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[Mecha_Infantry]

she may be busy/shit at texting but i'd generally interpret responses that take over a day to show that shes not really that interested.

Which is fine. But maybe I'm old school in thinking that it'll be more simpler and truthful saying so!? Like I say, not gonna think of it too much. Just a tad annoying

I wouldn't send her a single text back even if she does reply back eventually. This whole excuse of "I'm busy" is starting to become really stale. In an age where we have instant communication 24-7 with cell phones and internet it's very easy to determine your worth to someone.

In this facebook era I feel like everyone wants to appear as the busy person. Constantly posting bull shit on their wall about how busy work is and how many plans they have for the weekend. A lot of time they're cryptic metaphors so they can sucker people into replying to their status.

I've noticed some friends who will not reply back to my text/email, but yet continue to post stuff on facebook. I don't get upset about it, but I now know where I stand with them. Then if they every come calling me I'll treat them the way they treated me.

You can't instantly move a girl you just met up to top tier. They have to start at the bottom and work their way up.

Ha yeah I know what you're saying. But that's the way it is nowadays! Just going to concentrate on someone who is decently interested and became be bothered to communicate!

 

[Mully]

Maybe you just give off that "stable, relationship kind if guy" vibe. It's cool brah...

I guess this is true. I hate that vibe right now. I just want to enjoy my time being single and literally every girl that I have hooked up with has told me that want to "see where this goes" or "want to stop being single for a while." I just want some pure fun and they want to ruin it all.

Spoiler

Last sentence was sarcastic

So, how do I not give off the stable relationship kind of guy while still getting the girls that I'm interested in? When I approach a girl, I study them for a good 5-10 minutes to pick up on a few things. What they're drinking, if they're actually having fun, if they're in deep thought or distracted. I'm good at reading people rather quickly so naturally I use this to have girls let their guard down pretty fast. However, it seems like each time I successfully use this tactic, the girl gets really into me really quickly.

I know it sounds like a stealth brag, but really I just want to enjoy my time, and it seems like my game is impeding me from just having casual experiences with a girl.

 

[TheSchwab_7]

OKcupid?

Nah, this girl I met last night at a party. Holy shit I forgot how terrible condoms were. Had whiskey dick last night, but things were good this morning

And she laughs at my lame jokes, likes Avatar as much as I do, and knows how to give a good message since she's going to school for it.

Hopefully I don't have to wait another 6 months to get laid.

 

[Sarye]

I guess this is true. I hate that vibe right now. I just want to enjoy my time being single and literally every girl that I have hooked up with has told me that want to "see where this goes" or "want to stop being single for a while." I just want some pure fun and they want to ruin it all.

Spoiler

Last sentence was sarcastic

So, how do I not give off the stable relationship kind of guy while still getting the girls that I'm interested in? When I approach a girl, I study them for a good 5-10 minutes to pick up on a few things. What they're drinking, if they're actually having fun, if they're in deep thought or distracted. I'm good at reading people rather quickly so naturally I use this to have girls let their guard down pretty fast. However, it seems like each time I successfully use this tactic, the girl gets really into me really quickly.

I know it sounds like a stealth brag, but really I just want to enjoy my time, and it seems like my game is impeding me from just having casual experiences with a girl.

Forgive me for being presumptuous but I think it's less about you and more that the majority of women just doesn't want to hook up. If that's not your prerogative then just be clear with them or reiterate when they say something like that. I know of some women who will try just "hooking up" but secretly hoped for a relationship.

Just tell them, "sorry you knew what this was" and move on.

(not completely serious on the last line)

 

[Izick]

I posed most of this somewhere else on here, but I wanted to post it here:

On a semi-related note, recently I was injured, and thought it was something worse than it turned out to me, nothing life threatening or terribly debilitating I guess, but still really terrible in my eyes, anyway after feeling terrible for the last week, mentally along with physical discomfort, I realized that you really do have to take advantage of every day. Being a healthy, young person is a...I don't know, I'm not religious at all, but I guess blessing is an appropriate word. So stuff like this is just reinforcing my new look on life.

