crazy_about_denise
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Women are not good at making signs. Leave that up to a metalworker or something.
I turned down sex with the girl of my dreams - the most beautiful women I've ever laid eyes on - while in bed with her because I had no idea what she meant when she said, "Are you sure you want to do this?". I just wasn't thinking clearly.
One of my life's regrets. She was absolutely the one that got away. She's a model now...I can't bare to look at her professional photos even though they're readily available on the internet. ;_;Posted in the other thread.
Yeah. It's actually her.
What kind of post is this? Where the hell did you even pull that from? Poor guy made one post and you call him homophobic...
There must be a lot of rocket scientists out there then. Really guys it's not that hard. You're not going to be branded as a rapist for making a move. People are calling out those who didn't stop when they were told "no."Reading womens advances and stuff..... It's like rocket science.... I honestly don't care any more.
Seeing as getting half naked into ones bed isn't supposed to be advanced enough it seems that we men are better off doing nothing unless we are outright being asked for a fuck because otherwise we risk being branded as attempted rapists if the womens sees fit to claim we are. Only problem is that most women don't have the balls to outright ask for sex because they don't want to be branded as a hooker. It's real funny when you think about it - or sad.
Haha...I know man. She was just so pretty.
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You get to proudly say "I said no to this". Embrace it, man.
There must be a lot of rocket scientists out there then. Really guys it's not that hard. You're not going to be branded as a rapist for making a move. People are calling out those who didn't stop when they were told "no."
You get to proudly say "I said no to this". Embrace it, man.
Does it work the other way around? Can you get an advanced degree if you interpret a woman's "no" correctly?Apparently people need advanced degrees in order to interpret 'No, stop that."
I'd rather try to touch the moon than take on a woman's thinking. Sometimes people misread things and the fault falls on them for that oversight. Other times, people send mixed signals and speak in riddles and wonder why feelings aren't reciprocated. In my case, someone is always reading the other person's intentions completely incorrectly.
I'm not so bad with this, what I'm terrible at is when I get obvious sexual advances and I have some idiotic response.
Girl in cab ride after drinking: "I wanna hang out at your place."
Me: "It's a mess. There are beer cans on the floor."
Her: "I don't care."
Me: "Nah it's really messy, seriously."
Sex avoided.
Girl walking home from a party: "I don't wanna go home, my roommate is scary."
Me: "Oh, what are you gonna do?"
Her: "I wanna stay somewhere else tonight."
Me: "Oh, well, good luck. See ya again sometime I hope."
Avoided once more. Come to think of it, both times the girls were who I would consider "way out of my league," so I probably just would never have assumed that they were actually interested.
Does it work the other way around? Can you get an advanced degree if you interpret a woman's "no" correctly?
Well, it can't be more expensive than college, can it?You can, but you still have to pay the fee if you want accreditation. No such thing as a free lunch for us men.![]()
Later on we were just sitting there and end up holding our hands together (the Tarzan thing) and close our fingers on each others. Somebody jokes about us being a couple, but she doesn't react.
Later I told her I liked her, and she freaked the fuck out, ignores me outright, blocks me everywhere online, says she finds me creepy, and avoids me at all costs.
Jesus Christ. Remind me to never publicly give my opinion again. I wasn't trying to say that the same rule applies to men and women about staying over at your house. I was simply trying to imply that just because a women asks to stay over that doesn't mean she wants to sleep with you. Maybe I just have a warped perception of reality because I haven't been in one of these instances before but you guys could be less dickish about it.
Jesus Christ. Remind me to never publicly give my opinion again. I wasn't trying to say that the same rule applies to men and women about staying over at your house. I was simply trying to imply that just because a women asks to stay over that doesn't mean she wants to sleep with you. Maybe I just have a warped perception of reality because I haven't been in one of these instances before but you guys could be less dickish about it.
There was this one girl I had a huge crush on a little over a year ago. I was sixteen at the time and really didn't know shit about relationships (probably still don't but I do have a girlfriend now whom I love), so I don't really regret having made my past mistakes - live and learn, right?
So I was talking to this girl about advice my friend had given (he was mostly joking, of course); "if a girl wants to bring you somewhere, pay attention to how she does it. Does she grab your hand, or your wrist? If it's the wrist, you're done."
I mostly said it to introduce the concept (and we did joke about it a bit), and see what she'd do. The next day, she tries to bring me to the classroom to eat lunch, and grabs my hand. We walk over there hand in hand. Later that day on the phone, she tells me she "friend-zoned" somebody by grabbing his wrist. Huh.
Later on we were just sitting there and end up holding our hands together (the Tarzan thing) and close our fingers on each others. Somebody jokes about us being a couple, but she doesn't react.
Later I told her I liked her, and she freaked the fuck out, ignores me outright, blocks me everywhere online, says she finds me creepy, and avoids me at all costs.
To this day I don't have a clue what the fuck that was all about.
Either this girl is really immature or you are leaving something crucial out of the story because that is an outright over the top reaction.
