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Transgaf: 'cause boys will be girls (and vice versa)
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WaffleTaco
Wants to outlaw technological innovation.
Lol didn't you just start HRT too?
Resist chocolate? Huh?
Butterfly Witch
Member
Pretty much. I looked at pictures of myself from the start of HRT last night, and I was so bony, flat, and sharp in a lot of places. It blew my mind.Resist? I keep my face stuffed, that's how
Welcome to "The Hunger"
You want to know what HRT fixed? All of that.
Angryharlot
Banned
Lol, never thought of that. I always just blamed the weed.
Butterfly Witch
Member
My pet theory is that it's due to the significant difference between body fat levels between men and women.
The average body fat percentage in men is 18~24% while in women the average is 25~31%. Basically it's just our body going "well I dun goofin, I'm a female body after all. Welp, time to stack on the pounds then"
Android18a
Member
That's worrying because I have chocolate cravings most of the time and I'm not even on HRT.
I'm almost 7 months in... when :x
This is mee as well.
For three years I never snacked and worked out like an athlete, now I can't resist because IM always so hungry.
I am 18 months in and I am still hungry all the time and my will power disappears when I see chocolate
I am 18 months in and I am still hungry all the time and my will power disappears when I see chocolate
LOL.
I actually have always hated chocolate, in fact I always got hell from my family because I wouldn't eat it with them. Now I actually snack on it
LOL.
I actually have always hated chocolate, in fact I always got hell from my family because I wouldn't eat it with them. Now I actually snack on it
Lol this is me exactly
This actually happened recently kinda.
Short Story.
My wife ran into a person we went to highschool with and they expressed interest in seeing me.
Well I ran into them, and it was right after my surgery so I probably didn't pick up on it right away, but I was trying to be polite and offered to have them come over for dinner meet my children and catch up.
Well I later text them and they never bothered to get back to me in anyway. I
No. If anything it's almost exactly the opposite. I had relatively few close friends in high school, but at a post-transition school reunion a few years ago I connected with a ton of people I didn't really know back then, and have become Facebook friends with many of them. They've become very supportive on LGBT issues, etc.
It might make a difference that I now live a thousand miles away, but I don't think so. When I do visit my prior hometown in Canada people are pretty eager to get together, and we've had a few who have visited our home in California since.
The reason behind my question is this story:
Back when we moved in 92 I never had any close male friends but in the new place there lived a boy who would instantly try to befriend me. That had never happened before or after. Most were just "Go away, you're a sissy."
We basically became best friends and he helped me to socialize better as a boy since he was the most popular kid in class.
After we moved again in 96 he still would try to contact me every few years while in the new place my life went completely to hell. My gender-dysphoria broke out completely during that time too but he was the only one who would never judge me for this. In retrospect I think he simply was the only one who didn't get it.
So around last November I browse FB like always and to my surprise I find him in the list of people you might know. 1 shared friend. Curiously I enter his profile and see that he is friends with my sister since yesterday. I ask her what's up and she tells me that he friended her to find out if I have a profile too. She tells him the situation and then...
Nothing. Well he said to her that he accepts it but might have trouble calling me by my new name.
Since then he did never contact me or my sister again.
Dunno if I should send a friendship request but I'm afraid to be hurt if he doesn't want to be friends with me anymore.
(Oh and on a sidenote: My sister threw one hell of a fit after she came to know about my surgery. She's in that "You're stealing my life"-mode again she developed a few years ago bc. some schoolmates of her mistook me for her. On the other hand she has some of my schoolmates AND my (former) best friend in her FB while I have none! So much for stealing someones life.)
Back when we moved in 92 I never had any close male friends but in the new place there lived a boy who would instantly try to befriend me. That had never happened before or after. Most were just "Go away, you're a sissy."
We basically became best friends and he helped me to socialize better as a boy since he was the most popular kid in class.
After we moved again in 96 he still would try to contact me every few years while in the new place my life went completely to hell. My gender-dysphoria broke out completely during that time too but he was the only one who would never judge me for this. In retrospect I think he simply was the only one who didn't get it.
So around last November I browse FB like always and to my surprise I find him in the list of people you might know. 1 shared friend. Curiously I enter his profile and see that he is friends with my sister since yesterday. I ask her what's up and she tells me that he friended her to find out if I have a profile too. She tells him the situation and then...
Nothing. Well he said to her that he accepts it but might have trouble calling me by my new name.
Since then he did never contact me or my sister again.
Dunno if I should send a friendship request but I'm afraid to be hurt if he doesn't want to be friends with me anymore.
(Oh and on a sidenote: My sister threw one hell of a fit after she came to know about my surgery. She's in that "You're stealing my life"-mode again she developed a few years ago bc. some schoolmates of her mistook me for her. On the other hand she has some of my schoolmates AND my (former) best friend in her FB while I have none! So much for stealing someones life.)
