People who are constantly late

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Damn, holy shit with some of the responses! Absolute disrespect for those who are late 15-30 minutes? I get that it's important to be punctual, but don't you think that's a bit over top? Honestly, unless it's work-related or any of the time sensitive situations, I'm a late person at heart. I really don't like experiencing unnecessary stress simply because I have to be on time for certain events. For instance, if I'm running late for whatever reason, I inform my friends that I am going to be late. Also, if I'm on the road, I do not drive 80+ mph (135 kmh) and engage to other dangerous driving maneuvers all for the sake of being on time.

Just letting you know, I'm running on Filipino time.
 
Patients that show up late at work are the worst. Not only have the compromised everyone else on the schedule's time by doing so they have also limited the additional time I would have available to do additional work. To top it all off, if it's greater than 15 minutes and we refuse to see them they pitch a fit in the waiting room.

If you ever wonder why it takes nurses a long time to get back to you at an office or why it feels like you have to wait ages for results then you know who to blame.
 
I'm a late person :( I'm just really bad at estimating how long it'll take to get somewhere, and I also hate being too early for stuff, so I try to leave as late as I can while still trying to make it on time

I'm a horrible person, I know. I'm going to hell.

As I type this, I'm en route to an art gallery that my girlfriend is working at tonight and she wanted me to be there at 7 and I am nowhere near close to being 20 minutes away :(((( sorry bae
 
My ex and I were like OP's, but that's because we usually got horny watching each other getting ready that we couldn't keep our hands off each other. My wife and I don't have this problem.
 
You have an obligation to not make family and friends wait on you needlessly. Being a couple minutes late or late due to stuff out of your control (public transit) isn't a big deal. Chronic lateness is rude when there's an expectation that people are arriving at certain times.

A friend of mine is like this, and often it seems like the sheer disorganization of all aspects of his life just spills over into social gatherings. So there will be a thing he put off for a long time, or a thing he needs to do before he can go out, or even him just doing whatever the fuck he feels like that he just does without caring about anyone else having to wait on him.
 
I'm never late intentionally i.e. some kind of accident or something unavoidable would habe to happen. I'm almost always super early, I'd rather be one hour early, than one minute late. When I say I'm going to be somewhere at a certain time, I'm there. My word is everything to me.

So it's pretty obvious that when others are late, I get pretty annoyed, however, I do not express it. I just don't have the expectation that THAT person will ever be on time.
 
5-10 minutes late occasionally is due to unforeseen traffic/commuting problems is not an issue. But being consistently 20 minutes to an hour late without communication is rude period. Don't bother to schedule events if you have a habit of not starting or showing up on time.

My husband family is terrible about this. I've actual give up on showing up "on time" and showing up an hour later. And they still show up later than me. Or we do show up on time and leave

Wasted half a day of vacation once waiting for them to show up at a mall so we could shop and eat together before going to the beach. Shopping was fun, but we were getting hunger while waiting for them to show up. After 2 hours, they informed us that they skipped ahead to the beach. We jump in the car, not eating, to catch up. We get to the beach and found out that they ate separately without informing our group. They ask if we ate yet. "No, cause we were eating with you as planned!"

And they wonder why we refused to do anything with them the next day.
 
Chococat said:
Wasted half a day of vacation once waiting for them to show up at a mall so we could shop and eat together before going to the beach. Shopping was fun, but we were getting hunger while waiting for them to show up. After 2 hours, they informed us that they skipped ahead to the beach. We jump in the car, not eating, to catch up. We get to the beach and found out that they ate separately without informing our group. They ask if we ate yet. "No, cause we were eating with you as planned!"

And they wonder why we refused to do anything with them the next day. They are unreliable, period.
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This is the kind of shit that really pisses me off. People who are late but then somehow find a way to screw up the plans in a way where you are the one left out of the activity. I had a friend that I was going to meet up with for coffee followed by a walk in a park. They were running late so they decided to pick up coffee for themselves (making them even later) and after picking me up we went directly to the park leaving me with no coffee.
 
