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[Salamando]

The real zen is looking like me, but having 21-year-old girls call you beautiful. One day, grasshoppers.

It's the dog, man. My best moment - a girl literally apologizing for her underwear not being sexy enough.

Anyway, for me that Zen comes from triumph over adversity. It's why I exercise and why I have a job that keeps me challenged. I also learned to stop making excuses for shit and just started doing. I always wanted to go to Japan, so this summer I'm making the trip!

 

[Psychoward]

So, you can initiate with something like this:

You: "Hey there"
Her: "Hi!"
You: "Do you have a curfew?"
Her: "No lol" / "No that I know of lol" / "What? No lol"
Her: "Why?"
You: "In case we run late"
Her: "Where are we going?" / "What are we doing?"
You: " " <wait an hour or so, she may text wanting to know>
You: "It's a surprise"

Then plan a date, preferably one that can lead to nice conversation and touching. A lounge, a park, or at your place. Doesn't have to be fancy, it just has to be intimate. Make it clear with your body language why she's there. And if necessary, verbalize it.

thanks for the advice but that convo just is so far from what I've used in the past that I wouldn't use it. Also I'm pretty sure she's no longer single but I'd have to double check. I wouldn't want to get involved with her if she's still technically with her home guy. I also think the whole part about her not feeling weird about sleeping with someone while she was still in a relationship is a lot of assumption. I'd like to take the benefit of the doubt and said she just wanted to think it out. Yeah she probably had sex since with someone else after that night but idk man.

For one it was a while since I had fapped and it only lasted like 5 minutes and I felt shitty about it but she told me it was still longer than most so idk.

Edit: And as for why I got in a relationship? I dunno why does anyone. She was cute, easy to talk to and the sex was good.

Edit 2: Also I forgot with old/now new girl I actually had her number but by the time I remembered I didn't know if she would have changed her phone number or something plus she just friended me through FB so I figure I'd use that. How do I get out of that little rut? Also I definitely think she's interested in me but I don't think just because friended me means she automatically wants to bang, she could have been drunk scrolling through suggested friends or something.

 

[ant_]

Man, I was having a good run. Going on casual dates, meeting a ton of new people, and not getting too attached. This lasted a few months and I really enjoyed it.


But I met a new girl, and started caring. And man. I hate being vulnerable.

 

[davidwhangchoi]

So the eagerness to defend the ego by blaming her or some external factor is, in the end, an exercise in self-deception.

this is awesome =)

 

[Psychoward]

Fuck everything her insta isn't private and her last 3 posts were with her bf from back home of 6 fucking years


Fuck


Of course yeah yeah this is the same bf that she slept with me at the same time but I certainly wasn't expecting her to still be dating him jesus. If I had to hazard a guess she's probably bored of him and wants out but I don't wanna get involved with her until she cuts ties completely but then she may be really emotional arrrgh fuck


So now what


For what it's worth she friended me after her last instagram post so idk. Either way this seems sketch city

 

[vern]

The real zen is looking like me, but having 21-year-old girls call you beautiful. One day, grasshoppers.

19 is zen. You dun goofed.

 

[Kyne]

Fuck everything her insta isn't private and her last 3 posts were with her bf from back home of 6 fucking years


Fuck


Of course yeah yeah this is the same bf that she slept with me at the same time but I certainly wasn't expecting her to still be dating him jesus. If I had to hazard a guess she's probably bored of him and wants out but I don't wanna get involved with her until she cuts ties completely but then she may be really emotional arrrgh fuck


So now what


For what it's worth she friended me after her last instagram post so idk. Either way this seems sketch city

Let's backtrack a bit to paint a clear picture.

1) you slept with this girl who was in an open relationship a while ago
2) she said after you guys slept together she wasn't really going to be comfortable with it anymore and you shouldn't do it again
3) months later she contacts you by friending you on Facebook
4) you have a conversation and assume based on her word tendencies that whatever she is saying means more than what she is saying
5) you stalk her on social media and see that she still has a boyfriend
6) you wonder if things are weird because she has a boyfriend

Let's really look at number 6 here. Did she ever say anything that gave off the impression she didn't have a boyfriend? Has there been any words exchanged that made it sound like she wanted to see you/sleep with you again?

 

[The Wall]

You don't want to be friends with someone you find "really pretty".

When I read stuff like this, I am reminded of how lonely some attractive women must actually be, no matter how much "attention" they receive. Not saying I don't understand from a man's side of things, I just think it's sad.

