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Blitzrules240
Banned
Uhhh cold feet? I don't follow...
she sounds pretty negative, which can be a major turn off for otherwise nice people
I never got back to a tinder date a few weeks back, because while she seemed like a cool personal overall she complained a bit too much for my tastes.
That said, if you've had a string of shitty dates I can understand being a bit irritated about it. Not uh, to the point where you're bitching about it to coworkers that much of course.
Miles Quaritch
Member
Honestly, if someone has a string of bad dates I'd start to wonder what's wrong with them rather than the dates.
Probably too judgemental, but I find it really hard to believe someone can go on five dates and find all of them boring. There has to be incredibly unrealistic expectations at that point.
Messofanego
Banned
I had this a while ago, although wasn't interested in having her as a friend since I won't see her on a day to day basis so I told her I didn't feel it but hope the best of success in her search for the right guy. Could just do the typical speech: "You're a great person but I didn't feel a spark, sadly. I'd still like to be friends. Hope you find the right person who loves you in every way".
in the past few weeks I've had some pretty bad dates (ie girls who openly admitted to sleeping with married men, negative attitudes, barely speaking a word to me and constantly looking in the other direction out of boredom or shyness or whatever). I'd like to think that things like "sanity" and "willingness to have a conversation" aren't unrealistic expectations
...shit happens dude, sometimes we get some streaks of bad luck. On the other hand I met someone really nice a couple of days ago and it seemed to go well (who knows how it'll work out though).
If it 's very consistent and constant beyond that, then yeah, maybe. In your coworker's case maybe she' s coming across as really negative and that's a turnoff for the guys she's seeing...on the other hand, maybe her "filter" for screening out first dates isn't that good (I know I sure as hell want to work on mine after the past few weeks, lol).
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
Come on, you know this post means nothing to anyone and just forces people to ask multiple questions
yeah the coldest feet.
lol it means nothing because it was just another day in my life...
i want to ask her out but
a) it's been so long that I'm honestly scared now
b) i'm afraid she's going to say no/say she's with someone already
c) she's too beautiful/good for me.
d) there's no d
Holy cringe, lol
she's getting the d from guys who aren't afraid of asking her out.
I went to the movies tonight with a girl I truly adore.
I've known her since October and we've been in a group of friends since. She's lots of fun, beautiful and our humor is synched. We often talk about sex, man, she's pretty open and wild!
She helped me through my breakup a month ago.. We had deep and long talks about ourselves and our childhoods during that time..
.. Just want to consult the NeoGAF council:
Hitting on a girl who is in a relationship, is taboo, right?
I've known her since October and we've been in a group of friends since. She's lots of fun, beautiful and our humor is synched. We often talk about sex, man, she's pretty open and wild!
She helped me through my breakup a month ago.. We had deep and long talks about ourselves and our childhoods during that time..
.. Just want to consult the NeoGAF council:
Hitting on a girl who is in a relationship, is taboo, right?
lol
it's crushing me that i can't ask out someone, at this point I just want to ask out anyone, I don't care who, even a guy lol (for training)
Messofanego
Banned
OK, remove the "in every way"
Miles Quaritch
Member
in the past few weeks I've had some pretty bad dates (ie girls who openly admitted to sleeping with married men, negative attitudes, barely speaking a word to me and constantly looking in the other direction out of boredom or shyness or whatever). I'd like to think that things like "sanity" and "willingness to have a conversation" aren't unrealistic expectations
...shit happens dude, sometimes we get some streaks of bad luck. On the other hand I met someone really nice a couple of days ago and it seemed to go well (who knows how it'll work out though).
If it 's very consistent and constant beyond that, then yeah, maybe. In your coworker's case maybe she' s coming across as really negative and that's a turnoff for the guys she's seeing...on the other hand, maybe her "filter" for screening out first dates isn't that good (I know I sure as hell want to work on mine after the past few weeks, lol).
Goodness at those dates.