...wut ?
alysonwheel
Member
I did. In the mid-00s they discontinued my brand so I changed to a different one; almost instant eczema all up my arms and chest. I got my doctor to switch me again and it went away. Something about the brand I switched to containing a diuretic?
More specifically she told my mom that I'm always putting myself into the spotlight and that my parents don't care enough for her. She argues like a little child and seems to think that I invent my problems just to get more attention.
Isn't there an estrogen in the usa that is basicaly horse piss ? That sounds very diuretic xD
WaffleTaco
Wants to outlaw technological innovation.
I believe it is Premarin.
Butterfly Witch
Member
Indeed it's Premarin. It was extracted from pregnant mares urine, thus it's name
It's hardly ever used anymore but it was fairly popular a couple of decades ago. These days the majority of people use Estradiol, the generic form of Estrace.
Box of Bunnies
Banned
Was gendered female by a random stranger for the first time today. "Good morning, ladies" must be the best three word combination in the English language.
It really feels awesome when you start getting that. It's shocking how much a word or two can make you feel so great.
I'm just happy now not being gendered at all >.> The Vons I go to always used to 'sir' me but I haven't gotten anything the last month :x
If someone genders me correctly I might explode on the spot.
Box of Bunnies
Banned
Saw my endo yesterday about switching from pills to patches for E and got the new script filled today. Will be interesting to adjust to the new routine and see how more steady levels go.
Seriously. I was giddy for like an hour afterwards and smiled so much my face hurt.
Seriously. I was giddy for like an hour afterwards and smiled so much my face hurt.
walkmetothelake
Banned
I'm going to schedule my first laser hair removal session within the next few days. I ordered a package of six sessions from groupon so hopefully it works/doesn't end up being a waste. I thought about having my arms and legs done but I'd rather have my face taken care of first to be honest. Therapy is next on my list but this is something that is easy to have done without really having to come out people yet. I'm glad to be taking a first step of sorts still.
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Random question but do we have a steam group or something of the sort? I searched since some other communities/parts of GAF do but found nothing.
If not I'd be up for possibly starting one if there was interest. I figured it might be a nice place for those of us who play games on PC or even just have Steam installed to be able to play and chat with each other.
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Random question but do we have a steam group or something of the sort? I searched since some other communities/parts of GAF do but found nothing.
If not I'd be up for possibly starting one if there was interest. I figured it might be a nice place for those of us who play games on PC or even just have Steam installed to be able to play and chat with each other.
Just my opinion, but I think it would be a total waste of money to do any hair removal beyond your face before hormones. Your body hair will change after being on them for a while, so you might end up needing less sessions (and thus less money) than if you did those areas now.
Butterfly Witch
Member
I completely agree.
It does take some time but hrt does affect body hair everywhere and it will make it thinner and less likely to grow back. Laser is really not cheap or easy and hormones will take their time with everything else as well so it might be a lot more economical and effective to wait at least 6 months in my honest and humble opinion.
I don't know if there's a steam group or not but we do have a couple of channels on IRC that I can point you to if you want, just ask in PM
I'm not sure I agree. I had quite a lot of electro before starting hormones and it certainly killed a lot of the hairs. But hey everyone's different. I'm now at the stage where I'm virtually done and it's such a great feeling.
I'm waiting it out and hoping hormones help my body hair situation first before going for laser. Beard though is nearly killed after 4 laser treatments. I have two left, then I probably have to start looking at electrolysis because I have a bunch of blond hairs on my chin T.T
Man, four treatments? I'm 2+ years into my electrolysis. *bleh*
And I'd absolutely recommend the person I'm seeing for electrolysis if you do need someone. She's really nice, really thorough and careful, and I wasn't her first trans patient, so there's nothing to worry about with her on that level.
walkmetothelake
Banned
Thanks to everyone for the advice and sharing their own experiences.
I probably should have waited before ordering it but it's too late now. I'll just use the sessions for my face and hope that I don't end up with extra in the end.
I came out to an online friend I've known for a long time the other day as well. We talked about things such as what I'd like to be called from now on and my overall plans/goals. It was just really nice to have someone who is supportive about it even if I don't see him in person.
Hopefully conversations of similar topics go as well in real life when I get around to them.
I probably should have waited before ordering it but it's too late now. I'll just use the sessions for my face and hope that I don't end up with extra in the end.
I came out to an online friend I've known for a long time the other day as well. We talked about things such as what I'd like to be called from now on and my overall plans/goals. It was just really nice to have someone who is supportive about it even if I don't see him in person.
Hopefully conversations of similar topics go as well in real life when I get around to them.