 

[Psychoward]

Let's backtrack a bit to paint a clear picture.

1) you slept with this girl who was in an open relationship a while ago
2) she said after you guys slept together she wasn't really going to be comfortable with it anymore and you shouldn't do it again
3) months later she contacts you by friending you on Facebook
4) you have a conversation and assume based on her word tendencies that whatever she is saying means more than what she is saying
5) you stalk her on social media and see that she still has a boyfriend
6) you wonder if things are weird because she has a boyfriend

Let's really look at number 6 here. Did she ever say anything that gave off the impression she didn't have a boyfriend? Has there been any words exchanged that made it sound like she wanted to see you/sleep with you again?

No but I had assumed because most long distance things in college fizzle out by Christmas plus there was the whole open relationship stuff I was just kinda shocked that it was still going on.

And that's the thing, I dunno she seems to be doing a good job conversing but my mind doesn't jump to "oh she friended me even though we weren't talking, now she clearly wants to bang". But for what little it's worth she doesn't have any pics with her bf on facebook, for some reason that's all on instagram and her last insta post which was with him was on NYE, which was before she friended me.

I feel like I'm over thinking this.

 

[Kyne]

No but I had assumed because most long distance things in college fizzle out by Christmas plus there was the whole open relationship stuff I was just kinda shocked that it was still going on.

And that's the thing, I dunno she seems to be doing a good job conversing but my mind doesn't jump to "oh she friended me even though we weren't talking, now she clearly wants to bang". But for what little it's worth she doesn't have any pics with her bf on facebook, for some reason that's all on instagram and her last insta post which was with him was on NYE, which was before she friended me.

I feel like I'm over thinking this.

you're most definitely over thinking this.

she doesn't want to bang.

move on. This girl is getting fucked by her boyfriend and you're over here wondering if you have a shot.

 

[Krauser Kat]

fuuuuck me guys. I am falling for this girl after two dates...

we just spent my entire work shift sending back and forth doodles. Instead of actually texting we were just drawing and writing text next to everything. i havent doodled this much in ages. i sent 18 different little post it notes with drawings and highlighters.

I cant wait for our third date on Saturday.

sample of my doodles

 

[Psychoward]

you're most definitely over thinking this.

she doesn't want to bang.

move on. This girl is getting fucked by her boyfriend and you're over here wondering if you have a shot.

Which is what I would think if we didn't already fuck while she was with that same guy and if she wasn't in a long distance open relationship and then she was the one to contact me first. I mean I don't care what happens I'm just interested. Part of me wants to blatantly ask why she friended me but meh

Either way I love that one guy here is saying she's 100% interested and I should just invite her to my room and make it clear I wanna fuck and now you're saying there's no chance and to move on. I should have just trusted my instincts ;_;

 

[Macadinho94]

Which is what I would think if we didn't already fuck while she was with that same guy and if she wasn't in a long distance open relationship and then she was the one to contact me first. I mean I don't care what happens I'm just interested. Part of me wants to blatantly ask why she friended me but meh

Either way I love that one guy here is saying she's 100% interested and I should just invite her to my room and make it clear I wanna fuck and now you're saying there's no chance and to move on. I should have just trusted my instincts ;_;

What have you got to lose by just asking her to clarify the situation?

 

[Psychoward]

What have you got to lose by just asking her to clarify the situation?

Nothing really. Other than if she was down to meet up it might take her aback slightly.

Should I just do that?

Something like "Hey so you were cute and all but I thought our little thing was a one night deal. Not that I'm complaining, but just wondering why you friended me after all this time"

or would that be awful


blegh i've been rusty lately

 

[peanutbutterlatte]

Becoming more comfortable talking to multiple girls. Still feels wrong, I guess it's my monogamous nature! But it's not healthy to focus on one girl this early in the game right?

 

[Salamando]

Becoming more comfortable talking to multiple girls. Still feels wrong, I guess it's my monogamous nature! But it's not healthy to focus on one girl this early in the game right?

I wouldn't say "focus", it's not healthy to get invested in one girl so early. This goes double for girls you meet online.

 

[Jokab]

Girl I saw first time last tuesday doesn't ever text me first. Not that we text a lot (I'm intentionally trying not to), but when we do, I'm the one who initiates. However when we do text, she is very engaged and keeps conversation going. Has been very receptive of my dates too, we kissed at the end of the last one. What gives? Should I not care about this?

