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Transgaf: 'cause boys will be girls (and vice versa)
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Simply Sarah
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I will largely mirror what Shidoshi and Platy said. In general it's fine if you're treating as "Even being male, I shouldn't be restricted to male characters, so I won't be". The offense for me happens when it's a joke ("Haha, I'm a guy dressing a lady! Look how ridiculous I am!") or if it's being used as a sort of gotcha ("Haha! I was really a guy all along! Fooled you!"). I'm also made uncomfortable if it's treated as a sort of drag rather than a more traditional cosplay.
But, so then, would he not be able to cosplay as Bridget?
Box of Bunnies
Banned
You don't realise how much you appreciated pockets until two thirds of the pants you wear no longer have them.
I don't think crossplay is offensive or insensitive or whatever. The problem is more when ignorant outside observers conflate that kind of stuff, or something like drag shows, with us and act like medically transitioning women are just guys in dresses. The action itself is fine.
I don't think crossplay is offensive or insensitive or whatever. The problem is more when ignorant outside observers conflate that kind of stuff, or something like drag shows, with us and act like medically transitioning women are just guys in dresses. The action itself is fine.
On the other side of that, though, you definitely don't realize how much you appreciate having a purse until you're going somewhere without one.
I am, however, the type that always carries a lot of "just in case" stuff with them.
Would totaly cosplay as bridget ... if he actualy does some bridget roleplay and remmeber that he actualy WANTS TO BE MANLY and it is the WHOLE POINT of him fighting that he wants to be THE heterosexual alpha male =P
Simply Sarah
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I have no idea how I lived without a purse or how most men live without some sort of bag.
I don't know how you women can cram so much stuff inside those bags. I mean, is like a bag from a cartoon, i swear you can put a mallet in one of them and all of your belongings and still there's room for more.
Simply Sarah
Member
If all you know are pockets then the abilities of a proper shoulder bag are indistinguishable from magic.
Princess Viola
Member
i don't carry a purse 
(i never carry anything aside from my wallet when i go out)
(i never carry anything aside from my wallet when i go out)
Simply Sarah
Member
Depressing, but sadly not very surprising.
Not sure - mainly what Joe Rogan said. Pretty nasty.
Bags are great; I just wish I had more of them! I'm glad I invested in a really nice one though.
The amount of ignorance on display is pretty sickening.
Welcome back!
*throws confetti all over the thread again*
The amount of ignorance on display is pretty sickening.
Welcome back!
*throws confetti all over the thread again*
I don't feel like I carry around that much stuff, at least looking at it all laid out. And I seem to be missing one of my Monokuma hair bands, which upsets me.
I want to know a situation where a lime-green plastic triceratops would be useful. Lol
So happy to live in my country =|
http://www.transviolencetracker.org...iolence-report-for-transgender-awareness-2014
http://www.transviolencetracker.org...iolence-report-for-transgender-awareness-2014
So there's something I was wondering about.
A couple days ago my co-worker did play-testing for a game we are working at, and apparently a girl came by and complained that the survey only had "male/female" options and said we should have had "transgender" option.
The question of transgenders had crossed my mind, but I figured a FtM or a MtF would just tick their respective genre they identify with.
The idea of a sole third option for "transgenders", to me, comes across as segmenting the transgender community.
So I was wondering what's the view on this and if there's a better way for me to approach it in the future.
For reference the question was formatted in this manner:
A couple days ago my co-worker did play-testing for a game we are working at, and apparently a girl came by and complained that the survey only had "male/female" options and said we should have had "transgender" option.
The question of transgenders had crossed my mind, but I figured a FtM or a MtF would just tick their respective genre they identify with.
The idea of a sole third option for "transgenders", to me, comes across as segmenting the transgender community.
So I was wondering what's the view on this and if there's a better way for me to approach it in the future.
For reference the question was formatted in this manner:
I don't know that the problem is quite what you think. A "transgender" option wouldn't necessarily be for, say, someone like me, who identifies as female, but someone who identifies as both, or neither, or something in-between.
