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[soultron]

Fuck if I know. This woman showered me with compliments. "i love your stories", "you're one of the most interesting people I know", "you're suave" blah, blah,blah,blah.
She knows I liked her and she knew full well what my feelings about her were, that's why she apologized for "not saying anything sooner" (about her not being interested in a relationship "of any kind")
But I already mentioned earlier I was a mediocre fuck. She said she was used to more force and rougher sex. I assume she's moved on to someone who gave her that right off the bat. It just hurts knowing all our time together sharing intimate stories (since when do fuck buddies do this shit? girl was sending me mixed messages) and shit amounted to fuck all.

She might've been genuine about the compliments. Even if she wasn't, act like she was. Use it as an ego boost. I know that sounds incredibly dumb in the face of what you're feeling, but I'd be using that as fuel for this line of thinking: "Well, if I'm suave, interesting, and a good story teller, then it's her loss."

And yeah, girls do send mixed signals. Maybe she was afraid to admit she was only in it for the sex because she didn't want to be perceived as a slut/whore/etc. Women are just as sexual as men are, but society still has problems with letting them admit to that. I'm not apologizing for her, but this might be part of why it took her so long to finally come clean.

But look at it this way: you did it. You went after her, got her, and shared some time with her. You can get women. This one didn't work out, but there are plenty more out there waiting. You just gotta shake this one off and remember it's not your fault -- she wasn't looking for a relationship in the first place.

 

[BronzeWolf]

Fuck if I know. This woman showered me with compliments. "i love your stories", "you're one of the most interesting people I know", "you're suave" blah, blah,blah,blah.
She knows I liked her and she knew full well what my feelings about her were, that's why she apologized for "not saying anything sooner" (about her not being interested in a relationship "of any kind")
But I already mentioned earlier I was a mediocre fuck. She said she was used to more force and rougher sex. I assume she's moved on to someone who gave her that right off the bat. It just hurts knowing all our time together sharing intimate stories (since when do fuck buddies do this shit? girl was sending me mixed messages) and shit amounted to fuck all.

Yeah, weird behavior. chalk it up to her being a weird person and move on. You did good

 

[yami4ct]

And, cute girl has a boyfriend. No big deal at all. Good thing about being in college, plenty of cute girls out there. Just need to get looking again. Honestly, I'm glad to have that done with. Was as small a deal as my rational brain told me it would be. No pain at all.

Lesson learned, getting turned down doesn't feel terrible at all. It's getting the damn courage to ask that's the damn issue!

 

[Incognito]

been with current gf since the day of my transplant last march 21st. things going fine, no problems. around october, i get a call from my transplant doctor asking me to meet with a young lady who was transplanted a month after me. basically, she needed to talk to someone around her age and who had been through the same thing and also needed to start going out again. so we began going out, but only for coffee. we're still both cognizant of our limitations due to TX so we've kept things simple. usually 3-4 times a month we'd meet up.

well, gf leaves for study abroad in jan to paris and other girl and i start to hang out more. eventually, it's clear we both like each other but we don't kiss or anything. she starts asking me questions like, "can we date people?" and stuff of that so forth. i assumed she was talking about other guys but then she told me she was referring to me, because of our tx's. last thursday we went out and afterwards we started to make out. friday, rinse and repeat. then saturday she had dinner w/ work friends downtown, about a block away from my place, and she came over afterwards. we ended up having sex.

it was great. we both took our shirts off for the first time to somebody other than a doctor since tx. (even tho i've had sex with my gf since then i've still kept my shirt on) however, the next morning she texted me saying she's not sure if we should pursue it because she would be "HEARTBROKEN" if something happened and we couldnt talk anymore. i had been thinking along those lines, too. so we agreed to go back to friends (she said it was my decision) but i think we both recognize that's not going to happen. she wants to be with me, i want to be with her. it's comically stupid that we're afraid of being together because of something that might happen, but going through a transplant and dealing with an underlying disease can really mess with your psyche.

meanwhile, my gf is in paris and i'm supposed to be there in march.