People who are consistently more than a few minutes late tend to not have a lot of respect for other people and their time. I mean, we're all late on occasion, but if you're late on a regular basis and you aren't a part of my family or my boss, our relationship won't be lasting long.
 
All of you late people saying "I don't really care" you know you're being selfish dicks, right? Just to be really clear here. You're saying "I don't give a shit about other people's time and only I matter."
 
Unless it's a party or some social event, I'm always 5 to 15 minutes early. I hate having to wait for others who are constantly late after I told them the day before let's try to be early this time. LOL

Parties or social events I'm always fashionably late. Only lames show up on time.
 
Yah not a fan. My family is all like this except for my Dad, so sometimes I wonder why I even bother showing up on time to lunch or an event when no one else shows up for 10-30 minutes...
 
Vermillion said:
Me too, lol. This thread is kinda vicious.

I'm just a consistently terrible judge of what time I need to leave. I try to leave early, but I always arrive late, because I don't understand traffic/don't understand when to leave in general. :(
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I don't understand how this is possible if you're an adult without a learning disability. This isn't far off from saying you burn yourself every day because you can't keep track of which part of the pan not to touch.
 
ant_ said:
Yes. Especially because the excuse my friends (that aren't late) give is that they are 'busy.' When I know for a fact I am much more busy than them and most of them don't even have a job.
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The "busy" excuse. Almost nobody is ever as busy as they claim to be.
 
If I have to be at the office at 9, I will leave my house at 9. As soon as my foot leaves the door I consider that company time. That also means leaving work at 4:30, so I'm stepping back in the door right at 5.






NO! I don't actually do this. We have joked around about it at work though when we talk about the one guy who is always late and leaves early. Lol.
 
Not sure if anyone has brought up this method, but if you know someone who is consistently late, you'll eventually get a feel for how late they'll be. One of my friends feels anything 45-60 minutes late is fine.

So now if we're meeting somewhere at 6PM, he gets told we're meeting at 5PM. It works surprisingly well for most people who are late consistently.

One of my exes couldn't understand why my Mom could possibly see her in a negative light after she was 30 minutes late for a dinner we had reservations for. I'm pretty flexible on most things, but fuck, if you say you're going to be somewhere, then do it. If you can't be somewhere at that time, just give me the time you CAN show up. It's insanely disrespectful.
 
I had a late detention every week at school. I couldn't get my lazy ass out of bed in time.

Now Im older I give myself an extra hour.
 
mike6467 said:
Not sure if anyone has brought up this method, but if you know someone who is consistently late, you'll eventually get a feel for how late they'll be. One of my friends feels anything 45-60 minutes late is fine.

So now if we're meeting somewhere at 6PM, he gets told we're meeting at 5PM. It works surprisingly well for most people who are late consistently.
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I have a friend whose own mother told me to lie to him if I wanted him to be on time.
 
keltickennedy said:
If I have to be at the office at 9, I will leave my house at 9. As soon as my foot leaves the door I consider that company time. That also means leaving work at 4:30, so I'm stepping back in the door right at 5.






NO! I don't actually do this. We have joked around about it at work though when we talk about the one guy who is always late and leaves early. Lol.
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Good on him. I bet he's probably the highest paid, regardless. You guys should join in if he's getting away with it.
 
Can't stand it. I understand 5-15 minutes...but 30 mins to an hour is just too much.
Sometimes I actually try to lie to my friends who are always late - I tell the time of the meeting -30 minutes, that way they show up on time.
 
Getting somewhere on time shouldn't be stressful.

I've been late to work (I count 5 min past start time as 'late' here) about 2-3 times in 6 years, and this is with public transport, sometimes up to 3 buses. It's not difficult, just leave earlier. Don't assume optimal conditions. If there's a bus that will get you there just on time, get the previous bus. Sometimes I get the bus before that to make sure I don't get somewhere late.

