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[Minamu]

Is this guy for real? Your "vibe"? o_0

Yes he is. Of course you have a body language vibe etc It's pretty self-explanatory that you will most likely see more success if you're not being emo about your situation because such things show through no matter hoe hard you try to hide it.

I'm gonna try out some contacts on Monday, actually, if my schedule permits it.

 

[soultron]

I haven't been on a proper, adult date in a while. Here goes nothing! c:

 

[rapid32.5]

Went out for drinks with some people from work today. They all had dating stories. I didnt. Some had dates line up this weeked. I am worthless.

I'm same age as you, have no friends or girlfriend how do you think I feel ? Focus on yourself, stop acting like girls are superior to you and you are crap. Remember that there are people who are in a worse position than you are. And you are fortunate to have these friends at least.
If I had friends like you I'd get a date quite easily, you at least wouldn't look like a complete loser outside in a company.

 

[Mully]

I spoke to the ex for the first time in a month and a half today. It went well. She said she hasn't worked out her problems and she doesn't feel comfortable seeing me on more than a friend status right now. I guess it's good.

She was happy to hear that I was actually doing the things that she told me to do on my own. We spoke about our breakup. I wasn't too comfortable with talking about it, but it seemed like she really wanted to. She told me that she knew that the only way for her and I to change for the better was to end it. She also said that I didn't need to go to AA, and I agreed. I now realize that going to AA was a major over reaction.

I guess I'll try and pop in from time to time and just hope for the best while enjoying my time being single. I just started talking to one of the really cute girls I spoke about a few posts back. She seems really into me and we're going to hang out after break.

 

[go nana go]

Just asked my friend out
Her face lit up, gave number
Not as hard as guessed.

 

[Bucket-o-roadkill]

I'm same age as you, have no friends or girlfriend how do you think I feel ? Focus on yourself, stop acting like girls are superior to you and you are crap. Remember that there are people who are in a worse position than you are. And you are fortunate to have these friends at least.
If I had friends like you I'd get a date quite easily, you at least wouldn't look like a complete loser outside in a company.

Well be thankful you're not 28. I'm 2 years from 30 with 1 or 2 friends who I actually socialise with and without trying to sound too harsh, they are shit for meeting girls as they never want to go out or do... ANYTHING. So I'm screwed besides talking to girls online, who are either decent looking and insane, or not decent looking. What I wouldn't give to have my ex back. This year has showed me why people who aren't even that happy together stay at it, its a nightmare trying to meet nice girls who aren't already taken.

 

[~Kinggi~]

I'm same age as you, have no friends or girlfriend how do you think I feel ? Focus on yourself, stop acting like girls are superior to you and you are crap. Remember that there are people who are in a worse position than you are. And you are fortunate to have these friends at least.
If I had friends like you I'd get a date quite easily, you at least wouldn't look like a complete loser outside in a company.

You are making incorrect assumptions here.

And im 28. Which means rapid claims to be 28.

 

[Ghost_Protocol]

First date with a new girl from work, we get in my car, and the first fucking words to come blasting out of the stereo? "PUT THE PUSSY IN A SARCOPHAGUS!!!"

face_palm

 

[go nana go]

First date with a new girl from work, we get in my car, and the first fucking words to come blasting out of the stereo? "PUT THE PUSSY IN A SARCOPHAGUS!!!"

face_palm

HA HA HA HA HA
HAHA-HAHA-HA-HA-HA
Ah HA ha HAHA

 

[Mully]

First date with a new girl from work, we get in my car, and the first fucking words to come blasting out of the stereo? "PUT THE PUSSY IN A SARCOPHAGUS!!!"

face_palm

Just roll with it. I find these awkward moments can become hilarious memories. Next time just make a joke and it'll make you and her more comfortable.

 

[Atramental]

First date with a new girl from work, we get in my car, and the first fucking words to come blasting out of the stereo? "PUT THE PUSSY IN A SARCOPHAGUS!!!"

face_palm

What kind of music do you listen to? >_>

Thank goodness most of the stuff I listen to has no lyrics.

 

[Danj]

Just asked my friend out
Her face lit up, gave number
Not as hard as guessed.

Nice haiku. And congratulations

 

[Miguel]

First date with a new girl from work, we get in my car, and the first fucking words to come blasting out of the stereo? "PUT THE PUSSY IN A SARCOPHAGUS!!!"

face_palm

Everybody knows you're a motherfucking monster.

