So I just went on my girlfriends ipad....

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FeenixRising said:
Anyone got a recap?
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Bruh, go back a page. Bullet points and everything.

StalkerUKCG said:
So here is the run down for people
  • OP Has a 55" OLED TV and High End Gaming PC.
  • OP Co-rents a property with his cock hungry GF
  • OP casually uses the iPad and once he unlocks it he sees a conversation in which the GF has been getting dick picks from another guy and suggesting she wants to bounce on it.
  • OP Diligently saves the conversation and emails himself.
  • GAF spends an entire work day and 28 pages giving mostly great advice on how to deal with the situation
  • OP Comes up with a plan to start removing his expensive items from the property during the day tomorrow before GF returns home at which point he will confront her using GAF's sages advice
  • GF comes home and quickly grabs the iPad so she cant slyly see some more strange salami.
  • OP Is overcome with rage and quips the timeless words "fancy seeing some more dick?"
  • GF freaks the fuck out and retorts "OH MY GOD, WHAT IS YOUR FUCKIN PROBLEM"
  • GF runs to bathroom to contemplate how badly she fucked up (and/or) get some more of that big ass motobike dick
  • OP talks to a door for a bit
  • GF comes out of bathroom and pushes OP out the way and leaves
  • OP is now alone
  • GF is out in the wild, maybe getting taken to O town by Big Dig Mcgee.
  • A NEW PLAYER HAS ENTERED THE GAME - GF's friend sends OP the eloquently worded prose ""Who do u fink u r goin dwn her stuff u cunt""
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keltickennedy said:
Wait, really? But if he remains calm and acts like an adult and talks it out. Maybe he can get the friend involved in a three way.....resulting in a stronger relationship.
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The GF bailing to go be with the dude in question kind of answers where she wants to ultimately be, so it nullifies the point of having a conversation.

Unless I misunderstood the OP.
 
OCD Guy said:
I've got work tomorrow, and I can't just take a day off, it was my day off today.

So I'm in a bit of an awkward position.

She knows that I'm anal over my stuff (well ocd), her revenge along with her friends would destroy my stuff.

I might have to call the parents and get them to come here tomorrow, she won't react to them, and it's the safest way to get some of my stuff.
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Give them a call right now man, and just vent. If I had a son in this situation, I'd be over there in a heartbeat to help out.

How far out from you do they live?
 
OCD Guy said:
I've got work tomorrow, and I can't just take a day off, it was my day off today.

So I'm in a bit of an awkward position.

She knows that I'm anal over my stuff (well ocd), her revenge along with her friends would destroy my stuff.

I might have to call the parents and get them to come here tomorrow, she won't react to them, and it's the safest way to get some of my stuff.
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Looking forward to the update tomorrow when everything OP owns is covered in brown spray tan.
 
Regardless though, her actions so far are just making this worse her. Denying the situation, running to the bathroom, ignoring OP, running off to a friend, and using said friend as a median to shit talk OP.
The immaturity is off the charts.
 
Not said:
OK, thanks to all the recap posts, it sounds like your girlfriend really didn't expect to be caught flirting with some other guy and acted accordingly when you passively aggressively informed her. I understand that's gotta hurt, and you're feeling a bunch of things right now. But dude, listen-- don't just up and leave like ReactiveGAF is prodding you to. Talk. Talktalktalktalk talk. Even if she doesn't want to, at least put in some effort unless or until she shuts you down. Ask her what she wants, and tell her what you want. Make a decision from there.

God, I can't believe I'm adding even more posts to this thread.
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Why are you framing it like the OP is fucking up here? Isn't he allowed to have his emotional reactions to being devastated? This girl is now out talking to other people instead of him. He tried to communicate and it was a no go. Like... To what lengths are you expecting this guy throw away his self respect?
 
mkenyon said:
17 years and counting. My baby is due in December too! Pretty hyped.

I'm not, but I'm pretty confident that I do know more than a lot of the people posting reactionary "bail out" type posts. Knowing "more", instead of "it all" is perhaps pedantic.

But still, this type of shit shouldn't be over until a rational and reasonable conversation can be had. If it can't at all, then yeah, relationship should probably end due to communication issues.

Just gonna say this one more time: Cheating is not okay, but people can, do, and will make mistakes. At the end of the day, it's sex, and not the end of the world.
You might be right on the Polyamory thing. That might be an avenue to explore further on. I cede there.