I'm going and try to seize the day and all that jazz, and when I say that, I don't mean trying to go out and party every night, or whatever, but just start small, just by being nicer to others around me, try and have a nicer disposition on things. Then from that, try and just do everything with a vigor and more enthusiasm. It sounds really corny I guess, but it's just been really...um, real to me over the past week. Something really negative turned out to be something not bad at all, and I learned something from it.

Okay, with that being said I learned something else from this experience. I kept thinking that I had injured myself far worse than what it actually ended up being. I kept thinking about the worst possible option, kept thinking it was it, and could only think negatively. Even after my doctor told me it was only a pulled muscle, I still doubted him after because he didn't give me a certain test. (He said there was no need to do it at all, because there were no signs of what I thought it was.) Anyways, after all this happened, another revelation occurred to me. I realized that my mind almost automatically jumped to the worst possible outcome, and it wouldn't even accept that it might be something not that bad. Then I remembered all the stuff that Atty said about having a positive attitude. It was then and there that I realized that he was right all along. My mindset has been keeping me down. I've been doing this to myself, and it took me until now to figure it out fully. Not only about relationships, but maybe everything. I've always thought "yeah, I want to do that, but I'm not good looking enough, or physically muscled enough" for dating, or for what I've always dreamed of doing for a job. Instead of thinking "she just looked at me cause I glanced her way" I'm going to think "maybe she's interested." Little stuff like that; small steps at first.

So what I'm saying is that my mindset completely changed, and all the things said started to click in my mind. I feel like a new guy. I was really down in the dumps, I mean really down for the past week due to this injury, but after all this, I'm changing my mindset and not taking shit for granted anymore.

 

[LosDaddie]

Guys, it's entirely possible that these girls are actually busy, and forget/put off replying to texts until later. It does happen. Now days without replying, yeah, that mean she's not interested.

Pick up your phone and say this words to her:

"Sup X girl! Loved meeting you last time, want to go get some ice cream?"

She'll say yes

Don't do coffee. I've learned it's cheap and you can't escalate kino (body language) as easily as Ice Cream

You should start posting in here again. SEriously.

 

[Lone_Prodigy]

Does anyone else here have no troubles getting girls to reply back or go out on first dates, but run into issues moving those dates to second or third?

I feel that I'm far better than the average OKCer at getting girls to talk or meet up with me, but I run into trouble when I want to keep that going beyond a first date.

It could be for a variety of reasons. Maybe your expectations are different. Maybe the impression your profile, picture, and texts give off differ from your in-person characteristics.

Or maybe there's just no chemistry, which you can't help.

 

[Blue Ninja]

Remember how my girlfriend of six months broke up with me a month and a half ago?

She now has a new boyfriend. What the fuck.

 

[Count Dookkake]

Remember how my girlfriend of six months broke up with me a month and a half ago?

She now has a new boyfriend. What the fuck.

This should not concern you.

 

[Blue Ninja]

This should not concern you.

But it does.

 

[Etrian Oddity]

I guess this is true. I hate that vibe right now. I just want to enjoy my time being single and literally every girl that I have hooked up with has told me that want to "see where this goes" or "want to stop being single for a while." I just want some pure fun and they want to ruin it all.

Spoiler

Last sentence was sarcastic

So, how do I not give off the stable relationship kind of guy while still getting the girls that I'm interested in? When I approach a girl, I study them for a good 5-10 minutes to pick up on a few things. What they're drinking, if they're actually having fun, if they're in deep thought or distracted. I'm good at reading people rather quickly so naturally I use this to have girls let their guard down pretty fast. However, it seems like each time I successfully use this tactic, the girl gets really into me really quickly.

I know it sounds like a stealth brag, but really I just want to enjoy my time, and it seems like my game is impeding me from just having casual experiences with a girl.

It's an extremely big stealth brag. I haven't met a single girl here who wants to have a real boyfriend or do anything but hook up (and guess who is seen as "too stable/boring/RL material/not exciting enough to fuck?"). I'd kill to be in your situation right now.

Spoiler

Ass. :\ jk.... but not rly

 

[Count Dookkake]

But it does.

Don't let it, though.

By dwelling on it, you are making yourself weak.