If you're finding it stressful getting somewhere on time, leave earlier. You shouldn't need to rush, or drive fast, just leave earlier than you absolutely need to and you can take your time. It is far, far less stressful to get to places early than aim to get there on time.

If you're worried about being early (this is crazy to me, I never knew this was a concern until reading this thread), just get a kindle or a 3DS or put a podcast on and go for a walk around the block until you're on time. If it's an appointment, maybe you can go in early.

I think a lot of people have difficulty judging how long things takes, especially getting from point A to point B and all the little things that you forget about (grabbing keys, finding a jacket etc). My suggestion is to actually time how long these things take. Start a timer on your phone the second you decide to leave, then stop the timer when you get to the destination. Did it take more or less time than you expected? I actually tend to overestimate how long things take due to taking a 'worst case scenario' point of view (i.e. what if I miss a bus?), which helps me to get to places on time.

In my case, I do feel something that I can only describe as anxiety when I am late for something, especially if others are waiting on me, so that does kind of help drive me to get to places on time or early. If I'm late for something it's just about always due to me waiting for someone else, and you can be sure that I'm not happy about it.

I generally don't mind if someone else is running a few minutes late though, but if it's something like a movie's start time or something that starts at a designated time, I don't like waiting for someone to arrive past the start time.
 
Late people annoy me but the one thing I hate more than that is when I'm late. Drives me crazy knowing I'm make people wait on me.
 
entremet said:
30 minutes late and leave on time.

Good I love new the new world of Result Only Workplaces.
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This is how it should always be. What are you coming to work for if not getting the work done?


EDIT: Looking at the post above me... the other thing is... I hate being late. I don't like letting people down in any regard. But, it's chronic.
 
I became boss so I could be late but I don't get pissed at late employees either if they bust as while at work.

I'm always on times to meeting just don't care what time I start or end the day. Plus I have to remote into work and salary so fuck hitting 40 hours. Most weeks I work 50+
 
I'm a late guy and I won't bother to rectify. The problem is whenever I'm on time or early everyone else is just really late. So I know that whatever time an established meeting is at is some bullshit time.

For business meetings and first time encounters I'll be on time or even early and of course 99% of the time whoever I'm meeting arrives 30-45 minutes later. So next time I leave my house at the time I'm supposed to meet them.
 
Yeah i fucking hate it, my group of friends has one member that is shocking for it, so we always tell her to be there half an hour earlier. So if we book dinner for 7, we will tell her 6.30pm.
 
Generally on time for work (never more than 5 min late), but chronically late for virtually everything else. usually by about 10-25 minutes.
 
I used to be punctual, but I find now that with so many responsibilities and such, when I make plans I end up stating unreasonable time goals for myself because I don't want to make the other person feel bad or cancel out. Sometimes I can't make those goals even when I try to rush the best I can, or something comes up.

I can understand if they're just sitting around, but that's not always the case.
 
It was ingrained into me when I was about 5 that you are never to be late, I was dicking around and was on the verge of being late to kindergarten, my grandpa smacked me and from there on out I've been early to just about everything. I get panic attacks now if I'm pushing it close to time.
 
If you say you're gonna be somewhere on time, then be on time or at least let me know if you're going to be late. It's just about managing expectations.
 
^^^lol, always looking out your window every time you hear a car seeing if it's them.
Apparently.
So I heard.

Camwi said:
There was a guy I used to work with who was 5 - 10 minutes late every fucking day, which means I had to stay 5 - 10 minutes later than I should've had to, and usually off the clock. I complained about it to him, complained about it to our boss, but nothing every changed.
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I was about to say more fool you then but then I realised he was taking over from you after your shift so yeah, I understand what you mean and yeah that's pretty shitty.
 
Brianimaniac said:
I don't understand how this is possible if you're an adult without a learning disability. This isn't far off from saying you burn yourself every day because you can't keep track of which part of the pan not to touch.
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Especially when things like Google Maps literally tell you how long it'll take to get somewhere these days.
 
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