So I just went on my girlfriends ipad....

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StalkerUKCG said:
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This is the type of people we are dealing with now GAF
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Yummy, I really would like to help those girls out with that fake tan
 
At this point I'd be more worried about getting that awesome fucking tv and PC out of the house rather than the relationship with her, or there's a good chance you'll be watching things via an orange filter.
 
do what a lot of others said including TAKING PICS OF YOUR STUFF. you might have to take her to court if she comes home and fucks your shit up. pics along with the screenshot of her cheating would help a lot. start carefully recording her voice on your phone if she comes home irate and or physical too
 
OCD, I realize this is stupid question. Is your apartment a modern "aspie nightmare" kind or does it have a bunch of solid walls? I would move all your stuff to one room.
 
Every time I go to respond, there are like 2 new pages.

And now it's a British thread

Alright OP. If you really can't recover things from here, it's up to you. Hope things turn up for you mate
 
slider said:
Heh, I've dated a couple of Essex girls. Nothing but good things to say. Mind you, I'm an old bugger so maybe that factors.
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They can't all be bad, same for everywhere really

Cunts up here in Northumberland/Newcastle, but a ton of lovely people too
 
If your parents can't come in time then change the locks. If she gets cops or the landlord just say you told her you were changing locks that day and she must have forgotten and give the key when you get home
 
StalkerUKCG said:
So here is the run down for people
  • OP Has a 55" OLED TV and High End Gaming PC.
  • OP Co-rents a property with his cock hungry GF
  • OP casually uses the iPad and once he unlocks it he sees a conversation in which the GF has been getting dick picks from another guy and suggesting she wants to bounce on it.
  • OP Diligently saves the conversation and emails himself.
  • GAF spends an entire work day and 28 pages giving mostly great advice on how to deal with the situation
  • OP Comes up with a plan to start removing his expensive items from the property during the day tomorrow before GF returns home at which point he will confront her using GAF's sages advice
  • GF comes home and quickly grabs the iPad so she cant slyly see some more strange salami.
  • OP Is overcome with rage and quips the timeless words "fancy seeing some more dick?"
  • GF freaks the fuck out and retorts "OH MY GOD, WHAT IS YOUR FUCKIN PROBLEM"
  • GF runs to bathroom to contemplate how badly she fucked up (and/or) get some more of that big ass motobike dick
  • OP talks to a door for a bit
  • GF comes out of bathroom and pushes OP out the way and leaves
  • OP is now alone
  • GF is out in the wild, maybe getting taken to O town by Big Dig Mcgee.
  • A NEW PLAYER HAS ENTERED THE GAME - GF's friend sends OP the eloquently worded prose ""Who do u fink u r goin dwn her stuff u cunt""
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I can't breath
 
Mammoth Jones said:
There is no fixing it. They're not married. They have no kids. They have a lease, a while that's something to consider it's nothing that would make any person with any self respect really pause in order to try and fix the relationship.

If trust is broken it's broken. No amount of civil conversation will resolve that. At that stage of the game (young, not married, no kids) the absolute correct answer is to bounce.

Personally I'd call family/friends and get some vehicles to the crib asap and get my shit out of dodge so her and her new dick don't destroy it out of spite.
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But you only fix broken things, you don't fix working things.

I don't think kids or monetary investment is something that should ultimately define whether a relationship is worth salvaging, though. Love and care for the person in question should be #1 on the list when asking, "should I try and fix this?"

Simply running away from it without understanding where that person was at mentally when they made the decision prevents growth.

However, it sounds like that's what the GF is doing, so having a reasonable conversation is probably out of the question.
 
StalkerUKCG said:
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This is the type of people we are dealing with now GAF
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This is actually probably not too reflective. Depends.

Attitude is Jersey Shore equivalent, in terms of social class similar. Looks wise closer to Valley Girl.

"a brash, materialistic young woman of a type supposedly found in Essex or surrounding areas in the south-east of England."

Normally blonde, fake tan, fake lips, fake boobs, slutty dress sense, overly flirtatious, obsessed with material/designer things. Common.

Going out in central london, especially in the City where the banks are, in the evenings the trains come from Essex with packs of them hunting.

My ex was an Essex girl, first and last one! Everything they say is true.
 
Honestly this demonstrates pretty clearly that you can judge a woman's character by the company they keep.

Good thing my wife doesn't have any friends ;) Haha


edit: goes both ways for each gender
 
WraithWalker1893 said:
OP isn't listening to us guys. He's not taking our advice. It's not that he can't up and leave and call off work, it's that he just won't :/ I'm not blaming you OP by any means because it's not your fault that this has happened but it's getting messier and messier. You'll end up down a hole soon and then she'll have your personal belongings wrecked and destroyed. You have to do something and you need to do it quickly. You need a plan. A plan of action. You have to do something. Time waits for no man! So please do something while you still can. It's not looking good atm. Especially with essex girls urgh :/
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Hyperbole. It's HIGHLY unlikely she'll trash his stuff just because. He's done literally nothing wrong. If he'd cheated on her, he'd have far greater cause for concern. Right now it's nearly midnight and real life dictates that he can't just up sticks and abandon his home and job commitments in the middle of the night. Sleep and a clear head will tell him what to do next.