However, the burden is never on a single party in the relationship to fix it. If both people aren't trying, it will never be fixed. Rebuilding that trust and moving forward with a stronger relationship takes two adults, not one.

She is in the moral wrong, don't mistake what I'm saying for condoning cheating. But putting the burden of fixing it on a single person is not a viable option for a functioning relationship.
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There is no fixing it. They're not married. They have no kids. They have a lease, a while that's something to consider it's nothing that would make any person with any self respect really pause in order to try and fix the relationship.

If trust is broken it's broken. No amount of civil conversation will resolve that. At that stage of the game (young, not married, no kids) the absolute correct answer is to bounce.

Personally I'd call family/friends and get some vehicles to the crib asap and get my shit out of dodge so her and her new dick don't destroy it out of spite.

Kinitari said:
Why are you framing it like the OP is fucking up here? Isn't he allowed to have his emotional reactions to being devastated? This girl is now out talking to other people instead of him. He tried to communicate and it was a no go. Like... To what lengths are you expecting this guy throw away his self respect?
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Don't you understand! He's supposed to sit calmly at home like a good cuck and make some chai tea so she can wash the taste of some dudes junk out her mouth while they converse and try to work it out......
 
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This is the type of people we are dealing with now GAF
 
mkenyon said:
The GF bailing to go be with the dude in question kind of answers where she wants to ultimately be, so it nullifies the point of having a conversation.

Unless I misunderstood the OP.
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You have. & You missed the multiple posts where he stayed it wasn't dickbiker. Dick Rider.
 
OCD Guy said:
No she's with her friend locally.

The reason I think this is because her friend that lives down the road ( a few blocks) is the one that text me.

She's got a loud mouth on her, and always interferes though. I don't really like her, but have always tolerated her because she's her friend.

But she's got no respect, like I ask people to take shoes off, she never would, and she'd do things like touch my tv (yeah first world problems) but I don't want paw prints on it, there's no reason to touch it.

And when she'd stay round the white sheets would be brown the next day.
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Fake tan or just incredibly manky ?
 
OCD Guy said:
I've got work tomorrow, and I can't just take a day off, it was my day off today.

So I'm in a bit of an awkward position.

She knows that I'm anal over my stuff (well ocd), her revenge along with her friends would destroy my stuff.

I might have to call the parents and get them to come here tomorrow, she won't react to them, and it's the safest way to get some of my stuff.
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The fact that you know that she would do damage to your things is very telling that you dodged a bullet OP. Who does that to a person they love. Call your friends. Don't wait to call your parents. Do it now. They will help you and they will take care of you. That is love.
 
mkenyon said:
17 years and counting. My baby is due in December too! Pretty hyped.

I'm not, but I'm pretty confident that I do know more than a lot of the people posting reactionary "bail out" type posts. Knowing "more", instead of "it all" is perhaps pedantic.

But still, this type of shit shouldn't be over until a rational and reasonable conversation can be had. If it can't at all, then yeah, relationship should probably end due to communication issues.

Just gonna say this one more time: Cheating is not okay, but people can, do, and will make mistakes. At the end of the day, it's sex, and not the end of the world.
You might be right on the Polyamory thing. That might be an avenue to explore further on. I cede there.

However, the burden is never on a single party in the relationship to fix it. If both people aren't trying, it will never be fixed. Rebuilding that trust and moving forward with a stronger relationship takes two adults, not one.

She is in the moral wrong, don't mistake what I'm saying for condoning cheating. But putting the burden of fixing it on a single person is not a viable option for a functioning relationship.
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You forget it takes two to be in a relationship.

He tried to talk to her thru the bathroom door she locked herself into.

She ran out after shoving him and saying "Leave me alone!"
 
I still can't wrap my head around the "going down her stuff" line, I can almost forgive the text speak but in what universe does that line make any sense at all.

