Best game to show a first date?

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I'm actually having a similar problem that the OP is having, except I met this girl in real life and she is an actual gamer. She plays Skyrim, Metal Gear, Minecraft, Pokemon, Fire Emblem, etc. She has a Wii, 3DS, Xbox and PC. I want to find a game we can bond over to get to know each other before trying to drop the relationship bomb. Some of the suggestions I've read are good for if she was a gamer and I'll probably try one or two out myself.

For you however, DO NOT SHOW HER THE GAME COLLECTION. If she finds it on her own, that's fine. Show her and see if anything peaks her interest. Don't openly bring her to the collection.
 
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While I have her there, it´s probably the perfect opportunity to show her how far gaming has come since Super Mario World.
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Yea man don't miss this perfect opportunity to show her super mario, maybe you will get lucky and she might even do some mario cart coop with you!
 
As many people have said, don't show her your games on a first date. It's too risky because

(1) you don't know if she actually is a "gamer" (I know lots of people who played Mario back in the day and a bit candy crush or clash of clans now that wouldn't be caught dead with the gamer label);

(2) even if she is a gamer and willing to game on the first date, you don't know her tastes well enough yet to pick a game to show off how far the medium has come. For you it might be something like the last of us, for her journey or even 3d world. Hell for her candy crush might be that game! Choose wrong and you might just end up boring her to tears or worse condescending her in the nerdiest way imaginable;

(3) lastly, and most importantly, even if she is a gamer, that still doesn't mean she wants to see your games or particularly cares "how far the medium's come." In fact, if this girl is into you and hopes you're into her in more than just a platonic way, busting out a video game on the first date might send the wrong signal.

All that's not to say that you should hide who you are. I've always been up front about my interests with women. But I usually wait until they express an interest ("Wow, is this the new Mario Kart? I used to play the one on 64 growing up!") or they've demonstrated to me that they're the kind of person who's really willing to give them a shot before inviting them to play with me. Oh, which reminds me:

(4) if and when the time comes, please don't sit your date down and play a game like the last of us in front of her. It's not even just the violence aspect of it. There's nothing romantic about sitting there watching someone you don't really know play a video game. It's not like a movie where you're both sharing the exact same experience. She might feel awkward or unable to talk to you while you do battle with fungus-zombies.

Date experiences should be shared experiences. For example, my girl and I play shovel knight together, taking turns, laughing our asses when we die, and talking the whole time. It's awesome =) But I sure as shit didn't lead with that when I met her!

Good luck on your date op!
 
Don't show her a game. My fiancé and I didn't start gaming until about a year into dating, and that was Lego Harry Potter, and she's played a bunch of N64 games.
 
Geez, suggestions go straight to sex on the first date lol. Maybe she actually just wants to see your puppy. Ya know, 'cause puppies are cute and it's not uncommon that women like cute things :p. Save that for a later date, man. It'll be special when you've grown closer.

I agree that playing games shouldn't be on your agenda though. Make sure the focus is on yourselves, not something else.

And most importantly, enjoy :)
 
Come on OP, I'm like the dumiest guy on the dating department and even I know it's not the greatest idea, you have already a topic of conversation with your doge, be cool and say something like "hey, maybe we could go this weekend to the park to play with my puppy" and get another date, even you could use the Nintendogs excuse and ask her if you could go to her place with the game and the puppy.
 
Darklord said:
Wait, so you have a date set up with plans to go back to your apartment and...you want to show her video games?

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THIS.
 
Mr. RPG said:
I think that everyone here is indicating that just because she's a woman, she wants to get laid and isn't interested in doing anything else. lol
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I think you are missing the point by a mile.

First thing first, yes, people want to get laid and ultimately that's precisely why they date. Both men and women.

Beside that, it's not about "hurr durr she's in your home you two should totally fuck".
Even drinking something together, kissing her on her cheek and sending her home at 9 p.m. would be a better idea of a first date than "taking the chance to prove her how far gaming has come".
 
TucoBenedictoPacifico said:
Beside that, it's not about "hurr durr she's in your home you two should totally fuck".
Even drinking something together, kissing her on her cheek and sending her home at 9 p.m. would be a better idea of a first date than "taking the chance to prove her how far gaming has come".
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I wouldn't necessarily agree with that. It's all about having a conversation piece - he can show her briefly how much games have evolved since she last played, which brings up several possible topics (the rate of technological advancement, home entertainment, etc.). It would be equivalent to showing her the Oculus Rift - it's a new experience for her that provides the two of them with something to do and talk about. It also avoids any possible awkward silence that may occur after she's seen the puppy and they aren't sure what to do next.

Now this is only valid if she is legitimately interested in video games. Otherwise, he's just going to bore her to death.
 
maxcriden said:
First time my now-wife came to see my dorm room in 2006, she saw stacks of comic books. 0__o

I think that's much nerdier than video games. She was even willing to read some comics when I was still into them a few years back. Sometimes you just gotta let your freak flag fly. We'd already been spending a lot of time talking to each other, though, and had met once before.
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Yeah but see the thing is, you didn't show your stack of comic books on purpose. It's just that like you said, she saw it and then expressed her interest in it. That's different than trying to convince somebody that such thing (in this case, video games) is really great and wanting to make a point of "look how far we have come since the Super Mario World days!".