Go out and have fun.

 

[VASPER]

I really don't understand some chicks sometimes

Went on a date with a lady, everything was cool, she even walked me to the train station when I said she didn't have to...She said she liked the whole date, etc

So a little while later we txting, and she said "she's so glad to have met me after all that time", then I said "yeah, we shouldn't leave it too long to meet each other again" and she replied "i absolutely agree "

So blam, I'm thinking OK she's on one...but that's about it. I text her and she'll reply like a hours and hours later lol. I asked her yesterday how her plans are for the weekend, she said busy but wanted to know what my calendar looked like- I said busy, but can be free if you wanted to hook up again

Then blam part 2..nothing in response. That was yesterday evening, so I dunno. Not heard much, not gonna hold my breath. It was only one date, but wouldn't it have been easier just to say you aren't interested anymore?!

Yes i feel ya, a girl and i got really close and now she hasn't text me anything in 5 days. Says she's busy with school, I'm sorry if you don't have 30 seconds to reply to a text then you simply don't care that much IMO.

 

[Sub_Level]

Final followup on a couple of posts I made a few weeks ago. Not gonna quote them, post will be too long...

For the last 3 years or so I had a really good friend. She knew I was interested, but she was the first girl I had any real contact with, so during college she had a couple of other boyfriends and I was friendzoned pretty quickly. She was a really good friend, she would always offer to pay, she never ignored my calls or texts, and she would never talk to me about her emotional problems or boyfriends like I was her counselor. At the time, I was kind of an ass and I kept pushing the relationship, and eventually I just stopped talking to her for a good 8 months or so. Felt pretty lonely one night so I emailed her and asked how she was doing, she said she was glad to hear from me and that she had been thinking of me. Her dad had passed away last summer, so she wasn’t feeling so well and I was lonely, so we decided to start hanging out again.

This time it was a little different, I was a little better with girls and we started snuggling and made out a couple of times. A real high school puppy love kind of thing. Over the last few weeks she started becoming more distant and the situation was completely reminiscent of the friendzone before. She wouldn’t squeeze my hands or let me cup her like a spoon when snuggling and definitely not kiss her. She said she was emotionally numb because of her dad and that she didn’t see me as anything other than a friend anyway. I tried to keep it going for a few weeks and we still had good times as friends (I didn't get all flustered or be an ass like I did last time when I kept getting rejected advances) but I'd always leave disappointed. I didn’t want a friend, I wanted a girlfriend, especially her.

After we hung out a couple nights ago I dropped her off, didn’t even give her a hug (she didn't go for one either which was very irregular), and when I got back to my house I gave her a call and basically told her I wouldn’t contact her again unless I just wanted to be friends and that she shouldn’t contact me until she wanted to hook up. I asked her if there was even a chance she would do the latter and she said she didn’t know, but to not be mean and give me false hope, that the answer was no. I then told her that the chances of me just wanting to only be friends was as low as her wanting to hook up. I told her that it always hurt hanging out with her and having what I really wanted so close to me yet so far. It was sad, we both really like each other, but I really needed the physical affection. I wasn’t sobbing but my voice was clearly cracking during the call, she was very understanding during the conversation but still a bit sad. She didn't get why we couldn't just be friends.

I wasn’t belligerent during the phone call, I wasn’t trying to make her feel guilty or criticize her. I told her that I didn’t blame her for anything and that if I could go back in time when she wasn’t feeling bad about her dad and I wasn’t so bad with girls maybe it could’ve worked out better, but she said I was fine the way I was and that I didn’t make any mistakes and that it was just chemistry so it probably still would not have happened.

She told me she loved me, just not in the same way. She said I was a really great friend to her, but that she wouldn't call or text me to hang out either so I wouldn't suffer. I told her it would really be hard to get over her and that she was the one I wanted (she started to cry a little at this point). We both agreed that the situation fucking sucked. I told her it was really nice knowing her. And then we said goodbye to each other and I hung up the phone and just sat in my car crying for a few minutes.

