing the thread title is that Kahlua ad with the bus.

YOU ARE FORTY THREE SECONDS LATE.


Edit. It was actually Malibu.

 

[Korey]

A tip I read was to use more specific times like 12:05 or 12:10.

When you say 12:00 or 12:30, people subconsciously think that they just need to be there around that time-ish so they'll arrive up to 12:45, whereas if you pick a more unusual increment they'll try harder to meet that time.

 

[Cipher Peon]

One of my closest friends has chronic lateness, so I invite him to plans half an hour before everyone else so he only arrives moderately late instead of terribly late.

When we would pick him up to go to parties, I'd call him and tell him we're at his front door waiting for him as I would leave my apartment. Worked fairly well.

 

[OrbitalBeard]

I agree. Respect other people's time that are late. Why is it all about you and your plans? Respect people's right to take it easy and procrastinate.

We aren't talking about the plans of one person. We're discussing the agreed-upon plans of two or more adults. If you're a grown up and can't regularly abide by a schedule, you either have issues that need to be addressed or are selfish.

 

[soultron]

Alright, I'm here. What did I miss?

 

[Forceatowulf]

Yeeeeeah I'm, like, consistently late... so... umm.. sorry?

In my defense, I'm usually only about 5-15 minutes late. I rarely get in the 20+.

90% of the time I forget to factor in traffic. The other 10%? I'm just being a lazy ass procrastinator. Not even going to lie.

 

[Sesuadra]

"If you're not 5 minutes early, you're 5 minutes late" is one of those annoying quotes that is so ingrained by now that I live by it.

It's a true quote tho!
I hate when people are late. I can't even remember that I was ever late once in my life.

 

[EVOL 100%]

Isn't it also disrespectful of people's time to always expect them to be on time?

They were inherently doing something else. If it's more than like 15 minutes late then yeah, but otherwise I think being a dick about it kind of makes you the dick.

Holy crap, are you fucking serious

When you make a promise with a different adult human being and break it simply because you lack the willpower to get out of your house 15 minutes earlier, then yeah one has the right to be kinda pissed off

I don't blow off the handle or throw up a hissy fit when somebody's a bit late, but it does make me feel less of them when they do it consistently

 

[Lothar]

no one cares if you're occasionally late.

making it a constant thing though? it's doubly unfortunate people need you to be there when they're probably better off where you weren't invited at all. hanging out, meetings at work, all situations. this thread's made it very easy to see who holds up shit that needs done. shameful.

It's easy to see who are the easy going people and who are the authoritarian types that make everything stressful and make people feel bad for being a poor judge of time or being a procrastinator.

We aren't talking about the plans of one person. We're discussing the agreed-upon plans of two or more adults. If you're a grown up and can't regularly abide by a schedule, you either have issues that need to be addressed or are selfish.

Look at the language of the people that complain about tardiness. "Can't regularly abide" "Doubly unfortunate" "Will not tolerate" Sounds like a drill sergeant. I don't think us late people would enjoy interacting with you guys in real life.

 

[AtomskEater]

It's easy to see who are the easy going people and who are the authoritarian types that make everything stressful and make people feel bad for being a poor judge of time or being a procrastinator.



Look at the language of the people that complain about tardiness. "Can't regularly abide" "Doubly unfortunate" "Will not tolerate" Sounds like a drill sergeant. I don't think us late people would enjoy interacting with you guys in real life.

When people are late it causes stress on the people planning the event and others who are left waiting. Lol heaven forbid you think about how others feel instead of how they make you feel about your own actions, which you could control but choose not to.

 

[hollomat]

Absolutely can't stand this. In my opinion if you show up late it says "my time is more important than yours". I go out of my way to be on time and will almost always be at least 5 mins early.

The above is only directed at a meeting between two people though. If it's a party or a large gathering you're expected to show up late. If a party is beginning at 10pm you shouldn't show up until at least 11pm. Obviously depending on the type of party.

Spoiler

Always show up to a wedding right in the middle.

 

[davidwhangchoi]

you know what i do to habitual late comers?
i get an oil change first and do whatever i need to do then give my leftover time to them.

 

[Zocano]

If it's class or schoolwork, I'll be late because I'm devoid of motivation.