I would however agree that taking an itinerary of his stuff, along with photos and telling his ex he has done so is a good precautionary step.
 
Thing is, she doesn't actually know that she foolishly just left that shit out in the open, and probably truly believes that OP has been snooping through her stuff.
 
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Call in sick tomorrow. Also, call your parents or / and friends and arrange so you get the bulk of the important stuff over at their place. Seeing as she's so immature, I wouldn't be safe with having my belongings over there neither.
 
mkenyon said:
But you only fix broken things, you don't fix working things.

I don't think kids or monetary investment is something that should ultimately define whether a relationship is worth salvaging, though. Love and care for the person in question should be #1 on the list when asking, "should I try and fix this?"

Simply running away from it without understanding where that person was at mentally when they made the decision prevents growth.

However, it sounds like that's what the GF is doing, so having a reasonable conversation is probably out of the question.
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When it goes to this point it's ridiculously rare to return to prior status.
 
Lasthope106 said:
The fact that you know that she would do damage to your things is very telling that you dodged a bullet OP. Who does that to a person they love. Call your friends. Don't wait to call your parents. Do it now. They will help you and they will take care of you. That is love.
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This OP, call your parents. They will help you when ever there is a crisis.
 
OCD Guy said:
Charming text I have just received from her friend.

So no prizes for guessing where she is.
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Typical. She went to her friend for support, friend and her find a way to deflect from the complained of action and focus on what you did and finish by making her out to be the victim. In a bit, she'll demand an apology from you.

Rough spot, OP...especially because you guys share a lease.
 
Kinitari said:
Why are you framing it like the OP is fucking up here? Isn't he allowed to have his emotional reactions to being devastated? This girl is now out talking to other people instead of him. He tried to communicate and it was a no go. Like... To what lengths are you expecting this guy throw away his self respect?
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This, it's bad enough we had victim blaming posts but some people apparently want him to grovel over a situation that was 100% her fault, lol. Thankfully OP is not listening to any of that nonsense, there are way too many fish in the sea to be throwing away your dignity so the girl can rub salt in the wound by clowning you. Ironically, the advice of the guy you quoted reads like the stuff you would expect from the kind of guy women will leave because they're pushovers.
 
theaface said:
Hyperbole. It's HIGHLY unlikely she'll trash his stuff just because. He's done literally nothing wrong. If he'd cheated on her, he'd have far greater cause for concern. Right now it's nearly midnight and real life dictates that he can't just up sticks and abandon his home and job commitments in the middle of the night. Sleep and a clear head will tell him what to do next.

I would however agree that taking an itinerary of his stuff, along with photos and telling his ex he has done so is a good precautionary step.
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But Essex.
 
theaface said:
Hyperbole. It's HIGHLY unlikely she'll trash his stuff just because. He's done literally nothing wrong. If he'd cheated on her, he'd have far greater cause for concern. Right now it's nearly midnight and real life dictates that he can't just up sticks and abandon his home and job commitments in the middle of the night. Sleep and a clear head will tell him what to do next.

I would however agree that taking an itinerary of his stuff, along with photos and telling his ex he has done so is a good precautionary step.
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OP already said she's the type that would fuck with his things though :/
 
mkenyon said:
But you only fix broken things, you don't fix working things.

I don't think kids or monetary investment is something that should ultimately define whether a relationship is worth salvaging, though. Love and care for the person in question should be #1 on the list when asking, "should I try and fix this?"

Simply running away from it without understanding where that person was at mentally when they made the decision prevents growth.

However, it sounds like that's what the GF is doing, so having a reasonable conversation is probably out of the question.
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You fix things that CAN be fixed. Knowing your S.O. is out looking for cock is a serious violation of trust that not everyone can or wants to fix. Personally, I wouldn't. But I've been done dirt before so I'm not going to pretend I haven't gone the "let's forgive and work on it" route.

Personally I think true love is how people behave when the shit is really gritty. Not when it's all nice and whip cream. If you refuse to even talk and run out to some dude after I call you out on nasty behavior? Yea, shit's a wrap. Fuck forgiveness. I ain't Jesus.

kmax said:
Call in sick tomorrow. Also, call your parents or / and friends and arrange so you get the bulk of the important stuff over at their place. Seeing as she's so immature, I wouldn't be safe with having my belongings over there neither.
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Please take this advice, OP.
 
OP, please take the advice of everyone and get your expensive stuff out now, call in some friends with a truck, SUV, whatever to move stuff out to your parents now. Your GF is playing the victim/super immature so she's the type who would break all your stuff and throw out your clothes if you are at work and she goes back to the apartment.
 
kai3345 said:
at least op seems to be taking all of this in stride which is good

i'd probably not be changing my avatar to a penis with a monocle if i were in a situation as shitty as this
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Honestly this thread has helped in a way.

I'm not going to cry about what's happened.

I'm glad it's ended without being married or having children.

I found the avatar funny (as well as the other pictures) so I was cool with it as an avatar.
 
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