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Not creepy at all. If you're going for a specific reason though, like talking to women, make sure you bring your balls with you.
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Not creepy at all. If you're going for a specific reason though, like talking to women, make sure you bring your balls with you.
Where to even start with that date?
Online girl confirmed she was at the same party as me last weekend. Small world. It's a city of 60k, what are the odds?
Going to a bar alone is great. No one to rely on and no fall back plan builds character faster than anything. Just don't be a creepy wallflower staring at the dancefloor etc. Go there to have a good time, not to hit on girls.
Online girl confirmed she was at the same party as me last weekend. Small world. It's a city of 60k, what are the odds?
Going to a bar alone is great. No one to rely on and no fall back plan builds character faster than anything. Just don't be a creepy wallflower staring at the dancefloor etc. Go there to have a good time, not to hit on girls.
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Not one bit.
I must admit, I laughed at this. Sorry Anastacio. Here's hoping you can at least get to shower with her. But don't live update from there, your phone will get wet!
Fuck, I wish I had the balls to do that. My friends rarely go to bars nowadays, and I'd really like to.
Vermillion
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Talking to girls in small class, how to go about it GAF?
just say hi and how are you, duh?
We're now sleeping in my bed but she have her back to me and there's a bit of distance and we got clothes on. What a FAIL night.
She's way too shy.
Sounds like you are.
Anastacio, you need to make a move. Why were you just waiting for her to make a move all night long? That's you're job buddy. You goofed man, you goofed hard.
Just pick yourself up and learn from this. You'll do better next time.
Man, I gave you some solid advice on this last night in the other thread!
But really, just say hi. Start a conversation. It's as easy as that. Before and after class are appropriate times.
Just pick yourself up and learn from this. You'll do better next time.
Man, I gave you some solid advice on this last night in the other thread!
But really, just say hi. Start a conversation. It's as easy as that. Before and after class are appropriate times.
Vermillion
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Would make it awkward after I'm rejected. Our seats are pretty close.
What's to reject? You're starting a conversation. Either it leads somewhere or it doesn't and life goes on.
Vermillion
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Well,not being clear about my intentions is a great way to fuck myself over in the end, no?
Devolution
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There's plenty of people you will sit next to in college and never really dialogue with unless your instructor forces you to.
walk in with a boner
Vermillion
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True. Let's say air of awkwardness, then. I guess it doesn't matter that much...
Good idea
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Man I get really depressed when I start getting sober. I hate it.
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she wants your D.
Devolution
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What it means is you should stop asking us what it means and capitalize on that come on dude.
So I now have a girl (with symptoms of a social anxiety disorder*) who is quite and attractive (prolly 7, 8 if you like her race/personality) and she obviously likes me.
I, however, don't want to be anything more than friends with her. How do I make sure she stops liking me? Her neediness is almost making me throw up.
*she told that to me but she could be lying or whatever
I, however, don't want to be anything more than friends with her. How do I make sure she stops liking me? Her neediness is almost making me throw up.
*she told that to me but she could be lying or whatever
show her your video game collection and start arguing about system exclusives in public
I am. I'm not just sitting here with ym thumb up my arse but it threw me off when she said that. "I like you" and "I love you" are different things. And I wondered if that what she was saying or if I'm looking too much into it.
Sub_Level
wants to fuck an Asian grill.
Went to a billiards place tonight and made out with a drunk chick. Pretty cool since I've never done that before (achievement unlocked). I wasn't intentionally taking advantage either, she 100% came on to me. But I'm gonna take a wild guess and say that was the last time I'll see her? 
She said to promise to find her on facebook (tried to get her number, she said she didn't have a phone...whether she meant on her at the moment or in general I dunno), so I did and she's "in a relationship" with one of the other girls who was at the place. The other girl took no issue with the kissing though and was amiable the whole night. And according to my other friend she really liked me, which I'm takin' with a grain of salt. Is it better to forget about it and be happy that it happened, or add her and see what happens with realistic expectations?
She said to promise to find her on facebook (tried to get her number, she said she didn't have a phone...whether she meant on her at the moment or in general I dunno), so I did and she's "in a relationship" with one of the other girls who was at the place. The other girl took no issue with the kissing though and was amiable the whole night. And according to my other friend she really liked me, which I'm takin' with a grain of salt. Is it better to forget about it and be happy that it happened, or add her and see what happens with realistic expectations?
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Sex is so cheap. People get caught up in trying to understand sex/love/passion through words and ideas about it about what it should be like. Robots trying to program themselves by what they read in books, see in movies, what their friends tell them. They can't just let go and feel it, like animals, letting two consciousnesses melt into one for that perfect indescribable moment.
Fuck.
Fuck.
Wait what? You mean during sex?
