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Study: Women Let Handsome Men Off Easier
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Zen_Arcade
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Attractive people get away with more, because even if the person being hit on isn't interested, it's always more flattering to get attention from an attractive person then it is from someone you find ugly.
I've seen women and men in committed relationships get hit on by other people, and they're far more playful, flirty, and responsive towards the attractive people that are hitting on them then the ugly ones. The ugly ones usually get either a hard no, or a mournful "I can't, I have a SO." whereas the attractive ones usually get to flirt more before actually getting rejected.
I think this is overreaching with the conclusion a bit. It's far easier to say there is social pressure on women to internalize sexual desire so that external decisions based on a man's attractiveness seem wrong and taboo.
You're correct that pro-rape people (yes, they're out there people) would use such a conclusion as ammo, but the general consensus and likely further scientific study would prove out that they're dingleberries. I guess what I'm saying is that reasonable people wouldn't find the discussion of sexual assault more complicated based on scientific proof of "attractiveness = get away with more".
HarryKS
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Lol no.
Me and Sam are like kindred spirits. All those jealous looks I get from co-workers, all those times when people called me names. *smdh* Be the shoe people.
VincentMatts
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lol
Ganzlinger
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Do they really need to spend time researching this?
Ally of Justice
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Attractiveness is well known to give you an advantage in most interactions with other people, but of course we needed a study to confirm it.
I had a female friend who used to say that she "didn't care" about the looks. Her whole history of boyfriends has had not one lower than 9/10 according to her other female friends, not one lasting more than a year because they would always cheat on her (but that's completely unrelated ...right?).
Anyway, didn't they make a documentary film about this previously unobserved phenomenon? 50 shades of something?
I had a female friend who used to say that she "didn't care" about the looks. Her whole history of boyfriends has had not one lower than 9/10 according to her other female friends, not one lasting more than a year because they would always cheat on her (but that's completely unrelated ...right?).
Anyway, didn't they make a documentary film about this previously unobserved phenomenon? 50 shades of something?
hellmonkey
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I see this a lot. A guy that "get around" it just a guy, boys being boys. A girl that gets around is a slut and whore. Humans are sexual beings. We need to embrace and be more tolerant of it. No, I am not advocating rape/assault, just saying we need a more even playing field.
Pokemon Trainer Red
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How do I become handsome?
Maybe the people that got the grant for the research were good looking?
Unless you got a really fucked up face, then you can fake being handsome really well with grooming, hygiene, taking care of your teeth, posture, and clothing.
hellmonkey
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This is natural selection. How many other countless species use some form of physical appearance to attract a mate? It literally is the way of the world.
haha so true.
hellmonkey
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Also, confidence. Confidence is something you physically project through subtle, and sometimes not so subtle, cues such as posture, facial expressions, and movement. I have a face that only blind mother could love, but people still tell my wife im attractive because I don't "act" ugly.
I ca take you under my wing. First we must get your ears plugged.
Team Alucard
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Step 1) Have a good facial bone structure
Step 2) Don't be a slob
If you don't have step 1 you're out of luck I'm afraid.
Turbowaffles
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SHOCKING NEWS
Shpeshal Nick
aka Collingwood
They performed a entire study for something I could have told them over the phone for free?
They performed an entire study to CONFIRM something that you could have told them over the phone for free.
Science don't take phone tips mfer.
Melon Husk
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Attractive people have it easier, shocking news.
FairyD
The Man Who Stares at Girls
(Today, 02:08 PM)
Or this guy?
I'm not so sure.
FairyD
The Man Who Stares at Girls
(Today, 02:08 PM)
Are you this guy
Or this guy?
I'm not so sure.
triplestation
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Always-honest
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Well that's money well spent
Vermillion
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Nope. Point is it's clearly not that obvious. No need to do anything extra.
EDIT: My man Opiate.
I was completely serious
ugly people get my respect because they actually have to work to get where they are
fuck beautiful people
Principate
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Eh confidence ain't that easy, or at least it wasn't for me. It's essentially being able to be yourself regardless of the situation, most people tense up outside their zones, most commonly talking to someone they've never spoken to before e.g a completely random stranger down the street, and it's extremely visible same with doing anything or uncomfortable doing.
There are numerous ways to fake confidence or rather project the air, e.g the ability to keep eye contact and various postures (essentially your body language), but if your actually confident it's less about what your consciously doing and more about actually feeling comfortable enough to say or do whatever you feel like not caring too much about the consequences. As your obviously relaxed and quite at home with the situation, your body language naturally changes to the typical cues.