I have lots of weird or nerdy interests but I wouldn't try to let someone "come into my world" on the very first date. I need more time. But that's just me.

though I'm pretty sure this thread is a troll one, judging by some parts in the OP and the fact that he just never came back after posting it
 
Always hide your power level at first. Always.

Doesn't matter if it's games, music, literature, model trains, your current research into molecular biology or whatever. I know you're enthusiastic over whatever hobby you have, and I know you want the person you like to be like 'Wow! I love what you love, your tastes are incredible and you are really super cool because of the things you like!' but life isn't like that. You'll come across as a one-dimensional blowhard, desperate to impress.

If she mentions something you like, then you feel out how much interest she has in it. If you're both totally into non-fiction science books or warp records or whatever then go wild talking about that all night. If it's games, go for it. But unless you're sure then hang back a bit. In this case it does NOT sound like this girl is into video games like that.

When you've been dating for a while your interests will naturally come up a bit, and THAT'S the time when what you like might rub off on her and vice versa. But when you've just met each other is not the time. It won't go like you think it'll go.
 
I don't know if I should say this thread is weird or dumb, or both. OP, play something like Mario 3D World, it's a game you can play together, everyone's into Mario. Also, smh at all the people saying "gaming is too weird for a first date", while watching a movie is normal first date stuff.
 
Grizzo said:
Yeah but see the thing is, you didn't show your stack of comic books on purpose. It's just that like you said, she saw it and then expressed her interest in it. That's different than trying to convince somebody that such thing (in this case, video games) is really great and wanting to make a point of "look how far we have come since the Super Mario World days!".

I have lots of weird or nerdy interests but I wouldn't try to let someone "come into my world" on the very first date. I need more time. But that's just me.

though I'm pretty sure this thread is a troll one, judging by some parts in the OP and the fact that he just never came back after posting it
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That's true. I just don't want people to think they need to be hiding their interests from their date. But I understand that's my own tangent and not necessarily what the OP was indicating (if it's not in fact a troll thread).
 
Don't. For the love of your penis OP, don't. She is as much of a gamer as my mother is. In fact, HIDE your game collection, and only have 3 games vvisible. Make them the filthy casual games. Also, please do not buy that Wii u just for her. If you want it, then go ahead, but if you're doing this just for your date, you're making a huge mistake.
 
Based Calla said:
I'm actually having a similar problem that the OP is having, except I met this girl in real life and she is an actual gamer. She plays Skyrim, Metal Gear, Minecraft, Pokemon, Fire Emblem, etc. She has a Wii, 3DS, Xbox and PC. I want to find a game we can bond over to get to know each other before trying to drop the relationship bomb. Some of the suggestions I've read are good for if she was a gamer and I'll probably try one or two out myself.

For you however, DO NOT SHOW HER THE GAME COLLECTION. If she finds it on her own, that's fine. Show her and see if anything peaks her interest. Don't openly bring her to the collection.
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For you it sounds like she's legitimately into a wide variety of games so you shouldn't have too much of a problem. Any game with coop would really be ok, but Portal 2 would be fun. If puzzles are too much pressure stick with Nintendo platformers (they're a safe bet even for non-gamers). You could always join her in Minecraft. Really just pick a game you want to play that happens to have coop. I'm sure Destiny would be great if she's at all into shooters - can't really tell from the games you listed.


Oh and if OP isn't joking, the girl almost certainly legitimately wants to see the puppy (who wouldn't?). She may or may not be expecting sex though - be prepared for either.
 
Lmao. This thread reminds me of a penny arcade thread where some guy went on about getting laid to Yoshi's Story or some bullshit like that. Then people started debating whether getting laid with that videogame idling in the background was the best decision for him or not. "He can get laid to whatever videogame he wants, man."

Seriously just get a fighting game or whatever that will make her want to hit or wrestle with you.
 
This thread had it all. Insane premise. Iwata dungeon pic. WWE gifs. Vita stroking gif. 10/10 A+++ thread would read again.
 
I'm with others, she really doesn't seem like she's into games, just the casual time wasters everyone and their mom mess with. I've known girls that absolutely love Words With Friends and Angry Birds but they couldn't care less about actual video games. My older brother loves the Simpson's tap game but hasn't played a console game in years and doesn't care to.

What you could do since you're going to be back at your place, maybe try watching something on Netflix via your console. That puts the option of games right there in the open and she can either bring it up if she's actually interested or if she doesn't mention anything about video games, it probably means she isn't interested and saves you from looking like you just care about video games.

Honestly, the only reason I would show a girl a video game on the first date is if I met her at GameStop or she very vocally voiced her enthusiasm towards them (and even then I likely wouldn't unless she mentioned she wanted to see some). Mentioning she's killed time with mobile games doesn't mean much.
 
I'd be more worried about dating a girl who didn't like video games, unless you don't care about getting much gaming in if stuff got more serious.
Gotta find a girl who enjoys or at least doesn't mind your main hobbies. One that would be ok with playing games with you, or even just watching you play.

You could try playing a game like Puzzle Fighter together on PS3, or co-op in a Mario game on Wii U. Anything that could bring out some laughs together.
 
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