And I do admit that's pretty judgemental of me. I guess her ruining my lunch break today is what's got me steamed and extra judgemental.
She literally would not shut up about it. Tried to change the subject? Nope. Tried to give advice? Nope. This the second coworker to do this to to me. First time was a guy who I had to eventually tell I didn't care enough to listen to his ramblings any more, I fear the same might have to happen here.
I went to the movies tonight with a girl I truly adore.
I've known her since October and we've been in a group of friends since. She's lots of fun, beautiful and our humor is synched. We often talk about sex, man, she's pretty open and wild!
She helped me through my breakup a month ago.. We had deep and long talks about ourselves and our childhoods during that time..
.. Just want to consult the NeoGAF council:
Hitting on a girl, who is in a relationship, is taboo, right?
I say you only have a moral obligation towards yourself to take care of those you care about. It's not taking care of this girl to purposefully confuse her while she's in a relationship. At the same time, it's she that has to set the boundaries. What that sums up to is that you shouldn't hit on someone who's in a relationship and happy about it, because it's just a dick thing to do. At the same time, the girl should set you in your place if you're not up to it. If she's flirting with you, you have no obligation towards this other person, except making sure you're not someone she cheats with. And if she'd cheat on him, she'd cheat on you.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
Eh, that just sounds like blowing her off, I don't want to do that because then it just seems like the stereotypical I don't want to be friends it's just something people say.
Accidentally ghosted a girl I was chatting with on okcupid. Received a message and was planning on replying but forgot. Remembered about a week later, and figured it was too late to respond and moved on. Only noticed recently when I got that weekly update they send out and saw that she was still browsing me. Probably won't be messaging her. The conversation was treading water.
salty_Josh
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The fact you got cold feet shows there was a plan to back out of so well done for trying so far but.....
A) #JustAskHerOut
B) If she says no you get to move on to someone who can make you truly happy.
C) The only reason she might too good for you is because you haven't asked her out yet.
D) The fact that there is no d shows there's still hope for you. Don't give up dude it's not like you froze and shat all over the floor/barfed in her shoes.
Then the message should be centered around how you want to be friends, not around how you aren't romantically interested in her. That's what the stereotypical thing is. "I don't really like you, but I'd like to remain friends". Instead something like "You're really awesome, and I really want you as a friend. I dunno if you've felt it too, but there just hasn't been that chemistry, you know? I can't make us be friends having started off dating, as that's something you would have to decide if you want. I just want to let you know that that's something I'd definitely want"
Read "Models" by Mark Manson.
About b. You're not going to ask someone out, because they might say no? If you don't ask them out, it's the same as them saying no, expect you have 0% chance of them saying yes. You have nothing to lose from asking her out, and everything to gain.
well, the problem is that it's going to be super awkward seeing her everyday afterwards. and what if she tells her friends and they make fun of me?
Dude, what the hell. That sounds like something from a badly translated 8 bit JRPG.
Just say hello. Billions of people use it every day to initiate conversations.
Every single person that exists is flattered to be asked out, if they say yes or not. Believe me. It takes guts to ask them out, and no one makes fun of that.
Just go "you know what? I'd really like to ask you out". As simple as that. You don't have to say "can I have your number", or suggest going anywhere. It can be as simple as that, and she will say something like "Sure, let me give you my number" or whatever.
Gotdatmoney
Member
Realize that you're literally just wasting your time not taking action. If you think you're starting late now, why exactly wouldn't you be eager as fuck to get out there and make up for lost time?
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
You really think that people have nothing better to do in their day then constantly harass for doing something as basic as asking someone out? Something literally millions and millions of people do every day? That's like not using a pencil because people may harass you over it.
Because it's scary. What if my ego takes a hit?