 

[Roberto Larcos]

Dating Age: Conquisition | OT6

 

[Kyne]

Which is what I would think if we didn't already fuck while she was with that same guy and if she wasn't in a long distance open relationship and then she was the one to contact me first. I mean I don't care what happens I'm just interested. Part of me wants to blatantly ask why she friended me but meh

Either way I love that one guy here is saying she's 100% interested and I should just invite her to my room and make it clear I wanna fuck and now you're saying there's no chance and to move on. I should have just trusted my instincts ;_;

listen, if you just wanna boink her, then be up front. No point in wasting time wondering "what if". Worst case scenario she says no and that she's in a happy relationship and you're back to where you were a couple of days ago.

if you're wondering if you actually have a shot at a relationship with this girl... eesh..

Girl I saw first time last tuesday doesn't ever text me first. Not that we text a lot (I'm intentionally trying not to), but when we do, I'm the one who initiates. However when we do text, she is very engaged and keeps conversation going. Has been very receptive of my dates too, we kissed at the end of the last one. What gives? Should I not care about this?

You should not care about it. Things look like they are going great. Not everyone is a 'texter'. My girlfriend certainly isn't, and I went through the exact same thing you're going through when I first met her.

 

[Psychoward]

listen, if you just wanna boink her, then be up front. No point in wasting time wondering "what if". Worst case scenario she says no and that she's in a happy relationship and you're back to where you were a couple of days ago.

if you're wondering if you actually have a shot at a relationship with this girl... eesh..

Jesus no I'm not deluded enough to where I think being in a relationship with a girl if she might have just gotten out of a 6 year one is a good idea let alone feasible. I'd either wanna remain friendly or be fwb ideally.

I just don't know how to approach it is all.

 

[peanutbutterlatte]

Jesus no I'm not deluded enough to where I think being in a relationship with a girl if she might have just gotten out of a 6 year one is a good idea let alone feasible. I'd either wanna remain friendly or be fwb ideally.

I just don't know how to approach it is all.

As someone who spoiled a potential FWB thing with an incredibly hot girl who just came out of a big relationship by being over-eager, DON'T be over-eager.

Play. It. Cool.

 

[Psychoward]

As someone who spoiled a potential FWB thing with an incredibly hot girl who just came out of a big relationship by being over-eager, DON'T be over-eager.

Play. It. Cool.

Exactly, I just don't know what to do. Also she's not "incredibly hot" I'd say, like yeah more than attractive enough but still in that kind of down to earth look instead of looking like a super model or something idk if that changes anything or what.

Either way any specific advice based on what I've already posted? At least I have the benefit that she already thought I was atteactive/charismatic to sleep with before and sober which is a confidence booster I guess.

 

[Royal_Phalanx]

What do you guys do when you meet girls through friends? I've met a cutie that knows my friend once and I talked to her for a bit, seemed to get along well, she likes video games and stuff like that. Didn't get around to getting her number because I didn't want to appear thirsty as fuck and I barely know her, but then again my instincts may well be totally wrong. Going to a meetup group on saturday, hopefully I can meet more people.

 

[Psychoward]

What do you guys do when you meet girls through friends? I've met a cutie that knows my friend once and I talked to her for a bit, seemed to get along well, she likes video games and stuff like that. Didn't get around to getting her number because I didn't want to appear thirsty as fuck and I barely know her, but then again my instincts may well be totally wrong. Going to a meetup group on saturday, hopefully I can meet more people.

Asking for someone's number if you had a good conversation with them isn't thirsty as fuck.

 

[Royal_Phalanx]

Asking for someone's number if you had a good conversation with them isn't thirsty as fuck.

As I thought, I've fucked up. Again. It's for the best if I try to meet more people and don't make the same mistake again. Going to be weird now if I asked someone else for her number, so I had better hope I see her again, and that she's still single by that time.

 

[Psychoward]

As I thought, I've fucked up. Again.

No big deal, you got along with her and you guys have mutual friends. I'm sure you'll run in to her again soon enough and in the meantime just use it as a confidence booster and try and meet other people.

 

[Royal_Phalanx]

No big deal, you got along with her and you guys have mutual friends. I'm sure you'll run in to her again soon enough and in the meantime just use it as a confidence booster and try and meet other people.

I guess so, I think I play it far too cool and act too distant and sexually uninterested when the time for that arrives. Could have had the possibility of hooking up with a chick in a club (she left her friends for a while to go and dance with me and the people I was with after I talked to her, she seemed to really like me), but didn't for this reason. I'm really my own worst enemy.

