Dating-Age |OT3| Positivity, Confidence, and Not Being a "Nice" Guy

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Asked her out, she said yeah, gave me her number, called her up hoping to tell her the details and did not answer.

It's been 30 minutes and I made reservations for something in about 4 hours. Fuck. (I know 30 minutes isn't alot.....right?)
 
BronzeWolf said:
Whoa that's a little bit extreme. You've got to step up your game tenfold bro
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True, true. I'm still new to being "forward" with women. I was a doormat in highschool. Told myself I wouldn't be that way in college.

And Soultron, Thanks. I think she is flaking. I already text her once. I don't want to over do it. I knocked on her door, she wasn't there but it was the middle of the day so I assume she was in class.
 
Would it be a bad thing to in a half joking way if I sent an iPhone whale (http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/iphone-whale for the uninitiated) with the saying "whale you be my valentine?"

I know it's incredibly corny as shit but I know she'd probably get a kick out of it all the same.

Feel free to verbally abuse me for this idea by the way. Just something goofy I thought of...
 
soultron said:
You're handsome as fuck, dude. You even dress well. I'm saying this as a straight male.

I know this sounds tired and cliche, but if she doesn't want to spend time with you, then she's not worth it. Women are easily replaceable, and this goes in two ways: the first meaning you shouldn't stress about "losing her" (or any woman who doesn't respect you and your time) and that meeting one just as cool (or more awesome, since this one doesn't sound very cool) as her will be easy if you just keep going. (Unless I'm reading wrong, she flaked on today? Or you haven't confirmed the date with her because you're afraid of getting close?)

I don't know how having CP must be and how it must impact you, so I'm not going to try and pretent like I know. Still, with the right attitude, you'll find someone who will like you so much that they won't give a shit. Keep at it.
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Straight up what Soultron said.

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P.S. I wont do any good giving any advice tonight. Im busy bromancin' over some wine and talk about chicks. I'll let Bronzewolf and Soultron kick in on the autopilot.
 
Notrollious said:
Would it be a bad thing to in a half joking way if I sent an iPhone whale (http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/iphone-whale for the uninitiated) with the saying "whale you be my valentine?"

I know it's incredibly corny as shit but I know she'd probably get a kick out of it all the same.

Feel free to verbally abuse me for this idea by the way. Just something goofy I thought of...
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Welp, it won't drop her panties and it's not likely to get you any further with the girl, but I can see it being light-hearted fun with a girl that is nerdy enough to know the meme.
 
NT122 said:
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I have cerebral palsy -_-'
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Damn, for someone with such a frustrating condition you look spiffer as fuck. I don't really have anything constructive to say other than you look really handsome!
 
NT122 said:
Oh this is probably the reason most girls (Or all girls, never had a girlfriend.) don't want anymore than a friendship.

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I have cerebral palsy -_-'
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I am going to be honest.

First of all, you are fucking hot and you have an awesome sense of style (I am neither straight nor male). I would totally come to see would you need help with the doors / wheelchair just so I could check you out longer.

Secondly, if your dick and brain both work perfectly well (at least the brains seem to be quite fine), I don't see any reason why you wouldn't easily get a girlfriend. You just need to stop feeling sorry about yourself and start to think you are awesome company who totally deserves as smashing company as you are and being treated as well as everyone else. It is good you don't let yourself be a doormat anymore. Now you just need to extend that attitude.

highluxury said:
Actually, wait. Im not done. I do have something to tell. A little succes story.

Life rocks amigos. Rock out, with your cock out.
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Totally a five stars performance. Attaboy.

And oh, you totally should. ;)

windz said:
Traveling is where I'm a viking. I am the fucking HERCULES of long distance relationships.

(Insert the awesome story here)
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You are on the right tracks there if you ask me. Enjoy it as long as you can and see if it will evolve into anything more serious when the time goes by. And when the possibility of her cheating on you doesn't even cross your mind I am pretty confident to say that it won't also happen. If you feel that secure about someone she/he most of the time is.

Hylian7 said:
I wish you could hear the voice I read your posts in.
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Hahah, I have also managed to create a mental image of his voice. It is so hilarious. I seriously giggle all the time I read BronzeWolf's posts.
 
