People who are constantly late

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I am late all the time. It's strange how I never have been fired for it, even at places with strict time rules. I guess I have a nice personality or something
 
Yes!! I am always early. I have been late to work like 2 times my entire life and both times was during a snow storm when the roads were bad and traffic was literally at a stand still.

My parents are always late. They will say I'll pick you up at 9 and its like 9:25. I have come to expect they will be late and most of the time it doesn't matter its not like we have to be some where on time. If we do have to be some place on time they are a little better. My husband will also make us late to get some place. I say we need to leave at X time and so then when it is that time he needs to get his phone, chap stick, a drink, use the bathroom etc etc... I'm like seriously I said we need to LEAVE at X time not get ready, so now I just tell him we need to leave like 10 minuets earlier so in reality we leave on time.
 
I hate it, but pretty much everyone who I deal with is chronically late. For example, at work, it's pretty much accepted that if a meeting is set at 2:30, you can't expect people to assemble until 15-30 minutes after. I can't stand it.

All my friends growing up never arrived on time when we met up, & if I was picking them up, they wouldn't start getting ready until I actually arrived, lol. My bf also has a habit of underestimating how much more time he needs to finish up whatever he's doing, & I end up waiting 30-45 minutes for him sometimes. >__<

It personally offends me quite a bit, although I don't bother calling people out. I realize that everyone's priorities & circumstances are different. But I can't help but arrive at the conclusion that if someone is late all the time when meeting me, they ultimately consider their time more important than mine, because they would rather waste my time than try to manage theirs more carefully.
 
I knew a girl who got fired from Target because she was late every single day. She posted on Facebook saying the bus was never able to arrive there at the time she wanted so it's not her fault, nothing she can do.

Yep, nothing.
 
Coop: Let's meet in the morning so we can make a day of it.

Susie: Okay, so what is it? Is it like 9:00 or 9:30?

Coop: Well, let's say 9:00, that way we can be here by 9:30.

McKinley: Well, no, why don't we say 9:30, and then make it your beeswax to be here at 9:30? I mean, we're all gonna be in our late 20s by then. I just don't see any reason why we can't be places on time.

This is the best bit of dialogue I've ever heard in any movie of any genre and quality, and I completely agree with it. Make a plan and stick to it. Being late is disrespecting the other person's time.

I think, from now on, if someone is 10 minutes late to my house, I'm going to make them wait 10 minutes outside before I let them in. I'll probably lose many friends this way, but the ones left will be punctual.
 
My fiancé and I are the punctual ones of the group. Granted, one of the couples has 2 kids, a toddler and a newborn, so I can understand that things aren't always smooth. Even if they start getting ready early enough, I guess you can't guarantee when your baby uses the bathroom, eats, burps, stuff like that. If we go somewhere I just tell them to text me when they leave the house. That's pretty much solved the problem. If we go to each others house, lateness isn't an issue.
 
Depends, for work, I'm late, (Stay later to make up for it, or even do OT)
for friends on time, unless it's best to be casually late.

Of course early for ticketed stuff...
 
Filipino time is a thing. I'm Filipino and any time I meet other Filipinos or am told to be somewhere by a Filipino, add 30 minutes to 2 hours depending on the event.

theechrisfox said:
"If you're not 5 minutes early, you're 5 minutes late" is one of those annoying quotes that is so ingrained by now that I live by it.
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I live by this as well but mine is "if you're early you're on time, if you're on time you're late."
 
Yup, someone I worked with would say "I'll be in at X" and I would have to add 2 hours or more. Sometimes it would turn into "actually, I won't be in".

Some people really have no concept of time, it's so rude.
 
adamantypants said:
Filipino time is a thing. I'm Filipino and any time I meet other Filipinos or am told to be somewhere by a Filipino, add 30 minutes to 2 hours depending on the event.
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...My spouse is Filipino. They are still not as bad as the dreaded extended family. Even a small event makes herding cats look like a baby's plaything.
 