 

[Banjo-Kazooie]

Welp my girlfriend and I separated last night. The last couple weeks have been a roller coaster of emotions anyways, so while I'm pretty damn sad I think it's good for the long run.

Time to redownload Tinder I guess :shrug:

:/

 

[Silphonica]

Welp my girlfriend and I separated last night. The last couple weeks have been a roller coaster of emotions anyways, so while I'm pretty damn sad I think it's good for the long run.

Time to redownload Tinder I guess :shrug:

:/

give yourself some time man, dont rush yourself. Take your time to think things over and let yourself progress naturally.

 

[torontoml]

K last time I was here I think I was drunk and came off kinda pessimistic about advice in general, so hopefully no one remembers or can give me a pass.

Anyway if anyone remembers I have more or less zero experience. So I matched with a girl on tinder a few days ago. I messaged her and we talked a bit, she gave me her cell before she went to bed. We texted last night for awhile.

Now I've been wanting to get back into playing hockey but gave away all my gear like 10 years ago so I've been putting off buying new stuff due to cost. So she plays hockey and during the conversation she seemed kinda disappointed we couldn't meet up and go for a skate. I mentioned that I needed a push to get back into it and would probably be buying some new skates next week when I'm off work for a few days.

So two questions, I kinda feel that comes off a bit desperate, is it? Even though I'm doing it for me as well.

Second, my work schedule sucks, so I switch from days to nights on Friday night. Seeing as my days are about 15 hours door to door that doesn't leave much time available. Should I ask her to go for a quick coffee in the afternoon before work on the weekend or wait until I get some time off?

PS, should I just continue with texting until/if we meet? Every day, two days, etc?

 

[Banjo-Kazooie]

give yourself some time man, dont rush yourself. Take your time to think things over and let yourself progress naturally.

Ya I was kinda half joking haha. Thanks for the kind words.

I know I definitely need time to reflect, get over her, and settle back into being by myself. It really sucks though, not just because I like her, but because I also really hate going out and "dating". Trying to look at positives though. Will be visiting this thread in the near future I imagine.

 

[BravesCountry]

I posted this before in a previous post a couple days back but this is the message I got from the girl who we were discussing if she was ghosting me and we all thought she was, is this just her way of ending things or is it salvageable when she gets back to NY in 10 or so days?

Hey ____
I literally just got back and haven't used my phone in Kenya at all whatsoever. I should've tried to get in touch, I feel like such a bitch for leaving you hanging like this. I have had a hectic time - a lot has happened this Christmas at home and have to deal with this before anything else. I'm so sorry for not replying and hope you're well x

Welp my girlfriend and I separated last night. The last couple weeks have been a roller coaster of emotions anyways, so while I'm pretty damn sad I think it's good for the long run.

Time to redownload Tinder I guess :shrug:

:/

Be careful with tinder, if you are sure you want to be on it make sure your pictures are up to par and everything or it can be a huge kick in the nuts when you aren't getting any matches or responses

 

[Psychoward]

I posted this before in a previous post a couple days back but this is the message I got from the girl who we were discussing if she was ghosting me and we all thought she was, is this just her way of ending things or is it salvageable when she gets back to NY in 10 or so days?

Hey ____
I literally just got back and haven't used my phone in Kenya at all whatsoever. I should've tried to get in touch, I feel like such a bitch for leaving you hanging like this. I have had a hectic time - a lot has happened this Christmas at home and have to deal with this before anything else. I'm so sorry for not replying and hope you're well x

probably not based on that

 

[BravesCountry]

So not salvageable at all or just not so quickly? I feel like distance for so long wasn't workable since we were so early on in dating but that being back in the city could change that

 

[Psychoward]

So not salvageable at all or just not so quickly?

What was your relationship like before that? It sounds like for right now at least she definitely wants some time alone.

 

[Silphonica]

Ya I was kinda half joking haha. Thanks for the kind words.

I know I definitely need time to reflect, get over her, and settle back into being by myself. It really sucks though, not just because I like her, but because I also really hate going out and "dating". Trying to look at positives though. Will be visiting this thread in the near future I imagine.

Breakups hurt. Anyone who tells you yo can get over it by trying to distract yourself now is lying, just embrace it, take your time and know that you will feel better.