Butterfly Witch
Member
My experiences are after a year of HRT and yeah, 4 treatments in and my face is mostly clear with the exception of the upper lip and a couple of small spots on the chin.
I am super blessed and privileged to have had such results as I understand they are not necessarily common. I haven't had any regrowth yet but if I do then I'll go back again because the tech is super nice and takes really good care of me.
Super happy to hear that!!
I hope you find many more supportive people among your family and friends!!
2+ years... ouch :x I guess I'm lucky that most of my beard was dark hair and I'm super pale. The chin of my beard was blond for some reason though, so I think I'm stuck with electrolysis there. 5th laser is on Saturday with the final one being another month out so we'll see how things are then.
And it would be awesome to know who you're going to so I can check it out
The pain kinda scares me, gonna have to look into numbing stuff. *Now to stop getting ahead of myself*WaffleTaco
Wants to outlaw technological innovation.
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WaffleTaco
Wants to outlaw technological innovation.
That's a good point. I'm going from DIY to informed consent in a couple weeks I think, I just need to make an appointment.
So I was reading this thread: http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1047764
And some of the posts regarding the word transgendered in the title caught my eye, particularily this one
and it made me remember a decent question I had.
Why do people get so worked up over "transgendered?"
Is it really a slur that people use with hate? I've only seen it used by people who don't know better. Some of my closest friends have called me transgendered a few times, and I haven't bothered to correct them because it honestly doesn't bug me.
However, judging from other peoples reactions I feel like I should be offended somehow.
I've heard some people are upset because it sounds like something happened to them and made them transgender, but I've taken it as my friends acknowledging me as a woman because while nothing may have happened to me, I did do something to myself by starting hormones. The ones who have called transgendered are some of the only people who refer to me as she and her.
Am I missing something? Am I way off base here?
Sorry if I sound apologist or something, I'm genuinely trying to understand.
And some of the posts regarding the word transgendered in the title caught my eye, particularily this one
and it made me remember a decent question I had.
Why do people get so worked up over "transgendered?"
Is it really a slur that people use with hate? I've only seen it used by people who don't know better. Some of my closest friends have called me transgendered a few times, and I haven't bothered to correct them because it honestly doesn't bug me.
However, judging from other peoples reactions I feel like I should be offended somehow.
I've heard some people are upset because it sounds like something happened to them and made them transgender, but I've taken it as my friends acknowledging me as a woman because while nothing may have happened to me, I did do something to myself by starting hormones. The ones who have called transgendered are some of the only people who refer to me as she and her.
Am I missing something? Am I way off base here?
Sorry if I sound apologist or something, I'm genuinely trying to understand.
Angryharlot
Banned
I have never noticed people getting worked up over that tense of the word. Not saying that they do not, It is not like I go out of my way to interact with people. I just never notice it.
I get irritated over people being referred to as "transgenders" because it sounds like bad English but the difference between transgenderer and transgendered has always been nominal. It is usually so subtle that always figured that it was a regional thing.
I seriously doubt that the person putting an "ed" at the end is really putting that much more thought into the word than the person leaving it out. If they were, they would most likely just call the person what they were assigned at birth or use a pejorative.
Kind of like the used cd store near me that has a sign on the counter berating people for saying Vinyls instead of Vinyl.
I get irritated over people being referred to as "transgenders" because it sounds like bad English but the difference between transgenderer and transgendered has always been nominal. It is usually so subtle that always figured that it was a regional thing.
I seriously doubt that the person putting an "ed" at the end is really putting that much more thought into the word than the person leaving it out. If they were, they would most likely just call the person what they were assigned at birth or use a pejorative.
Kind of like the used cd store near me that has a sign on the counter berating people for saying Vinyls instead of Vinyl.
WaffleTaco
Wants to outlaw technological innovation.
I'm not offended personally, but I was stating that some people do get offended by it.
Some people in life get to a point where anything outside of their sphere of acceptability is seen as offensive to them. Stick around the trans community for long enough, and you'll even see one trans person say to another that they're being offensive of whatnot for simply talking about their own experiences in ways or with terms that the first person thought were okay but the second has personally decided to rally against. For example, I've seen one trans person berate another for using "transgirl" instead of "trans girl".
No. "Transgendered" is almost always used either due to simple misunderstanding or lack of knowledge
One of the worst things you can do is personally be offended because someone else is telling you you should be. Don't be. If you know if might be offensive to someone else, you can educate the person on why that term is one not to use generally. Or you can not, because no one has a responsibility to have to be a teacher about their lifestyle.
And, most likely, the person putting all of that meaning behind the word is the trans person, not the person saying the word. And situations like that are when you need to stop and ask yourself if something is really being done out of desire to offend.