I’ve been keeping really busy since the phone call. I’m pretty goddamn sad, we got really close (even just as friends) these past few months, but I'm not "emotionally devastated" by this, and I'm even a little happy I can move on. Went bar hopping last night, have good friends, got a nice semester of school going on. I even have a couple of girl prospects lined up at the moment. I feel stronger as a person and have more control in my life than I ever did in the last few years. But I’ve never had to make a choice like this, to just end something and go in a one way direction. I really want nothing but the absolute best for her and I hope she finds happiness, I just couldn’t be around her anymore, I was too emotionally invested to just have her as a friend. I like to think that in another parallel universe things went differently and she and I are together and happy.

Maybe in a year or two I'll shoot her an email to see how she's doing out of curiosity (as opposed to loneliness), but basically it's all over. In the end I didn't get what I wanted but I'm really happy that she was a part of my life.

 

[electricshake]

Yes i feel ya, a girl and i got really close and now she hasn't text me anything in 5 days. Says she's busy with school, I'm sorry if you don't have 30 seconds to reply to a text then you simply don't care that much IMO.

We girls have to play it cool too ya know? I've been on a couple of dates with a guy and I think I really like him, but trying to not seem too keen is really fucking hard! Some serious amount of restraint is required.

 

[VASPER]

NM

 

[Hylian7]

We girls have to play it cool too ya know? I've been on a couple of dates with a guy and I think I really like him, but trying to not seem too keen is really fucking hard! Some serious amount of restraint is required.

This makes me feel slightly better about my current situation actually.

 

[Log4Girlz]

Remember how my girlfriend of six months broke up with me a month and a half ago?

She now has a new boyfriend. What the fuck.

Girls always have a back up man. They can sling new dick almost instantly. A month and a half isn't bad at all.

 

[Hylian7]

Girls always have a back up man. They can sling new dick almost instantly. A month and a half isn't bad at all.

Try her being with a new guy within two weeks. And we were in a 5.5 year relationship. And she was engaged to the new guy within a month.

Spoiler

Don't worry, I didn't take it badly when I found about the getting engaged. Instead, my friends and I all had a good laugh about it.

Even funnier, the other day, a mutual friend of my ex and I told my friend (keep in mind this mutual friend was all gung-ho in the religious organization) that apparently my ex was complaining that none of her friends really talk to her anymore. She also commented that the whole situation of the way she handled dumping me and running off with the new guy so quickly was quite fucked up.

I guess I really did win in the end. Now if only this girl I've been talking to will get back to me...

 

[FO-totality]

Been on a pair of date with a girl, it's gone pretty well, but I'm kinda at a loss as to how to sort of...evolve the relationship, you know? Like how do you move it beyond just simply dates to something a little bit more concrete? Kinda green at it all.

 

[-PXG-]

Remember how my girlfriend of six months broke up with me a month and a half ago?

She now has a new boyfriend. What the fuck.

That's nothing. Imagine being with someone for over two years, and then finding out she has a new BF two weeks later.

Mhmmmm. Think about that for a second.

 

[Log4Girlz]

Try her being with a new guy within two weeks. And we were in a 5.5 year relationship. And she was engaged to the new guy within a month.

Spoiler

Don't worry, I didn't take it badly when I found about the getting engaged. Instead, my friends and I all had a good laugh about it.

Even funnier, the other day, a mutual friend of my ex and I told my friend (keep in mind this mutual friend was all gung-ho in the religious organization) that apparently my ex was complaining that none of her friends really talk to her anymore. She also commented that the whole situation of the way she handled dumping me and running off with the new guy so quickly was quite fucked up.

I guess I really did win in the end. Now if only this girl I've been talking to will get back to me...

Yeah man that's good. You look like the better person. She was a selfish well, let me not call her names, but clearly she was dating the other guy for a significant period of time before she broke things off with you. You are the better human being.

 

[Hylian7]

Yeah man that's good. You look like the better person. She was a selfish well, let me not call her names, but clearly she was dating the other guy for a significant period of time before she broke things off with you. You are the better human being.

I know for a fact she wasn't, but at the very least she was probably talking to him, or there was some implication of "If/When this ends, we are dating." for the last few months. Regardless, it looks like to everyone else she cheated on me, which is why they are probably not talking to her.