Don't worry about the dating game either, you'll get yourself into a rutt. The best thing you can do for reflecting on the break up and making the dating game easier, is to use the extra time and money to progress yourself. I dont know your life, but, pick a sport or a hobby, learn something in your own time or start a goal. When you get around to dating again, the confidence you will gain by letting yourself grow will be sniffed out by any potential mates. Don't underestimate the power of being selfish in a time like this.

god speed bro

 

[BravesCountry]

What was your relationship like before that?

A very very intense month and a half, the kind of stuff you hear about two people just absolutely hitting it off, we kept in touch every day while we were both gone, saying we missed each other, etc. and talking sort of long term. Then 3 days before her trip she goes ghost and I don't hear from her at all, having no idea when she is getting back.

I think my goal would be to invite her to something as low commitment as possible such as coffee during the week which would be incredibly easy since we are both students, and see what happens when we are actually in each others presence again. Also I would plan on slowing things down a lot, dating other people more. Having a much healthier approach to it. Also I know going in that its very unlikely that this attempt to reconnect works and I am already dating other people right now, one girl I am pretty into.

Breakups hurt. Anyone who tells you yo can get over it by trying to distract yourself now is lying, just embrace it, take your time and know that you will feel better.

Don't worry about the dating game either, you'll get yourself into a rutt. The best thing you can do for reflecting on the break up and making the dating game easier, is to use the extra time and money to progress yourself. I dont know your life, but, pick a sport or a hobby, learn something in your own time or start a goal. When you get around to dating again, the confidence you will gain by letting yourself grow will be sniffed out by any potential mates. Don't underestimate the power of being selfish in a time like this.

god speed bro

This is great advice. People who are misguided will tell you to get over it, like my own dad did after my break up, he just could not comprehend that I was not in control of my emotions. Just let it all out and it does get better, I didn't believe it would but it really does with time. A girl who I thought was literally the only person in the world for me is now an afterthought after my latest dating enounters, its almost weird to think about.

 

[Psychoward]

I think my goal would be to invite her to something as low commitment as possible such as coffee during the week which would be incredibly easy since we are both students, and see what happens when we are actually in each others presence again. Also I would plan on slowing things down a lot, dating other people more. Having a much healthier approach to it. Also I know going in that its very unlikely that this attempt to reconnect works and I am already dating other people right now, one girl I am pretty into.

That all sounds like reasonable stuff, you're being really rational about it.


Meanwhile on my end I'm kicking myself for this

even if she did wanna fuck she probably wouldn't have admitted something even similar to that in response


whatever i'll see if she gives a giant sign on her own accord, too entrenched in stuff I'd rather not get caught up in to make it worth my time. Omw to someone else's common room now though so we'll see how that goes.

 

[Silphonica]

A girl who I thought was literally the only person in the world for me is now an afterthought after my latest dating enounters, its almost weird to think about.

Just a part of being human, we've all been there, over time you learn to realise your own self worth. I think part of what we do wrong when we feel like that is putting too much pressure on your partner by placing all the value on them. When you start to value yourself more your future relationships will grow because it becomes more of an equal thing, people like people who value them just as much as they value themselves.

Its hard at first, but most people go through many failed relationships and learn from it over time. But you are not the only person who goes through this transition, we all do it. Baby steps.

 

[BravesCountry]

That all sounds like reasonable stuff, you're being really rational about it.


Meanwhile on my end I'm kicking myself for this


even if she did wanna fuck she probably wouldn't have admitted something even similar to that in response


whatever i'll see if she gives a giant sign on her own accord, too entrenched in stuff I'd rather not get caught up in to make it worth my time. Omw to someone else's common room now though so we'll see how that goes.

Yeah I'm thinking even if she friended you for a different reason your answer could have possibly scared her into just saying its a friends thing, its not like she was going to put herself out there after that question. Was she ignoring previous advances though?

Just a part of being human, we've all been there, over time you learn to realise your own self worth. I think part of what we do wrong when we feel like that is putting too much pressure on your partner by placing all the value on them. When you start to value yourself more your future relationships will grow because it becomes more of an equal thing, people like people who value them just as much as they value themselves.

Its hard at first, but most people go through many failed relationships and learn from it over time. But you are not the only person who goes through this transition, we all do it. Baby steps.

Yeah this is very true, her and I had been extremely co-dependent and the breakup was so hard on both of us that we kept in touch for months after that, it was a complete mess. It also didn't help that one of the main reasons we broke up is she didn't feel like she could do long distance anymore. But I learned something valuable that as much as I think some girl is amazing and superhuman in the moment, we are all just flawed people and I will look at them differently and in a more honest light with time, just like they will with me. It makes dealing with breakups or even casual things ending a lot easier, and it makes it so you can start seeing more honestly even when you are in the midst of dating.