 

[BronzeWolf]

And how do you feel about cheating?

 

[Incognito]

feel pretty terrible about it.

 

[BronzeWolf]

do you love your girlfriend? do you think she deserves to be cheated on?

 

[Tess3ract]

Then the sound of a man getting a strike was heard. welp

maybe i came off too strong

she said she was busy but didn't give me another day she wasn't busy like i asked.

Should I give up or try again in a few weeks?

 

[BronzeWolf]

Then the sound of a man getting a strike was heard. welp

maybe i came off too strong

she said she was busy but didn't give me another day she wasn't busy like i asked.

Should I give up or try again in a few weeks?

How did the conversation go? I would only reschedule if she seemed sincere about her business, but since you live with her, I would take the hint and drop it

 

[CF_Fighter]

I'm not gonna lie Incognito there is something very alluring about other CF females. Maybe it's the fact we can understand each other on a level no other person ever can. I honestly got a little choked up reading your story.

Now about your gf I'm not gonna sit here and tell you you're a horrible person because in actuality you have a connection with this other girl that goes beyond anything else. I can understand why you are on this predicament and I really can't offer advice. I know a married CF couple and see that they share something really special.

 

[Mr Swine]

Ugh, I feel totally worthless, been on match.com for over 2 weeks now and written to at least 75 girls around my age. Nobody answers back and I'm really getting anxious about this. Last week I took new photos of me, added what books, music and movies I like and updated my profile and nobody ever comes by.

So what the hell should I do? I can't go out to town and flirt around since everyone knows I'm somewhat of a lone wolf and that most of the girls like to get drunk every wednesday and friday which I don't do -_-

 

[Tess3ract]

How did the conversation go? I would only reschedule if she seemed sincere about her business, but since you live with her, I would take the hint and drop it

"hey what are you doing wednesday night"
"Idk maybe hanging out with *good friend of hers I've met*, why?"
"I'm going to this standup comedy thing at *place* wednesday night, and I want you to come"
"If you already have plans that night, then maybe another day?"
"i actually think im busy, im sorry. maybe *other female roommate* would like to go"
"I'm not really interested in going with *other female roommate*. Thanks for letting me know though"

edit: she came home and we talked about random shit casually for like half an hour. I didn't mention the conversation we had earlier at all. I guess I friendzoned myself earlier or she's just not interested in dating.

 

[mj1108]

Ugh, I feel totally worthless, been on match.com for over 2 weeks now and written to at least 75 girls around my age. Nobody answers back and I'm really getting anxious about this. Last week I took new photos of me, added what books, music and movies I like and updated my profile and nobody ever comes by.

So what the hell should I do? I can't go out to town and flirt around since everyone knows I'm somewhat of a lone wolf and that most of the girls like to get drunk every wednesday and friday which I don't do -_-

You know what you have to do.

 

[Mr Swine]

You know what you have to do.

Ugh, if you mean that I have to get drunk, then no.

 

[Roger Danish]

Ugh, if you mean that I have to get drunk, then no.

Then just go anyway and pretend you're drunk. If they're drunk, they won't be able to tell the difference.

 

[PflargBlarg]

"hey what are you doing wednesday night"
"Idk maybe hanging out with *good friend of hers I've met*, why?"
"I'm going to this standup comedy thing at *place* wednesday night, and I want you to come"
"If you already have plans that night, then maybe another day?"
"i actually think im busy, im sorry. maybe *other female roommate* would like to go"
"I'm not really interested in going with *other female roommate*. Thanks for letting me know though"

edit: she came home and we talked about random shit casually for like half an hour. I didn't mention the conversation we had earlier at all. I guess I friendzoned myself earlier or she's just not interested in dating.

This line shouldn't have been said until after her reply to you.
That said, it does just sound like she's not interested.

 

[Mr Swine]

Then just go anyway and pretend you're drunk. If they're drunk, they won't be able to tell the difference.

