You are giving this way more thought than I think you need, but hey it might work out. All I know is that, being in the South, you see a ton of religious people who are on some shit. Some are condescending. Some are duplicitous. Got no time for that at all.
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You are giving this way more thought than I think you need, but hey it might work out. All I know is that, being in the South, you see a ton of religious people who are on some shit. Some are condescending. Some are duplicitous. Got no time for that at all.
If they have an 'experience' they have a problem with rational thought and critical thinking which would dismiss any 'experience' within 5 minutes. If they continually have these 'experiences' they are delusional or willfully ignorant. None of that is good.
Snowybreak
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I'm only 5'3", thank God I'm not overly self-conscious. Although some of these threads might turn me into a self-conscious wreck.
From personal experience, I've had a lot of Tinder conversations go from "What are you racially" to "Hit me up at [phone number] if you want to grab or bite to eat" after telling them. Most of them white, so take that as you will. Interracial dating is pretty damn common in the Bay Area...
Thats true. It might be unfair to write her off just off of that. Maybe that "contact" was something she personally thinks of as a miracle or something. IDK.
EDIT:
Haha, that chat screenshot posted above is kinda funny
It is average. You're fine. This is just a single thread with a handful of users.
Don't do this, man! We all have our strengths. Work what you got.
PepsimanVsJoe
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I have better luck with POF.
I live in the Orlando area. Through Tinder I have maybe 15 matches total and I've been on there for years. POF? Around 70 matches in less than six months.
Height is 5'10, I listed it on my tinder profile, but not on POF...Maybe that's hurting my chances? Whatever.
I live in the Orlando area. Through Tinder I have maybe 15 matches total and I've been on there for years. POF? Around 70 matches in less than six months.
Height is 5'10, I listed it on my tinder profile, but not on POF...Maybe that's hurting my chances? Whatever.
City demographics also play a big part. I can tell as a Torontonian, when I was in New York last month, I gave tinder a shot there and I matched with 30 girls in a weekend. These were good looking girls, and not bots. Which is the complete opposite of my experience in Toronto. Where I'll get a match or two in a week or so.
Maybe someone from the NYC-GAF can comment on this, but I've been told that the girls to guys ratio in NYC is higher and that contributes to getting higher matches in NYC.
Maybe someone from the NYC-GAF can comment on this, but I've been told that the girls to guys ratio in NYC is higher and that contributes to getting higher matches in NYC.
eot
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If you weren't short there would be something else. Almost everyone have something they're insecure about. I have a friend who is so god damn insecure about his body even though he's ripped as hell, and is obsessed with his height thinking it's an issue even though he sleeps around like crazy. The fact that I'm ~6 inches taller doesn't make up for anything. It's at best not a disadvantage.
lightskintwin
Banned
As a guy who's 6'1 tall, height does indeed make a difference.
perfectchaos007
Member
85.5% of women are going to end up being lonely if they only date > 6' guys.
96.1% of women will be lonely if 6'2" is their cutoff.
lightskintwin
Banned
Women eventually settle, plus other factors can overcompensate for height.
efyu_lemonardo
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Actually that line about Fortune 500 CEOs is the most telling. DAMN.
In south FL it doesn't matter what your height is; the finest chicks are usually w/ guys that are their height or shorter. As a tall guy it kind of sucks that my advantage is removed here. EOD what seems to matter most on these dating sites is:
1. Being white or being able to pass for white
2. Having pics depicting the life of luxury, ie bottles, yachts, fancy cars, etc
If you can hit one of those two you're probably going to be swimming in matches unless you're fat.
1. Being white or being able to pass for white
2. Having pics depicting the life of luxury, ie bottles, yachts, fancy cars, etc
If you can hit one of those two you're probably going to be swimming in matches unless you're fat.
LookAtMeGo
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Eh. One of my best friends is pretty damn short and he is swimming in vagina.