Gender identity can be complex for some people, and just having "male" or "female" options might not cover how they feel about themselves.
Also, just so you know, "transgenders" is a word that isn't usually used. It's an adjective, not a noun or verb.
Gender identity can be complex for some people, and just having "male" or "female" options might not cover how they feel about themselves.
Also, just so you know, "transgenders" is a word that isn't usually used. It's an adjective, not a noun or verb.
Hm, I see, that's very true, it makes perfect sense. Thank you for the reply.
What would be an appropriate way to have the correct options to encompass everyone?
An event I was at over the weekend made the gender box a text field. People could write whatever they wanted. Resulted it denormalized data, but for a ~200 person event that's not a horrible cost. (Even if everyone did enter some form of "male" or "female", except one person who was all "why the fuck are you asking?")
IceDoesntHelp
Banned
For once I bring good news.
I see a doctor on December 17th!
I see a doctor on December 17th!
That's great to hear, Ice!
*hugs* Waiting can be so hard.Simply Sarah
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Some options could be "Other" (Perhaps with room for a text response. Potential issue is that this is literally "othering" non-binary folk) or maybe "Non-binary" (Again, perhaps with room for a text response). "None" may also be something you want to offer if you really want to hit everything.
Box of Bunnies
Banned
My current plan is to open the gates to extended family after New Year's but last night my cousin shared this article with the comment "bravo!" on Facebook so I kinda couldn't help myself and sent her a message coming out to her. She was amazing. Favourite part of her response:
"Stay true to yourself beautiful girl - you're fucking amazing!"
Hooray~
"Stay true to yourself beautiful girl - you're fucking amazing!"
Hooray~
Beautiful words. Hooray indeed. Glad to see that kind of support from people close to you. It's simply priceless.
This thread could use more conffetti tho'.
Congrats, Ice and Bunnies! That's wonderful news.
LET ME TAKE CARE OF THAT
LET ME TAKE CARE OF THAT
Simply Sarah
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Congratz!!!!
I hope it goes wonderfully for you.
WooT.
Don't worry, they will recognize you as you truly are then you can start the great fight with the medical side
I'm pretty sure if you have a legal guardian there is no way to get around having to inform them, or that it would even be a good idea depending on the situation.
Not in a way that I'd ever recommend. HRT is very serious business, a step to not be taken lightly, not be taken without mature consideration, and not to be taken without proper medical care (which usually costs money).
It's probably not what the person would want to hear, but I don't know that I could ever support someone going on HRT in that situation if they're young enough to need parental consent. That's too young of an age to take a step that's that big without having a support system in place, not to mention the concerns of someone that young making that decision in the first place.
I absolutely get the urge to start down the road to becoming the real you, but the worst thing you can do is rush that decision. Doing what is needed to stop the onset of any more affects of puberty, if that's a concern? Sure, I'm okay with that. But going for full HRT is not something to be jumped into without really knowing the consequences.
Just wanted to drop this in, I was listening to a random old episode of this american life, and the second act is about trans men (as in female to male) and their some of their experiences in the dating scene.
http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/247/what-is-this-thing?act=2#play
It's from 10 years ago, so there's no social networking or anything like that, but perhaps some of their experiences will be illuminating in some way.
http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/247/what-is-this-thing?act=2#play
It's from 10 years ago, so there's no social networking or anything like that, but perhaps some of their experiences will be illuminating in some way.
There was another one that talked about how drastically testosterone vs estrogen levels affect our mind. There was an interesting bit on F->M and the experience with the change in how attraction worked and how it affected self-identity.
I went trough the same. But basically the problem is that as long as you're not an adult it might be nearly impossible to get treatment without the consent of your legal guardians. Just what everyone said already.
I remember that as well, but sadly do not remember the episode number or theme, but some googling might help...
Self-derp, the entire episode was based on testosterone:
http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/220/testosterone?act=2
For me I couldn't even get a referral without parental consent at 16 for this.
Hey, I live in a country where you can't get sexual confirmation surgery until you are 25 but working in prostitution is legal for 16 year olds!
What the WHAT? .....