 

[mj1108]

First date with a new girl from work, we get in my car, and the first fucking words to come blasting out of the stereo? "PUT THE PUSSY IN A SARCOPHAGUS!!!"

face_palm

Depending on how she reacted to it will tell you everything you need to know.

With any luck, she laughed at it.

 

[TheSchwab_7]

So I may be completely over thinking this, but if a girl says yes to going out to dinner with you, and yes to me picking her up....that's a date right? lol. we haven't said like ok it's a date cause that would be pretty awkward. so yeah.

 

[Snakeyes]

First date with a new girl from work, we get in my car, and the first fucking words to come blasting out of the stereo? "PUT THE PUSSY IN A SARCOPHAGUS!!!"

face_palm

Hey, it could've been Runaway

 

[NihonTiger90]

Ugh, I give up.

Actually started taking to someone on OKC, and two days later, they delete their profile. What the hell?!?! She seemed to really dig me, too, but she'd been saying there were a lot of folks on the site who were creepers, so I guess she gave up or something? I dunno.

Man, this sucks. I was actually getting somewhere and BAM, now I have nothing.

 

[Kad5]

Hey, it could've been Runaway

Or this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cz8PAEju6Cs#t=4m03s

 

[Mully]

So I may be completely over thinking this, but if a girl says yes to going out to dinner with you, and yes to me picking her up....that's a date right? lol. we haven't said like ok it's a date cause that would be pretty awkward. so yeah.

It's a date. You both recognized it, since you both agreed to go out to dinner alone. You don't need to over clarify. Have a good time and let us know how everything went my dude.

 

[ConradCervantes]

Man, I am kicking myself for not getting contactss sooner. Went out to a nightclub after work and this blonde chick with the perfect amonnt of meat on her who I've seen there a bunch was eating out of the palm of my hand. We'd flirt every now and then befire, but she was waaay more eager to be around me tonight. We danced hard together, I'm pretty sure she felt my hard-on poking her back at times, lol.

Time to eat some bread now, I am fuckkng drunk as hell.

 

[computers putin']

Man, I am kicking myself for not getting contactss sooner. Went out to a nightclub after work and this blonde chick with the perfect amonnt of meat on her who I've seen there a bunch was eating out of the palm of my hand. We'd flirt every now and then befire, but she was waaay more eager to be around me tonight. We danced hard together, I'm pretty sure she felt my hard-on poking her back at times, lol.

Time to eat some bread now, I am fuckkng drunk as hell.

I can tell you're drunk from how you typed this.

 

[TheVampire]

*squeels!*

This girl I took out for first date the other night just phone txted me before I even had a chance to call her tonight for the first time since.

"So what skill do I need to train up for next time we meet? haha. Hope your having a good day "

lol what? is that refering to those arcade games we played after we ate?

Guess she also wasnt turned off by how I asked if she wanted to make out in the carpark but she said no not there.

 

[CatPee]

Alrighty GAF, I'm in need of some assistance here.
I've recently gotten together with a longtime crush of mine. She's a very modest, relatively shy theater girl who plans for the future rather than living without a care in high school as most others seem to do. Recently, she's admitted to having a major "complicated fear" that relates to me. After a little digging, apparently it has a little bit to do with religion (she's Christian & Missionary Alliance, if anyone of Religious-GAF has the capability to fill me up on that) and one of the consequences that she dreads is that I'd want nothing to do with her after learning of it, which is the whole driving factor behind this fear of hers. Then she told me she'd be pretty damaged (mentally, I'd assume) if I did indeed act as she feared. That was all I got before she promised she'd tell me everything in approximately a month depending on my actions, so I told her I'd lay off until then.
So, what I'm really trying to figure out is what to do within this time span. Should I completely drop the issue and let her tell me on her own, or do I bring it up whenever it's appropriate to? I'm extremely curious as to what it is, especially when it's serious enough that a girl would tell me she could become mentally damaged as a result of my actions :\.

 

[masud]

*squeels!*

This girl I took out for first date the other night just phone txted me before I even had a chance to call her tonight for the first time since.

"So what skill do I need to train up for next time we meet? haha. Hope your having a good day "

lol what? is that refering to those arcade games we played after we ate?

Guess she also wasnt turned off by how I asked if she wanted to make out in the carpark but she said no not there.

Oh shit man you got a phone text? Those are the best ones!

 

[Snakeyes]

snip

Have you fucked her yet?

 

[CatPee]

Have you fucked her yet?