Not a bad idea, have to try that sometime

 

[Detox]

Fuck my head. I decided to approach this girl at one of my seminars tomorrow. The only fucking problem is I know I'm going to fumble or not even do it because all I have done by deciding a day before is create an insane amount of anxiety about approaching her. I need some sense slapped into me.

 

[Attackthebase]

Then the sound of a man getting a strike was heard. welp

maybe i came off too strong

she said she was busy but didn't give me another day she wasn't busy like i asked.

Should I give up or try again in a few weeks?

From the conversation, you're in the friend zone. If she was interested, she would have offered an alternative date.

 

[Tess3ract]

My other friends are saying to: feign disinterest in the matter, don't bring it up (it will make you sound desperate) and to go to the event anyways with someone else. You can later bring it up in normal conversation about if you liked it or not like you would with the ability you've been having lately, and maybe she'll change her mind later.

I'm kind of frustrated about this.

 

[Jhoan]

Fuck my head. I decided to approach this girl at one of my seminars tomorrow. The only fucking problem is I know I'm going to fumble or not even do it because all I have done by deciding a day before is create an insane amount of anxiety about approaching her. I need some sense slapped into me.

Self-fulfilling prophecy is not cool. Get that out of your head. Instead of thinking about the anxiety in a negative way, reframe it in a positive way. You're going to get anxiety because you're doing it and it feels good. I have social anxiety myself so I know what it's like.

Also it sounds like you have anticipatory fear (I do too). Once you do it, you're going realize it's not that bad at all. So think about like this: you have nothing to lose and you'll feel extremely good once you do it. When I go to a social event that I'm scared of, or talk to an attractive chick from one of my classes that I barely talk to, once it's all said and done, I give myself a pat on the back and tell myself that I'm proud myself. You can do it.

 

[Houston3000]

"hey what are you doing wednesday night"
"Idk maybe hanging out with *good friend of hers I've met*, why?"
"I'm going to this standup comedy thing at *place* wednesday night, and I want you to come"
"If you already have plans that night, then maybe another day?"
"i actually think im busy, im sorry. maybe *other female roommate* would like to go"
"I'm not really interested in going with *other female roommate*. Thanks for letting me know though"

edit: she came home and we talked about random shit casually for like half an hour. I didn't mention the conversation we had earlier at all. I guess I friendzoned myself earlier or she's just not interested in dating.

You're friendzoned man. You have a better excuse though for that happening than almost every other guy who gets friendzoned by a girl... you live with her! Even if you hooked up with her successfully that relationship would be very awkward.

My honest advice is to stop pursuing her as a girlfriend, this is girl is not some special diamond - almost everything you two relate to each other on, other girls do as well and more... you just haven't been looking. Keep her as a friend though, no reason to turn into a dick all of a sudden. I mean, if you really have a good time with her just treat her like a guy friend that you have a good time with. Stop giving her gifts and asking her on fake dates or your only going to fuck up the friendship you do have and possibly make the household extraordinarily awkward for the next few months. When you move out, if you're still single, and you still actually think about this chick and she's still single then go for it. You dodged a bullet man, I'm really hoping you don't get out somewhere and dump your feelings on her or try to kiss her - for your sake.

 

[Incognito]

do you love your girlfriend? do you think she deserves to be cheated on?

she was there for me during my tx and i care deeply for her. i've never told her that i love her, though. and i do not believe she deserves to be cheated on, but that doesn't mean much in light of the facts.

I'm not gonna lie Incognito there is something very alluring about other CF females. Maybe it's the fact we can understand each other on a level no other person ever can. I honestly got a little choked up reading your story.

Now about your gf I'm not gonna sit here and tell you you're a horrible person because in actuality you have a connection with this other girl that goes beyond anything else. I can understand why you are on this predicament and I really can't offer advice. I know a married CF couple and see that they share something really special.

she doesn't have cf but has another lung disease that required transplant. she was transplanted a month after i was and i would always see her in clinic, facing the same struggles i did. seeing as she's just a few years younger than me we obviously share a lot of the same concerns and view much life much, much differently than a normal, healthy person would.

but yeah, the connection is really strong.

