Messofanego
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Why don't you make her leave instead of yourself?
So I just went on my girlfriends ipad....
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TheSpoiler
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She was in the bathroom responding to the dude.
Likely about to flee that coop.
Likely about to flee that coop.
You see his belt? You see his Givenchy shirt? You see his TV? There's money in sucking dick.
Cabbagehead
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We're you're extended family (not the detective gaf fools). What's the next few steps fam?
TheGameshark
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SilentRacoon
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They are on a lease, OP has said he bought most furniture and stuff in the apartment, it would be smarter for him pack up and leave since he has much more to lose if she ever tried to pull a number on him.
LOL
+1 echo
Maybe quickly take some photos of your expensive too-heavy-to-carry stuff before you bail so you have documentation in case anything gets wrecked.
She has keys to their place, and since she isn't being civil about this, could damage or destroy his property.
Pancake Mix
Copied someone else's pancake recipe
This man knows his stuff.
Please OCD Guy, pack your things, leave, and try to get out of the lease ASAP before she bails and disappears leaving the entire lease on you, or wrecks/steals your stuff.
I've not packed anything.
I have a hell of a lot of stuff here and I drive a smart car so I'm not fitting anything in that.
We rent a flat, one that neither of us could afford by ourselves, we're both on the lease and went half each on the deposit, rent advance and fees etc.
The lease still has about 6 months on it, I've never tried cancelling a lease, not even sure if you can. But I don't want to be here, and I don't want to pay each month if I'm not.
But I don't want to mess up my credit, and I'll struggle with a reference to get a new place if I don't pay.
So until I call the letting agents tomorrow I won't know what I can do, or where I stand.
I'm hoping I can pay some sort of penalty fee and just get out of the agreement, I'll then go back to my parents.
Calcium
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Wow. That is both the best and worst way to approach that conversation. Get the hell away from her, man. You're better off.
FunkyPajamas
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I will second this but first document everything that you can and include your landlord/lady into it. Cover your bases first OP.
stan423321
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When did you leave?
jfc putting words in my mouth
She is reacting emotionally because it's really soon, and she's really embarrassed that she was caught.
Polyamory is not an attempt to fix the cheating, but it is a possible avenue for some people if their partner is just incapable of being faithful. If that's not up their alley or in the realm of possibilities, then then can feel free to disregard, which I said in the post you quoted. It's a side point, and not central to the overall advice I was trying to give.
All I am suggesting is that they sit down with the person and have a talk about it if they love them enough to make it work.
Let the emotions settle after the initial confrontation and have a discussion like adults rather than running away. Not everyone is capable of rational thought and clear communication in moments of panic/stress.
keltickennedy
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They are both on the lease. If someone leaves it will have to be by choice. Usually the guilty party isn't one who thinks they should unfortunately.
People were giving advice on how to talk to her. It appears something happened not sure what between them.
41 pages.
It's just a dick, man. Your GF is human. Is she straight-up fucking some other dude? Did she say she doesn't want to try to make your relationship work anymore? Has talking to each other about your secret impulses and desires been a big factor in your relationship thus far?
Sucks that this snuck up on you, but yeah.
It's just a dick, man. Your GF is human. Is she straight-up fucking some other dude? Did she say she doesn't want to try to make your relationship work anymore? Has talking to each other about your secret impulses and desires been a big factor in your relationship thus far?
Sucks that this snuck up on you, but yeah.
Pancake Mix
Copied someone else's pancake recipe
If you have to live in the flat for six months out of necessity, not sure how you'll protect your stuff, but hopefully it goes alright until the lease is up.
Cabbagehead
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Damn note to future self don't live with you're GF especially not on a co lease. If shit does not work out.
Have you heard anything from her, or is she completely AWOL? I imagine you aren't sleeping tonight, but if you do, do it with one eye open.
StalkerUKCG
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OP just start removing your expensive shit now, TV, PC, CLothes etc. Even if you have to make multiple trips. Then if you feel safe around her you can go back to the flat an wait for her to return home. Or you can just fuck her off and lock the door.
Then tomorrow begin properly moving your stuff out.
The last thing you want is her to come home and sling the dick infested ipad into your TV
Then tomorrow begin properly moving your stuff out.
The last thing you want is her to come home and sling the dick infested ipad into your TV
The other option is that you could try to see if a friend wants to move in and take her place?
I guess that DOES depend on whether you have a spare bedroom, unless they're a REALLY good friend.
Yeah I already knew that... Did u read my post lol.
FunkyPajamas
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She came back home, everything was ok, she grabbed the iPad and he blurted out "Fancy seeing some more pictures of people's dicks".
She "WHAT" him, then lock herself in the bathroom, came out a few minutes later and stormed out of the flat.
Jonneh3003
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paragonpro
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I would sit down, calmly talk to her, explain to her why your leaving, than leave. Clearly somethings not working out between you guys and I think it would be wise to air out some of that dirty laundry before you go.
Edit: clearly this didnt end well. But at least it ended, now you can move on to greener (less dick pic filled) pastures.
Edit: clearly this didnt end well. But at least it ended, now you can move on to greener (less dick pic filled) pastures.