YO! NT122, you're looking good my man. Real talk, you caught the attention of multiple straight males in this thread, that should boost your confidence in some way.

EDIT: Basically what she said above me.

Dr Duncan Steel said:
Asked her out, she said yeah, gave me her number, called her up hoping to tell her the details and did not answer.

It's been 30 minutes and I made reservations for something in about 4 hours. Fuck. (I know 30 minutes isn't alot.....right?)
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Don't panic. I sometimes go an hour without returning a call and/or text and I know plenty of women that do the same. She said yes, she's interested.

Congrats on asking her out though.
 
Sadetar said:
I am going to be honest.

First of all, you are fucking hot and you have an awesome sense of style (I am neither straight nor male). I would totally come to see would you need help with the doors / wheelchair just so I could check you out longer.

Secondly, if your dick and brain both work perfectly well (at least the brains seem to be quite fine), I don't see any reason why you wouldn't easily get a girlfriend. You just need to stop feeling sorry about yourself and start to think you are awesome company who totally deserves as smashing company as you are and being treated as well as everyone else. It is good you don't let yourself be a doormat anymore. Now you just need to extend that attitude.
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I am straight and male, but I'd have to agree. Fuck, dude I look like a bloated troll corpse underneath a bridge compared to you or something. The only way you don't have hot girls all over you is like you're actively sending them away. That's the only way.
 
Seriously what the fuck, she said she gets off at 2 and she ain't picking up her phone. I'm seriously kinda freaking out. It's been an hour and a half

What constitutes flaking and is it happening to me? I don't what's going on.
 
NotTheGuyYouKill said:
Maybe her phone is dead. Calmez-vous.
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Well it gave me her voice mail (which confirms it's her number) but I didn't respond to it. She doesn't know my number though so that might be the problem.

Is leaving a voice mail too tacky? I already called twice I don't wanna be pushy, but I don't wanna be my high school doormat self as well.
 
Dr Duncan Steel said:
Well it gave me her voice mail (which confirms it's her number) but I didn't respond to it. She doesn't know my number though so that might be the problem. Is leaving a voice mail too tacky? I already called twice I don't wanna be pushy, but I don't wanna be my high school doormat self as well.
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Relax. Deep breaths.
 
highluxury said:
1)Thats Bronzewolf's call. Not mine.

2)Being very forward are we?
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Come on, she managed to resist the urge once. Don't make her do it twice. If she is innocent and willingly around you, she most likely don't anymore want to continue being that good girl.

Omegasquash said:
Normally I'd be all like "He's sleeping on the couch," but, for V-Day? Fucking A right. My opinion is that it's a damn hallmark holiday and an excuse to jack rose prices up. In addition, V-Day is my Mother's birthday. It's like Christmas part two only I don't get jack shit.

Get someone something because someone else said so and now there's an expectation? Fuck yeah they should like it. Sorry for the curses. I hate V-Day.

Edit: Those of you looking for a relationship, don't let V-Day push you into some expensive thing. It's not what matters in the long run and, if it matters to her in the very short term, she's probably not what you would want anyway.
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I heartily agree. Come on, nobody should buy any stupid gifts just cause of some idioticly lame commercial day. If you feel you absolutely must she better be happy what ever she might be having. "Oh, you remembered me! Absolutely lovely - a toothbrush, how very considerate of you."

If you seriously want a girl to remember you, you better be spontaneous on some other day.
 
Sadetar said:
Hahah, I have also managed to create a mental image of his voice. It is so hilarious. I seriously giggle all the time I read BronzeWolf's posts.
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Always imagine him talking like psychowolf. Fucking charming. For reals.

EDIT: Better Bronzewolf.

Sadetar said:
Come on, she managed to resist the urge once. Don't make her do it twice. If she is innocent and willingly around you, she most likely don't anymore want to continue being that good girl.
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You misunderstood. Those were 2 different girls. Im talking about the first one. In thailand. Not the other one (She was TOO polite and innocent, not my thing).
 
highluxury said:
Always imagine him talking like psychowolf. Fucking charming. For reals.

EDIT: Better Bronzewolf.

You misunderstood. Those were 2 different girls. Im talking about the first one. In thailand. Not the other one.
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Ok, I did. Sowwy. Shit like that happens when I am reading through everything that has happened since I was here last time and trying to keep this all in this silly head of mine.