Unfortunately, no.

 

[Slayer-33]

Is this guy for real? Your "vibe"? o_0

Yes.

If you display confidence you'll pull women in.

I proved this to myself yesterday as I was heading home from work, I had a good stride and confident look on my face (very slight eyes squint, slight closed mouth smile and relaxed face to be exact) and guess what happened? I noted that the majority of women that came across past me and next to me were looking at me making eye contact with me (in a I'm open for you to talk to me kind of way), it's a thing I almost forgot how to pull off but I can do it all the time if I want.. Time to do it all the time instead of having a serious mentality I usually set since I'm a guard lol.. That just keeps them away.


Think confidently, from the mind it'll be translated into the body and the women will pick up on it.


Haven't you guys noticed how the women that WALK the most confident ALWAYS draw the most attention in a commanding way despite them possibly not being the best looking ones in the crowd? That's how this shit works man.

 

[MisterRoboto]

If im talking to/hooking up with a girl and she constantly brings up other guys who hit on her and try to get with her just to laugh about it, should i assume she thinks id want to know, or that shes trying to make me jealous? Why would she be trying to make me jealous if she knows i'm into her? Is it something else?

 

[snoopen]

If im talking to/hooking up with a girl and she constantly brings up other guys who hit on her and try to get with her just to laugh about it, should i assume she thinks id want to know, or that shes trying to make me jealous? Why would she be trying to make me jealous if she knows i'm into her? Is it something else?

Depends on your "hooking up", could just be very playful and doesn't take you seriously, hinting that people try all the time.

 

[luckyboyceo]

I spoke to the ex for the first time in a month and a half today. It went well. She said she hasn't worked out her problems and she doesn't feel comfortable seeing me on more than a friend status right now. I guess it's good.

She was happy to hear that I was actually doing the things that she told me to do on my own. We spoke about our breakup. I wasn't too comfortable with talking about it, but it seemed like she really wanted to. She told me that she knew that the only way for her and I to change for the better was to end it. She also said that I didn't need to go to AA, and I agreed. I now realize that going to AA was a major over reaction.

I guess I'll try and pop in from time to time and just hope for the best while enjoying my time being single. I just started talking to one of the really cute girls I spoke about a few posts back. She seems really into me and we're going to hang out after break.

Sounds like it went about as well as it could go.

Considering she's not sure about getting back together and sees you purely as a "friend" right now, my advice would be to try and move on. Sure, easier said than done, but it sounds like you've got another potential girl going and that can always speed up the process, or at the very least, keep your mind off your ex for awhile. Take it and run with it and hope for the best.

So I may be completely over thinking this, but if a girl says yes to going out to dinner with you, and yes to me picking her up....that's a date right? lol. we haven't said like ok it's a date cause that would be pretty awkward. so yeah.

Yeah, it's a date, and she's fully aware of that. Have a good time and let us know how it goes.

 

[soultron]

Girl mentioned "here's to being friends" as we got our drinks. Haha.

Needless to say, that totally fucked my mindstate up. I went on a walk through a pitch-black trail with her, and then spent 6 hours on her bed watching movies and shit. All without doing anything. I feel like if she hadn't have dropped the F bomb on me I would've been able to make a move. We had great conversations and stuff, and she's a really nice girl, but I couldn't help but view it as a non-date after that.

I probably should've dipped sooner since I wasn't feeling it.

 

[Slayer-33]

Holy shit man ^ LOL sorry bro.

 

[Bucket-o-roadkill]

Ugh, I give up.

Actually started taking to someone on OKC, and two days later, they delete their profile. What the hell?!?! She seemed to really dig me, too, but she'd been saying there were a lot of folks on the site who were creepers, so I guess she gave up or something? I dunno.

Man, this sucks. I was actually getting somewhere and BAM, now I have nothing.

Could have been a fake scammer, there's quite a few about on these sites..

If not, think yourself lucky she bailed out after 2 days instead of drawing it out or leading you on. I got with a girl from a dating site and met with her for 4 months, really started to fall for her. Then she met a guy who lived closer to her and that was it, couldn't be assed with me anymore. I'd much rather she disappeared after 2 days, lol. Can't help but feel these dating sites are bad news.

 

[Angst]

*squeels!*

This girl I took out for first date the other night just phone txted me before I even had a chance to call her tonight for the first time since.

"So what skill do I need to train up for next time we meet? haha. Hope your having a good day "

lol what? is that refering to those arcade games we played after we ate?

