Best game to show a first date?

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Based Calla said:
I'm actually having a similar problem that the OP is having, except I met this girl in real life and she is an actual gamer. She plays Skyrim, Metal Gear, Minecraft, Pokemon, Fire Emblem, etc. She has a Wii, 3DS, Xbox and PC. I want to find a game we can bond over to get to know each other before trying to drop the relationship bomb. Some of the suggestions I've read are good for if she was a gamer and I'll probably try one or two out myself.

For you however, DO NOT SHOW HER THE GAME COLLECTION. If she finds it on her own, that's fine. Show her and see if anything peaks her interest. Don't openly bring her to the collection.
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lol, brutal.

You don't have a problem. As a poster before me said, go with Portal 2.
 
freethoughtbubble said:
As many people have said, don't show her your games on a first date. It's too risky because

(1) you don't know if she actually is a "gamer" (I know lots of people who played Mario back in the day and a bit candy crush or clash of clans now that wouldn't be caught dead with the gamer label);

(2) even if she is a gamer and willing to game on the first date, you don't know her tastes well enough yet to pick a game to show off how far the medium has come. For you it might be something like the last of us, for her journey or even 3d world. Hell for her candy crush might be that game! Choose wrong and you might just end up boring her to tears or worse condescending her in the nerdiest way imaginable;

(3) lastly, and most importantly, even if she is a gamer, that still doesn't mean she wants to see your games or particularly cares "how far the medium's come." In fact, if this girl is into you and hopes you're into her in more than just a platonic way, busting out a video game on the first date might send the wrong signal.

All that's not to say that you should hide who you are. I've always been up front about my interests with women. But I usually wait until they express an interest ("Wow, is this the new Mario Kart? I used to play the one on 64 growing up!") or they've demonstrated to me that they're the kind of person who's really willing to give them a shot before inviting them to play with me. Oh, which reminds me:

(4) if and when the time comes, please don't sit your date down and play a game like the last of us in front of her. It's not even just the violence aspect of it. There's nothing romantic about sitting there watching someone you don't really know play a video game. It's not like a movie where you're both sharing the exact same experience. She might feel awkward or unable to talk to you while you do battle with fungus-zombies.

Date experiences should be shared experiences. For example, my girl and I play shovel knight together, taking turns, laughing our asses when we die, and talking the whole time. It's awesome =) But I sure as shit didn't lead with that when I met her!

Good luck on your date op!
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Solid post.
 
I've never been on a date or anything (>_>), but if you're going to take her back to your apartment and go back to your apartment but not have sex I've always thought that a better idea would be to turn on Netflix or or something.
 
Well, if you're going to show her your puppy then it's more than fair for her to show you her puppies too. Avoid the video games :p
 
It's weird how so many people think he's going to get laid just because she comes over.

You gotta wonder how many people you've dated to come up with that idea.
 
Sketchbag said:
It's weird how so many people think he's going to get laid just because she comes over.

You gotta wonder how many people you've dated to come up with that idea.
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That was my thought. This time should be spent getting to know each other, not just getting naked. I mean, unless that's what you're after.
 
Buy one of those fake barbells with huge weights on them that look like they weigh 400 pounds but are really like 5 pounds. Leave it near the couch. When she comes in, say "Oh sorry. Let me move this out of the way." Then pick it up with one hand and put it somewhere else.
 
Sketchbag said:
It's weird how so many people think he's going to get laid just because she comes over.

You gotta wonder how many people you've dated to come up with that idea.
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I've dated my fair share and if she's already figured out a way to get into his apartment then yes there's a very good possibility she has some plans.
Until he tries to make her play Infamous or something.

The only time I ever showed a girl a game on the first date was when she saw me reading the Silent Hill 4 instruction book while I was working my desk shift and asked me if I could show it to her later.

You'll have plenty to talk about on your first date without trying to educate her on the nuances of the modern videogame industry.
 
OP there's a huge difference between wanting a significant other to know you enjoy games and want them to enjoy them too and forcing games onto them.

I'm huge into gaming, but when I first went out with my now-girlfriend of a year (that I also met on OKC) we did coffee, then decided on a dinner date, and over the course of these proper dates we discusses each other and our likes and dislikes. Gaming came up and I just merely said that gaming is a big part of my life, I plan on doing it going forward, but I also enjoy getting out and doing things as well.

This helped so that the first time she came to my place she wasn't shocked that I had multiple consoles and games in my movie case, and some random gaming items around (within reason). We are both comfortable with it and she likes to watch me play to see some of the game stories (LoU, etc).

So, basically, do some standard dates, get to know each other, and just note you like games when you're chatting and maybe somewhere down the road if she likes you enough she'll join in, or at least acknowledge that you plan to keep playing and make peace with it.

On the first date don't jump games onto her, just let stuff like that come naturally.
 
SneakyStephan said:
Nonsense, gaf has no brakes, gaf doesn't stop (until a mod locks the thread)
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Sketchbag said:
It's weird how so many people think he's going to get laid just because she comes over.

