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The Black Culture Thread |OT11| In This Salon, Everyone Gets A Perm
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When the black dude has to generate swag for the whole squad.
Gordon Shumway
Banned
Hey, all..
Fuck Don Lemon..
Good stuff lol..
Good grief..
n00bsauce87
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Never have a wedding ceremony brehs and brehdettes. Just go to the justice of the peace with you maid of honor and best man then go to buffalo wild wings or cheesecake factory afterwards. Then fuck each others brains out that evening at a BnB. It avoids unnecessary fights between your significant other and family members. It also saves thousands of dollars. Now I gotta play peacemaker. Got a foul sister and I have to tip toe well enough to not permanently damage that relationship. I could say screw her feelings you can talk to my fiance like that, but I'm an optimist and I hate myself for it.
That's all I got, I'm tapped out today
That's all I got, I'm tapped out today
andthebeatgoeson
Junior Member
I'm glad we had a big falling out with my family. It sucked for 2 years but it made my marriage stronger. Don't be scared of tests. When you pass a test, you feel more confident. 7 years in.
andthebeatgoeson
Junior Member
The other fucked up aspect is how easily we allow others to dictate a day based on your relationship. People pervert their love for YOUR relationship into input? Imagine you invite people to your house to celebrate an occasion. They walk in and ask to move to another facility, change the music, ask you to increase the costs, etc. That's a wedding. And you feel bad because they love you.
No, that's just bad planning.
No, that's just bad planning.
double jump
you haven't lived until a random little kid ask you "how do you make love".
While I generally agree with this people's fear of being alone or the bliss of being in love can really blind them to how toxic their SO's are sometimes.
Family was there first and if they treated you and your other gf/bf with love and respect until this point then maybe it ain't all gravy.
edit: I might have misread and been projecting super hard. Could have been just a stressful day and people are tired of each other.
Jackben
bitch I'm taking calls.
Yeah I'm not planning on getting married any time soon. But if it happens I'd just want to elope. Then again maybe that is selfish thinking since many women seem to really pine after having a wedding day with every fiber of their being. I blame social conditioning.
Probably going to be a compromise type situation. I hear that word all the time from married folk.
Probably going to be a compromise type situation. I hear that word all the time from married folk.
dskillzhtown
keep your strippers out of my American football
It's usually a good idea to let people know upfront that you and your soon to be wife are calling the shots. They can give input, but you are calling the shots. You and your girl have to decide exactly what the plan is going to be before you even allow others to give input. Do you want a big wedding? Do you want a small wedding? Do you want it on the beach? Is there a church you want to go to? You two have to get on the same page first. After that, stay firm. If you want to have a BDSM-style wedding, they are just going to have to deal with it. It's your wedding.
I got married at a nice casino chapel in Vegas. It worked out for all the small number of guests we invited and was a cheaper option than some local venues. If I got married again, I probably would opt for the exact same scenario. I see nothing wrong with a ceremony as cliched as it is at this point. While I wasn't really enthused about it going into it, I enjoyed the actual ceremony.
Been married for six years and have no complaints. We went to the courthouse, got some sandwiches, and made relations. A wedding shouldn't have elephants, flower bearers, and titght rope walkers. I don't understand why folks think you got to go all out for one day when tomorrow is not promised. I rather have a average wedding with a forever commitment, than a big ass wedding and a divorce within a month.
n00bsauce87
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It's the part where they want to make changes and ideas to the wedding. Bless my SO's heart she's been very accommodating but this morning with my sis and her broke her. Turns out she wanted her to help pay for her wedding dress or help figure out a plan after knowing that she made no plan to pay for it when all others in the bridal party paid for their dress and have it on hand. She says that it was unfair to inform her of the wedding date 4-5 months in advance because she had a planned vacation from a year ago and it fell about a couple of weeks before. Basically being unreasonable and planning our wedding around her schedule.
I mean my other sisters was like inserting their opinions into the wedding, but it was nothing we couldn't handle and it was nothing too unreasonable. There was enough time to plan in advance. But this sis in particular has been just too selfish. And I know her, she doesn't let stuff go or it takes her a looooooooong time to get over things.
I still love her, but she can't be this unreasonable.
My Sister Can't Be This Unreasonable coming out on Aniplex this fall
I mean my other sisters was like inserting their opinions into the wedding, but it was nothing we couldn't handle and it was nothing too unreasonable. There was enough time to plan in advance. But this sis in particular has been just too selfish. And I know her, she doesn't let stuff go or it takes her a looooooooong time to get over things.
I still love her, but she can't be this unreasonable.
My Sister Can't Be This Unreasonable coming out on Aniplex this fall
dskillzhtown
keep your strippers out of my American football
It sounds like it isn't going to go very well, but you need to tell your sister she is being unreasonable and if she can't be in the wedding, to let you know. At a certain point you just have to be cold and real about the situation. She seems to have no problem in doing the same to you. This is YOUR wife, YOUR wedding and if she wants to bring all that drama to the party, she can stay home.
