The Pleasure
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Comedians always have that life advice from their parents. This made me laugh because my friend also told me this.
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Best Advice Parents have given you
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GeekyDad
Gold Member
I wanted to react with the laughing emoji, and it did make me laugh. But it's also true, at least in my experience.
For me, from my mom, she said, "Only listen to Jehovah."
From my father, "Two things you don't talk about outside the family: religion and politics."
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IDKFA
I am Become Bilbo Baggins
Absolutely none. My mum was sick most of my life and wasn't in a position to give advice. My dad was in all honesty, a bit of a shit father. He didn't give me any advice, never told me he was proud of me, didn't take any interest in how I was performing at school, never encouraged me into sports or other social clubs....... really shit.
When I was in my late teens I knew I was on my own, so I retook my exams, got a decent education to degree level and when I became a father, I made sure I was the complete opposite of my own dad.
The best advice I've ever had is from the Bible, and I'm not even religious.
Treat people the way you want to be treated
That's the best advice I've ever received.
When I was in my late teens I knew I was on my own, so I retook my exams, got a decent education to degree level and when I became a father, I made sure I was the complete opposite of my own dad.
The best advice I've ever had is from the Bible, and I'm not even religious.
Treat people the way you want to be treated
That's the best advice I've ever received.
Go_Ly_Dow
Member
My parents were too busy working their asses off for me and my two siblings to really sit down and give us guiding advice. Not a dig at them at all, but more so I think many had this experience growing up.
Probably why the likes of Jordan Peterson are so popular as its one of the first times many are told straight up the realities of the world and what it takes to navigate through it without becoming a nihilistic and cynical shit head riddled with addiction issues.
The best advice my parents did give me was probably an orthodox attitude against bad habits and that saved me from falling into the same traps as my elder cousins - who all have had or continue to have some sort of issue with addiction.
Probably why the likes of Jordan Peterson are so popular as its one of the first times many are told straight up the realities of the world and what it takes to navigate through it without becoming a nihilistic and cynical shit head riddled with addiction issues.
The best advice my parents did give me was probably an orthodox attitude against bad habits and that saved me from falling into the same traps as my elder cousins - who all have had or continue to have some sort of issue with addiction.
BigBooper
Member
How did you survive him assuming your gender at 4?
Ballthyrm
Member
This is not always easy to follow. People have widly different values and might consider rude something you have no conception over.
It only works if your culture or the people you interact with share your culture/values.
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Bombolone
Gold Member
Best 'advice' I got from them was through their actions.
They split when I was young (11yrs old)
Mother was at work, siblings and I basically on our own from then. Father visited every weekend, then every year, then every couple years. Now maybe a phone call every 4 years.
Mother was bad with money and choosing boyfriends (relationships)
Made peace with it, they werent ready to be parents, and even now I can recognize they dont have that 'parental' energy in them.
1. Don't have kids unless you are in some ways ready to have kids.
2. Your primary relationship is to yourself and the 80 or so years you have on this planet. Do exactly what you want to with that time.
They split when I was young (11yrs old)
Mother was at work, siblings and I basically on our own from then. Father visited every weekend, then every year, then every couple years. Now maybe a phone call every 4 years.
Mother was bad with money and choosing boyfriends (relationships)
Made peace with it, they werent ready to be parents, and even now I can recognize they dont have that 'parental' energy in them.
1. Don't have kids unless you are in some ways ready to have kids.
2. Your primary relationship is to yourself and the 80 or so years you have on this planet. Do exactly what you want to with that time.
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jufonuk
not tag worthy
Well a lot of the British/English identity to think ourselves people who support fair play, championing the underdog etc. It’s not cricket and all that type thing. Guess I learnt all that by osmosis.
But some of my countrymen have and do not. Funny how they seem to be the ones in power.
Sorry getting too political here.
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DrAspirino
Banned
I've received a lot of advice from them, but the ones that have stood out the most are:
1.- Treat everyone with the same respect, no matter how poor, rich or how much you dislike them. Treat everyone the way you want to be treated.
2.- Not everyone drives carefully, be always on the lookout because of that.
3.- Don't live beyond your means.