InfiniteBento
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She knows she fucked up and fled....thats pretty hilarious tbh
Give me a break, of she was an adult she wouldn't have done this. People who cheat are responsible for extraordinary pain. One of the most selfish things you can do.
What you've gone through is quite a common occurrence OP.
Me and my ex-tried to salvage our relationship on 2 separate occasion over the space of 12months, in the end I found out she had been lying profusely about almost everything for over 2 years. She had a coke problem (my last thread was about this lol), was secretly and then not so secretly webcamming and cheated on me with 2 guys I know about (I she still refuses to admit) and probably more.
The second time I found out is when we had come back from a great weekend in Milan, I had found out she was texting one of these guys all night while she was all over me saying how much she wanted this to work. II never brought it up. I don't know why. The guy's message read "Please drop me out and cuddle the dude next to you", so clearly he knew but she was still soliciting.
We land back in London and go out as it was a public holiday the next day, she's again falling over herself to be nice, she gives me her phone to call her Uber at the end of the night and lo an behold this guy then calls her on whatsapp. I lost my shit.
I was stupid enough to carry it on, she wanted to work on it, in the end she broke up with me not too long after that 2 months ago while pretending she wasn't cheating, I found out she was started seeing that same guy again. Which she denied in most hilarious fashion. Even had the gall to ask to be friends and not lose contact. Might do a thread on it to get some final closure, it was a batshit insane ride over 2 years. I have seen some shit.
Some people are unable to control themselves, I don't hate her but she was in hindsight cray and I only let it continue at first because she was insanely hot, like 11/10. But that kind of emotional damage leads you to being a hostage and the last 6months of it were some of the most emotionally draining of my life and I'm probably not really over it still.
Life lesson OP. No point confronting her, just bounce. Don't let her paint this as you being unreasonable or cray. It's 100% her fault.
Me and my ex-tried to salvage our relationship on 2 separate occasion over the space of 12months, in the end I found out she had been lying profusely about almost everything for over 2 years. She had a coke problem (my last thread was about this lol), was secretly and then not so secretly webcamming and cheated on me with 2 guys I know about (I she still refuses to admit) and probably more.
The second time I found out is when we had come back from a great weekend in Milan, I had found out she was texting one of these guys all night while she was all over me saying how much she wanted this to work. II never brought it up. I don't know why. The guy's message read "Please drop me out and cuddle the dude next to you", so clearly he knew but she was still soliciting.
We land back in London and go out as it was a public holiday the next day, she's again falling over herself to be nice, she gives me her phone to call her Uber at the end of the night and lo an behold this guy then calls her on whatsapp. I lost my shit.
I was stupid enough to carry it on, she wanted to work on it, in the end she broke up with me not too long after that 2 months ago while pretending she wasn't cheating, I found out she was started seeing that same guy again. Which she denied in most hilarious fashion. Even had the gall to ask to be friends and not lose contact. Might do a thread on it to get some final closure, it was a batshit insane ride over 2 years. I have seen some shit.
Some people are unable to control themselves, I don't hate her but she was in hindsight cray and I only let it continue at first because she was insanely hot, like 11/10. But that kind of emotional damage leads you to being a hostage and the last 6months of it were some of the most emotionally draining of my life and I'm probably not really over it still.
Life lesson OP. No point confronting her, just bounce. Don't let her paint this as you being unreasonable or cray. It's 100% her fault.
FlashbladeGAF
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OP had day off
OP's GF left her iPad at home
OP used iPad to browse (GF lets him use it)
OP opened up iPad to see a raunchy conversation with some dude and his GF leading up to her receiving a dick pick
1600+ posts of great "level headed" advice.
OP and GF share an apartment
OP decides to wait till tomorrow to confront the GF until after he gets more details on how to get out of the lease.
GF comes home
OP pulls a Lerooooooy Jenkiiiins and posts this:
OP, I've drawn you a new avatar.
stan423321
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She came home, OCD was planning to stay quiet and take more steps today, but eventually snapped with one snarky line. Girl went panicking into bathroom and later left the house fast.
Cabbagehead
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Fuuuuu, playing victim. Not a surprise in a cheating situation. It's a panic response.
0ptimusPayne
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Just jumped backed in from early. Its totally selfish that Im curious as to what OP's hopefully future ex GF looks like 😂😞Ive been cheated once, and it always seems to go the same way for everyone once the person gets exposed. Cheaters apparently fucking love to make you feel like you did some shit wrong, once they know they got caught up..Get out while you can OP. I know you want closure, but its not even worth it at this point in time. Id get my stuff out, because most likely she'll start a fight with you If you demand her to leave. Let there be a cool off period, hit the weights, rebound off an old cute fling,close the books with this chick a week or so later and move on with you life imo.
FlashbladeGAF
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OP had day off
OP's GF left her iPad at home
OP used iPad to browse (GF lets him use it)
OP opened up iPad to see a raunchy conversation with some dude and his GF leading up to her receiving a dick pick
1600+ posts of great "level headed" advice.
OP and GF share an apartment
OP decides to wait till tomorrow to confront the GF until after he gets more details on how to get out of the lease.
GF comes home
OP pulls a Lerooooooy Jenkiiiins and posts this:
OP, I've drawn you a new avatar.
FTFY
GAF grabs popcorn
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