Guess she also wasnt turned off by how I asked if she wanted to make out in the carpark but she said no not there.

Sounds good! Just roll with it and be happy she isn't playing the dating game where she has to wait three days before texting you, etc.

As for skills: tell her she needs to get a lvl 50 WoW character for the next date.

 

[KungFuBill]

Girl mentioned "here's to being friends" as we got our drinks. Haha.

Needless to say, that totally fucked my mindstate up. I went on a walk through a pitch-black trail with her, and then spent 6 hours on her bed watching movies and shit. All without doing anything. I feel like if she hadn't have dropped the F bomb on me I would've been able to make a move. We had great conversations and stuff, and she's a really nice girl, but I couldn't help but view it as a non-date after that.

I probably should've dipped sooner since I wasn't feeling it.

Friendzoned right from the start.

Hey - at least she was upfront and didn't lead you on I guess.

 

[number47]

Girl mentioned "here's to being friends" as we got our drinks. Haha.

Needless to say, that totally fucked my mindstate up. I went on a walk through a pitch-black trail with her, and then spent 6 hours on her bed watching movies and shit. All without doing anything. I feel like if she hadn't have dropped the F bomb on me I would've been able to make a move. We had great conversations and stuff, and she's a really nice girl, but I couldn't help but view it as a non-date after that.

I probably should've dipped sooner since I wasn't feeling it.

You are looking at the cup half empty,
half full is that you got a new connection to get more ladies.easy sailing from there.

 

[cuevas. PhD.]

What kind of music do you listen to? >_>

Thank goodness most of the stuff I listen to has no lyrics.

:|

 

[McLesterolBeast]

Online dating is easy as long as you're decent looking.

You just need to be funny and willing to make some concessions on looks.

Having good comedic timing is hard to learn but you can pretty much perfect anything with practice.

Slightly overweight is great because it's easily fixed. Look for people who could greatly improve their appearance with small changes that others can't so easily see past.

If you're looking for a finished product, you better be perfect yourself because women who 'have it all' either aren't on dating sites or are so incredibly picky that you don't have a shot.

 

[low-G]

Ugh, I give up.

Actually started taking to someone on OKC, and two days later, they delete their profile. What the hell?!?! She seemed to really dig me, too, but she'd been saying there were a lot of folks on the site who were creepers, so I guess she gave up or something? I dunno.

Man, this sucks. I was actually getting somewhere and BAM, now I have nothing.

That happens a fair amount (of the 30 or so girls I've talked with on OKC in the last few months I think 4 did this, one of which I tracked down (*cue heavy breathing*) and am friends with now (err, it's a special case)). A fair amount of the girls on there are afraid of rejection, afraid of getting hurt, it goes on and on. There may also be a small number of people just fucking around, meh create a profile on dating site but don't really need it, and an even smaller number of trolls (guys with worse issues than you).

 

[Entropia]

Online dating is easy as long as you're decent looking.

You just need to be funny and willing to make some concessions on looks.

Having good comedic timing is hard to learn but you can pretty much perfect anything with practice.

Slightly overweight is great because it's easily fixed. Look for people who could greatly improve their appearance with small changes that others can't so easily see past.

If you're looking for a finished product, you better be perfect yourself because women who 'have it all' either aren't on dating sites or are so incredibly picky that you don't have a shot.

I've never thought of it that way, but you're pretty much dead on.

Ugh, I give up.

Actually started taking to someone on OKC, and two days later, they delete their profile. What the hell?!?! She seemed to really dig me, too, but she'd been saying there were a lot of folks on the site who were creepers, so I guess she gave up or something? I dunno.

Man, this sucks. I was actually getting somewhere and BAM, now I have nothing.

I'm in the same boat, really. There aren't many girls in my city on OKC, and despite what I quoted above there's too many girls there that are out of my 'wheelhouse' of interest as far as looks, personality, interests, etc are concerned. The last two girls I was in contact with (That I posted about a couple weeks ago) were flakey as hell and didn't talk even though they gave me their Skype info and shit.

That was my end of the line on there.

 

[ecurbj]

Yes.

If you display confidence you'll pull women in.

I proved this to myself yesterday as I was heading home from work, I had a good stride and confident look on my face (very slight eyes squint, slight closed mouth smile and relaxed face to be exact) and guess what happened? I noted that the majority of women that came across past me and next to me were looking at me making eye contact with me (in a I'm open for you to talk to me kind of way), it's a thing I almost forgot how to pull off but I can do it all the time if I want.. Time to do it all the time instead of having a serious mentality I usually set since I'm a guard lol.. That just keeps them away.