 

[Tess3ract]

No I still want to be friends with her at least, but I feel defeated. I want to date a nerdy girl in my area, and most either aren't attractive or aren't into me, or we don't click other than just normal conversation. I have a few girl friends who are the kind of girl I would like, but have no interest in them past that whatsoever.

Like I found a girl who "gets me" but then I fail in getting with her.

I've messaged 8 girls on okcupid, two replied, and 3 of those who didn't have been online in the past day. rrrgh

They seem interesting people, but I'm not interested in them right now, I'm interested in her. I can't push the matter because it would make her not like me. I'm kind of frustrated that she said "why don't you ask *roommate*" because I feel like she thought me and the roommate liked each other, when I only like the roommate like a friend because of the time I've known her. I wouldn't want to date her.

 

[thestopsign]

Okay. Have a girl that I'm pretty familiar with. She was in three of my classes last semester, and this semester she is in one. I got into class on the first day pretty early, sat down in front, and she came in and sat down next to me. Ever since we have been sitting together talking through most of class, really solid flirting the whole time. She adds me on Facebook a few weeks back, and to my surprise I see she has a boyfriend. I thought "oh well, we can just be friends", only thing is I think she is attracted to me in some fashion, and I'm definitely attracted to her.

Today in class, we literally talked the whole time. I mentioned that I've been rock climbing a few days a week. She said that I should invite her along because she would love to do it also. *Sidenote* I already have her number from an earlier class where we were in a group together, but I haven't ever used it. We talked all the way out of class and out the building. Then her boyfriend shows up outside the building, she nervously said good bye to me, and we parted.

I figure I should probably just keep it at the level were at, and in the future if she is ever boyfriend free I should go for it. I don't really know where she and her boyfriend are at in their relationship, but it's probably only a few months old at most, and that was the first time I've ever seen them together and I see her around campus all the time.

 

[nHDR]

No I still want to be friends with her at least, but I feel defeated.

Hey man, so a few things. You came off hard when you said "I want you to go", when you should have said "care to join me?" Also, you shouldn't have said "maybe another day if you're not free." Anyway, I regret to tell you that she's not interested. Drop her and just go with another lady-friend to that event.

Sorry.

 

[Tess3ract]

Yeah that's what i wanted to say but other people said I had to be more assertive.

My best friend says "well as long as the starship isn't comepletely grounded i am sure we can repair it". I fuckin love that guy. He's right, "don't hope for a lot, but don't give up entirely, maybe she'll come around later on. just continue talking to her like you normally do"

 

[nHDR]

Yeah that's what i wanted to say but other people said I had to be more assertive.

My best friend says "well as long as the starship isn't comepletely grounded i am sure we can repair it". I fuckin love that guy. He's right, "don't hope for a lot, but don't give up entirely, maybe she'll come around later on. just continue talking to her like you normally do"

Its definitely good to be assertive, but in a more relaxed way. You were juggling between being very dominant and also insecure. I have sort of a copy-paste approach to these things. I'll ask if the girls doing anything fun, then tell her to contact me if interested in what I'm doing. I either give my number or walk away if she doesn't want it. Yeah, you feel like shit sometimes but whatever. Best thing to do is just say "care to join me?"

Although, the last time I asked a girl out I came on REALLY strong. I figured since she's a 10/10 she'd appreciate me asking her out in my work uniform (worked at the same place) and telling her I wanted her number. I had a "go for broke" mentality. Didn't work, lol. Ironically she became really talkative after the fact.

 

[yami4ct]

I guess I want to start off by thanking you guys. Without your help, I don't think I'd have gotten the courage to start to try dating again. I had some real bad High School experiences that left me kinda bitter.

Even given my failure today, I'm not discouraged. I honestly don't see the actual asking the girl for a date to not be a big problem for me, anymore. I think what I need help with is establishing the initial contact with someone. I'm thinking of just starting to look for cute girls in my classes. It gives at least an initial point in common. My question is, how do you approach a girl for the first time? I'm constantly worried I'll come off as kinda crazy if I just walk up and introduce myself. Also, after you make that initial contact, when do you ask them to hang out? Right after your first conversation if you hit it off?