It sounds like you have escaped at the right time op, it's going to be shitty but it will work out for the better in the long run. Stay strong.
 
at least op seems to be taking all of this in stride which is good

i'd probably not be changing my avatar to a penis with a monocle if i were in a situation as shitty as this
 
OP isn't listening to us guys. He's not taking our advice. It's not that he can't up and leave and call off work, cause he can. It's just that he won't :/ I'm not blaming you OP by any means because it's not your fault that this has happened but it's getting messier and messier. You'll end up down a hole soon and then she'll have your personal belongings wrecked and destroyed. You have to do something and you need to do it quickly. You need a plan. A plan of action. You have to do something. Time waits for no man! So please do something while you still can. It's not looking good atm. Especially with essex girls urgh :/
 
Where are your mates, OP? How come you haven't contacted any of them to let them know whats up? Don't you have any that can come over and maybe help you clear out some of your stuff tonight?
 
Lock her out, she has somewhere to stay tomorrow. Get your shit out of there tomorrow. Sleep there until you can move out -- drink with us on Saturday.

There is NOTHING worthwhile here.
 
ant_ said:
Please explain this to a Californian
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Basically fake tan,really white teeth and extremely grating accents. That's the majority of male and females from Essex.

Some Essex girls are good for short term fun as they do have a certain attractiveness. Anything long term. You'd have to be mad. Good thing the OP found out really.
 
Damn OP is a hottie.

And seems to be handling this mature af.

Seems like she's going to be missing you, big time. GL OP, you'll do better next time.
 
Not said:
Have you given her an opportunity to open up about this sort of thing before, without being accusatory?

(Not's Post #3 in the 50-page relationship thread)
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As I've said this was out of the blue. I've never had a reason to think anything had happened, so never brought it up as there was nothing to bring up as far as I was concerned.
 
entremet said:
50 pages?!

Wut.
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msdstc said:
Can somebody update me as to what's taken place?
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Nibel said:
How is this a 44 pages thread LMAO
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OP had day off
OP's GF left her iPad at home
OP used iPad to browse (GF lets him use it)
OP opened up iPad to see a raunchy conversation with some dude and his GF leading up to her receiving a dick pick

1600+ posts of great "level headed" advice.
OP and GF share an apartment
OP decides to wait till tomorrow to confront the GF until after he gets more details on how to get out of the lease.

GF comes home

OP pulls a Lerooooooy Jenkiiiins and posts this:
OCD Guy said:
Ok my plan went out the window.

She grabs the ipad and then sits down. I'm on another chair on the laptop.

I manage 5 minutes of tongue biting before I come out with "Fancy seeing some more pictures of people's dicks"

She looks at me sheepishly, and responds with a "What?!, what are you talking about?"

But you know when you know someone is lying by the way they talk, their body language etc, and they know you know.

"I saw your conversation last night"

"What conversation?"

"Please Sarah stop this, you've been talking to guys behind my back"

"OH MY GOD, WHAT IS YOUR FUCKIN PROBLEM"

and leaves the room (ipad in hand) and slams the door in the bathroom.

And here I am like a fucking idiot sitting here typing my problems on a forum, with my head in my hands.
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Zukuu said:
OP, I've drawn you a new avatar.
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Addi said:
FTFY

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StalkerUKCG said:
So here is the run down for people
  • OP Has a 55" OLED TV and High End Gaming PC.
  • OP Co-rents a property with his cock hungry GF
  • OP casually uses the iPad and once he unlocks it he sees a conversation in which the GF has been getting dick picks from another guy and suggesting she wants to bounce on it.
  • OP Diligently saves the conversation and emails himself.
  • GAF spends an entire work day and 28 pages giving mostly great advice on how to deal with the situation
  • OP Comes up with a plan to start removing his expensive items from the property during the day tomorrow before GF returns home at which point he will confront her using GAF's sages advice
  • GF comes home and quickly grabs the iPad so she cant slyly see some more strange salami.
  • OP Is overcome with rage and quips the timeless words "fancy seeing some more dick?"
  • GF freaks the fuck out and retorts "OH MY GOD, WHAT IS YOUR FUCKIN PROBLEM"
  • GF runs to bathroom to contemplate how badly she fucked up (and/or) get some more of that big ass motobike dick
  • OP talks to a door for a bit
  • GF comes out of bathroom and pushes OP out the way and leaves
  • OP is now alone
  • GF is out in the wild, maybe getting taken to O town by Big Dig Mcgee.
  • A NEW PLAYER HAS ENTERED THE GAME - GF's friend sends OP the eloquently worded prose ""Who do u fink u r goin dwn her stuff u cunt""
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