It's useful because your not on edge or worrying about what people are thinking about what your saying too much so it allows you to pick up things the other person is doing and essentially dictate and manipulate conversations etc.
TangoAlphaLima
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Yes, beautiful people do that to each other often...
PHOENIXZERO
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Attractive people have it easier, groundbreaking.
As a scientist (although not in the social sciences) I'm shocked at how the usually pro-science GAF is giving me some very anti science vibes. I'll forgive some of you though.
I'm more interested about that small bit in the OP about tilting your head. I'm going to start walking around with a neck brace to keep my head permanently tilted. That'll make up for my fugly face right?
If you're hot
I'm more interested about that small bit in the OP about tilting your head. I'm going to start walking around with a neck brace to keep my head permanently tilted. That'll make up for my fugly face right?
If it is true, it is true. It is true.
TheLaughingStock
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Dat police brutality
You can always trick people into thinking you're attractive though, for real... also attractiveness is subjective. One person's Brad Pitt might be another person's Willem DaFoe.
ThankYouDaletech
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I try to bring balance by going out of my way to treat attractive people poorly.
ElBoxyBrown
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Basically Chris Brown's fanbase after the Rihanna incident.
"I'd let him beat me and rape me."
ShyGuy0504
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Seems like this would be obvious to most people.
I'm ugly but it doesn't affect me much because I rarely interact with other people.
I'm ugly but it doesn't affect me much because I rarely interact with other people.
I wonder how sexuality plays into this.
Something to note, that I think is important is that we need to be cognizant of the fact that this sort of information doesn't mean that we necessarily need to adjust how we look at people per say, or even how we interact with them.
For example, if I find someone attractive and they hit on me, I'm going to respond much more positively than if they are unattractive to me. In this case, obviously, no one would expect me to treat someone I don't find attractive the same. But if it's something like... Picking people to be on my rec volleyball team, that bias might be there, but it's probably not important enough for me to adjust my behavior, while career related stuff I should absolutely be aware of this pitfall.
I think this sort of bias plays out in the weirdest ways. Like... A few weeks ago I'm drinking with some co-workers, and we're sharing a pizza and one of my co-workers turns to me and asks me to finish off her slice because she was full. I grabbed it and took a bite without really hesitating, even though I wasn't even hungry anymore. I had a moment of introspection and realized the only reason I even wanted to eat that pizza, let alone was willing to eat someone else's half eaten slice, was because she was attractive. She then proceeded to take the pizza back for the last bite. That entire interaction I think would not have happened between two people who find each other physically unattractive, and I'm not really sure what that means.
Something to note, that I think is important is that we need to be cognizant of the fact that this sort of information doesn't mean that we necessarily need to adjust how we look at people per say, or even how we interact with them.
For example, if I find someone attractive and they hit on me, I'm going to respond much more positively than if they are unattractive to me. In this case, obviously, no one would expect me to treat someone I don't find attractive the same. But if it's something like... Picking people to be on my rec volleyball team, that bias might be there, but it's probably not important enough for me to adjust my behavior, while career related stuff I should absolutely be aware of this pitfall.
I think this sort of bias plays out in the weirdest ways. Like... A few weeks ago I'm drinking with some co-workers, and we're sharing a pizza and one of my co-workers turns to me and asks me to finish off her slice because she was full. I grabbed it and took a bite without really hesitating, even though I wasn't even hungry anymore. I had a moment of introspection and realized the only reason I even wanted to eat that pizza, let alone was willing to eat someone else's half eaten slice, was because she was attractive. She then proceeded to take the pizza back for the last bite. That entire interaction I think would not have happened between two people who find each other physically unattractive, and I'm not really sure what that means.
perfectchaos007
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Women let handsome men off easier
Men let beautiful women off easier.
Beautiful people get others off easier.
Men let beautiful women off easier.
Beautiful people get others off easier.
Eh, there's some subjectivity, but there are also some very real trends. Sure, maybe 5% of people think I'm an adonis, but if the other 95% think I'm repulsive, my day-to-day experience is going to be worse than that of someone who appeals to the majority.
Social science has done a lot of work in recent years about small interactions like this and what they mean overall socially. With studies on attractiveness and internal monologues I think we can at least start to piece together complex interactions like the one you described above.
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