4.- Pick carefully what you want to do with your life, because it is you the one that have to get up every morning at 7 am to do that.
Anyways, I've followed those advices to the letter and they worked.
1.- Treat everyone with the same respect, no matter how poor, rich or how much you dislike them. Treat everyone the way you want to be treated.
2.- Not everyone drives carefully, be always on the lookout because of that.
3.- Don't live beyond your means.
4.- Pick carefully what you want to do with your life, because it is you the one that have to get up every morning at 7 am to do that.
Anyways, I've followed those advices to the letter and they worked.
///PATRIOT
Banned
Saldly there are woke parents doing that right now.
Coolwhhip
Neophyte
Got a rich wife?
p_xavier
Authorized Fister
Unironically, I had a redneck female friend named Bobby Joe (because her dad wanted a son). And as soon as she graduated from HS, she married a rich 70yo ex marine from Texas, he died from a heart attack a year after and got many millions. She then married her HS sweatheart.
Aesius
Member
For me it wasn't so much advice as it was actions. My parents are (well, were in the case of my late father) good people. They always did everything by the book. Just hard-working, honest folk who wanted to create a safe, stable home and spend time with their kids. Now that I have a kid, it blows my mind to look back on my childhood and think of how dedicated they were as parents. I definitely took it for granted and just assumed that everyone's parents were like that.
jufonuk
not tag worthy
You are that sweetheart ?
p_xavier
Authorized Fister
Nope, still single and will probably be for ever.
trickybiff
Member
You can never save too much money.
Ulysses 31
Member
Actions speak louder than words.
Don't take things for granted.
If you promise something, follow through(unless extreme circumstances prevent you).
Don't take things for granted.
If you promise something, follow through(unless extreme circumstances prevent you).
"No job ever actually cares about you, so work in a way that's best for you, if you're unhappy just change jobs."
Wish I accepted that advice sooner, plenty of jobs when I was younger where I'd do a load of overtime, etc, because the company asked but still was fired/let go for dumb reasons.
Wish I accepted that advice sooner, plenty of jobs when I was younger where I'd do a load of overtime, etc, because the company asked but still was fired/let go for dumb reasons.
nush
Member
My dads a great driver and always gave tips while he was driving to his sons, even though at the time we were too young to even learn. One of them was, if you park backwards on a hill put the car in 1st gear.
A lesson my brother did not pay heed to as one time his parked car slipped the handbreak and rolled down a (small) hill and through my neighbors fence.
AlteredForms
Banned
StreetsofBeige
Gold Member
- Go to school
- Get a good job. In the meantime, take any job and look for a better job later
- No smoking or drugs
- "Don't associate with odd people"
- Get a good job. In the meantime, take any job and look for a better job later
- No smoking or drugs
- "Don't associate with odd people"
Tschumi
Member
Few things.. As a career civil servant my dad taught me that politics is elective, and that living in multiple countries for years at a time is valid.
As a strong, inquisitive and nurturing woman my mum taught me that the world is much, much more than any one country.
My dad once said "you're too young to understand this but time really does heal all hurts" when i was a teen, he was right I don't even remember what the hurt was.
When I was like 25 my dad finally helped me understand the difference between "its" and "it's" no joke
As a strong, inquisitive and nurturing woman my mum taught me that the world is much, much more than any one country.
My dad once said "you're too young to understand this but time really does heal all hurts" when i was a teen, he was right I don't even remember what the hurt was.
When I was like 25 my dad finally helped me understand the difference between "its" and "it's" no joke
poppabk
Cheeks Spread for Digital Only Future
And yet you ended up here.
Ownage
Member
Haters gonna hate. The more successful you become, or the more you grow and become more vibrant in your work, the more certain demographics will be threatened by your optimism and success. They'll try to bring you down and will laugh at you when you stumble. This is an indicator that you're doing things correctly. It will also strengthen resilience.
Putting his politics and other antics aside, I always have enjoyed Katt Williams' take on haters:
Putting his politics and other antics aside, I always have enjoyed Katt Williams' take on haters:
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Tschumi
Member
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Can confirm.