Timetokill I remember you from Mario Maker streams! I'm so sorry to hear things aren't going well for you these days. I hope things go better for you soon because you had a great personality during those Mario Maker streamsThanks for all the responses, I genuinely appreciate it. I'm applying for a job tomorrow and hopefully that will set me on my way. It's hard to think about just the next foot to climb and not the whole mountain, but your encouragement helps. Every little bit helps. So thanks
just need to show that off, you know!If they make fun of you, they're terrible people you don't want in your life anyway. Cutting them out would only benefit you.
You wanna know how to get started late in life? Run out of fucks to give. And recognize what you have to lose when asking girls out. (NOTHING!)
It's not an easy hump to get over. I always score dates on tinder, but I feel like I need to start talking to girls when I am out. Gotta break into that next level.
It's always good to just try and start up conversation with strangers. Practice small talk with people you are not interested in asking out.
Gotdatmoney
Member
Timetokill I remember you from Mario Maker streams! I'm so sorry to hear things aren't going well for you these days. I hope things go better for you soon because you had a great personality during those Mario Maker streams
Mario Maker gaf was so quality. Good times.
Blitzrules240
Banned
That feel when you get her instagram and realize that she looks nothing like she does in her OkCupid profile...
But you watch a couple of her vids and realize she's still the type of girl you could see yourself dating...
But you watch a couple of her vids and realize she's still the type of girl you could see yourself dating...
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
That feel when you get her instagram and realize that she looks nothing like she does in her OkCupid profile...
But you watch a couple of her vids and realize she's still the type of girl you could see yourself dating...
....what?
Blitzrules240
Banned
Basically the pictures she's using for her OkCupid profile are from years ago and the way she looks now (based on her instagram pics/vids) is extremely different but regardless, I think she's cute and I'm looking forward to our date. She sure is quirky.
Basically all is well, I probably should have just said that.
I think this one has potential but I don't want to over exceed my expectations.
Basically all is well, I probably should have just said that.
I think this one has potential but I don't want to over exceed my expectations.
FantasticMrFoxdie
Mumber
oops wrong thread
timetokill
Banned
So GAF, what do you think? Is 23 too young for me? I'm 32.
Aw, thanks NetMapel! <3 You're still my favorite streamer, thanks for helping me get into it. I haven't done it in a while for games, though I did do it somewhat recently to help some students in my class learn C# because our professor sucked, lol.
23 is just 32 backwards it's DESTINY 
Timetokill I remember you from Mario Maker streams! I'm so sorry to hear things aren't going well for you these days. I hope things go better for you soon because you had a great personality during those Mario Maker streams
Aw, thanks NetMapel! <3 You're still my favorite streamer, thanks for helping me get into it. I haven't done it in a while for games, though I did do it somewhat recently to help some students in my class learn C# because our professor sucked, lol.
ZackieChan
Member
So GAF, what do you think? Is 23 too young for me? I'm 32.
23 is just 32 backwards it's DESTINY
No. You're fine. Have fun, dude! Don't listen to the mid-20's gaffers who are jelly of your swag.
We probably don't care as long as it isn't rape or cheating.
timetokill
Banned
I personally don't mind any age difference as long as everyone is an adult. It's up to the people involved and whether they can connect. But I know a lot of people who disagree (my entire family thinks the girl in question is too young for me).
What do you think? Be honest, I won't be mad
ZackieChan
Member
I don't knock anyone's hustle. Whatever you're into, and if you are both happy, then it's all good.
I personally don't mind any age difference as long as everyone is an adult. It's up to the people involved and whether they can connect. But I know a lot of people who disagree (my entire family thinks the girl in question is too young for me).
What do you think? Be honest, I won't be mad
Your family doesn't have to date her. You do you, and they'll get over it.
Your attitude continues to be terrible. Can you link to your profile or something? There's gotta be something wrong in the profile, your messages, or the people you choose.
There really has to be something seriously wrong.
I'm not gonna post my profile publicly, but may I send you a PM? Would you have a quick look and give me some feedback? I would really appreciate it.
ZackieChan
Member
Of course.
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