You gotta wonder how many people you've dated to come up with that idea.
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She wants to get drinks, then go to the home of a guy she's never met in real life.
There's a high probability she's interested in sex on the first date assuming he's not a weirdo.

I wouldn't ask a girl over on the first date unless I wanted to get straight to sex.
There are plenty of other activities OP and potential date could be doing if they wanted a serious relationship and not just a hook up.
 
maxcriden said:
BTW, has anyone made the joke yet that LMAO sorry I'm cracking myself up here, has anyone made the joke yet though that what this girl really wants his to see HIS joystick or Hahahah Play with *his* Wii????
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You broke out into laughter mid-sentence... in text... That's a first...
 
Seems like a trainwreck in the making, hopefully a not-so-serious post by the OP, subscribed in the extremely off-chance that we get an update after the date. :)

In case serious: please don't show her your game collection or any "collection" for that matter. First dates are about talking, interacting, and getting to know the other person.
 
Dude. I hide the fact that I play games like it's fucking a Klan membership. Playing mobile games does not necessarily a gamer make.

The woman I'm seeing now plays Candy Crush and the only reason I've ever mentioned "Destiny" is she asks me over text what I'm always doing with my brother online when I'm not talking to her.

Don't fucking talk about this shit. Yeah, yeah. Twenty first century, huge industry, stigma dying, blah blah blah.

Save yourself the trouble.
 
If you show her a game, there will be no sexytimes.

No way to go from goombas and jumping and coins to fluids and fun.
 
Horseticuffs said:
Dude. I hide the fact that I play games like it's fucking a Klan membership. Playing mobile games does not necessarily a gamer make.

The woman I'm seeing now plays Candy Crush and the only reason I've ever mentioned "Destiny" is she asks me over text what I'm always doing with my brother online when I'm not talking to her.

Don't fucking talk about this shit. Yeah, yeah. Twenty first century, huge industry, stigma dying, blah blah blah.

Save yourself the trouble.
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That is some what sad that you hide that you play games.
 
it's a first date too man, like, they'll be plenty of time to show her all the things you like in the future if you guys hit it off. i'm not sure that's the impression you want to give her... straight to the apartment after dinner, shower her in videogames?
 
My wife doesn't really like or play video games but she likes Little Big Planet and Minecraft. When we were dating I think we only played LBP co-op once or twice though (we dated for ~2 years). I wouldn't personally make a date out of playing video games lol. (Except my wife loves playing Minecraft co-op with me so we do that sometimes for a date night)
 
Is this real life?

Don't do this man, don't do this.
She plays Candy Crush Saga and Words with Friends on her iPhone, and she said she liked Super Mario World back in the day, so it looks like she´s kind of a gamer.
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wtf?
 
It's the first date. Don't play video games unless she asks. Drink and talk. They'll be plenty of time to introduce her to games if things take off.
 
Dude just don't. A date is an opportunity to get to know someone, not selling them on your hobby. Laughing my ass off at you wanting to play a cinematic game like Last Of Us for her.
 
Spruchy said:
I think you're mistaken.
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I'd agree. Don't go down that route unless she shows IMMENSE interest. She may even ask about games just to be nice if she notices that it's something that matters a lot to you based on what your apartment looks like.

Even then, tread lightly.

If you are convinced to do this, show her something like a trivia game or Wii Sports or something that is social in nature. Maybe even Mario Party. If she's very receptive to that then maybe some adventure stuff like Walking Dead. I wouldnt spend a lot of time on it though.
 
Play the game: Don't show a first date a video game: The Game. It can sometimes get a little boring and you have choose all the right dialog choice to get the good ending but it's totally worth it.

I wouldn't show a game to a first date. Maybe after a while but never a first date. My wife games more than I do, but she told me if she knew I was as hardcore into gaming as I am she would have probably been initially turned off. She doesn't care obviously now, but who knows what would have happened had she thought I was some crazy gaming junkie.
 
Horseticuffs said:
Dude. I hide the fact that I play games like it's fucking a Klan membership. Playing mobile games does not necessarily a gamer make.

The woman I'm seeing now plays Candy Crush and the only reason I've ever mentioned "Destiny" is she asks me over text what I'm always doing with my brother online when I'm not talking to her.

Don't fucking talk about this shit. Yeah, yeah. Twenty first century, huge industry, stigma dying, blah blah blah.

Save yourself the trouble.
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lol
 
Hey baby, how about after we meet at the bar we head back to my place so I can show you how far Mario games have come along?

By the way, can you pay for drinks? Apparently this place doesn't except Nintendo Club rewards. Which reminds me, I have enough points for a Zelda 3DS demo, so I can also show you how Link has changed over the years!

What's that? You just remembered you had a dental appointment? Oh wow, I didn't realize your office stayed open so late. So maybe a raincheck?.....hello?....are you still there? Hello? Helloooooooo?
 
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