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Went to a billiards place tonight and made out with a drunk chick. Pretty cool since I've never done that before (achievement unlocked). I wasn't intentionally taking advantage either, she 100% came on to me. But I'm gonna take a wild guess and say that was the last time I'll see her?
She said to promise to find her on facebook (tried to get her number, she said she didn't have a phone...whether she meant on her at the moment or in general I dunno), so I did and she's "in a relationship" with one of the other girls who was at the place. The other girl took no issue with the kissing though and was amiable the whole night. And according to my other friend she really liked me, which I'm takin' with a grain of salt. Is it better to forget about it and be happy that it happened, or add her and see what happens with realistic expectations?
Er..do you not have a lot of female friends on FB? A lot of them put "in a relationship" or "it's complicated" with their friends and best friends. It's just a joke. Doesn't mean anything. Unless you got the one rare case where it did mean something. Which I doubt. But, yes, be happy it happened and don't bother getting worked up about it.
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My guess is she is casually throwing around the word "love" but she definitely sounds like she's interested. It's doubtful that she's fallen head over heels and is madly in love with you, assume you can replace "love" and "like" in her comment. But yeah man, go for it. There aren't many clearer signs than that.
"let's hang out and you can take my photo. Landscape AND portrait."
Went to a billiards place tonight and made out with a drunk chick. Pretty cool since I've never done that before (achievement unlocked). I wasn't intentionally taking advantage either, she 100% came on to me. But I'm gonna take a wild guess and say that was the last time I'll see her?
She said to promise to find her on facebook (tried to get her number, she said she didn't have a phone...whether she meant on her at the moment or in general I dunno), so I did and she's "in a relationship" with one of the other girls who was at the place. The other girl took no issue with the kissing though and was amiable the whole night. And according to my other friend she really liked me, which I'm takin' with a grain of salt. Is it better to forget about it and be happy that it happened, or add her and see what happens with realistic expectations?
Overinterpreting data. If she was really in a relationship why would she say find me on Facebook? Add her, keep realistic expectations because sometimes makeouts are just make outs.
This is a happy story. Let others take note.
Also get used to laughing durng sex, laughing is what people do when they're having fun and sex should be fun.
1. Like Evilore said, rejected from what? Just strike up a conversation. You don't need to be upfront about your intentions in this situation, because right now the goal is simply to talk to her and for her to recognize your existence. If this turns out well you can lead it into asking her out on a date. But if it doesn't turn out well, then you go back to the way things are now. You have lost nothing.
2. Why are you even going into this situation with a "when" she rejects me, mindset? Why are you expecting failure? The worst thing you can do is to assume everything. Just go in with an open mind, expecting nothing more than to have a good conversation with a girl you like in class. That's it. And like I said, if it goes further than that then it goes further than that.
3. Don't think about possible awkwardness afterwards. Don't dwell on the negative. Besides, what awkwardness is there to be had when she's on one side of the classroom and you're on the other, and your teacher is lecturing? Don't even worry about this.
Good luck Joker, as always we've got your back. Just be confident and strike up a conversation. It'll be fun.
Well I spent an hour on skype with her. My first webcam session and I thought it would be better than calling, I was kinda nervous and started with an awkward silence. I much prefer face to face, I dunno why! It's seeing me in the corner talking, uh! I just pointed it out and started talking though. I felt more comfortable by the end. After it I got a text saying "I really liked seeing you on skype. You're just really cute! I can't wait to do it again
". So...success! I think.I think she wants to take creep shots of you.
Well I spent an hour on skype with her. My first webcam session and I thought it would be better than calling, I was kinda nervous and started with an awkward silence. I much prefer face to face, I dunno why! It's seeing me in the corner talking, uh! I just pointed it out and started talking though. I felt more comfortable by the end. After it I got a text saying "I really liked seeing you on skype. You're just really cute! I can't wait to do it again
That text is a 100% guarantee that she is into you. That is literally the only purpose of such texts.
edit: Sorry, there's a second purpose which is to take the pressure off her. You must make the next move.
Okay, dating experts. Normally I'm on the giving end of this equation but lately there's this girl who for whatever reason is my near perfect match which is basically a statistical improbability. If I screw this up, I will probably never forgive myself.
The problem is that nobody can really read what I feel and so similarly she has a similar trait. I'm intelligent and experienced enough to guess but there's always that grey area of potentially being too aggressive and forward.
We've already had two dates and I somewhat flubbed the goodnight kiss when she suddenly went in for the hug when I was contemplating going for the lips. I caught her on the cheek and she got nervous/excited and quickly moved inside. I spent the next day or so crushed with the thought I might have offended her by being too aggressive or not aggressive enough.