 

[Log4Girlz]

I know for a fact she wasn't, but at the very least she was probably talking to him, or there was some implication of "If/When this ends, we are dating." for the last few months. Regardless, it looks like to everyone else she cheated on me, which is why they are probably not talking to her.

Perhaps, its usually the case in many break-ups where the girl quickly hooks up with someone else. So icing on the cake is that everyone thinks so and she loses some friends bwahahaha.

 

[Yami]

Been on a pair of date with a girl, it's gone pretty well, but I'm kinda at a loss as to how to sort of...evolve the relationship, you know? Like how do you move it beyond just simply dates to something a little bit more concrete? Kinda green at it all.

Spoiler

FHUTA?

nah bro, just either ask her to hang out but like, in a non-date environment, and see if you still click. or something like that. i'm sure someone else can chime in better.

 

[defel]

Been on a pair of date with a girl, it's gone pretty well, but I'm kinda at a loss as to how to sort of...evolve the relationship, you know? Like how do you move it beyond just simply dates to something a little bit more concrete? Kinda green at it all.

Invite her into your life. Next time you need to go buy some new clothes, invite her. If your going to travel the market to get some food shopping, invite her. Best of all get her to hang around with you with your friends in your environment. Do what you want to do with your time and invite her along, whatever it may be. Dates are just manufactured bullshit that you do inbetween what you really want to do with your life.

 

[butimnotarapper]

I really don't understand some chicks sometimes

Went on a date with a lady, everything was cool, she even walked me to the train station when I said she didn't have to...She said she liked the whole date, etc

So a little while later we txting, and she said "she's so glad to have met me after all that time", then I said "yeah, we shouldn't leave it too long to meet each other again" and she replied "i absolutely agree "

So blam, I'm thinking OK she's on one...but that's about it. I text her and she'll reply like a hours and hours later lol. I asked her yesterday how her plans are for the weekend, she said busy but wanted to know what my calendar looked like- I said busy, but can be free if you wanted to hook up again

Then blam part 2..nothing in response. That was yesterday evening, so I dunno. Not heard much, not gonna hold my breath. It was only one date, but wouldn't it have been easier just to say you aren't interested anymore?!

Dude it doesn't sound like she's "not interested anymore." Just text her next week, it's no big.

About texting with no response...it's kind of a mental thing where the person who stops the convo seems the least desperate. Doesn't mean she doesn't like you...it's still a game tho at this point.

I hate when girls ignore me too, but check yourself first to see if you're coming on too strong too fast. You can live a few days without seeing/texting her. From your date it sounds like you're in good shape so don't stress

 

[jj350]

This is a guide to getting girls, not women.

"Confidence," (usually in the form of narcissism) not being a "nice guy," that is all bullshit that works with teenage girls and stupid college sluts. Shit like that doesn't work once you are going after women who aren't a complete shit for brains like most girls out there.

 

[Log4Girlz]

This is a guide to getting girls, not women.

"Confidence," (usually in the form of narcissism) not being a "nice guy," that is all bullshit that works with teenage girls and stupid college sluts. Shit like that doesn't work once you are going after women who aren't a complete shit for brains like most girls out there.

I would disagree. You always need confidence and one does not need it to take the form of narcissism.

 

[Vermillion]

This is a guide to getting girls, not women.

"Confidence," (usually in the form of narcissism) not being a "nice guy," that is all bullshit that works with teenage girls and stupid college sluts. Shit like that doesn't work once you are going after women who aren't a complete shit for brains like most girls out there.

Depends, mate.

 

[Atramental]

This is a guide to getting girls, not women.

"Confidence," (usually in the form of narcissism) not being a "nice guy," that is all bullshit that works with teenage girls and stupid college sluts. Shit like that doesn't work once you are going after women who aren't a complete shit for brains like most girls out there.

After you posted this in the demise of guys thread:

Women feel a need to have things like feminism and a women's day because they are the weaker sex and that is all there is to it.

I'm not taking anything you post seriously.

 

[EviLore]

This is a guide to getting girls, not women.

