Oh, it's definitely a fault of the community. I remember when Demon's Souls came out and people were importing it from Asia and Japan because there was no chance it was getting released over here. The people I talked to who had it were always like, 'Man I'm addicted to this game. It's pretty different. It's unforgiving and you gotta take your time with it, but it feels awesome.' Then somewhere after Demon's Souls US release or Dark Souls, it was now 'MAN! This game is so fucking hard, bro!' like as if the people who played it wanted you to know that the reason they played it was because it was serious business so they could put it on their lists for their bullshit gamer cred.
When my brother asked me about the game, I just told him to be patient with it and you'll enjoy it. We actually both played Everquest back in the day, and there's a lot of parallels to that. He loved it. I don't think he would have even given it a chance if he asked the internet about it because they'd talk about how it's the greatest game of all time and how it's so hard.