If it's just hanging out with people or social gatherings I try to be timely

 

[Brianimaniac]

It's easy to see who are the easy going people and who are the authoritarian types that make everything stressful and make people feel bad for being a poor judge of time or being a procrastinator.

Look at the language of the people that complain about tardiness. "Can't regularly abide" "Doubly unfortunate" "Will not tolerate" Sounds like a drill sergeant. I don't think us late people would enjoy interacting with you guys in real life.

Look at how you're completely ignoring the experience of the person being kept waiting here. This is the selfishness and lack of consideration people are talking about.

If people are upset because you're regularly late and wasting their time, that is not them making you feel bad and stressed, that is the result of your own choices. You take no responsibility and try to put it off on someone else. You're making choices that tell the other person that you don't respect them or their time, and then you turn around and say they're the ones doing something wrong if it upsets them because that might make you feel bad?

If you can't be places on time, don't agree to it in the first place. Why are so many people missing this simple concept? If being somewhere at a certain time doesn't work for you, don't say otherwise and then not do it. Some of you keep talking about this like you've been commanded to do something, when that's not the way any of this ever works. People agree on a time.

 

[Lothar]

When people are late it causes stress on the people planning the event and others who are left waiting. Lol heaven forbid you think about how others feel instead of how they make you feel about your own actions, which you could control but choose not to.

Look at how you're completely ignoring the experience of the person being kept waiting here. This is the selfishness and lack of consideration people are talking about.

If people are upset because you're regularly late and wasting their time, that is not them making you feel bad and stressed, that is the result of your own choices. You take no responsibility and try to put it off on someone else. You're making choices that tell the other person that you don't respect them or their time, and then you turn around and say they're the ones doing something wrong if it upsets them because that might make you feel bad?

If you can't be places on time, don't agree to it in the first place. Why are so many people missing this simple concept? If being somewhere at a certain time doesn't work for you, don't say otherwise and then not do it. Some of you keep talking about this like you've been commanded to do something, when that's not the way any of this ever works. People agree on a time.

Procrastination and being a poor judge of time isn't something that can just be turned off. Did I want to walk to late almost every time in class when a test was being handed out? Do I want to miss the first 10 minutes of every movie I see at the theater? No, it just happens. I think it's selfish to not be considerate of that person. It's mean to make a big deal out of something they find difficult to do.

My friends are all laid back and understanding. They're not awful enough to think it means I don't respect them. Probably it helps that they're all sometimes late too, and if they're 40 minutes late and I'm on time, I won't give a shit. I'll just play on my phone until they get there and tell them it's no big deal, don't worry about it.

 

[Habaneroguy]

So to the people who tell their friends/SO to be somewhere at an earlier time, only for them to "be onto you" and then just show up whenever they want anyway... what? Like thats extremely rude and unbelievably disrespectful. My aunt, uncle, and cousin are always late. One time as a teenager I was gonna go with them for a long weekend to the beach. We agreed on a pickup time earlier in the day, so naturally they just ended up sleeping late, going out to get something to eat, etc. all the while not answering their phone. Eventually got picked up 8 hours later, and all we had time for was to check in the condo and call it a night. So instead of a 3 day beach weekend it was only 2 days lol...

 

[The Mule]

If I'm organising something with someone who I know always runs late, I just tell them an earlier time base on how late they usually are.

 

[Glendemonium]

It's one thing if you're five, even ten minutes late... but yeah if you're constantly doing this it comes across as inconsiderate especially when you have a career and other important gatherings.

It's not about being uptight, it's being responsible and considerate. I can't imagine being married to someone who would purposely make us wait because she's so fixated on looking her best at the last possible moment.

There was a guy who did this constantly, and when he was fired he tried to play it off as "It shouldn't matter I got here at 8:05, so I'm still on time" (This guy went past that plenty of times and it's always some excuse.")

 

[TipsyArchmage]

Y'all need to chill out

 

[RangerX]

Late drive people drive me up the fucking wall. If you have a legitimate reason then fine. I'll often say "why are you late?" and they'll say "oh sorry I left the house late" as that is any justification. Some people just don't give a fuck about being on time.

 

[Dynasty]

Yes especially if I was going to the movies, a friends of mine always does this, got us late to Age of ultron by like 5 mins, missed some of the opening sequence in the woods.

