I find that both black men and women are at fault here. I don't understand the whole "going after European beauty standard" thing especially after the black power movement. But on the other hand, most of the women advertised as beautiful are white. Still though, hispanics, asians, arab women don't openly try to pursue being caucasian or having caucasian beauty features as much as black women. When I was growing up I knew a lot of confident but not athletic guys who were snubbed or laughed at by black women and they went on to date women of other races.
On the other hand, you've got black men who DO idolize white women. But you also have black men who ignore the cute little shy black nerd girl.
I think both sides are at all fault and are quick to place blame on the other side when we should be actively trying to get along with one another and taking care of our families.