"Confidence," (usually in the form of narcissism) not being a "nice guy," that is all bullshit that works with teenage girls and stupid college sluts. Shit like that doesn't work once you are going after women who aren't a complete shit for brains like most girls out there.

Confidence is one of the most important attributes in life, period.

As for being a "nice" guy, that's about putting someone you barely know ahead of yourself, not about being a good/warm/sincere/friendly person. You sacrifice your self-respect, and subsequently you're taken advantage of instead of respected.

Edit:

Women feel a need to have things like feminism and a women's day because they are the weaker sex and that is all there is to it.

Nevermind!

 

[low-G]

I really don't understand some chicks sometimes

Went on a date with a lady, everything was cool, she even walked me to the train station when I said she didn't have to...She said she liked the whole date, etc

So a little while later we txting, and she said "she's so glad to have met me after all that time", then I said "yeah, we shouldn't leave it too long to meet each other again" and she replied "i absolutely agree "

So blam, I'm thinking OK she's on one...but that's about it. I text her and she'll reply like a hours and hours later lol. I asked her yesterday how her plans are for the weekend, she said busy but wanted to know what my calendar looked like- I said busy, but can be free if you wanted to hook up again

Then blam part 2..nothing in response. That was yesterday evening, so I dunno. Not heard much, not gonna hold my breath. It was only one date, but wouldn't it have been easier just to say you aren't interested anymore?!

Texting hours and hours later isn't a bad sign. Be patient. If you can't wait a few hours that's on you, and it's something you have to sort out.

Second, you should have offered a specific date for her when she asked. You say you're busy but you can 'be free'? Is your time not worth anything? I don't think you're actually busy. And that's fine, I'm not either, but ESPECIALLY EARLY ON, give her a specific date and time and if she can't make it a bunch of times (up to you if that's 2, 3) that's on her.

Last time this happened to me I had brought up two specific times for us to be together (not on the same day, because I was doing stuff), then after she rejected the 2nd time she offered a time of her own, and that worked for me (although I may be seeing two girls that day now, the timing should be fine).

I would even recommend not getting freaked out over ~12 hour waits. >24 hour waits there's something wrong (most likely her). Maybe she's depressed, on drugs, works too much, dating around a lot, blah blah whatever. Lack of interest in you might not even be the core thing.

I guess this is true. I hate that vibe right now. I just want to enjoy my time being single and literally every girl that I have hooked up with has told me that want to "see where this goes" or "want to stop being single for a while." I just want some pure fun and they want to ruin it all.

Spoiler

Last sentence was sarcastic

So, how do I not give off the stable relationship kind of guy while still getting the girls that I'm interested in? When I approach a girl, I study them for a good 5-10 minutes to pick up on a few things. What they're drinking, if they're actually having fun, if they're in deep thought or distracted. I'm good at reading people rather quickly so naturally I use this to have girls let their guard down pretty fast. However, it seems like each time I successfully use this tactic, the girl gets really into me really quickly.

I know it sounds like a stealth brag, but really I just want to enjoy my time, and it seems like my game is impeding me from just having casual experiences with a girl.

It's the kind of girls you're going after, it's what you're doing, not who you are or how you act (other than the girls you're after). Change your venue, or change which girls catch your eye.

Don't be so vain to think you're changing what these girls actually want just by the way you act.

 

[george_us]

This is a guide to getting girls, not women.

"Confidence," (usually in the form of narcissism) not being a "nice guy," that is all bullshit that works with teenage girls and stupid college sluts. Shit like that doesn't work once you are going after women who aren't a complete shit for brains like most girls out there.

Eh I'd agree with this although most dudes here are probably looking for just straight up sex and for that, pick up stuff (which is what I assume you're referring to) does work.

But at the very least you need self-respect and a heavy belief that you, in fact, deserve a wonderful SO or you're probably going to fuck up a good thing with your insecurity. I should know, it just happened to me a couple hours ago!

 

[low-G]

Does anyone else here have no troubles getting girls to reply back or go out on first dates, but run into issues moving those dates to second or third?

I feel that I'm far better than the average OKCer at getting girls to talk or meet up with me, but I run into trouble when I want to keep that going beyond a first date.