 

[postmodernism]

Y'all need to chill out

seriously. i'm seeing a lot of people upset about missing movies or vacation time ... uh, do what you were going to do anyway, while informing your late friend you're moving forward without them, without being a dick about it? stop handing control of your life to your friend if you don't like what they do with it.

if you're interested in working in entertainment, video games, or any top software company (i.e. results-oriented workplaces), habitual lateness is something you need to get used to. the CTO is going to be 45 minutes late to your meeting. your star will be missing from set for 2 hours. co-workers will shrug off missed meetings. yet, you still need to move forward without making a stink.

 

[Jokab]

Procrastination and being a poor judge of time isn't something that can just be turned off. Did I want to walk to late almost every time in class when a test was being handed out? Do I want to miss the first 10 minutes of every movie I see at the theater? No, it just happens. I think it's selfish to not be considerate of that person. It's mean to make a big deal out of something they find difficult to do.

My friends are all laid back and understanding. They're not awful enough to think it means I don't respect them. Probably it helps that they're all sometimes late too, and if they're 40 minutes late and I'm on time, I won't give a shit. I'll just play on my phone until they get there and tell them it's no big deal, don't worry about it.

If something goes wrong every time, then perhaps you should adjust your behavior, especially for something as static as "getting to place X on time Y". You know the definition of insanity, right? Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. If you got to the movies ten minutes late last time, then maybe the next time leave the house ten minutes earlier than the last time. What am I not getting here that is so difficult?

 

[Diablos]

It depends. Super late on a constant basis is annoying.

But if it's only a few minutes, who cares?

 

[imBask]

Procrastination and being a poor judge of time isn't something that can just be turned off.

y... yes it can? and pretty easily too? just leave early whenever you need to be somewhere?

this thread is so confusing with the late apologist and the late defense force

 

[Sakura]

My mother is like this.
We're leaving at 12 so make sure you're ready! She'll say. Yet she won't end up being ready to leave until like 1.
Can you look after the kids? We will only be gone an hour! She says. 3 hours later...

 

[the1npc]

Leave the house earlier some if you guys are fucked

"Being a poor judge of time" lol are we all not adults?

 

[imBask]

Leave the house earlier some if you guys are fucked

"Being a poor judge of time" lol are we all not adults?

I'm on time so :
-i'm a mary sue
-it's my fault for assuming other people would be on time, I deserve to wait
-if you're late it's not your fault because it's a "disease" apparently

this thread, I can't even

 

[Shiggy]

It's best to adjust to people who are always late. Either be late yourself or give them a time that's earlier than the supposed meeting time.

Or just move to Germany or Sweden.

 

[AllIsOneIsNone]

Time is a human construct. Leave me be.

So many lazy robots on GAF lately.

 

[Lothar]

If something goes wrong every time, then perhaps you should adjust your behavior, especially for something as static as "getting to place X on time Y". You know the definition of insanity, right? Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. If you got to the movies ten minutes late last time, then maybe the next time leave the house ten minutes earlier than the last time. What am I not getting here that is so difficult?

Leaving the house later than we intended is exactly the problem. There's always something I forget to do. I'll take a shower too long. I won't be able to find my keys or my wallet. I'll be driving for 5 minutes, then realize I forgot my phone and have to go back. Maybe I'll end up reading forums or emails longer than I intended. Maybe I'll oversleep. I'm horrible at waking up in the morning.

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y... yes it can? and pretty easily too? just leave early whenever you need to be somewhere?

this thread is so confusing with the late apologist and the late defense force

Everyone is late because they want to be late? This is something that makes sense in your brain, poster of annoying gifs?

 

[therealist]

Don't mind lateness as much as I mind those who are complete flakes.

 

[yepyepyep]

Everyone can be late once and awhile, so I don't make a big deal of it. However, I have two friends who can push the boundaries.

One friend is serially late all the time, he has even hosted events at his house and has been late to them on more than one occasion. He DJs and was asked to do the music at a friends wedding. He ended up missing the ceremony because he underestimated his setup time to prepare the reception.

Another one is not always late but has his moments. The most annoying is when you are doing a favour and giving him a ride and he takes ages to come down from his apartment. For his birthday, one time he requested everyone to meet early in the city at 630 to get dinner beforehand because he wanted to go to a bar to meetup with other friends afterwards. He ended up arriving in the city at 767.

 

[SpaceWolf]

...so what have I missed?