I still think you are a beast. That said in the nicest possible way.

Xun said:
This thread certainly seems to go much faster than it used to! Goddamn.
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I don't know what pace it have moved earlier cause I am totally a newcomer, but seriously, I am gone like one day and I have 3 pages to read. So yes, this is fast. Brilliant. ^__^
 
NT122 said:
Okay GAF. It's Valentine's Day. I'm depressed. I really dig this one chick. I'm with her all the time. Took her out for her birthday. My parent's own a bath and body products company. So I got her some stuff for today, so she's like "yea, we can go out on tuesday."
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Chasing after girls that flake and that don't have interest is the #1 cause of stress when it comes to women. The majority of guys who have experience with women have gone through the process where they've dealt with flaking an embarrassing amount of time before finally catching the hint. It's just a ton of wasted time and stress.

This chick might have a legitimate excuse or offer up an alternate date but my experience is that if a girl doesn't seem to put a good effort into making scheduled events or making amends then she just doesn't care that much. Text her up and see what the deal pull back your expectations and throw your line back into the pool.

Number one rule of dating is having self respect and a short memory.
 
Dr Duncan Steel said:
Shit needs to get done within two hours and i'm unsure where she lives or if we should meet at the restaurant or not. Still haven't figured that out yet.

I'm basically an indecisive douche right now.
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Yeah, ok/ You've called twice now correct? No voicemail?
You probably should have left a message since you said she may not know your #. I'd just send her a text letting her know it's you and that you want to coordinate.

That said, next time, be more prepared on your plan and let her know the time and place.
 
Dr Duncan Steel said:
Well it gave me her voice mail (which confirms it's her number) but I didn't respond to it. She doesn't know my number though so that might be the problem.

Is leaving a voice mail too tacky? I already called twice I don't wanna be pushy, but I don't wanna be my high school doormat self as well.
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Probably a flake bro, gotta be real

Let us know tho
 
Dr Duncan Steel said:
And it was! Saying she's having dinner with her "family" whatever, and then she said we can hang out some other time and other shit like that.

Fuck this, I'm buying Twisted Metal and forget this all ever happened.

FUCK.
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Call her out on it man. Seriously. If she agreed to it before and now, all of the sudden, has dinner with the family? BS. Flakes SUCK. One of the worst things when dating.
 
Dr Duncan Steel said:
And it was! Saying she's having dinner with her "family" whatever, and then she said we can hang out some other time and other shit like that.

Fuck this, I'm buying Twisted Metal and forget this all ever happened.

FUCK.
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Shit. I am sorry kitty.

Better not to see or call her anymore.

Bitch.

Edit: Or well, do as Sanky Panky said. That is good response to bullshit like that.
 
Dr Duncan Steel said:
And it was! Saying she's having dinner with her "family" whatever, and then she said we can hang out some other time and other shit like that.

Fuck this, I'm buying Twisted Metal and forget this all ever happened.

FUCK.
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Play some games, take a deep breath, fap and move on to the next one my friend.

Keep this girl at the back of your mind but let her be the one to initiate anything else, be it text, talking or a date.


Furio53 said:
Call her out on it man. Seriously. If she agreed to it before and now, all of the sudden, has dinner with the family? BS. Flakes SUCK. One of the worst things when dating.
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Nah. Play nice with her but make sure she's going to make the next move if there's any chance that you invest a single fuck about her again. Better to leave her on the backburner in the off-chance that she reflects on the situation and changes her mind.

I mean that's pretty much the key. By always looking forward and moving on to the next woman there are always chances that flakers and other types of women might come back to you after bad experiences, guilt, etc. How you respond to them at that point is up to you.
 
Dr Duncan Steel said:
And it was! Saying she's having dinner with her "family" whatever, and then she said we can hang out some other time and other shit like that.

Fuck this, I'm buying Twisted Metal and forget this all ever happened.

FUCK.
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Just make sure you never acknowledge her again, seriously. Enjoy Twisted Metal, bro!
 
Dark FaZe said:
Nah. Play nice with her but make sure she's going to make the next move if there's any chance that you invest a single fuck about her again. Better to leave her on the backburner in the off-chance that she reflects on the situation and changes her mind.