I had that problem for a while then all of the sudden it went away. Probably a lot of factors involved (getting over nervousness, getting better at first dates, looking a bit sharper...)

First to second date on OKC is a real period of sorting, and eventually you'll learn to see why those girls wouldn't be right for you either (or reject other girls that are into you).

She sees what you look and act like, picks up on all subtle things, learns a ton about you, and you should be doing the same.

Anyone who thinks they know someone from talking to them online is just wrong and should look at my last first date.



Further texting reply thoughts to dwell on. I, sometimes, can text like a girl. I have lots of girls that have been interested in seeing me. I'm not especially attached to any one right now. When a girl messages me even if the phone is right there, maybe I'm enjoying a book. Maybe I even read the text and go do some other stuff for a few hours. I figure out how I want to reply. Maybe I sleep on it. Maybe I get busy doing stuff for a few days and only get back to her later (usually not talking text in that case, but something like an OKC message or email). It's not that I don't care, it's that my life doesn't revolve around that girl. Even the girls I've seen the most it's only been a couple months. That's nothing.

Anyways, that's how I imagine most girls thinking about my messages.

 

[TheSchwab_7]

So last night I went to this girl's apartment and drank with her. Took some shots and had a good time talking with her. So opened up a bit which was pretty cool. Had some sex til 5am, and woke up with her head laying on me. Spent a few hours in her bed just talking, and now we're going out to eat tonight. Our first "date".

 

[low-G]

We girls have to play it cool too ya know? I've been on a couple of dates with a guy and I think I really like him, but trying to not seem too keen is really fucking hard! Some serious amount of restraint is required.

Yep. Girl messaged me on OKC just last night in the way I imagined myself messaging girls early on (6 months ago lol). LOL WE HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON BUT OPPOSITES ATTRACT AND YOU'RE CUTE LET'S KISSU~

It's amazing how far I've come.

Girls always have a back up man. They can sling new dick almost instantly. A month and a half isn't bad at all.

Kind of a cynical way to put it, but it does demonstrate the power women are still retaining in relationships. It's more that girls are perfectly capable of feeling attached in lots of different ways to a lot of guys at once.

Been on a pair of date with a girl, it's gone pretty well, but I'm kinda at a loss as to how to sort of...evolve the relationship, you know? Like how do you move it beyond just simply dates to something a little bit more concrete? Kinda green at it all.

Two dates? You shouldn't be working on that right now. (I know I made a post feeling a similar thing about a week ago, but I see more clearly now)

That's too short of a time to try to go for the 'security' of a relationship. Have fun together. Make sure she's good for you as you are for her.

What stage are you at physically? Cuddling? Making out? Sex? If you're already past all that then still give it a few more times, if you aren't past all that you need to work your way up slowly or quickly, whatever feels right.

 

[Devolution]

Girls always have a back up man. They can sling new dick almost instantly. A month and a half isn't bad at all.

Let's just stop acting like this is a woman only thing, it's like you guys have never heard of men leaving women for other women.

 

[low-G]

Let's just stop acting like this is a woman only thing, it's like you guys have never heard of men leaving women for other women.

Yeah but girls always seem to have single guys buzzing around ready to be 'sucked up' once a relationship falls apart. That's less common with guys. We're not talking about cheating/leaving for another person necessarily here.

 

[Insaniac]

question: do you guys concern yourself with if a girl is single or not when approaching someone? If so, how do you usually bring up the topic in order to avoid looking foolish?

to clarify: do you bring it up before you seriously ask a girl out on a date or just go with it until it comes up (i.e. I'm seeing someone right now, or I have a boyfriend etc)

 

[george_us]

question: do you guys concern yourself with if a girl is single or not when approaching someone? If so, how do you usually bring up the topic in order to avoid looking foolish?

Err just go up and talk to her. If she says she has a boyfriend bail out. Simple.

 

[thestopsign]

Found out that I have Mono, so I'm off the market for about two months.