Think confidently, from the mind it'll be translated into the body and the women will pick up on it.

LOL!! This is so true. I experienced this yesterday at work. If you are first confident with yourself, comfortable with yourself. Man, anyone can pick up on that and will want to be around you, especially girls.

 

[Dina]

So, date tonight with Girl #2. Actually a bit anxious since I don't know much about her, but we'll see how it goes. Just playing it normal.

 

[soultron]

Friendzoned right from the start.

Hey - at least she was upfront and didn't lead you on I guess.

Yeah, that's a great way of looking at it, actually. She'll make a good friend.

 

[Etrian Oddity]

Question: Is a big part of it just being assertive? It feels that my "boring" or "unmanly vibe" that a lot of girls throw at me comes from the fact that I'm not an ass or pushy with them.

 

[Blader]

Question: Is a big part of it just being assertive? It feels that my "boring" or "unmanly vibe" that a lot of girls throw at me comes from the fact that I'm not an ass or pushy with them.

Yes. It is probably the main part.

But being assertive doesn't mean you need to be an ass or be pushy with girls, you just need to be more proactive in your approach and interactions with girls.

 

[Atramental]

:|

I just looked it up. It's from a Kanye West song...

I think it's about time I started listening to mainstream music.

 

[low-G]

Question: Is a big part of it just being assertive? It feels that my "boring" or "unmanly vibe" that a lot of girls throw at me comes from the fact that I'm not an ass or pushy with them.

I'd say it's one part. I'd say practice, practice, practice. Also, make female friends even if you can't get in a relationship that are just friends. Think positive, think constructively.

Like with anything, you soon will start to really 'get it'. Like me, at any one time I look at myself ~4 months back and some of the stuff I did and I'm like 'wtf', it's hard to even imagine doing that, it just doesn't make sense.

There are a lot of subtleties, like any complicated thing. Be open to learning.

 

[number47]

Yes.

If you display confidence you'll pull women in.

I proved this to myself yesterday as I was heading home from work, I had a good stride and confident look on my face (very slight eyes squint, slight closed mouth smile and relaxed face to be exact) and guess what happened? I noted that the majority of women that came across past me and next to me were looking at me making eye contact with me (in a I'm open for you to talk to me kind of way), it's a thing I almost forgot how to pull off but I can do it all the time if I want.. Time to do it all the time instead of having a serious mentality I usually set since I'm a guard lol.. That just keeps them away.


Think confidently, from the mind it'll be translated into the body and the women will pick up on it.

Thats a great part 1, but part 2 is where the real challenge is. actually starting a conversation by being capable of building off of nothing.

 

[Slayer-33]

Thats a great part 1, but part 2 is where the real challenge is. actually starting a conversation by being capable of building off of nothing.

That's something that all of us need to work on, the approach after displaying the confidence. Definitely a 2 part deal. If you can close quick then you have them.

You definitely want to strike fast and hard and get some sort of info out of them so that you can set something. Make them feel relaxed and comfortable while being a little bit intriguing and have that confident look in your face.

 

[Dina]

So, date tonight with Girl #2. Actually a bit anxious since I don't know much about her, but we'll see how it goes. Just playing it normal.

Back from the date.

If this post sounds like a pimp-post, it is definately not.

Little backstory, I found this girl on OKC (dutch equivalent), but she didn't want to date because she was dating with someone else. Then someone else comes along, had two dates with this girl. She is into me, and I like her. Talking comes naturally and she is okay-looking. Still, I can't shake this nagging feeling that I'm settling with her (education-wise, vapid as this may seem).

Then the other girl from OKC comes back and wants to date. I say yes, and we just had a pretty good date. Talking doesn't come as naturally as it does with the other girl, she is less outspoken and we don't have as much in common. But she is stunning, she is really smart, has a very interesting studie/work and we still had a pretty kick-ass date. Talking went well, just 'not as' well. Maybe jitters, it was the first date after all. Second date with this girl is definately coming.

But the first girl is also still there, wanting to hook up with me. Dragging it out seems cruel, but I don't feel I'm ready yet to make a choice, not before I get on a second date with the second girl.

Feels good on one hand, and bad on the other. I'll say that you can go from having nothing at all to having one too many in just a few days. Keep on trucking, everyone out there.