AbortedWalrusFetus
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More than 4% of the country claims to be 6'2" or over. Lot's of people unknowingly exaggerate their height. I used to say I was 6'3" and read an article that men exaggerate by an inch on average and ever since claim I'm 6'2". Now a TON of guys I meet say "You can't be 6'2", you're taller than me and I am 6'2"!"
Not to be that guy, but when this subject comes up I can't help but wonder if there is a connection between this feeling and the rampant MRA sexism you see in geek communities. Which is doubly sad cuz men being like, "They judge us on our looks!" would ideally create some empathy for the female experience of the last say infinity years, haha.
lightskintwin
Banned
Nah, the average height of men being 5'9 tall is true. Even being 6'1 tall, there are times when I'm at huge social gatherings and I'm the tallest guy there.
perfectchaos007
Member
Most people measure with their shoes on, which adds an inch. That's why
efyu_lemonardo
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He must be good at holding his breath.
Morrigan Stark
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Seems like the easy solution is to not use the shallowest dating app ever.... e_e
And yet there's such a culture of resistance against self-improvement.
kavanf1
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I'd say there absolutely is. Look at the "men are so fragile" comment which illustrates the double standard at play. It's no wonder some guys are confused, especially if they're relatively inexperienced.
brianjones
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if you're prone to low self esteem these sites might put you over the edge..
Snowman Prophet of Doom
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I have my height listed as 40 feet, give or take 34 feet. Works well enough.
Tinder fucking sucks, tho.
Tinder fucking sucks, tho.
perfectchaos007
Member
Yeah now we're just told to accept our bodies and enjoy the skin we're in. From a height perspective it makes since, because its something you can't change. But it's scary how many morbidly obese individuals are embracing this idea.
If you seek validation from a mashup of an electric mobile version of a stereoscope and digital speed dating.... then yeah, you kind of deserve the low self worth you get.
If you can appreciate it as a tool to connect to others and nothing more than you should be fine.
People will always seek an idealized version of their prince or princess charming and what they seek might not be what is always grounded in reality and you might find what you seek is also just as shallow and objectifying.
Maybe just have fun and enjoy the moment with the people around you and try not to focus so hard on what could be and focus on what is. Then maybe you'll find more people attracted to you because you are confident & happy. Something you clearly weren't before.
If you can appreciate it as a tool to connect to others and nothing more than you should be fine.
People will always seek an idealized version of their prince or princess charming and what they seek might not be what is always grounded in reality and you might find what you seek is also just as shallow and objectifying.
Maybe just have fun and enjoy the moment with the people around you and try not to focus so hard on what could be and focus on what is. Then maybe you'll find more people attracted to you because you are confident & happy. Something you clearly weren't before.
EatinOlives
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This.
Or better yet: just don't use online dating apps period.
Online dating is the antithesis to how human beings actually communicate and fall in love. Great for the people who find someone that way, but more than anything it's the two who fell in love IN SPITE of the terrible concept of online dating, not because of it.
lightskintwin
Banned
And? Being tall alone doesn't mean you automatically get women. LOL It's just that in general, women tend to prefer height.
Kill Your Masters
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As age goes up, the height
everything
Or they'll stack up on cats.
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The Everyman
well, the thread is focused on height and there's no easy way to fix that... yet.
Tinfoilhatsron
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You guys here are lucky, lol. Try being in a wheelchair. Short as fuck.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Oh no doubt. Im just saying not all hope is lost if you are short. Style and charisma goes a long way.
efyu_lemonardo
May I have a cookie?
Too true. Men will complain about putting in effort to look good yet their standards of women's beauty will remain largely unchanged.
lightskintwin
Banned
Put some height increasing boots on. LOL
perfectchaos007
Member
On the contrary, being in a wheelchair can mask how short you are.
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brianjones
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are you a bartender?
FaintDeftone
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Wow... that's some cruel shit.
Killer Queen
Banned
Seriously. In highschool there were dudes a couple inches shorter than me claiming to be 6ft. The thing is, I'm 5'10.
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