 

[low-G]

question: do you guys concern yourself with if a girl is single or not when approaching someone? If so, how do you usually bring up the topic in order to avoid looking foolish?

to clarify: do you bring it up before you seriously ask a girl out on a date or just go with it until it comes up (i.e. I'm seeing someone right now, or I have a boyfriend etc)

Just thought of this off the top of my head, 'Will your boyfriend be angry if we go out to get some coffee together?' If she says she doesn't know immediately turn away from her and never speak to her again.

I think if you're meeting someone in a spontaneous situation and you've already decided you're interested you're past the point of it being perfectly natural, so use humor or something.

 

[Vermillion]

Yeah but girls always seem to have single guys buzzing around ready to be 'sucked up' once a relationship falls apart. That's less common with guys. We're not talking about cheating/leaving for another person necessarily here.

Yyyup.

 

[Ezalc]

Anybody here ever go to a club alone? I've never done it, in fact I've gone to a club only once in my life with a good amount of friends. But right now I feel like shit because I'm alone and I want to change that. Going to a club alone sounds like it'd suck though since I already don't drink, I won't have anybody to talk to while I'm looking around or whatever.

 

[Zomba13]

question: do you guys concern yourself with if a girl is single or not when approaching someone? If so, how do you usually bring up the topic in order to avoid looking foolish?

to clarify: do you bring it up before you seriously ask a girl out on a date or just go with it until it comes up (i.e. I'm seeing someone right now, or I have a boyfriend etc)

When in uni it usually went talk to her > flirt with her a bit > she tells me she has a boyfriend > me go talk to someone else.
And if it's like a friend of a friend or whatever that you've hung out with a little but aren't sure then ask one of her friends.

 

[Sub_Level]

Anybody here ever go to a club alone? I've never done it, in fact I've gone to a club only once in my life with a good amount of friends. But right now I feel like shit because I'm alone and I want to change that. Going to a club alone sounds like it'd suck though since I already don't drink, I won't have anybody to talk to while I'm looking around or whatever.

Unless you're super confident and sociable, that's probably not a good idea. You'll probably feel alienated and if you leave empty handed you might feel even worse than you do now. Plus drinking alone in public isn't always the best idea in the world, barring going to a bar to chill or whatevers.

Get 1-2 (no more, going with an entourage decreases your chances imo) friends together and hit it up next weekend, or try and get 'em to go with you tonight.

It's up to you though man. If you can deal with going into a social space with loud music and unconventional social situations (i.e. going up to a girl and start dancing with her) then you should go for it.

 

[Ezalc]

Unless you're super confident and sociable, that's probably not a good idea. You'll probably feel alienated and if you leave empty handed you might feel even worse than you do now. Plus drinking alone in public isn't always the best idea in the world, barring going to a bar to chill or whatevers.

Get 1-2 (no more, going with an entourage decreases your chances imo) friends together and hit it up next weekend, or try and get 'em to go with you tonight.

It's up to you though man. If you can deal with going into a social space with loud music and unconventional social situations (i.e. going up to a girl and start dancing with her) then you should go for it.

Well I don't drink so drinking in public wouldn't happen, and I don't think it matters here in Brasil like it does in the US anyway.

I'm going to try and text some friends to see if they're down to do something, hopefully they are staying home sucks ass right now.

I don't mind going up to a girl and dancing, I actually enjoy dancing a lot and aside from the girls it's my main reason to going to a club. I just don't want to go alone, I guess it's not a good idea I'm not that confident in my looks and my flirting skills are basically non-existent. Thanks for the advice, hopefully something good will happen tonight.

And it started raining here... fuck.

 

[Atramental]

Well, so much for going down town...

This Monday or sometime this week I need to get away from my house or my parents are going to keep giving me house work to do. :/

It never fails, as soon as I get done with school I end up getting a shit load of chores piled upon me.

 

[Ninja_Hawk]

Anybody here ever go to a club alone? I've never done it, in fact I've gone to a club only once in my life with a good amount of friends. But right now I feel like shit because I'm alone and I want to change that. Going to a club alone sounds like it'd suck though since I already don't drink, I won't have anybody to talk to while I'm looking around or whatever.

Just to add, it is always best to go with some friends, but as long as you can go and have a good time, even if you're alone, it is fine.