I mean that's pretty much the key. By always looking forward and moving on to the next woman there are always chances that flakers and other types of women might come back to you after bad experiences, guilt, etc. How you respond to them at that point is up to you.
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Eh, I disagree. I see where you're coming from, but leaving options available so that you can have the possibility of a future just comes off as pussy. Sometimes you need to call people out on their BS, not only so that they know they can't treat you poorly, but also for some self respect. If she doesn't care enough about you to not flake, then you shouldn't care enough to leave future possibilities open. The best possible outcome is she apologizes and you get together again. I'm not saying do it bitterly, but just let her know you don't take crap from anyone. Just my opinion. Every situation is dependent.
 
nHDR said:
Just make sure you never acknowledge her again, seriously. Enjoy Twisted Metal, bro!
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LOL I have class with this girl. It's not gonna be easy to ignore her. Especially since we sit next to each other.

And all this was over the phone so whatever response all of you wanted me to say.....I wish I had said them but was a bitch and said "okay.jpg"
 
I wouldn't call her out or anything if it was me, just chalk it up and move on. I'm sure it sucks, but no need to get angry or dwell on it for any longer. Just play twisted metal, it's a perfect justification for buying games!

Is anyone knowledgable on such things up for critiquing an okcupid profile at all? I keep playing with my profile and it's doing my head in, I just want to leave it alone, but I've no idea what is too much, too little, etc etc.
 
Quick update: drinking at the pub, and having a few good laughs but nothing substantial(sexual), shes made a point that we need to chill more and she invited me to her birthday party way in advance in june. Should i attempt to elevate or just play it cool for now?
 
onemic said:
Quick update: drinking at the pub, and having a few good laughs but nothing substantial(sexual), shes made a point that we need to chill more and she invited me to her birthday party way in advance in june. Should i attempt to elevate or just play it cool for now?
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Play it cool.

Then give her the gift of you for her birthday.
 
scotcheggz said:
I wouldn't call her out or anything if it was me, just chalk it up and move on. I'm sure it sucks, but no need to get angry or dwell on it for any longer. Just play twisted metal, it's a perfect justification for buying games!

Is anyone knowledgable on such things up for critiquing an okcupid profile at all? I keep playing with my profile and it's doing my head in, I just want to leave it alone, but I've no idea what is too much, too little, etc etc.
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Depends. Some guys that have it can continue the pursuit, some cant. It really comes down to what youre made of, and what your skills are. I have too much endurance to give up on a girl once Ive set my eyes on her... unless she proves to be less than I expected. I have an abundance of patience when it comes down to it. Most guys dont. Sooner or later when she'll get bored of her boyfriend, she'll come crawling back.

And yes, in this case putting her on ignore is an ideal option.
 
In case anyone was curious my relationship is fine now. Thanks for the advice about just talking to her lol. And for calming me down.
 
NT122 said:
Okay GAF. It's Valentine's Day. I'm depressed. I really dig this one chick. I'm with her all the time. Took her out for her birthday. My parent's own a bath and body products company. So I got her some stuff for today, so she's like "yea, we can go out on tuesday."

We haven't spoken today. I'm really apprehensive about getting close to women because I do not want to get hurt.

Oh this is probably the reason most girls (Or all girls, never had a girlfriend.) don't want anymore than a friendship.

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I have cerebral palsy -_-'
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Very sharp, my man. You have style, and, as my detractors here will tell you, I don't throw around that compliment.

All I can say is that confidence is your biggest weapon. Due to your condition, your level of confidence has to be greater than those of others, because the first thing strangers will observe is how you react to your present situation ("Has he thrown in the towel?" "Is he saying 'F it' and living his life to the fullest anyway?"). And you have to be appear firm and unconcerned. People, especially females, gravitate towards that sort of inner strength, and if you radiate that masterfully, you'll find success in virtually all areas of life. Keep us updated on the cat search - God Knows, I need some inspiration right now.
 
Sadetar said:
Ok, I did. Sowwy. Shit like that happens when I am reading through everything that has happened since I was here last time and trying to keep this all in this silly head of mine.

I still think you are a beast. That said in the nicest possible way.
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Thats cute. Better to be a beast, than a nice husky.

EDIT: Me and my bro are enjoying this thread. Brb. Going down to buy more wine.
 
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