 

[Sami+]

Ya I was kinda half joking haha. Thanks for the kind words.

I know I definitely need time to reflect, get over her, and settle back into being by myself. It really sucks though, not just because I like her, but because I also really hate going out and "dating". Trying to look at positives though. Will be visiting this thread in the near future I imagine.

Good luck man. Breakups suck ass. :<

I was actually looking to talk to a friend of mine on Skype a few minutes ago, digging through the contact list and saw my most recent ex on there because I forgot to remove her on Skype. Was doing a decent job of the slash and burn most everywhere else too lol, blocked on Twitter like someone here suggested, but just seeing her photo on Skype made it all rush back. bleeeghhhh.

Tinder's dumb, I'm not feeling it. Getting lots of matches, texting, going on dates, not feeling it. I want a gf but I hate breaking the ice. I get hella fucking nerves if I don't have at least the smallest excuse to talk to a girl.

 

[Psychoward]

Yeah I'm thinking even if she friended you for a different reason your answer could have possibly scared her into just saying its a friends thing, its not like she was going to put herself out there after that question. Was she ignoring previous advances though?

Yeah I'm dumb oh well. And I wasnt going through any advances really, just making small talk because I hadn't seen her since august, but she always responded relatively quickly and with decent lengthy answers. Oops.

Edit: welp common room date went kinda poorly and now I'm regretting sending that message to the other girl even more

 

[BravesCountry]

Yeah I'm dumb oh well. And I wasnt going through any advances really, just making small talk because I hadn't seen her since august, but she always responded relatively quickly and with decent lengthy answers. Oops.

Edit: welp common room date went kinda poorly and now I'm regretting sending that message to the other girl even more

I fuck up so much with dating and flirting, but I feel I learn a little something every time haha. It will pay off in the long run, this shit takes practice. Also texting is the bane of my existence, wayyyyy too easy to fall into overanalyzing because no one has any clue how the text is supposed to be coming across

 

[Psychoward]

I fuck up so much with dating and flirting, but I feel I learn a little something every time haha. It will pay off in the long run, this shit takes practice. Also texting is the bane of my existence, wayyyyy too easy to fall into overanalyzing because no one has any clue how the text is supposed to be coming across

Yeah I mean she's cute but not cute enough to get me to jump through hoops and make it awkward in the process.

 

[Royal_Phalanx]

So this girl messaged me first on Facebook and we've been talking back and forth, she just messaged me after a long late night Netflix binge and asked me whether I was alright, then I said "you seem awfully interested in my daily routine " and she replied "lol I don't think my boyfriend is going to last". I have no words to describe this.

Also, the cute girl at my friend's birthday was tagged in the photos and mentioned in one of his posts along with the rest of us. I'm debating adding her and messaging her on it, then lead up to getting her number if we still get along. Good or bad idea?

 

[Psychoward]

So this girl messaged me first on Facebook and we've been talking back and forth, she just messaged me after a long late night Netflix binge and asked me whether I was alright, then I said "you seem awfully interested in my daily routine " and she replied "lol I don't think my boyfriend is going to last". I have no words to describe this.

uhhh.... I dunno either. That's weird any way you look at it.

 

[Jason's Ultimatum]

Well, date/dinner is set for Friday. I'm not confident this will lead anywhere. I mean, yeah, I'll go into this like champ-- confident, direct, etc, but with her, I don't see it going anywhere. Part of me wonders why she even agreed. Maybe she's just trying to be nice.

And I told her I can pick her up after she asked for the address. Hmph, see, I hate it when women decide to meet you up somewhere, because 1) She doesn't have to do anything afterward the dinner if she wants, because she has her car, and 2) the implication is no longer in play. We get a few drinks someplace else, she may be feeling it, and invite me to her place after I drop her off.

But she can't refuse to want to get more drinks after dinner since I'm driving her due to the implication. Not that something may go wrong, nothing is going to happen to her, but she can't refuse.........

 

[Silphonica]

I hope I see what you did there.

 

[MogCakes]

but she can't refuse.........

That's exactly why many women prefer to meet somewhere instead of being picked up. Safety first yo

 

[Silphonica]

That's exactly why many women prefer to meet somewhere instead of being picked up. Safety first yo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_49P1RtqU0