Again, thanks so much everyone!

 

[BronzeWolf]

"hey what are you doing wednesday night"
"Idk maybe hanging out with *good friend of hers I've met*, why?"
"I'm going to this standup comedy thing at *place* wednesday night, and I want you to come"
"If you already have plans that night, then maybe another day?"
"i actually think im busy, im sorry. maybe *other female roommate* would like to go"
"I'm not really interested in going with *other female roommate*. Thanks for letting me know though"

edit: she came home and we talked about random shit casually for like half an hour. I didn't mention the conversation we had earlier at all. I guess I friendzoned myself earlier or she's just not interested in dating.

She is not interested. Move on

 

[TurboLibre]

Yo! Poking in to give an update since things were hanging at the end of the last thread.

I finally went to the movies with the girl from work and it went well. She never clarified if it was a date or not, so I wasn't sure what to make of it at first. We still had a lot of laughs and were close/touching each other all throughout the movie. I couldn't find an opportunity for a kiss though so I was a little worried I blew it.

Well the next day was one of those rare times where we worked together. She was very happy I was there and flirting throughout the whole shift. I couldn't move without her being really close to me, and I mean touching close. While we were talking, she mentioned a past co-worker had asked her out to the same movie. She apparently thought he was gay and was cool with it, but was weirded out when she found out he wasn't. She knows I'm not gay and she was the one that asked me out to begin with, so I took that as a roundabout way of telling me it was a date. After repeating to myself "she wants me to ask" about twenty times, I just now managed to ask her on a second date and I made sure to tell her we should "go out" again to hopefully avoid any confusion. She sounded really positive about it but was busy this week, so she said she would have to get back to me with a time. While that has me a little bit on edge, I still feel like I've done my part which is a huge relief. Now I just need to wait to hear back from her and pray to every God imaginable that she doesn't go crazy like all the other girls I've asked out.

 

[BronzeWolf]

Yo! Poking in to give an update since things were hanging at the end of the last thread.

I finally went to the movies with the girl from work and it went well. She never clarified if it was a date or not, so I wasn't sure what to make of it at first. We still had a lot of laughs and were close/touching each other all throughout the movie. I couldn't find an opportunity for a kiss though so I was a little worried I blew it.

Well the next day was one of those rare times where we worked together. She was very happy I was there and flirting throughout the whole shift. I couldn't move without her being really close to me, and I mean touching close. While we were talking, she mentioned a past co-worker had asked her out to the same movie. She apparently thought he was gay and was cool with it, but was weirded out when she found out he wasn't. She knows I'm not gay and she was the one that asked me out to begin with, so I took that as a roundabout way of telling me it was a date. After repeating to myself "she wants me to ask" about twenty times, I just now managed to ask her on a second date and I made sure to tell her we should "go out" again to hopefully avoid any confusion. She sounded really positive about it but was busy this week, so she said she would have to get back to me with a time. While that has me a little bit on edge, I still feel like I've done my part which is a huge relief. Now I just need to wait to hear back from her and pray to every God imaginable that she doesn't go crazy like all the other girls I've asked out.

"we should go out again" is a terrible date idea. Go where? when? While I think it's awesome that the girl is interested, she could very rapidly lose said interest if you do not show more assertiveness in setting up the dates. A couple of ground rules for your future plans:

1. NEVER do movies in a first date
2. Don't worry about a kiss on the first date, be more focused on touching/hugging her
3. One of the most, if not the MOST important purpose of a first date is setting up consequent second and third date. Your first date should with her thinking something along the lines of "Whoa! had a great time! Lucky me that I can see him again on Saturday when we go for a walk/biking/skinny dipping and I won't have to see if he is interested or not". That leads to
3. Why are you waiting on her? call her up, set up a fucking date and do it.

 

[TurboLibre]

"we should go out again" is a terrible date idea. Go where? when?