I'm a chronic late person (but usually only about 15 min max). Sometimes I make it on time, rarely I'm early. I know it's a problem but I always seem to end up late. There are lots of reasons/excuses:

- I'm a heavy sleeper, I hate getting up, and when it's time to wake up my brain decides it can get ready in X minutes so I hit snooze, but it's wrong.

- I enjoy doing things outside the house once I'm there, but when it comes time to shower, dress, and get ready I find myself REALLY not wanting to go do whatever so I get distracted quite easily.

- If I'm doing something (gaming, watching TV, reading, etc.) It's hard for me to stop in the middle. I try to make it to a "good stopping place" before quitting. Often causes me to run over my planned times.

- I've always been blessed with jobs where I have flexible hours. On paper, my current job is 8-5, but in reality it's 9:30ish to 6:30ish because that's when I get here. We have clients in the next time zone so it works out anyway and everybody knows I get my job done so nobody complains. BUT as a result of all this I have little experience with strict morning schedules and time limits.

- Something always seems to go wrong. Dog pissed in floor, had to clean it up, or wife left car on empty, had to stop for gas, etc.

I know the solution is to always go everywhere early but that takes up more of my precious time for no discernible benefit. Nobody else seems to care all that much so here I am. I keep telling myself I'm going to change, tho.
 
At Uni I can be 30 minutes early, or 10 minutes late.

This has been the case with long commutes to work/uni etc. I've only now just changed my pattern and always show up early.

I would love to be able to come in "on time" but I haven't since Primary School

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But FUCK friends who are consistently an hour or two late.
 
Its absolutely disrespectful to be more than 10 minutes late. Especially without a heads up.

I hate hate hate HATE people who are hibitually late. It shows they value their own time and are inconsiderate of yours
 
For late-comers who don't really understand the frustration on on-timers' part:

When I'm invited somewhere, I always ask the time, because when I make plans, I want to make the most of them. So I want to be sure to space out other things in my schedule to make those plans feasible. I time out the other things I do that day so that those plans will work. When I hear, "be at this place at 8PM," that means that I've got to be out of the door by 7:30 (if not earlier), which means I should be ready to go by 7, which means I should take a shower at 6-6:15, etc etc. I'm particular about this, because I respect another person's/peoples' time, and so I don't want anyone to need to wait around for me or be inconvenienced.

So when I do that, and feel like the other person takes zero consideration for my time, it's annoying. Now, I do think all plans have like a 15-minute grace period where you're not really late. 15-30 minutes late deserves a quick text, which I think is also fine. More than 30 minutes late borders on rude, especially if I'm already there. If it's 45+ minutes, I'm usually just gonna leave unless there's a valid excuse.

Recently, my girlfriend and I were invited to a housewarming party, and when we got there and I texted the host so that he could let me into his apartment building, he told me he was still on the way home from work. When I asked why there weren't any other people standing outside his door, he texted back, "sry, didn't text everyone."

I thought this was rude as fuck, and I wanted to go home at that point, but my girlfriend (perhaps reasonably) advised us to just get a drink at a bar nearby and chill out. The host ended up being very apologetic later, and I probably overreacted, but that, to me, is a real sign of disrespect, and that's core to the reason some people hate late-comers. It's that they feel like the respect they have for you isn't reciprocated, especially when it's downplayed as if someone shouldn't take offense.

I'm probably more of a tight-ass about this than I need to be, but I'm chronically early, so maybe I'm just wired differently.
 
To people who are going to be late -

At least you can tell the others that you expect to be late, preferably before the scheduled meeting time. At least then you show a little bit of courtesy in acknowledging your error, and that you respect them enough to give them a heads up.

If you are running late and don't answer your phone because you are pretending to be busy as an excuse for why you are late, that's not cool. (Yes, I as well as a lot of us are guilty of doing this at least once in our lives, and it's a dick move).
 
Teriyaki Blues said:
...My spouse is Filipino. They are still not as bad as the dreaded extended family. Even a small event makes herding cats look like a baby's plaything.
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Mine too
The in laws and their extended family.
There was a car trip planned involving staying a few nights somewhere. They managed to be in the "we are leaving" state for 3 days straight so it ended up to be a one day trip.
Leaving any house involves anyone organised standing at the door while anyone Filipino yells from some random room or other "we are so late! Are you ready?" Etc.
 