Jesus Christ. Remind me to never publicly give my opinion again. I wasn't trying to say that the same rule applies to men and women about staying over at your house. I was simply trying to imply that just because a women asks to stay over that doesn't mean she wants to sleep with you. Maybe I just have a warped perception of reality because I haven't been in one of these instances before but you guys could be less dickish about it.
Either this girl is really immature or you are leaving something crucial out of the story because that is an outright over the top reaction.
No, he left in the most important part that explains everything: he was 16.
I'm not so bad with this, what I'm terrible at is when I get obvious sexual advances and I have some idiotic response.
Girl in cab ride after drinking: "I wanna hang out at your place."
Me: "It's a mess. There are beer cans on the floor."
Her: "I don't care."
Me: "Nah it's really messy, seriously."
Sex avoided.
Girl walking home from a party: "I don't wanna go home, my roommate is scary."
Me: "Oh, what are you gonna do?"
Her: "I wanna stay somewhere else tonight."
Me: "Oh, well, good luck. See ya again sometime I hope."
Avoided once more. Come to think of it, both times the girls were who I would consider "way out of my league," so I probably just would never have assumed that they were actually interested.
I got over it a few months later and we became close again a while after that. I asked her about it and she gave me no explanation and just said she was PMS'ing.
It was going smoothly up until I told her, I just chose a really bad time to do it. She was upset about something (this was where she pulled the PMS card) and I was trying to comfort her over Skype. I heard crashing in the background, and I was worried. Told her I liked her a lot and wanted to help her with her problems.
Cue ignoring and Dissy feeling like a douche.
I'm just glad nothing came of it. I like to think the failures led me to my current girlfriend. I talked to one girl because of that failure and the second girl reminded me of someone I'd lost touch with. Now that third girl is my girlfriend, and I've learned a lot. No complaints.
Haha, I'm just glad to finally be fucking done with high school.
No, he left in the most important part that explains everything: he was 16.
Or, men in general need to stop looking into things as much as we do. What if when a girl says can I come stay at your place, it literally just means that?
I'm sorry.C'mon son. You painted everybody with a broad brush ("all of the guys"), and didn't expect to annoy some people? Generalizations are bad.
What you have to do is call them out on that BS. Stand your ground because once you let them do that it's cuddle buddy zone for you...
That means you're already in the friendzone so what's the point of interacting with them at that point?what if she legitimately doesn't want to have sex.
this thread. ugh.
That means you're already in the friendzone so what's the point of interacting with them at that point?
Haha...I know man. She was just so pretty.
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Haha...I know man. She was just so pretty.
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Haha oh god man that sucks .. Sorry bro, but you'll regret this for the rest of your life.
No he won't. In a few years he'll forget all about it. That's like treating high school like it will last forever and then you go to college and that doesn't last because you end up in the real world and that is full of regrets that you eventually forget.
Date was going well, then turned poor. Is what it sounds like happens all the time.
Not often, once in a blue moon, boy and girl. But also of I pulled a girl off the street I wouldn't expect them to just fuck me, a stranger.
I'm probably going to get a lot of shit for this, but why couldn't she just tell him that?
say the date was going well, then turned poor, or find a more polite way of saying it, or just say she changed her mind..
you could say that should have been obvious, but the thing is it was intended as an innuendo when she said it. that doesn't mean she can't change her mind afterwards, but telling him he got the wrong idea isn't completely honest. he got the right idea at that moment, but may have missed other signs later in the evening.
If this had happened to me when I was in my teens I might have been a bit frustrated too.
One date, she doesn't owe him an explanation at the end. Again it was a much more innocent innuendo as compared to the many other things she might have said about candles. To I would have read that as you might see my room not as you are going to see my room. Hell, maybe it was just a one time thing and home boy didn't take her to the bone zone that night and she changed her mind. That is a thing, women wanting to have unattached sex.
Maybe I should have phrased my question differently, or maybe this is a cultural thing, but they basically went on a date, where it sounds like both had a decent enough time, and then he asked her out on a second date. Nothing unusual here.
It's not about "owing him an explanation", she could have just said "no thank you" when he asked her out again, why was it necessary to make him feel like he misread the situation?
The reason I find this interesting is it reminds me of other misunderstandings between boys and girls, where the boy ends up more frustrated at the inconsistency than the rejection, and I think this has to do with differences in how men and women communicate.
He says ask her out 'officially'. Again purpose what he was misunderstanding was that this was a one time situation. Everything about that says one time bone zone access.
Women? As friends? Why would I want that?Friendship... Honestly, if you are asking that question you probably could use more friends.
Haha...I know man. She was just so pretty.
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No he won't. In a few years he'll forget all about it. That's like treating high school like it will last forever and then you go to college and that doesn't last because you end up in the real world and that is full of regrets that you eventually forget.
On a more serious note, I have never assumed a guy's into me sexually or romantically. Unless it's stated at least five times with neon lights. My self esteem is too low for me to ever read into things like that.
Haha...I know man. She was just so pretty.
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