I didn't post the whole conversation I'm just condensing the story. I said we should go bowling, and I can't exactly set a time without knowing when she's free. I said this week since I'm free most nights.

1. NEVER do movies in a first date
2. Don't worry about a kiss on the first date, be more focused on touching/hugging her
3. One of the most, if not the MOST important purpose of a first date is setting up consequent second and third date. Your first date should with her thinking something along the lines of "Whoa! had a great time! Lucky me that I can see him again on Saturday when we go for a walk/biking/skinny dipping and I won't have to see if he is interested or not". That leads to
3. Why are you waiting on her? call her up, set up a fucking date and do it.

1. I didn't set up the last date, she did. I wasn't going to turn her down because she suggested a movie.
2. Right on, that's a relief.
3. I tried to set up a second while I was there. She didn't know when she was free yet so she couldn't commit to anything. I also fumbled and said "Hang out" which is why I called her to clarify.
3. I literally just did. That is what the last couple of sentences were about.

 

[hydragonwarrior]

She might've been genuine about the compliments. Even if she wasn't, act like she was. Use it as an ego boost. I know that sounds incredibly dumb in the face of what you're feeling, but I'd be using that as fuel for this line of thinking: "Well, if I'm suave, interesting, and a good story teller, then it's her loss."

Requoting this because it's damn good advice.

 

[BronzeWolf]

I didn't post the whole conversation I'm just condensing the story. I said we should go bowling, and I can't exactly set a time without knowing when she's free. I said this week since I'm free most nights.



1. I didn't set up the last date, she did. I wasn't going to turn her down because she suggested a movie.
2. Right on, that's a relief.
3. I tried to set up a second while I was there. She didn't know when she was free yet so she couldn't commit to anything. I also fumbled and said "Hang out" which is why I called her to clarify.
3. I literally just did. That is what the last couple of sentences were about.

Time to wait then, she didn't really leave you with many options. But it is a very important detail

 

[BadTaste]

Jeez the girl I'm seeing is so boring when it comes to intimacy, how do I get her to at least grab my junk? Maybe I'll take her hand next time and shove it down there..

 

[BronzeWolf]

Jeez the girl I'm seeing is so boring when it comes to intimacy, how do I get her to at least grab my junk? Maybe I'll take her hand next time and shove it down there..

Or talk to her about it? How long have you been fucking? are you in a serious relationship?

 

[BadTaste]

Or talk to her about it? How long have you been fucking? are you in a serious relationship?

I talked to her about it yeah, she didn't exactly say much or anything to it, but I think next time I see her things will be better.

We get on really great but haven't had sex yet.

We've only been seeing each other for a little over 2 weeks.

Maybe I'm rushing a bit, time will tell what happens.

 

[nHDR]

Hey Gaf, quick question.

Is it worth it to pursue a girl who is already in a relationship? Or am I just wasting my time?

Avoid. Here's why. A girl who ditches her current man for you has shown that she MAY ditch YOU for someone else since she can be indecisive. You need to have more pride and respect for yourself, man. There are many single women out there!

Please don't interpret this as a direct insult. Just imagine how you would feel if some other dude was asking this same question about your current girlfriend.

 

[BronzeWolf]

I talked to her about it yeah, she didn't exactly say much or anything to it, but I think next time I see her things will be better.

We get on really great but haven't had sex yet.

We've only been seeing each other for a little over 2 weeks.

Maybe I'm rushing a bit, time will tell what happens.

Maybe, but boring sexual life = instant deal breaker for me. I'd rather not deal with that shoit

 

[soundahfekz]

Jeez the girl I'm seeing is so boring when it comes to intimacy, how do I get her to at least grab my junk? Maybe I'll take her hand next time and shove it down there..

What are you doing to bring her out of her shell? Sometimes women don't like to reveal their true inhibitions because they don't feel comfortable with you yet. Sometimes their sexual prowess is only theoretical due to lack of experience, and they're longing for someone to motivate them to bring that to reality. There's various reasons for her being so conservative in the bedroom. It's possible her needs haven't been addressed.