I have had to exclude my brother on things because he may be the most selfish person on the planet. They get over it or they come around. Either way, when planning an event, you can't bend over backwards to please one person when they aren't even a primary participant. It just adds stress and makes you wonder who in the hell is this about in the first place?
n00bsauce87
Member
It's not and she's probably going to dislike me. I still tried to extend an olive branch to say hey, if you can still find a dress really similar to what you were supposed to get (within a long block text since she wasn't taking my call) you are in the bridal party. I still want her to show up regardless if she's in the party or in the crowd. But if she were to make a public spectacle right then in there... it's probably for the best if she doesn't come at all. I probably already got my answer.
Well I've told my SO to just worry about what you can deal with and this isn't one of them.
andthebeatgoeson
Junior Member
Sounds like she's doesn't want to be in it and y'all should accommodate.
Pro tip: you don't even have to have equal numbers of bridesmaids. You might be beholden to rules that are completely made up.
n00bsauce87
Member
Turns out it was my stepmom manipulating people and spreading lies and rumors. Saying things to my sis that was never said (which neutral parties can vouch for). My SO said she got a bad vibe from her and now I can see why. This day gets better and better.
I've always kept her at arms length, but why you gotta sabotage my wedding and people's relationships? Too tired to be pissed.
I've always kept her at arms length, but why you gotta sabotage my wedding and people's relationships? Too tired to be pissed.
Kid Kamikaze10
Member
I've been afraid of something like that happening at my brother's wedding. His SO's family seems mad chill, but on our worst days, my extended family can be petty as fuck.
I think one of my aunts has a grudge with me because I couldn't call her back one time.
I have no advice for that stuff since I haven't solved it myself, but just make sure you and your SO make it out ok.
dskillzhtown
keep your strippers out of my American football
That is some Dynasty/Knot's Landing type stuff.
andthebeatgoeson
Junior Member
Best thing to do is be up front and honest between the couple and have a plan to keep that shit at elastagirl's arms length.
Something about mom's and weddings. My mom made havoc around my wedding and she's normally cool.
Gordon Shumway
Banned
As a man with a life long problem with my wife's people, I couldn't agree more..
It took a long time for me to figure that out in life. Being confident, charismatic, bold, taking risks, etc. = being an ass. You get more things in life that way. Obviously there are levels to that shit, and just like anything if you want to see more positives than negatives you need moderation, but being an ass truly works wonders. Dating, relationships, jobs, etc., I would've failed so much if I never learned to step up instead of getting stepped on.
Gordon Shumway
Banned
Very well put.
I mean it's more akin to the euphemism "nice guys finish last". you can still be nice guy and be concise, firm, clear, curt, and competent. similarly you don't have to be an ass to process those qualities.
User 73706
Banned
Those are things that people can misconstrue as being an ass though, especially so if you naturally were not like that beforehand.
Gordon Shumway
Banned
Everyone has their way. For me? No other choice..
Also, very much this..
No. After reading up a smidge, not sure why the question lol. So yeah, why the question?
the character of larry is what i imagine you would be like in real life. No shade, but just my mental picture of you
Gordon Shumway
Banned
Shiiit..now my old ass has to check out some new cartoon!
Gordon Shumway
Banned
So, after further reading..
Holy shit! Give this man a beard, and it's me lol (minus that I'm six foot four, the questionable attire and vibrant colors, since I tend stroll the world murdered out). My wife and I are laughing hard. She agrees for the most part.
Certainly have used chicken heads to make me chicken soup..sorry if I'm obnoxious
Holy shit! Give this man a beard, and it's me lol (minus that I'm six foot four, the questionable attire and vibrant colors, since I tend stroll the world murdered out). My wife and I are laughing hard. She agrees for the most part.
Certainly have used chicken heads to make me chicken soup..sorry if I'm obnoxious
LOL. I beg you photoshop a beard and use him as your avatar for a little while Gordan.So, after further reading..
Holy shit! Give this man a beard, and it's me lol (minus that I'm six foot four, the questionable attire and vibrant colors, since I tend stroll the world murdered out). My wife and I are laughing hard. She agrees for the most part.
Gordon Shumway
Banned
Lol, noice.
andthebeatgoeson
Junior Member
I agree with being an ass, sometimes. There are probably other ways but fuck them, after a certain point.
the ass is fat but that's about it.
Gordon Shumway
Banned
Eh..nah.
sooperkool
Member
not my style but do you fam.
Face it Tiger..
Banned
i feel you brehs
I'm just surprised they did a youtube mini-doc about her
I'm just surprised they did a youtube mini-doc about her
ChamplooJones
Formerly Momotaro
There is such a thing as having TOO MUCH booty.
Ricky Ricardo
Member
Nicki Minaj is my limit.
Gordon Shumway
Banned
That's a high percentage..
Curb is what Seinfield should have been.
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