She hasn't had a lot of prior relationships, only two previous boyfriends for short periods.
I haven't officially told her I liked her yet though she's intelligent enough to know. I plan on taking her out to play pool for the third date tonight since I'm comfortable with it and like my vodka's there's plenty of innuendo to be had.
Should I tell her I like her at the pool hall or when I drop her off at her house?
I also planned to go in for the kiss at the front door.
Should these be two separate events or should I rush telling her first?
Should I go with innuendo or skip it and be serious? She's an intellectual but what women doesn't like some sort of gamesmanship? On the other hand innuendo may be too low brow for someone quite intelligent.
She's going to be a Dr. eventually and I've occasionally called her Dr. I haven't decided if this is a good move or not since other people have said it before me and has a formal clinical feel. On the other hand it may show respect or esteem.
I already have things to say mind you, I'm really good at turning words into weapons of various sorts. My timing and read however is off this time.
The biggest problem in this whole situation is that she's also seeing another guy and feeling him out. She's told me she hasn't made up her mind about him but I'm fairly sure they're also on Date 2. Last Friday and Last Night.
What say you GAF?
The problem is that nobody can really read what I feel and so similarly she has a similar trait. I'm intelligent and experienced enough to guess but there's always that grey area of potentially being too aggressive and forward.
We've already had two dates and I somewhat flubbed the goodnight kiss when she suddenly went in for the hug when I was contemplating going for the lips. I caught her on the cheek and she got nervous/excited and quickly moved inside. I spent the next day or so crushed with the thought I might have offended her by being too aggressive or not aggressive enough.
She hasn't had a lot of prior relationships, only two previous boyfriends for short periods.
I haven't officially told her I liked her yet though she's intelligent enough to know. I plan on taking her out to play pool for the third date tonight since I'm comfortable with it and like my vodka's there's plenty of innuendo to be had.
Should I tell her I like her at the pool hall or when I drop her off at her house?
I also planned to go in for the kiss at the front door.
Should these be two separate events or should I rush telling her first?
Should I go with innuendo or skip it and be serious? She's an intellectual but what women doesn't like some sort of gamesmanship? On the other hand innuendo may be too low brow for someone quite intelligent.
She's going to be a Dr. eventually and I've occasionally called her Dr. I haven't decided if this is a good move or not since other people have said it before me and has a formal clinical feel. On the other hand it may show respect or esteem.
I already have things to say mind you, I'm really good at turning words into weapons of various sorts. My timing and read however is off this time.
The biggest problem in this whole situation is that she's also seeing another guy and feeling him out. She's told me she hasn't made up her mind about him but I'm fairly sure they're also on Date 2. Last Friday and Last Night.
What say you GAF?
I say relax about 99% and just see where things go naturally.
We're going to skype again next week. She's going away for a few days so I'll see her when she gets back. I really like her, she's bloody far away though. Why can't they ever just be in the same suburb?
Well bad news guys, something came up so she canceled the date. I'm going to tell her that I understand and reschedule for another time then. At least I'll get to go out with my brother to a party if anything. I look good, so I may as well enjoy the weekend, study, and what not.
EDIT: I replied and told her next weekend if anything to which she said "K." I'm not going to hit her up for the rest of the weekend until Monday.
EDIT: I replied and told her next weekend if anything to which she said "K." I'm not going to hit her up for the rest of the weekend until Monday.
How could you ever plan something like a kiss? I don't even understand your way of reasoning here.
Let her reschedule, and don't contact her on Monday either.
All right, will do.
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Our "date" won't happen until the beginning of November mainly because both of us are busy. But I felt like ever since I asked her out, we've actually been talking even more than before. It's only been 2 days since I asked so maybe I'm just imagining it. I didn't specify what the "date" was, just asked her out for lunch if that makes any difference.
Anyone ever notice these changes after asking someone out?
Anyone ever notice these changes after asking someone out?
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Neither of you will have time for a lunch until 10 days later?
Cow Mengde
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The same time to go out to lunch. Our schedule's off by an hour, and we can't both leave the office with no one there.
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Formerly worldrevolution. The only reason I am nice to anyone else is to avoid being banned.
Oh, well you said mainly because you were busy. So I'm guessing she said the weekends were off limits?
Cow Mengde
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Both her and me are off limits for the weekends unless we postpone it further back. Ironically, it's me that's mostly off limits.
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You stud!
Cow Mengde
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I don't mean off limits in that way. My mom is going back to China for a trip soon and I have to spend Sundays helping her buy stuff and get ready for her trip. We both work on Saturdays too. We had to do some work to allow the both of us to leave the office to even go. So we see each other 6 days a week anyway. Though I guess it's mostly business, but we probably spend more time together these months with each other more than married couples.
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