StreetsofBeige
Gold Member
When a company memo gets sent to everyone saying someone got promoted, there's 3 responses from the rest of employees:
1. The well wisher who will send a congrats note or call them. And never does behind the back #3 afterwards
2. The who-cares guy who will likely delete the memo in the next 10 seconds and gets back to work (me)
3. The whiner who cant wait to gossip and talk trash that person doesn't deserve it
One thing you will almost always notice (keep track of this for the future). The #3 person will almost always be someone in low level job slogging it at the same role for 12 years with no ambition to do anything better.
haxan7
Banned
I could never get him to stick around in meta very long so I think he didn’tWell you done fucked that last one right up, didntcha
Tschumi
Member
Phew sweet burn
marcusessmith84
Neo Member
My grandmother raised me and told me many instructive stories. Most of all I remember her advice that one should not be greedy and should share with others.
Spaceman292
Banned
I got the same piece of advice from my mum. Probably saved my life, at least my car. In general, don't assume the worst of people, unless they're driving.
When I was a teen my mom told me. "Don't get married until you're 30." and "Don't get a random woman pregnant"
Guess she was speaking from experience. Jokes on her, though. I don't believe in modern marriage and the contents of my pene ain't going near any woman. Still keep my sexuality to myself.
My father never gave me advice cause he chose to NOT be my dad, but considering my moms advice and who I learn him to be, I guess it's for the best.
Guess she was speaking from experience. Jokes on her, though. I don't believe in modern marriage and the contents of my pene ain't going near any woman. Still keep my sexuality to myself.
My father never gave me advice cause he chose to NOT be my dad, but considering my moms advice and who I learn him to be, I guess it's for the best.
Coolwhhip
Neophyte
It's ok. My older brother has unintentionally provided her with a grandchild.When you're a 40 year old virgin.
Your mother:
DetectiveBananas
Member
Actually, learned a lot from just witnessing their lives implode from making bad decision after bad decision. By the time i hit adulthood, I was pretty well rounded and knew what to avoid….Oh, and my Father threw out this gem “Son, Don’t ever have a threesome when your married! It’s the fast track to divorce!” (He was on 2nd marriage at that point)….Thanks Pop 
Punished Miku
Banned
"Having kids ruined my life."
- My Dad 1980s
- My Dad 1980s
Vagswarm
Member
Unfortunately, nothing at all. Had to look outside for answers, and anyone who's been in that position knows how that turns out. Might as well just paint an X on your back and scream "Come at me!" for 10 hours a day. Even worse was the lifestyle I got caught up in, thinking it was all good fun and everyone had each other's backs and was straight as an arrow. lol. Things are so much different now, it's like that person I once was never even existed.
Fortunately, Doctor Google has been a lifesaver and provided all the advice / help / guidance I could ever need, albeit much later on in life. Really helps with your peace of mind when you understand what happened and how things are. Didn't even know what gaslighting was for the longest time.
Without being negative or dwelling, I especially found this information very helpful:
hackspirit.com
ideapod.com
toxicties.com
hackspirit.com
There's a whole lot more... some nasty people out there.
Fortunately, Doctor Google has been a lifesaver and provided all the advice / help / guidance I could ever need, albeit much later on in life. Really helps with your peace of mind when you understand what happened and how things are. Didn't even know what gaslighting was for the longest time.
Without being negative or dwelling, I especially found this information very helpful:
Toxic people: 10 things they do and how to deal with them
Nothing ruins a perfectly good day faster than someone who is dripping with negativity and toxicity. Toxic people are everywhere, and the worst part is, most of them don’t even realize they are the problem. Most people think that everyone else is the problem when it comes to negativity.
hackspirit.com
9 things toxic people always do (and what to do about it)
Here is a list of examples of toxic behavior some people use to manipulate others to their own advantage and how to minimize damage to yourself.
ideapod.com
Never Do These 13 Things When You're Around Toxic People
If you can't cut toxic people out of your life, learn to deal with them. Here are 13 things you should never EVER do when you're around someone toxic.
toxicties.com
15 signs they're a secret hater (and not a true friend)
“Your biggest hater could be your closest friend. People pretend well.” – Dr. Farrah Gray Sadly, the pals that you hold dear may be your biggest doubter. How they do […] More
hackspirit.com
There's a whole lot more... some nasty people out there.
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