Dim those lights, get some good mood music going, do some foreplay, neck kisses, light verbal role play. Build that sexual tension high before getting it in. Take pleasure in pleasuring your mate. Be a lover. Not saying you haven't done these things, but often men are equally as bland as their girl while expecting her to be this uninhibited animal.

 

[Eggo]

Yo! Poking in to give an update since things were hanging at the end of the last thread.

I finally went to the movies with the girl from work and it went well. She never clarified if it was a date or not, so I wasn't sure what to make of it at first. We still had a lot of laughs and were close/touching each other all throughout the movie. I couldn't find an opportunity for a kiss though so I was a little worried I blew it.

Well the next day was one of those rare times where we worked together. She was very happy I was there and flirting throughout the whole shift. I couldn't move without her being really close to me, and I mean touching close. While we were talking, she mentioned a past co-worker had asked her out to the same movie. She apparently thought he was gay and was cool with it, but was weirded out when she found out he wasn't. She knows I'm not gay and she was the one that asked me out to begin with, so I took that as a roundabout way of telling me it was a date. After repeating to myself "she wants me to ask" about twenty times, I just now managed to ask her on a second date and I made sure to tell her we should "go out" again to hopefully avoid any confusion. She sounded really positive about it but was busy this week, so she said she would have to get back to me with a time. While that has me a little bit on edge, I still feel like I've done my part which is a huge relief. Now I just need to wait to hear back from her and pray to every God imaginable that she doesn't go crazy like all the other girls I've asked out.

Breaking the touch barrier and her being accepting of it is far more important than getting a kiss on the first date. As long as you escalate, the kiss becomes inevitable and you can push/pull tease her with it till she's begging for it. You're doing good. Just keep it up.

 

[Ghost_Protocol]

Anyone else having trouble finding women that aren't married or in a relationship? It seems like everyone I talk to ends up being involved. It's gotten to the point where I work in an "are you single" - esque question within the first 2-3 minutes of every conversation now

Where have you all had luck finding single women? I don't do the bar/club scene anymore.

 

[Atramental]

Anyone else having trouble finding women that aren't married or in a relationship? It seems like everyone I talk to ends up being involved. It's gotten to the point where I work in an "are you single" - esque question within the first 2-3 minutes of every conversation now

Where have you all had luck finding single women? I don't do the bar/club scene anymore.

Haha... Funny you should mention this because last week I observed 3 different girls that were my "type" and not a moment later their boyfriends showed up.

I mean, what the hell?

 

[Hylian7]

Anyone else having trouble finding women that aren't married or in a relationship? It seems like everyone I talk to ends up being involved. It's gotten to the point where I work in an "are you single" - esque question within the first 2-3 minutes of every conversation now

Where have you all had luck finding single women? I don't do the bar/club scene anymore.

I honestly worry about the same thing. Talk about awkward if you hit on a random chick and that happens. That's why I haven't done it at all since my breakup two weeks ago.

 

[Ghost_Protocol]

I ask right up front now, I'm tired of wasting time and energy.

 

[Atramental]

I ask right up front now, I'm tired of wasting time and energy.

What do you actually say?

Just "Hey, are you single?"

 

[PflargBlarg]

It's not a big deal guys, seriously. They obviously can't expect you to know what their relationship status. Just do what you would do with any single girl and she'll let you know if she's taken. Then you can stop wasting your time.

 

[Etrian Oddity]

It's not a big deal guys, seriously. They obviously can't expect you to know what their relationship status. Just do what you would do with any single girl and she'll let you know if she's taken. Then you can stop wasting your time.

Yeah, in general a girl can tell whether or not you're interested and will somehow find a way to mention they have a boyfriend.

 

[Apeopleman]

Yeah, in general a girl can tell whether or not you're interested and will somehow find a way to mention they have a boyfriend.

True, I have also found a girl that is interested in you, but also has a boyfriend wont be too quick to mention him.

On the flipside, if she isnt interested, she'll quickly sneak in that she has a boyfriend