I'm late for every social engagement. I leave everything to the last minute.

I like to build suspense for my arrival. Not really - I just underestimate how long shit I need to do before leaving takes.
 
I have very low tolerance for late people. But the worst ones are those who decide to cancel but don't tell you until after you've texted them after waiting on them 30+ minutes.

I had a friend that pulled this a few times, and offered no excuse aside from "forgot to tell u sooner lol". Needless to say, we're no longer friends.

As far as lateness goes, 5- 10 minutes is okay. 15 is pushing it. For 30+ you better have a good excuse.
 
My dad used to always say "If you're not 10 minutes early, you're 5 minutes late," which I think is a bastardization of a Vince Lombardi quote, but he doesn't care about football so I'm not sure he even knows where he got it.

My mom is late to everything, always.

I'm sort of in the middle? Basically, if I don't really WANT to go somewhere, I'll be 5-10 minutes late. If it's something I want to do, then I'm usually early.
 
If they have kids under 4 or 3 I cut them some slack.

If they don't have kids I figure they were getting laid or having fun and I cut them some slack.

I hope that their lateness is not due to anxiety or stress and chill out while I wait.

If it's obvious that they aren't coming I do something else.

These are my friends, after all.
 
I go about at my own time, which is sometimes late.

Don't really care if it bothers people if I'm being honest, and also couldn't care less if someone else is late. Unless we are talking a significant amount of time aka 30 or more minutes.
 
I'm habitually late. My great grand father was always on time, but my great grand mother was always late, my grandpa is always late, and my mom was late to everything.

When hanging out with friends we never set anything so rigid that 5-10 minutes will be a big deal.

My work schedule is flexible so I'm not worried there except for traffic.

If I plan to be at work at 7, it takes me 50 minutes to get there. It'll be 5 40 and I'm telling myself I should really get up and quit looking at the internet since I can do that shit at work. I'll probably start getting ready about 6 15 because I do not want to start my day.

I was told that can be a result of depression or anxiety by my therapist once.

I don't think my time is more important than yours, sometimes I just don't feel like it and I'll be late.
 
Isn't it also disrespectful of people's time to always expect them to be on time?

They were inherently doing something else. If it's more than like 15 minutes late then yeah, but otherwise I think being a dick about it kind of makes you the dick.
 
I'm generally early for everything. I hate being late. It's just disrespectful, though I'm usually okay if someone is only 5 minutes or so late.

There's group of us get together at a friend's place and I'm always the first one there because I'm on time. Once, as an experiment, I decided to be 30 minutes late and I was STILL there an hour before anyone else..
 
My father is always late, every single time....

it used to drive me insane but I could see that he wasn't doing it on purpose so I've learned to deal.
 
I worked for 15 years for a boss who was never on time for anything, and frequently several hours late.

I finally reached my breaking point last year and quit.

My blood pressure has returned to normal since.
 
Yes, they piss me off.

They're generally late for nothing. Most of the time, there's actually nothing that makes them late. They come late just because it's their habit, because they're just lazy. I have a brother who just fits this description, and I despise him so much because of his habit. He screwed me over so many times already.
 
I'm the five minutes early type of person at work. I think that's actually on time.

Being late is definitely a trigger for me too. Luckily, my wife and my friends understand. My group of friends have a thing about showing up exactly on time. If we're early we'll wait until the correct time to enter each other's houses (otherwise their is a lot of mocking). If you're late, you're locked out and shunned (for a few seconds). I only have a couple friends who are regularly on hippie people time (show up whenever and are typically late) and none of them even smoke cannabis (the on time ones do though).
 
I am always the early one as I was taught to be early for any appointments and dates. But my friends are always late, and sometimes they have some bullshit reasons like "because we are so close to each other, I wouldn't mind being late".

You don't mind, but I do.
 
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